privacy between married couple

[barenaked 0]

Hi Rebz...

i feel so sad about your story, i think you should talk things over.

don't let your insecurities eat you. it will just only make your relationship bitter.

and about passwords, me and my hubby never kept anything from each other.

and besides you shouldn't be asking for it, my hubby gave it to me and asks me to check mails once in awhile because he's so busy with his work.

Talk to him sincerely, tell him how you feel, and ask him if there's anything he's still looking for that you're not able to give.

Ask him why he entertain those kind of stuffs...

there's always a reason for everything...

I'll include you in my prayers...

I hope things will turn out fine to you guys!

Edited July 23, 2009 by barenaked

[chinese_mutt 11]

:whistle: :whistle:

OHH!!! IS MANNY PACQUIAO - MIGUEL COTTO FIGHT STARTING?!!!!! I THOUGHT THAT'S ON NOVEMBER? :devil:

No, my dear. It's the smart girl and the dimwit exchanging profanities. I am rooting for the smart girl.

Ate marie....smart girl and the dimwit?????!!! WHO'S WHO then?! :whistle:

smart girl = Tngirl

dimwit = (puro unintelligible ang posts) = Lotus

gets mo na?

Careful, beybi ko! That is pretty close to a TOS violation. Personal attacks are not allowed!

does this mean you'll get fish for dinner tonight?

Probably! She's cooking something now I don't recognize.

Perhaps she's frying some kind of Smoked boneless milkfish, Sarangani brand from Mindanao, close to my wife's hometown of Davao.

My wife does not like to eat this #######; she eats the Crappies that I have caught myself and filleted.

She does not care for Filipino junk foods, she is a RN, you know, and she knows about Healthy things to put in her mouth.

I catch a lot of Bass but these are in tournaments and everything is released after they were weighed.

You know, we Texans are good in working our Worms to get the bites.

Manny Pacquiao v Miguel Cotto? I'll take Cotto anytime. If Pacquiao wins I owe you a dinner at the Pekpek Carenderia.

The 2 girls that are engaged in a heated Tussle here are both nuts.

Why do I think that I sound like my good old friend from North Texas?

I plead Temporary Insanity.

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

:whistle: :whistle:

OHH!!! IS MANNY PACQUIAO - MIGUEL COTTO FIGHT STARTING?!!!!! I THOUGHT THAT'S ON NOVEMBER? :devil:

No, my dear. It's the smart girl and the dimwit exchanging profanities. I am rooting for the smart girl.

Ate marie....smart girl and the dimwit?????!!! WHO'S WHO then?! :whistle:

smart girl = Tngirl

dimwit = (puro unintelligible ang posts) = Lotus

gets mo na?

Careful, beybi ko! That is pretty close to a TOS violation. Personal attacks are not allowed!

does this mean you'll get fish for dinner tonight?

:rofl: Give him Tuyo or Daing Ate Marie!!!! :yes:

I'm beginning to love this thread........I'm not favoring anyone...

I DON'T WANT STRESS...i hate stress! So, I really don't care if my husband wont give me his password, I respect that. CASE CLOSED!

As long, as he gives me his paycheck, as long as I have to live at our house, as long as he's being the responsible husband and father...im good with!

We dont live in fairytales.....We always start at "Once upon a time" but never ended in "Happy Ever After"

He hates the smell of daing and tuyo. It drove him nuts one time and I was frying some tuyo. Poor guy. Tambien, Mariel. I don't care if I don't know his email password. I respect his privacy too. As long as he is the responsible husband, I'm happy a girl.

[=FoxyBLUE= 2]

:whistle: :whistle:

OHH!!! IS MANNY PACQUIAO - MIGUEL COTTO FIGHT STARTING?!!!!! I THOUGHT THAT'S ON NOVEMBER? :devil:

No, my dear. It's the smart girl and the dimwit exchanging profanities. I am rooting for the smart girl.

Ate marie....smart girl and the dimwit?????!!! WHO'S WHO then?! :whistle:

smart girl = Tngirl

dimwit = (puro unintelligible ang posts) = Lotus

gets mo na?

Careful, beybi ko! That is pretty close to a TOS violation. Personal attacks are not allowed!

does this mean you'll get fish for dinner tonight?

:rofl: Give him Tuyo or Daing Ate Marie!!!! :yes:

I'm beginning to love this thread........I'm not favoring anyone...

I DON'T WANT STRESS...i hate stress! So, I really don't care if my husband wont give me his password, I respect that. CASE CLOSED!

As long, as he gives me his paycheck, as long as I have to live at our house, as long as he's being the responsible husband and father...im good with it!

We dont live in fairytales.....We always start at "Once upon a time" but never ended in "Happy Ever After"

He hates the smell of daing and tuyo. It drove him nuts one time and I was frying some tuyo. Poor guy. Tambien, Mariel. I don't care if I don't know his email password. I respect his privacy too. As long as he is the responsible husband, I'm happy a girl.

AGREE!!! : Happy Girl din ako!!

Those things cause conflicts lang....I have better and more important things to take care of..and that's not one of those!

I also have my own Privacy too....and he respects that! Basta we TRUST and Love each other...that all that matters!

Kampay Ate marie for that!!!

Edited July 23, 2009 by Mariel_Esteban

[Señor Bonito 2]

She does not care for Filipino junk foods, she is a RN, you know, and she knows about Healthy things to put in her mouth.

Like what to put in her mouth, Bud?

[MNCouple 3]

Interesting discussion. Privacy/secrecy in relationships mean different things to different people.

I can only share with you my opinion. First, privacy is nice. I have kids, pets, job, etc. I like a quiet moment by myself where I can play silly facebook games, read quietly, or have a call with my mother venting about my life and not worrying about anyone "overhearing" me. Those are my moments of privacy. My family understands that sometimes I need them. Sometimes, they need them too and I respect that. We understand what privacy is and we all know that if mom wants to shut her bedroom door to read and be alone for 30 minutes, it's not because she's doing something bad, nor is it because she doesn't love us.

With that said, I have no tolerance for lies or negative secrecy. I consider being secretive about birthday presents, travel plans, etc as positive secrecy so they don't count.

I think everything comes down to proper communication. Let's say that my husband liked looking at porn and he said to me, "I love you. We have a great sex life, but I'm pretty visual and seeing some naughty pictures gives me pleasure and makes our nights more exciting." I would consider his opinion, how he treats me and I would be fine with him having some "private" time with the computer so he can read or look at whatever he wants. The thing here is that we are being open, mature, and respecting each other about it.

Now, if he said, "I'm not quite satisfied by what you give me and I need other strange women contacting me and flirting with me and sending me pictures, etc"... That I would have a problem with. That would require a more indepth conversation and I would have to explain how those types of communications would bother me, how they would upset me, and how they would make me suspicious of him and his activities. Temptation is very powerful and if you have someone new and exciting feeding you everything you want to hear... well, that's how relationships can get miserable.

I think you both need to have a clear conversation about secrecy and privacy. Both of you determine what your "needs" are and then find a compromise together.

In my previous marriage my x and I knew all passwords and all accounts of each other. Until our relationship started turning sour, then he had a private bank account that he didn't tell me about and I started setting up new and private accounts to talk to my now new husband.

My current husband and I have no secrets from each other and I can access any of his accounts and he can access any of mine.

I wish you the best of luck!

[eros_EX_Plumber 0]

Let me make this thread a bit more interesting......forget privacy...for a moment

Do you also share fantasies between husband and wife......too?

I just wonder what kind of fantasies people have

[mrsartis 10]

uh .. privacy?

hmm i can only say, when you are in the bathroom, ill respect that.. i got all the passwords and stuff, you see I know these things but i dont snoop around.. thats considering his privacy.. so i think its kind of "kung wala namang tinatago edi ibigay" diba?

we share fantasies too.. of course..

if you think you can keep a secret from your spouse.. uh think again,., heheh she/he might know you more than you know yourself..=)

[macutelit 0]

Let me make this thread a bit more interesting......forget privacy...for a moment

Do you also share fantasies between husband and wife......too?

I just wonder what kind of fantasies people have

ummmm not yet

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Let me make this thread a bit more interesting......forget privacy...for a moment

Do you also share fantasies between husband and wife......too?

I just wonder what kind of fantasies people have

Yes, some, and not on your life.

P.S. Read Penthouse Forum, and if your are more daring, Variations.

Edited July 24, 2009 by Mister_Bill

[donnastl 0]

My husband and I don't share each others password:D We respect each other when it comes to reading one's email or mails. I don't know, maybe its about how you deal with it. I trust him and he trusts me.

[jom 4]

My husband and I do not believe in secrets and privacy. We have a small hidden notebook that contains all our account usernames and paswords in case we forget, otherwise, both our laptops are open all day and we both have access to our respective emails. It is just the way we are.

When it comes to bills, I handle it. My husband just asks me what bills he has to pay and he will write me a check so I can deposit it in our joint account which we use to pay our bills. He never ask why the amount is so and so. I also take care of our mails and have the discretion to select which ones I give him since there are a lot of junk mails.

The bathroom is actually open for both of us and we talk while one is doing the "thing" whether it be number 1 or number 2. This is how we are and we love every minute of it. With the openess and absence or privacy and unknown passwords, we both feel secure that jealousy has no place in our relationship. When my husband is gone for the week to travel I can sleep at night knowing he wont cheat on me, be it in real or in the internet because I know where I stand in his life and he feels the same.

I guess, every relationship is unique and whatever works for a couple, then be it..as long as it makes them happy.

Fantasies?? Oh yes...we actually have 10 and so far we have done 4 of them . . . waiting for the right moment to complete the other 6

To the OP..goodluck to you and we hope things will be better for you and your husband. Sit down and talk with no inhibitions and maybe the two of you can start all over again, without other girls in the internet involved.

[SuperDuper! 230]

My husband and I do not believe in secrets and privacy. We have a small hidden notebook that contains all our account usernames and paswords in case we forget, otherwise, both our laptops are open all day and we both have access to our respective emails. It is just the way we are.

When it comes to bills, I handle it. My husband just asks me what bills he has to pay and he will write me a check so I can deposit it in our joint account which we use to pay our bills. He never ask why the amount is so and so. I also take care of our mails and have the discretion to select which ones I give him since there are a lot of junk mails.

The bathroom is actually open for both of us and we talk while one is doing the "thing" whether it be number 1 or number 2. This is how we are and we love every minute of it. With the openess and absence or privacy and unknown passwords, we both feel secure that jealousy has no place in our relationship. When my husband is gone for the week to travel I can sleep at night knowing he wont cheat on me, be it in real or in the internet because I know where I stand in his life and he feels the same.

I guess, every relationship is unique and whatever works for a couple, then be it..as long as it makes them happy.

Fantasies?? Oh yes...we actually have 10 and so far we have done 4 of them . . . waiting for the right moment to complete the other 6

To the OP..goodluck to you and we hope things will be better for you and your husband. Sit down and talk with no inhibitions and maybe the two of you can start all over again, without other girls in the internet involved.

Wow! THis is such an amazing thing you just revealed. So much so, I started a thread on it. I can't believe it!

[David-and-Mae 15]

The bathroom is actually open for both of us and we talk while one is doing the "thing" whether it be number 1 or number 2.

Wow! THis is such an amazing thing you just revealed. So much so, I started a thread on it. I can't believe it!

I thought this was pretty common? 'Coz that's how it is in for us too. Since it's just my husband and I (and a dog and a cat) in our house, we don't close our bedroom door and we definitely don't close the bathroom door whenever one of us is in there. If he's in there doing whatever and I need to be in there too to do something else, all we need is to ask if it's ok to come in and join him. If he's doing #2 and needs private and quite time to concentrate, I will be right outside the door talking and distracting him (and vice versa). If we're in hurry and need to go somewhere and running late, we usually use the bathroom together. He'll be in the shower while I go ahead and use the rest of the bathroom and then vice versa. Now if we have company staying for some days, we still don't close our bedroom door and you can literally see everything in there from the kitchen and dining areas since we have French-style doors. If we need privacy like in getting dress and we have company, then we do it in the bathroom since our walk-in closet's in there too. But since most of the time it's just the two of us, we can go run around naked in the house and nobody cares.

[justashooter 430]

our relationship started turning sour, then he had a private bank account that he didn't tell me about and I started setting up new and private accounts to talk to my now new husband.

My current husband and I have no secrets from each other and I can access any of his accounts and he can access any of mine.

so you're saying that once the ex started squirreling away cash you started looking for a bridge relationship?

so you never actually separated, you just plugged one into an empty socket while the other was still plugged in?

hmmm, i wonder how long this will last, based upon your track record?