Is it worth it?

[It's me 1]

I am in love with a Texan, absolutely in love. I'd marry him today if he asked me. Unfortunately, I'm from Canada. We've talked about me moving down to Texas and being together. There are a lot of things we both need to do in our lives before me moving, and some things that would be easier for me to do before moving anywhere (ie. me finish school, me getting rid of my credit card debt, etc.). We both don't have a lot of money, although he has some saved up from working all the time. Him and I have not actually decided to get married yet, we're deciding whether or not to continue our relationship. We're both absolutely in love with each other but there are obvious difficulties. He feels bad not being able to be here a lot and not being able to give me all that he thinks I deserve (ie. him being WITH me physically, all the time). I'd love to move to Texas and be with him.

I've looked at the difficulties of just moving down there and it completely overwhelms me. Trying to navigate those government sites confuses me and just gets me frustrated and disappointed. Even though I live close to the border, I don't know hardly anyone that has married an american. And I don't know any that have made it work. When I came across this site, it gave me hope. Finally some people that have gone through it all and can talk people like ME through it all. Despite all the hurtles the government throws at couples, you're all working through it and I see some sucesses. This is EXACTLY what I've been looking for.

I'm not married, I'm not engaged, I am in love. It hurts to be away from him and every time we go our separate ways, it breaks my heart. Is it possible to just move down there and NOT be engaged/married? Where do I start? Should I just try and find someone in my OWN country to love? If you could do it all over again, would you still do it? Or would you try and find someone in your own country? Is it worth all the heartaches and government forms and money and interviews and confusion? Although I can't imagine being with anyone but him, I don't have the money to fly down and see him as much as I'd like... and I don't like the idea of him paying to come see me every time. Advice? I don't know if I'm ready for all those forms.

Welcome , this is an overwhelming process but it will definately show you that you're much stronger than you think you are! i think if you love him, then go for it

[Fandango 1,439]

I don't think it's quite fair to gauge whether the OP 'knows what love is' by questioning whether it's easier to find someone closer to home, I think it's a natural question/fear that some of us faced at at least one point in this process.