Why is saying goodbye so hard?

[HoneyandSonny 0]

Iam trying to figure out an easy way to say goodbye.....Its so hard, I want to take him home with me but I can't. I can't leave him and Iam in tears everytime I think about it. How do you get through this? Iam leaving my heart on the otherside of the world with him. Please if anyone knows how to cope with this please let me know

[Kenza 1]

I ask the same thing every single time and each time is the same. I thought after 5 years it would get easier but I always cry like a baby at the airport. Inshallah our days of leaving and coming will be done soon.

[Bobby+Umit 161]

I never say "good bye" - I say "till we are together again..."

[Twisted K 2]

I wish I knew the answer to that. There was only one trip where I did not cry the 13 hour flight to Chicago. And that was only because I promised not to.

[~Jess~ 0]

Ive traveled back and forth alot in the past 3.5yrs and each and every goodbye on both sides of the ocean i cry. Usually i am okay after i pass security and head toward my gate----then i talk to them on the phone before boarding and it starts all over again.

George and i have our issues but i know that each and every time i leave i will cry---this Sept will be no different.

[nurse1967 287]

Awww it is awful and there is no easy way around. The night before I left Egypt my husband and I stayed up all night. Didn't get a wink of sleep. I thought that when I got to the airport I would have a total breakdown. Luckily, at the Cairo airport they wisk you into this entry hall (where hubby cannot go) and I didn't even have time for it to register. It is hard. Just remember it is a necessary step to start your new lives together. Good luck!

[UmmSqueakster 54]

I never say "good bye" - I say "till we are together again..."

Yup, AbuS and I have never said goodbye to each other. It's always, see you later, etc etc etc.

While it is painful now, try to use your time and your energy for preparing things here for him. Learn to cook his favorite dishes, clear out space for him in the closet, scope out ESL classes, learn arabic to suprise him, there are a million things you can do.

Then enjoy your last days as a single lady, cuz when he gets here, there won't be the time to go out with the girlfriends as much anymore, or other things you enjoyed doing.

In the end, inshaAllah you will have many decades together. What is a year or 2 in the grand scheme of things?

[Sandrila 1]

It is such a heartwrenching situation. I had to leave my love 4x and each time got harder.

Re-adjusting to life in the states wasn't easy either having lived in a foreign country.

All I know is that life resumed pretty quickly to normal.

The hustle and bustle of our life here, work, family, friends will soon occupy your time.

It won't make you miss him less but it will bring some comfort to be around others, share your memories and pictures and make the time move along.

Nothing anyone can say will make you feel better.

Most of the time you think no one understands, but we all do.

May God give you both the strength you need to endure this waiting period and expedite the time until you see each other again.

Edited July 20, 2009 by Sandrila

[R and F 34]

That is why I decided to stay in Morocco and do DCF no matter how long it took. I could not leave Farid for the world, he is such a good, kind person to me. I know that eventually you will be together with your husband and I know God will give you the strength to carry on with your life without him for awhile, but remember he loves you as much as you love him and you will be together soon enough. I wish you the best always.

[amysaid 9]

I cried both times I left Egypt, though the first time was definitely the worst. It was not as bad the second time because I knew I would be coming back again this summer... But when I leave this summer, I will leave knowing that I can't come visit again until the following summer, if his visa isn't approved. I think that will be the hardest part.

[Aymsgirl 0]

It was always very hard to leave. The first time I left I was on the bathroom floor of the airport throwing up. The last time my husband was the one watching me all pregnant knowing that he wouldn't know when he would see me or his unborn child. It's always hard, always. But the good thing is that you found a love that you feel this with the other person. You are going home to start your papers to start your new life. We always looked forward our next visit or our next step in our journey. Keep your faith, keep your chin up and keep in close contact and God willing, you will get through this. Best of luck dear.

[bhajishah 4]

On the trip home, start making plans for how to prepare home for new husband, and what it is you need to accompish before he arrives in the states!!

[~ameriptian~ 54]

It was hard... I cried the last two days John was here knowing he had to leave in hours... In the airport I was crying then smiling recalling the moments we had together then laughing trying not to cry then crying again... We don't say "good-bye" we say: "I love you" that is always the last thing we say... Just recalling these minutes made me miss him more It's been 4 months and 1 day since I last saw him

It will be hard any way.. Just know in your heart that you will be reunited again soon and it will make your relationship and marriage stronger.. I really pray that these moments pass as easy as possible for you and you get to be together in no time

[Bajih 4]

I don't think there is anything you can do to ease the pain of that moment of walking through the gate away from him- just know it will come and that you will live through it and you will be together again soon.

I love the advice of keeping yourself busy with things once you are back- learning how to speak the language, cook his fav dish, clearing out places for him.. as this keeps you hopeful for the near future. Knowing that his things will be in that drawer soon (insha'Allah) keeps me going. It is such a helpless feeling not being able to do anything but wait and this gives me a chance to do something... a small comfort. Another comfort is keeping up on VJ- on days when I am feeling lonely, depressed and sorry-for-myself, I come here and get inspired. There is something about knowing others are in the same boat as you that is comforting. (although please know that I wish none of us were in this boat!)

Savor every moment that you have- You will relive those moments over and over again in the coming weeks.

[yaziedandlisa 0]

Iam trying to figure out an easy way to say goodbye.....Its so hard, I want to take him home with me but I can't. I can't leave him and Iam in tears everytime I think about it. How do you get through this? Iam leaving my heart on the otherside of the world with him. Please if anyone knows how to cope with this please let me know

thinking that u met the love of ur life and the happines of that may help,, and thinking that u will see him again after this whole process and life happily ever after,,, have the faith that u will end the process very soon and just listen to ur heart,,,

i spent 15 months and 13 days without my wife,.,, a whole year and 3 month,,, a very hard time if that is gonna help,, but i had the faith that this is my love and i am gonna fight for.... have faith in ur love and be in a daily connection with ur hubby.

good luck with ur journey