Attention Sweetee

[valentine 0]

SWEETEE,

How dear you said I lied to my fiance.

Do you know my occupation or profile from Naija.

I still want to appreciate you for your contribution.

but please sister mind what you say.

I am a pastor and my usc fiance knows about it, even vikky one of us inthis forum.

Do you know me personly?

Please mind your language.

You said you heared a word that i am a preacher,and that is true.

Why do you say shame on me.

You are making me not to respect you again,because of your careless& unsure utterance.

Please be warned,

Edited July 7, 2006 by valentine

[JenT 0]

Warned about what, Valentine? You are treading on very dangerous ground here... I'd be VERY careful before you express any more veiled threats on this forum.

[BESANGIN 0]

SOOKIE SOOKIE NOW!!!!

[gimygirl 0]

[Optimystic 0]

We got more drama than a daytime soap opera!

Turn off the tele, and come to Sub-Saharan Africa forum instead......

NOW RUN TELL THAT!!!

[mollyandstephen 0]

Valentine,

How do you know that Sweetee is the one that exposed you to all of us here on VJ? She definitely wasn't the first one to post and say that you had lied to your fiance about being a preacher. Now, I don't know you and I have no idea if you were a preacher in Naija or not. BUT...it does sound fishy to me. In an effort to give you the benefit of the doubt though, I have a couple questions for you.....

1. How did you get to know these friends that you are staying with? Are they YOUR friends from Naija or are they some of your fiance's friends? Just wondering....

2. If you are so in love with your fiance and really want to spend the rest of your life with her---and not just use her to get a greencard---then why is it that you have RARELY talked about her or your relationship with her here on VJ? I have gone back through your posts here on the forum to try to understand what is going on here and even on the day that your visa was approved, you did not mention your fiance ONCE in your post--all you talked about was the visa. And on the day that you were flying to the U.S., you didnt' talk about how excited you were to be reunited with your fiance or your excitement about getting married---only about your excitement to leave Nigeria. As far as I could find, you haven't ever posted and told your story to us about how you met your fiance or how much time you've spent together, or anything AT ALL about your fiance. Because of those things, I am very skeptical about your true desires in coming to the U.S. It sounds like you have used your fiance as a free ticket out of Naija and into the U.S. I hope that I am wrong about that. I would like it if you would post and give us some real explanation of things because your case ain't looking so good right now.

Oh, and one more thing---I think you are the one that needs to be very careful of what you say here---NOT Sweetee. She didn't threaten you...all she did was express her opinion about the things you have been posting here and the information that you have lied to your fiance about who you really are. I'd be very careful right now about pissing people off with your threats....it's really not cool. She didn't do anything wrong and doesn't deserve your threats. If she is wrong, start posting and giving us the truth about the situation so we'll know what to believe. Even your "explanation" is very vague about the real issue. Makes me wonder....

Just my 0.02.

Molly

[Kanyiri 0]

[mandolinv 0]

Valentine, I just wanted to clarify because you seem a bit confused. From my understanding, Sweetee was saying that she had heard that you lied and are in fact NOT a preacher and that your fience thought you were and that that might be one of the problems. She wasn't condeming you for being a preacher, but for not being truthful. At least that is what I read from it.

[onwa 6]

So much drama this morning! Where's my coffee? Seems awful silly to threaten someone on an internet forum.

Major misrepresentation may get you somewhere in the short run, but no where in the long term of things. My friend married a Nigerian who lied about who he was, who his family was, and then he left after he got the greencard and the whole truth came out.

Anyhow, off to get my coffee---if someone really lied to me about who they were--they would be adios.

[daisy16 0]

[akatagirl 0]

Oh my..this topic has a caused a firestorm of debate.....Kanyiri....the pic u posted on this thread had me rolling on the floor lol but in all seriousness though, ...Valentine, i can understand y u r on the defense at some of the responses on here but u had to have known that you would get mixed responses to your dilemma, some of which will question your character and intent toward ur fiance and some that offer support and well wishes. Its true we dont know truly what is in your heart toward ur fiance, we only know what is based on what you write and how u respond to the posts on here, but I think the bottom line here to take away from all these comments is this: how are u coming across to your fiance and if she has any of these doubts that other members posted on here, how can u make it clear to her that you do in facttruly love her and want to be with her and not for any other reason.

[~Jackie~ 30]

And here I was thinking all the drama was on the MiddleEast/NA forum!

Jackie

[Tropicana 0]

umm hmm, its like watching a soap opera- this time its called the Bold and the Outrageous! Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive. I think we all agree that something is not adding up. Fireworks anyone??

[Optimystic 0]

umm hmm, its like watching a soap opera- this time its called the Bold and the Outrageous! Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive. I think we all agree that something is not adding up. Fireworks anyone??

I gotta few Roman Candles & snakes left over from the fourth!!! Hummmmm seems like the snakes would be more appropriate for this celebration!

[sweetee 0]

Valentine,

How do you know that Sweetee is the one that exposed you to all of us here on VJ? She definitely wasn't the first one to post and say that you had lied to your fiance about being a preacher. Now, I don't know you and I have no idea if you were a preacher in Naija or not. BUT...it does sound fishy to me. In an effort to give you the benefit of the doubt though, I have a couple questions for you.....

1. How did you get to know these friends that you are staying with? Are they YOUR friends from Naija or are they some of your fiance's friends? Just wondering....

2. If you are so in love with your fiance and really want to spend the rest of your life with her---and not just use her to get a greencard---then why is it that you have RARELY talked about her or your relationship with her here on VJ? I have gone back through your posts here on the forum to try to understand what is going on here and even on the day that your visa was approved, you did not mention your fiance ONCE in your post--all you talked about was the visa. And on the day that you were flying to the U.S., you didnt' talk about how excited you were to be reunited with your fiance or your excitement about getting married---only about your excitement to leave Nigeria. As far as I could find, you haven't ever posted and told your story to us about how you met your fiance or how much time you've spent together, or anything AT ALL about your fiance. Because of those things, I am very skeptical about your true desires in coming to the U.S. It sounds like you have used your fiance as a free ticket out of Naija and into the U.S. I hope that I am wrong about that. I would like it if you would post and give us some real explanation of things because your case ain't looking so good right now.

Oh, and one more thing---I think you are the one that needs to be very careful of what you say here---NOT Sweetee. She didn't threaten you...all she did was express her opinion about the things you have been posting here and the information that you have lied to your fiance about who you really are. I'd be very careful right now about pissing people off with your threats....it's really not cool. She didn't do anything wrong and doesn't deserve your threats. If she is wrong, start posting and giving us the truth about the situation so we'll know what to believe. Even your "explanation" is very vague about the real issue. Makes me wonder....

Just my 0.02.

Molly

Molly and the rest of VJers...GOOD LOOKIN' OUT!!! Now let me handle this personally:

Valentine, my BROTHER....Be Warned???????? Warned about what????? Go play somewhere che!!!

Let me tell u something and if you don't walk away with anything do know this much....people here are not just folks that come and post and leave it at that. Some of us here are actually friends. (We have exchanged emails, pm, phone#'s, etc.) So u know the word does get out!!! Maybe u might want to know this also....only the players change, the game remains the same. So boo, don't hate the playa...hate the game!!!

Since you r professing to be a pastor/preacher/or whatever u r today, I've decided to give u a taste of the New & Improved Sweetee...cos the old Sweetee would have been a helluva bit more aggressive to ur warning!!!! But we just gon leave it at that, MY BROTHER!!!!