Bridezilla Update...(I think I'm OK posting this here...)

[Sprailenes 47]

word.

[thetreble 19]

That was his friends' piece of advice before he hit the church alter "Don't procreate until you know the marriage will last!"

[DeadPoolX 9]

That was his friends' piece of advice before he hit the church alter "Don't procreate until you know the marriage will last!"

What I don't get is when couples have kids in order to "strengthen their marriage." If you're marriage has problems already, kids are not going to suddenly solve it. I doubt anyone would argue that kids make life more complex.

[bowflex 0]

That was his friends' piece of advice before he hit the church alter "Don't procreate until you know the marriage will last!"

What I don't get is when couples have kids in order to "strengthen their marriage." If you're marriage has problems already, kids are not going to suddenly solve it. I doubt anyone would argue that kids make life more complex.

Maybe they think the fear of child support would scare the ####### out of the other person and they won't leave? I know people that are paying an insane amount and probably would've figured out a way to stay with the person to keep it from happening if they could or would've chopped off their schwance before doing something stupid when young LOL.

[DeadPoolX 9]

That was his friends' piece of advice before he hit the church alter "Don't procreate until you know the marriage will last!"

What I don't get is when couples have kids in order to "strengthen their marriage." If you're marriage has problems already, kids are not going to suddenly solve it. I doubt anyone would argue that kids make life more complex.

Maybe they think the fear of child support would scare the ####### out of the other person and they won't leave? I know people that are paying an insane amount and probably would've figured out a way to stay with the person to keep it from happening if they could or would've chopped off their schwance before doing something stupid when young LOL.

Possibly, but that still proves that "children make life more complicated."

[bowflex 0]

Possibly, but that still proves that "children make life more complicated."

Haha I'd say more expensive waaaaay before more complicated LOL.

[bradcanuck 1]

What a sad ending to a sad story and what a sad thought that he will lead such a sad life.

Misery chooses company however. He made his bed, he gets to sleep in it. He chose to make it out of rocks and sheep poo. She just jumped in and got cozy.

Edited August 6, 2009 by bradcanuck

[moni_calla 0]

If the stress of a wedding did this to her, please make sure she's on an ample amount of birth control or the stress of children just may make her spontaneously combust.

Surprisingly childbirth would probably change her not so nice ways, most have a different outlook on life after kids.

That was his friends' piece of advice before he hit the church alter "Don't procreate until you know the marriage will last!"

What I don't get is when couples have kids in order to "strengthen their marriage." If you're marriage has problems already, kids are not going to suddenly solve it. I doubt anyone would argue that kids make life more complex.

Maybe they think the fear of child support would scare the ####### out of the other person and they won't leave? I know people that are paying an insane amount and probably would've figured out a way to stay with the person to keep it from happening if they could or would've chopped off their schwance before doing something stupid when young LOL.

Possibly, but that still proves that "children make life more complicated."

Children make life a lot more interesting...........

Edited August 7, 2009 by moni_calla

[Marilyn. 340]

I am pretty sure my brother and SIL had a kid to try and help their marriage... they are still together but their marriage isn't that great.. she is a very selfish person.. and yes I know my brother isn't perfect either but he really is a sweet guy and doesn't deserve how she treats him..

[Sprailenes 47]

If the stress of a wedding did this to her, please make sure she's on an ample amount of birth control or the stress of children just may make her spontaneously combust.

Surprisingly childbirth would probably change her not so nice ways, most have a different outlook on life after kids.

That was his friends' piece of advice before he hit the church alter "Don't procreate until you know the marriage will last!"

What I don't get is when couples have kids in order to "strengthen their marriage." If you're marriage has problems already, kids are not going to suddenly solve it. I doubt anyone would argue that kids make life more complex.

Maybe they think the fear of child support would scare the ####### out of the other person and they won't leave? I know people that are paying an insane amount and probably would've figured out a way to stay with the person to keep it from happening if they could or would've chopped off their schwance before doing something stupid when young LOL.

Possibly, but that still proves that "children make life more complicated."

Children make life a lot more interesting...........

I have to disagree. She is so controlling now she would probably be more controlling after kids, I think it's safe to say that she'd use those kids to control him.

If the stress of a wedding did this to her, I could imagine how having kids would make things. I think women use an event such as a wedding as an excuse to be a zilla, there's no excuse to treat people that way. Could you imagine when morning sickness kicks in? Sheesh nine months of hearing her whine and complain and then a lifetime of having her hanging those kids in his face whenever he steps out of line.

If you're a b1tch before, you're a b1tch after and kids don't necessarily change things. Sometimes it makes things worse unfortunately.

[thetreble 19]

The funny thing is how she manipulated every one around her. She was TOO nice. She wanted people's attention and respect TOO much. It was almost creepy.

But then as soon as she got that ring on, she didn't need any of us any more. It just wasn't in their plan.

Jared called Chris a few days ago since he hadn't heard from him. They didn't talk about the wedding, I guess. Jared just told him that we forgot the money and card. ( I wanted him to try to just forget about that...) hahah I've got it sitting in my wallet and I Feel like getting my hair done tomorrow.

[thetreble 19]

There's More!

Sadly, on Wednesday my Father In Law was asked to g o talk to Bridezilla and Chris at their condo. So, he drove down there thinking that maybe they were going to settle all the bad feelings and put them to bed.

NOT WHAT HAPPENED.

Bridezilla berated my father in law for a good hour. She told him he ruined her wedding. She said that he was a nasty and mean person because he didn't spend much time talking to her family. She said that they were "equals" now and called him "Frank". (In our family, we still call Mr. and Mrs.) When my FIL told her that he didn't think they were equals due to him being her FIL, his age, experience, etc. she refused to accept it and said they were on the same level now.

She said she resents the fact that my Sister In Law's boyfriend, Canadian guy named Josh, was "allowed" to be in the family photos when she wasn't allowed to be in them in our wedding a few years back when her and chris were "just" boyfriend and girlfriend. (Not true...we never dis-included her..she was MISERABLE at our wedding because it wasn't hers..)

And then, she threw out one of the biggest insults you could probably throw at someone...

She said, "And, in closing, Frank, I just want you to know that I think you are CHEAP".

He was shocked. He didn't know what to say. My FIL is far from cheap. He's an incredibly generous man. He may be a little stubborn and stern, but he is NOT cheap.

The worst part? My brother in law sat there the entire time and did not say one word. So, my father in law just got up and left.

This is not the kid I knew. The kid I know is respectful, funny, knows right from wrong....I don't know what he's doing.

[minnew 4]

There's More!

Sadly, on Wednesday my Father In Law was asked to g o talk to Bridezilla and Chris at their condo. So, he drove down there thinking that maybe they were going to settle all the bad feelings and put them to bed.

NOT WHAT HAPPENED.

Bridezilla berated my father in law for a good hour. She told him he ruined her wedding. She said that he was a nasty and mean person because he didn't spend much time talking to her family. She said that they were "equals" now and called him "Frank". (In our family, we still call Mr. and Mrs.) When my FIL told her that he didn't think they were equals due to him being her FIL, his age, experience, etc. she refused to accept it and said they were on the same level now.

She said she resents the fact that my Sister In Law's boyfriend, Canadian guy named Josh, was "allowed" to be in the family photos when she wasn't allowed to be in them in our wedding a few years back when her and chris were "just" boyfriend and girlfriend. (Not true...we never dis-included her..she was MISERABLE at our wedding because it wasn't hers..)

And then, she threw out one of the biggest insults you could probably throw at someone...

She said, "And, in closing, Frank, I just want you to know that I think you are CHEAP".

He was shocked. He didn't know what to say. My FIL is far from cheap. He's an incredibly generous man. He may be a little stubborn and stern, but he is NOT cheap.

The worst part? My brother in law sat there the entire time and did not say one word. So, my father in law just got up and left.

This is not the kid I knew. The kid I know is respectful, funny, knows right from wrong....I don't know what he's doing.

Wow...just wow....what the heck happened to your BIL....and she has another thing coming!

[Ban Hammer 13,333]

This is not the kid I knew. The kid I know is respectful, funny, knows right from wrong....I don't know what he's doing.

i suggest getting him a subscription to this. it sure sounds like he needs this.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

Your BIL is probably one of the most unhappy people you know right now - or will ever know. He is probably afraid of his wife, too afraid to speak up to her about how unfair she was being to your FIL. I don't think he ever thought that his life would be like this and he has no way to figure out what to do. If he says something to or against his wife she will turn on him even worse than she turns on the others. She probably already is as he is acting like an abused spouse who has been browbeaten into silence by their abusive partner. That is what she is. I don't know if he will ever get enough backbone to stand up to her - especially if he is a 'nice' guy - and the unfortunate thing is, if he has no way to escape it will probably begin to affect him physically - his health will start to suffer. I feel very very sorry for him. Yes, he made his bed - but he can unmake it as well if he has the courage. I am sure this isn't what he expected nor signed up for.,

Edited August 8, 2009 by Kathryn41