Help!!ASAP!! Fiance doesn't want to get married...

[baron555 934]

people change when they start living together.

This is why the K-1 is not a "let's see what happens" visa. This should have been all worked out in advance of filing.

[Brad and Vika 129]

I see lots of the same answer here, and don't want to repeat. It would however be helpful to see some kind of timeline and detail to the story. Why is he doing it, other than just changing his mind? There has to be more to it than that. And to Laura's excellent point, I think that to some this does seem to be a business merger. Knowing how they met, and how the relationship developed might answer that.

[sera77 35]

I don't get why so many "couples" view this as some sort of business transaction.

Where is the love?

There are no fines, no "immigration center" making anyone do something they don't want to do. We don't know the whole story here and we don't know why the USC decided not to get married.

What we do know is that on a K1, you have to get married within 90 days of entering the US. If that isn't going to happen, the beneficiary must go home. It's as simple and as heartbreaking as that.

I wish your friend healing and love during this hard time. Hopefully she finds the right one for her in the future and it doesn't mean that the right one is an American either....tell her to follow her heart and be true to herself.

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I think LauraAndNick's excellent post summed things up perfectly for the OP.

I do want to say something in response to the OP's original post that upset me..

The OP's attitude of asking for advice on how to force the fiance of the OP's friend to carry through on marrying the friend just set my teeth on edge. If you love someone how in the world do you even think of forcing them to marry you when they've clearly said they either don't want to or don't want to right now.

And asking how to stay without marrying him? To stay, whether or not she's married to him? I guess to give the benefit of the doubt, perhaps she wants to stay in order to try and work things out without worrying about a 90 day limit?

I suppose I've gotten cynical.

[D&R 0]

Hello, everybody. My friend just called me and she said that her fiance wants tro send her back home. he doesn't want to get married her. but she wants to stay. is there any fine if fiance doesn't get married within 90 days? if she reports to immigration center can they talk to him and make him change his mind i mean some psychological session ?

thanks a lot

Her fiance cannot send her back home because she is not a parcel. If he doesn't marry her within 90 days then its best if she goes back to her country.

What's wrong with a iffy bag with some holes poked in it?

[ccndyeth 0]

The whole point of her visa is to marry her fiance, if the USC doesn't want to marry her there's nothing she can do but to go back to her country.

[sophannaven 0]

She has lost sight of the reason that HE petitioned her. At one time, they were in LOVE.

Now things have changed. If he fell out of love, then itz time for her to get her butt back on the plane and go HOME.

This is kind of insensitive, the beneficiary obviously had her heart set on building her HOME in the US.

EXACTLY SHE HAD HER HEART SET ON BUILDING HER HOME IN THE U.S. MAYBE HE REALIZED THE SHE DONT LOVE HIM...SHE JUST LOVE THAT FACT THAT CAN HAVE A BETTER LIFE IN THE U.S.

THERE MUST BE MORE TO THIS STORY

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[bonjur_mimi 0]

She has lost sight of the reason that HE petitioned her. At one time, they were in LOVE.

Now things have changed. If he fell out of love, then itz time for her to get her butt back on the plane and go HOME.

This is kind of insensitive, the beneficiary obviously had her heart set on building her HOME in the US.

EXACTLY SHE HAD HER HEART SET ON BUILDING HER HOME IN THE U.S. MAYBE HE REALIZED THE SHE DONT LOVE HIM...SHE JUST LOVE THAT FACT THAT CAN HAVE A BETTER LIFE IN THE U.S.

THERE MUST BE MORE TO THIS STORY

!!!

We are from the sae country. And it doesn't matter she likes the life in the states or not then how about feelings? they know each other for 2 years. and she only lived with feelings about him. but for some reasons he says he's not ready for the marriage. and we don't know the reason. my fiance tried to talk to him but he never opened up.

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

We are from the sae country. And it doesn't matter she likes the life in the states or not then how about feelings? they know each other for 2 years. and she only lived with feelings about him. but for some reasons he says he's not ready for the marriage. and we don't know the reason. my fiance tried to talk to him but he never opened up.

If he's not ready then he's not ready.

You can't force someone to do something they don't want to do. Especially something as serious as marriage.

Yes, she invested time and feelings but she is not an American Citizen. She can't just stay, no matter how set her heart is on making a life in the U.S.

Your friend has to go home.

Again, I wish her healing and comfort during this time.