Need sexy answers to marriage.

[NArocks 13]

[Staashi 371]

Charles, that is your answer for everything. hehe

[NArocks 13]

I feel a nessa poll shortly mr charles

[HannahP 119]

Fff, guys. I've done all that. I'm the one making the effort. He isn't.

[Ban Hammer 13,334]

Fff, guys. I've done all that. I'm the one making the effort. He isn't.

including post #17?

[trinket 30]

Not sure if you have done this or not, but how about going to adult book store together? Give it a couple of week time to let things cool down a bit, and then make a spontaneous visit. See what interests him there, don't force him to choose what you like or don't like, don't even make things about "sex", let it be part of foreplay, teasing with the kind of magazines he looks into or what kind of toys he looks into.

Lack of intimacy isn't just about not wanting sex, it could be a whole lot of other variables, how busy he is at work, what’s bothering him financially/emotionally and things like that; you do get the idea what I am getting into. May be look into those things.

And as you said you have tried it all, well just try not initiating it at all, let him make the first move for once, yes I know you need a lot of patience with that, but just see how it goes, if nothing else you can always get a rabbit vibrator for yourself till he makes his move.

[NArocks 13]

The Rabbit, expensive but fvcking worth

[DeadPoolX 9]

Attach a strap-on and inform him you'll be "drilling for oil."

That probably won't help, but his reaction would be priceless.

[NickD 202]

Certainly get your share of outside influences, work, family, immigration, taxes, household and car problems, sometimes health related issues, daily chores, etc.

When we were dating, we put ourselves away from all that, just forgot everything, was only her and me, except for a few instances. Is not that we look for problems, they come to us and we have to deal with it. Do it as a team, but when alone for a few moments, too tires and worn out.

We still remember those days, and try to get some time for just the two of us, and get away from everything, it was special then, can still be special now, but leave those damned cell phones at home. God, I hate cell phones.

[Ms. Squirrel 11]

Watch p0rn together. Works like a charm.

Seriously though, I am sorry you are going through trouble. And I can imagine that it could make you feel bad about yourself. Just don't take it personal. There might be a lot on his mind - work, bills or other worries. This can also affect his mood for sex and might not be cured with a kinky toy or a sexy outfit.

Talk to him when you have a nice quiet time together, just you and him. Maybe on a Sunday morning after waking up and still lazing in bed. A relaxed & happy moment. Try to combine your question or constructive criticism with something nice about him first, then it will go down easier. Make it sound less like a reproach and wrap it more like "it would make me feel great/ loved/ wanted/ happier, if..." or "it would mean a lot to me, if..." He will much easier accept it and put some thought into it, when he does not feel like he has to justify himself.

Good luck Hannah, I hope you can sort things out

[jom 4]

My husband and I have this once a year drink all you can and eat all you can night.....he drinks scotch and I have my favourite baileys and we just drink and drink and drink. We have the house to ourselves so we are all over it, starts from the front room and we always end up either in the pool or the jacuzzi. We laugh, we cry, make love like rabbits, lol and everything goes. Of course, the house is a mess the day after and we suffer from hang over but boy, it is fun.

We make sure that when we are both in the house, we shower together, saves water and it is also very intimate.

We also have our " fantasies" and so far we have done 4 of the 10.

Intimacy is very important in marriage and you just have to be creative about it.

Goodluck and hope everything will be better soon

[rebeccajo 14]

Should have just cut off his manhood while you were at it. Great going and very clueless.

Spoken like a true caveman.

[NickD 202]

My husband and I have this once a year drink all you can and eat all you can night.....he drinks scotch and I have my favourite baileys and we just drink and drink and drink. We have the house to ourselves so we are all over it, starts from the front room and we always end up either in the pool or the jacuzzi. We laugh, we cry, make love like rabbits, lol and everything goes. Of course, the house is a mess the day after and we suffer from hang over but boy, it is fun.

We make sure that when we are both in the house, we shower together, saves water and it is also very intimate.

We also have our " fantasies" and so far we have done 4 of the 10.

Intimacy is very important in marriage and you just have to be creative about it.

Goodluck and hope everything will be better soon

Only once a year?

[jom 4]

My husband and I have this once a year drink all you can and eat all you can night.....he drinks scotch and I have my favourite baileys and we just drink and drink and drink. We have the house to ourselves so we are all over it, starts from the front room and we always end up either in the pool or the jacuzzi. We laugh, we cry, make love like rabbits, lol and everything goes. Of course, the house is a mess the day after and we suffer from hang over but boy, it is fun.

We make sure that when we are both in the house, we shower together, saves water and it is also very intimate.

We also have our " fantasies" and so far we have done 4 of the 10.

Intimacy is very important in marriage and you just have to be creative about it.

Goodluck and hope everything will be better soon

Only once a year?

The all night drinking, yes, because I don't drink and he usually just his weekend beer..the other stuff...its all year long

[bulaklak 0]

O.P. if your husband has no desire perhaps he needs to check his Testosterone?? lack of it?