What happens if he files for divorce?

[Merlion@ 0]

My marriage is worsening by the day. I wrote in this section before but thought things were going to get better. It's getting worse. Mu husband just slapped me because I did not want to have sex as he was trying to push himself in me. I have my biometric appointment already set up. What do I do now? He threatens divorce.

[NArocks 13]

GTFO of that situation. Call a womens shelter in your area. Call the Police NO ONE has the right to hit you PERIOD. Please please get out of there.

The first thing is to get to a safe place.

[Merlion@ 0]

i know it just sometimes i tell myself he's just in a bad move and will not happen again. he's a nice person but his mood fluctuates a lot and one never knows. i continue to hope we can work things out.

[MARM 7]

I agree with NArocks, get out of this situation ASAP. It's not about him being a nice person or mood fluctuations as you mention. The fact that he raised his hand once should be enough for you to make a wise decision. He has done it once, he can always do it again, and it is up to you whether you are going to put up with it or not.

ETA: You also wrote "he threatens divorce". What can be more threatening than a man that beats up his wife? It is better for you to take care of your safety first and foremost before worrying about biometrics/AOS.

Edited July 25, 2009 by MARM

[NArocks 13]

Honey a few months ago you thought the same thing. And it has not changed as he is back to abusing you. Contact catholic carities in your area. They have good immigration info and contacts.

[Old Dominion 26]

Get out of that home and into a shelter, contact Catholic Charities or your local Legal Aid Society, and prepare to get on with your life. Abuse (physical AND emotional) is not excused for any reason and will continue. He has contracted with the government to sponsor you, and divorce won't change that obligation on his part. Those two organizations can help you with your green card.

Maybe he will submit to counseling when you are safely out of his sight. He needs it.

[ziia 9]

i know it just sometimes i tell myself he's just in a bad move and will not happen again. he's a nice person but his mood fluctuates a lot and one never knows. i continue to hope we can work things out.

Are you removing conditions? If so I would understand why you say(not think) that you'd wanna work things out. Non the less, you don't need to divorce, let him divorce you if he wants that. You go to the biometrics, continuue with your application, don't apply for divorce but make you you put your foot down and let him know how serious you are that if he threatens, forces on you or lays a hand on you again, you will call 911. He will calm down otherwise he will go to jail. If you choose to continue to stay with him, have the 911 number on speed dial and I mean it!

He has something mentaly screwed up in his head and it will happen again. It's your choise how you want to handle that and what is a priority to you: your health and well beeing or a visa? If you think this ####### you're putting up with right now is not going to scar you later on in life no matter if you'll be still with this guy or not, you are kidding yourself. Once you have been traumatised it will take you years to ever trust a guy again.

Make sure you stay healthy. That is the number 1 priority!

[ddartt1 2]

My marriage is worsening by the day. I wrote in this section before but thought things were going to get better. It's getting worse. Mu husband just slapped me because I did not want to have sex as he was trying to push himself in me. I have my biometric appointment already set up. What do I do now? He threatens divorce.

Your husband does not have any right to hit you. You need to inform the police about it and if possible get away from him. Who knows what he might do next? When is your biometrics?

Edited July 26, 2009 by ddartt1

[Saska+Tim 7]

I am so sorry that your marriage didn't come right.

But you have to put your boundaries right. Nobody goes further than we let them.

I did not want to have sex as he was trying to push himself in me.

Is this the try of raping? No Green Card is worth of passing through that and living with that.

Edited July 26, 2009 by Saska+Tim

[Peace be still 6]

I am so sorry that your marriage didn't come right.

But you have to put your boundaries right. Nobody goes further than we let them.

I did not want to have sex as he was trying to push himself in me.

Is this the try of raping? No Green Card is worth of passing through that and living with that.

I agree with this 100%.

[SuperDuper! 230]

GTFO of that situation. Call a womens shelter in your area. Call the Police NO ONE has the right to hit you PERIOD. Please please get out of there.

The first thing is to get to a safe place.

We appreciate your sense of urgency to her, but where were you this past Feb,when the OP was posting here that hubby was smacking her around.

Edited July 26, 2009 by itzallgood

[bhajishah 4]

Kids buy them books they chew on the covers. Isnt there some VAWApetition or i married lagit and he abuse me clause or law now. check on that, And for Petes sake have sense enough to come in out of the rain!!!

FKlady

[Anamaria2009 1]

It always easyer to say then to do. From the legal point of view, it's best for you to be covered so: documenting what happends is the best thing you can do right now. Get counseling from organisations that deals with domestic violence. Look up on the net for such organisations in your area, I am sure you will find one and call them!

If things go from bad to worse (as usually happends) you have to be able to prove the abuse. If you only tell us ... and not document it with athorities ... sorry but not too much leg to stand on when you will be dealing with the USCIS.

Good luck

and stay safe!

[Jauque 1]

My marriage is worsening by the day. I wrote in this section before but thought things were going to get better. It's getting worse. Mu husband just slapped me because I did not want to have sex as he was trying to push himself in me. I have my biometric appointment already set up. What do I do now? He threatens divorce.

Sicne your not asking for advice on your domestic situation I'll keep this to your question.

I believe that if you do get divorced as long as you can prove the marriage was entered in good faith you can continue the process on your own.

[luv2uallday 1]

i know it just sometimes i tell myself he's just in a bad move and will not happen again. he's a nice person but his mood fluctuates a lot and one never knows. i continue to hope we can work things out.

you are justifying what he has done to you. this is a common symptom of abuse. You need to get out like everyone else says because things will not get better they will just get worse.. Good luck...