Is this wife crazy?

[Dave and Helena 0]

I think the issue is he withheld the truth from her on purpose. Also, if he has a problem with her getting a male piano teacher but has no problem going out for dinners with a female co-worker (who calls him at home) by himself he is having double standards which is not cool. It is never a good idea to throw rocks in glass houses....

[thongd4me 69]

Husband is on business trip for a week in foreign country. He goes to shopping mall to buy some drinks and food. On the way back to hotel by bus, he is not sure if he is on the right bus or not. He doesn't speak the language of that country. While he was on the bus, he was chatting with his wife by text messages. When wife hears that her husband is not sure if he is on the right bus or not, she asks, "Are you alone?" but he doesn't reply to that. However, the bus was just detouring so he arrived in hotel within short time after those text messages. He arrives at hotel and calls his wife to let her know he is okay.

Next day, in the afternoon, he textmessages to his wife, he is going to same shopping mall again to buy some drinks and food like yesterday and he says he is with his female co-worker (who often calls him when he is at home. she is new. Wife met her a couple of times) and he says, battery is low and cell phone is dead within few seconds. While he is out at shopping mall, his wife reminds the conversation she had before he leaves home. "You shouldn't take a piano lesson with male teacher. You should find grandmother teacher." Wife just started learning a piano by herself and realized that she needed a lesson. Husband says "Young male only thinks about sex." Wife asks, "male and female is all about sex?"Husband says, "Yes." Wife laughs and husband leaves home.

Husband comes home from business trip and he founds out wife is mad.

Husband says, "That is why I didn't say that I was with her the first day. My instinct was right. I thought, your question was suspicious so I didn't say anything about it. I knew you are going to accused me of having an affair or something."

Wife had asked a question, "Are you alone?" because she was worried. If he was with somebody who speaks the language, it is better she thought. But obviously, husband was thinking something else and even tells wife, "You are sociopath so I didn't say that I was with her. I knew you are going to twist the story. Wife says that she didn't like the idea that he is okay to go to someplace with female co-worker after woking hours away from home and husband should apologize to her. But husband say, "I am not sorry. don't see anything wrong with it. I didn't do anything wrong. I will do it same thing again if the situation comes. I didn't go out to dinner with her. I just ate dinner at food court and gelato because it was hot day."

Is the wife CRAZY to get mad in this situation?

I think crazy goes both ways. There was more than enough evidence on both sides for lack of trust.

The assumption on both sides is that you are looking for reasons to find the other one guilty.

Congratulations you have made the transition from "what can I do to make him/her happy"

and "what can I do to make him/her beg to screw my brains out" to "what is he/she doing

that I can find fault with?" It's a lose-lose situation. The husband would have never made

the comment about requesting a "grandmother" piano teacher without the obvious provocation

by the wife. That comment by the husband was taken by the wife as proof that she was right,

when in fact he might have been shocked by her out-of-the-blue accucation when he was

trying everything he could to be straight with her, keeping contact, etc. and was just fishing

for some way to parry this thrust.

The only way around this hopefully temporary blow-up is to have incredible sex upon his

return. You can make a big show of being angry and then make an even bigger show of

FORGIVENESS. This is a proven method.

To the man, understand that women are by nature emotional and sometimes look for

reasons to be jealous that never entered your "logical" mind in a million years.

Your mission is to give her multiple orgasms and don't stop until you've had at least 3

sessions lasting 3-4 hours (with reasonable rest period in between).

[Kiv 32]

Just be honest and say the truth to your SO. Then you don't need to make up stories.

If your SO loves you he/she will always be worried for you if you are having trouble.

If you want to be Independent and don't have to waste your time in explanations "stay single".

[Dave and Helena 0]

The only way around this hopefully temporary blow-up is to have incredible sex upon his

return. You can make a big show of being angry and then make an even bigger show of

FORGIVENESS. This is a proven method.

To the man, understand that women are by nature emotional and sometimes look for

reasons to be jealous that never entered your "logical" mind in a million years.

Your mission is to give her multiple orgasms and don't stop until you've had at least 3

sessions lasting 3-4 hours (with reasonable rest period in between).

[justashooter 430]

no, she isnt. The husband didnt handle the situation very well

the husband shouldn't be taking lots of calls at home from some "new girl" he works with.

the husband shouldn't be coming home late after "shopping" with said "new girl" after work.

at the very least he is being disrespectful to his wife. it islikely he is having an affair.

surely he is allowing his wife to occupy a lower position than the "new girl" in his life.

[wexford65 0]

It is impossible for ANYONE on this forum to make an in-depth analysis as to what is going on here. The original post is not clear and to be fair to the parties involved there is likely some unintended bias. There is probably a lot more going on that is not included too.

Chances are neither the wife or husband are totally in the right/wrong but either way it doesn't sound like they will be together too much longer regardless as to who is the bad guy/gal.

Without apportioning blame to anyone trust seems to be lacking...