I-129F - Met online - Questions at the interview

[thongd4me 69]

I've heard various reports about interviewers going for

the jugular when they hear the couple met online.

We don't rightly know how much weight to give that.

Our story is true, but doesn't really fit into

the scenarios they they are used to hearing.

In 2003 we were both members of an MSN "interest group" that

roughly fits under the heading of married people wanting to socialize.

Although neither of us was active in the group except for meeting

each other (I got her ID from the members list and chatted her up

and never contacted any other member except for her, end of story).

We both de-listed from that group very soon after meeting.

I'm not even sure exactly what the name of that group was

and I tried googling it recently but came up empty.

Neither of us ever paid money for meeting.

We have a great long-term relationship based on trust and lust

and always have been focused on our goal which is to bring her

to New York. We are very close to the point where we can submit

the I-129F (waiting for court action which is imminent) and we're

sure to have enough visual and written "documentation" to make

the process be completed successfully.

Do you think the interviewer will try to force us to prove

that we didn't pay money just because we did in fact meet

online, or are they willing to listen to reason?

Also, we are going to admit that we were both married to other

people when we met. I know that is quite common and shouldn't

be an issue, but my better half was a little apprehensive on that point.

Thanks in advance for any reply.

[pushbrk 12,883]

I've heard various reports about interviewers going for

the jugular when they hear the couple met online.

We don't rightly know how much weight to give that.

Our story is true, but doesn't really fit into

the scenarios they they are used to hearing.

In 2003 we were both members of an MSN "interest group" that

roughly fits under the heading of married people wanting to socialize.

Although neither of us was active in the group except for meeting

each other (I got her ID from the members list and chatted her up

and never contacted any other member except for her, end of story).

We both de-listed from that group very soon after meeting.

I'm not even sure exactly what the name of that group was

and I tried googling it recently but came up empty.

Neither of us ever paid money for meeting.

We have a great long-term relationship based on trust and lust

and always have been focused on our goal which is to bring her

to New York. We are very close to the point where we can submit

the I-129F (waiting for court action which is imminent) and we're

sure to have enough visual and written "documentation" to make

the process be completed successfully.

Do you think the interviewer will try to force us to prove

that we didn't pay money just because we did in fact meet

online, or are they willing to listen to reason?

Also, we are going to admit that we were both married to other

people when we met. I know that is quite common and shouldn't

be an issue, but my better half was a little apprehensive on that point.

Thanks in advance for any reply.

Whether or not you paid money to meet each other is not an issue of concern anyway. If you didn't use an IMB, then you didn't. That's the end of it. Just tell the truth and provide evidence of a bona fide ongoing relationship.

[thongd4me 69]

I've heard various reports about interviewers going for

the jugular when they hear the couple met online.

We don't rightly know how much weight to give that.

Our story is true, but doesn't really fit into

the scenarios they they are used to hearing.

In 2003 we were both members of an MSN "interest group" that

roughly fits under the heading of married people wanting to socialize.

Although neither of us was active in the group except for meeting

each other (I got her ID from the members list and chatted her up

and never contacted any other member except for her, end of story).

We both de-listed from that group very soon after meeting.

I'm not even sure exactly what the name of that group was

and I tried googling it recently but came up empty.

Neither of us ever paid money for meeting.

We have a great long-term relationship based on trust and lust

and always have been focused on our goal which is to bring her

to New York. We are very close to the point where we can submit

the I-129F (waiting for court action which is imminent) and we're

sure to have enough visual and written "documentation" to make

the process be completed successfully.

Do you think the interviewer will try to force us to prove

that we didn't pay money just because we did in fact meet

online, or are they willing to listen to reason?

Also, we are going to admit that we were both married to other

people when we met. I know that is quite common and shouldn't

be an issue, but my better half was a little apprehensive on that point.

Thanks in advance for any reply.

Whether or not you paid money to meet each other is not an issue of concern anyway. If you didn't use an IMB, then you didn't. That's the end of it. Just tell the truth and provide evidence of a bona fide ongoing relationship.

I take IMB to be "internet marriage bureau" so that's not a problem. We didn't start saving chats

until a few months into the relationship so we've got enough saved up for excellent proof.

-shih shih

[Ning 619]

I've heard various reports about interviewers going for

the jugular when they hear the couple met online.

We don't rightly know how much weight to give that.

Our story is true, but doesn't really fit into

the scenarios they they are used to hearing.

In 2003 we were both members of an MSN "interest group" that

roughly fits under the heading of married people wanting to socialize.

Although neither of us was active in the group except for meeting

each other (I got her ID from the members list and chatted her up

and never contacted any other member except for her, end of story).

We both de-listed from that group very soon after meeting.

I'm not even sure exactly what the name of that group was

and I tried googling it recently but came up empty.

Neither of us ever paid money for meeting.

We have a great long-term relationship based on trust and lust

and always have been focused on our goal which is to bring her

to New York. We are very close to the point where we can submit

the I-129F (waiting for court action which is imminent) and we're

sure to have enough visual and written "documentation" to make

the process be completed successfully.

Do you think the interviewer will try to force us to prove

that we didn't pay money just because we did in fact meet

online, or are they willing to listen to reason?

Also, we are going to admit that we were both married to other

people when we met. I know that is quite common and shouldn't

be an issue, but my better half was a little apprehensive on that point.

Thanks in advance for any reply.

Whether or not you paid money to meet each other is not an issue of concern anyway. If you didn't use an IMB, then you didn't. That's the end of it. Just tell the truth and provide evidence of a bona fide ongoing relationship.

I take IMB to be "internet marriage bureau" so that's not a problem. We didn't start saving chats

until a few months into the relationship so we've got enough saved up for excellent proof.

-shih shih

Its International marrige broker I think. There is a high percentage of people around the world using the internet to meet people so this is nothing new to these officers.

As has been said, just tell the truth & all will be well.

[thongd4me 69]

I've heard various reports about interviewers going for

the jugular when they hear the couple met online.

We don't rightly know how much weight to give that.

Our story is true, but doesn't really fit into

the scenarios they they are used to hearing.

In 2003 we were both members of an MSN "interest group" that

roughly fits under the heading of married people wanting to socialize.

Although neither of us was active in the group except for meeting

each other (I got her ID from the members list and chatted her up

and never contacted any other member except for her, end of story).

We both de-listed from that group very soon after meeting.

I'm not even sure exactly what the name of that group was

and I tried googling it recently but came up empty.

Neither of us ever paid money for meeting.

We have a great long-term relationship based on trust and lust

and always have been focused on our goal which is to bring her

to New York. We are very close to the point where we can submit

the I-129F (waiting for court action which is imminent) and we're

sure to have enough visual and written "documentation" to make

the process be completed successfully.

Do you think the interviewer will try to force us to prove

that we didn't pay money just because we did in fact meet

online, or are they willing to listen to reason?

Also, we are going to admit that we were both married to other

people when we met. I know that is quite common and shouldn't

be an issue, but my better half was a little apprehensive on that point.

Thanks in advance for any reply.

Whether or not you paid money to meet each other is not an issue of concern anyway. If you didn't use an IMB, then you didn't. That's the end of it. Just tell the truth and provide evidence of a bona fide ongoing relationship.

I take IMB to be "internet marriage bureau" so that's not a problem. We didn't start saving chats

until a few months into the relationship so we've got enough saved up for excellent proof.

-shih shih

Its International marrige broker I think. There is a high percentage of people around the world using the internet to meet people so this is nothing new to these officers.

As has been said, just tell the truth & all will be well.

I think you're right (IMB refers to International Marrige Broker).

Over 30 yrs ago I made the mistake of signing up with a "dating service" and that made me realize that

no matter how difficult it is to meet people on your own, being on your own is the best choice.

--korp khun krap

[TBoneTX 45,288]

Some consulates can be pretty far behind the times. Even if you're high-tech in your communications, make sure to have at least a few postal letters (birthday cards, etc.) sent to and from each of you.

[Maverick64 0]

Some consulates can be pretty far behind the times. Even if you're high-tech in your communications, make sure to have at least a few postal letters (birthday cards, etc.) sent to and from each of you.

not always possible...decided to snail mail my fiancee a romantic card with a picture we had taken at a circus in Panama City my last visit. 1 & 1/2 months later...she never received it. Talked with another VJ member who's SO lives in the same city in Panama...same for him. It will have to be all "electronic"

[Maverick64 0]

I've heard various reports about interviewers going for

the jugular when they hear the couple met online.

We don't rightly know how much weight to give that.

Our story is true, but doesn't really fit into

the scenarios they they are used to hearing.

In 2003 we were both members of an MSN "interest group" that

roughly fits under the heading of married people wanting to socialize.

Although neither of us was active in the group except for meeting

each other (I got her ID from the members list and chatted her up

and never contacted any other member except for her, end of story).

We both de-listed from that group very soon after meeting.

I'm not even sure exactly what the name of that group was

and I tried googling it recently but came up empty.

Neither of us ever paid money for meeting.

We have a great long-term relationship based on trust and lust

and always have been focused on our goal which is to bring her

to New York. We are very close to the point where we can submit

the I-129F (waiting for court action which is imminent) and we're

sure to have enough visual and written "documentation" to make

the process be completed successfully.

Do you think the interviewer will try to force us to prove

that we didn't pay money just because we did in fact meet

online, or are they willing to listen to reason?

Also, we are going to admit that we were both married to other

people when we met. I know that is quite common and shouldn't

be an issue, but my better half was a little apprehensive on that point.

Thanks in advance for any reply.

Where did you hear that they will go for the jugular for meeting on-line? I have never heard that. I am willing to bet that 89% of the people who file for K1 met that way.

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Some consulates can be pretty far behind the times. Even if you're high-tech in your communications, make sure to have at least a few postal letters (birthday cards, etc.) sent to and from each of you.

not always possible...decided to snail mail my fiancee a romantic card with a picture we had taken at a circus in Panama City my last visit. 1 & 1/2 months later...she never received it. Talked with another VJ member who's SO lives in the same city in Panama...same for him. It will have to be all "electronic"

It's the same way in Vietnam. In some of the villages the streets have no names, and the houses have no numbers. In those cases, mail is either delivered by someone who knows where everyone lives, or it's "general delivery" to the post office.

I mailed a post card to my sister from a hotel in Hue city. I watched while the girl at the hotel carefully removed two stamps from a sheet, manually applied adhesive to them from a small cup, and attached the stamps to the card. I came back to the US about a week later. Three weeks after that my sister received the post card.

I've never heard of the consulate in Ho Chi Minh City denying a visa for lack of correspondence by mail.

[EasternDE 35]

Long time ago, I had that fear too.

We didn't know VJ forum and we felt like we were the only one couple like that... Hrm.

But when I visited my fiancé for the first time, the customs agent asked me how we met.

I was terrified when I replied "Through the oneline game World of Warcraft". The agent burst out laughing and stamped my passport straight.

Then I felt much better about it.

A few months later, I found the VJ forum and guess what, we are not alone!

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Long time ago, I had that fear too.

We didn't know VJ forum and we felt like we were the only one couple like that... Hrm.

But when I visited my fiancé for the first time, the customs agent asked me how we met.

I was terrified when I replied "Through the oneline game World of Warcraft". The agent burst out laughing and stamped my passport straight.

Then I felt much better about it.

A few months later, I found the VJ forum and guess what, we are not alone!

It is pretty common, I would guess a large percentage of VJers met that way, if not a majority. In fact at some consulates it is preferred to being introduced by friends or relatives in the states. I have never heard any particular problems about it.

Be sure you communicate in a way (at least some of the time) in a way taht produces a "paper trail". We used a discount calling card that provides a detailed call log available online, for example. I could re-fill it online and either of us could use "PIN-less" dialing as I entered Alla's phone number in the account also.

[flutter95 4]

As others have said, many many people have met online. My husband and I met online and the embassy in England said nothing about it as I think many people have met this way. I personally was asked for no proof of relationship but it is a good idea to have documents like plane tickets and passport stamps to show visitation for an on going relationship, photos tohether, calling card logs ( I had those) and perhaps snail mail but that is not all always needed. You may be asked how you met but just tell the truth and go with it, its your story and its true, they will not have issues with that.

[D&R 0]

Some consulates can be pretty far behind the times. Even if you're high-tech in your communications, make sure to have at least a few postal letters (birthday cards, etc.) sent to and from each of you.

not always possible...decided to snail mail my fiancee a romantic card with a picture we had taken at a circus in Panama City my last visit. 1 & 1/2 months later...she never received it. Talked with another VJ member who's SO lives in the same city in Panama...same for him. It will have to be all "electronic"

I'd say not to give up sending snail mail after just one attempt. Surely it's worth the price of a few stamps to get extra proof. I'd send 10 even if I thought I'd only get 1 actually delivered and therefore 1 piece of written document of proof of an ongoing relationship.

[thongd4me 69]

Do you think the interviewer will try to force us to prove

that we didn't pay money just because we did in fact meet

online, or are they willing to listen to reason?

Also, we are going to admit that we were both married to other

people when we met. I know that is quite common and shouldn't

be an issue, but my better half was a little apprehensive on that point.

Thanks in advance for any reply.

Where did you hear that they will go for the jugular for meeting on-line? I have never heard that. I am willing to bet that 89% of the people who file for K1 met that way.

You're probably right, but it's good for people like us (new to VJ) to get confirmation of that.

I just had a nagging suspicion that if we couldn't prove exactly how/when we met online

they might assume it was an international marriage broker. Glad to hear they are not like that.

=>>We have more than enough proof of an ongoing relationship over years.

[DaleandPat 0]

I've heard various reports about interviewers going for

the jugular when they hear the couple met online.

We don't rightly know how much weight to give that.

Our story is true, but doesn't really fit into

the scenarios they they are used to hearing.

In 2003 we were both members of an MSN "interest group" that

roughly fits under the heading of married people wanting to socialize.

Although neither of us was active in the group except for meeting

each other (I got her ID from the members list and chatted her up

and never contacted any other member except for her, end of story).

We both de-listed from that group very soon after meeting.

I'm not even sure exactly what the name of that group was

and I tried googling it recently but came up empty.

Neither of us ever paid money for meeting.

We have a great long-term relationship based on trust and lust

and always have been focused on our goal which is to bring her

to New York. We are very close to the point where we can submit

the I-129F (waiting for court action which is imminent) and we're

sure to have enough visual and written "documentation" to make

the process be completed successfully.

Do you think the interviewer will try to force us to prove

that we didn't pay money just because we did in fact meet

online, or are they willing to listen to reason?

Also, we are going to admit that we were both married to other

people when we met. I know that is quite common and shouldn't

be an issue, but my better half was a little apprehensive on that point.

Thanks in advance for any reply.

I think the interviewer looks for how genuine you seem to be. If it looks like meeting on the internet then meeting in person and applying for a visa; that sounds like a fling to me. If the couple have built a relationship over time then met in person and applied for a visa and does not stumble looking for answers at the interview I think the interview will go through fine. If the interviewer detects not really knowing the person or seems uneasy, they may throw out some probing questions to trip up the interviewee. This is only what I think. It looks like to two have known each other for quite awhile. I think you should be fine.

I have seen many posts here at this site that they were only asked a few questions and that is it. Then others were treated quite differently.