Which date do you celebrate?

[Arabella 4]

I've noticed a lot of VJ'ers have a civil wedding first and then a formal ceremony later.

My question is . . . which date do you celebrate as your wedding anniversary?

[SapphireDreams 71]

We will celebrate both!

[Arabella 4]

We will celebrate both!

So Sapphire since yours are over a year apart, 5 years from now will you say you have been married for 5 or 4 years?

[Mike & Miche 0]

Definitely celebrate BOTH !!! Not married, yet, but one will be in Vegas (later next month), the other in Campos dos Goytacazes Brazil next Spring.

Why not? Celebrate the love and commitment for one another!!! GRIN.

[Arabella 4]

Definitely celebrate BOTH !!! Not married, yet, but one will be in Vegas (later next month), the other in Campos dos Goytacazes Brazil next Spring.

Why not? Celebrate the love and commitment for one another!!! GRIN.

Ok, let me ask this another way. When you go to get something engraved with your wedding date on it, which will you chose? I am not being picky, it's just that we will most likely do a civil ceremony followed by a formal ceremony and I was wondering which date to use for personalized things.

[Sprailenes 47]

We celebrate both too.

I love celebrating anything! If I could make a celebration out of ever day of the week I so would.

[JillA 2]

Definitely celebrate BOTH !!! Not married, yet, but one will be in Vegas (later next month), the other in Campos dos Goytacazes Brazil next Spring.

Why not? Celebrate the love and commitment for one another!!! GRIN.

Ok, let me ask this another way. When you go to get something engraved with your wedding date on it, which will you chose? I am not being picky, it's just that we will most likely do a civil ceremony followed by a formal ceremony and I was wondering which date to use for personalized things.

We're getting our rings engraved with Sept. 4, 2010. We don't wear wedding rings now either, only will after our celebration with friends and family. To me, that is our "wedding" day. Nov. 22, 2008 was simply a legal recognition - but we still toast to it! On our 6-month anniversary we noted it

Edited July 13, 2009 by JillA

[ddartt1 2]

I've noticed a lot of VJ'ers have a civil wedding first and then a formal ceremony later.

My question is . . . which date do you celebrate as your wedding anniversary?

We celebrate both!

[Carlawarla 1]

Definitely celebrate BOTH !!! Not married, yet, but one will be in Vegas (later next month), the other in Campos dos Goytacazes Brazil next Spring.

Why not? Celebrate the love and commitment for one another!!! GRIN.

Ok, let me ask this another way. When you go to get something engraved with your wedding date on it, which will you chose? I am not being picky, it's just that we will most likely do a civil ceremony followed by a formal ceremony and I was wondering which date to use for personalized things.

I'm not included in this question, as we just had one ceremony/wedding, however while it's lovely to celebrate both, if you're looking at engraving, or even telling people how long you've been married, shouldn't you be using the date that it became "legal"? I'm just thinking of it in terms of people who say live together for two years, then get married. They don't say they've been married for four, they say two. The ceremony that made it legal, the one that you have to put down on government forms and such, should be the one that you should perhaps have engraved as the wedding date. Just my opinion!

[Krikit 1,164]

My husband likes to celebrate both. But that's only because he has a backup date in case he forgets the legal wedding. I've got to say that having two wedding dates is a pita when it comes to filling out paperwork, because you have to remember which date is which. Plus it's very confusing for everyone. You're being constantly asked which date was your wedding. Or they don't remember that you were actually married long before the ceremony. My MIL sent two anniversary cards this last "anniversaries"..... one for each "wedding". Enough time had passed where she had forgotten she'd already sent us one on our real wedding date. It honestly irritates me that we have two.

[thetreble 19]

My husband and I were just takling about this last night.

Our legal wedding was May 29th, 2007. Our actual wedding ceremony was Sept. 14th, 2007. We celebrated the Sept. 14th one last year. But, technically, I've been married for over two years now. It's hard to keep the dates straight.

[Udella&Wiz 325]

I know what you're asking - but somehow it offends me a little. The civil ceremony is a 'real' wedding date. For some it's the one and only.

Anyhoo, I only had 1 day - I wouldn't have been bothered doing it twice, but it was a cross between civil and religious since a friend of ours is a Navy minister - very non-demonational. Made the parents happy

[SapphireDreams 71]

We will celebrate both!

So Sapphire since yours are over a year apart, 5 years from now will you say you have been married for 5 or 4 years?

We will use the first date to calculate if anyone ever asks us.

Definitely celebrate BOTH !!! Not married, yet, but one will be in Vegas (later next month), the other in Campos dos Goytacazes Brazil next Spring.

Why not? Celebrate the love and commitment for one another!!! GRIN.

Ok, let me ask this another way. When you go to get something engraved with your wedding date on it, which will you chose? I am not being picky, it's just that we will most likely do a civil ceremony followed by a formal ceremony and I was wondering which date to use for personalized things.

We are actually getting our wedding bands engraved with both dates. One date on one side, and the other date on the other side...

We are going on two honeymoons too. Why not, right?!

[scandal 951]

We will have two, but we're going to have them fall on the same date, Sept 13, one year apart.

We had our Buddhist ceremony with Thanti's family and friends in Thailand on Sept 13 2008. As far as her mom is concerned, that's the date that counts, when the monks were present and we went through the full ritual.

She's now finally here in the US on K-1 and we will have a legal wedding to comply with the K1 visa and begin her AOS process. Initially we were just going to do a quick wedding at the county clerk offices. But we've decided that we will make a bit of a to-do out of it after all. So we'll get married in Niagara Falls NY which will allow my parents in Ottawa and friends in family in Toronto and the NY/NJ and Pittsburgh areas to come. It will be just a civil ceremony, I had a big Jewish wedding for my first marriage many years ago, and have no desire to repeat that. It just turns out nicely that Sept 13 2009 is a Sunday this year (one week after Labor Day weekend, one week before Rosh Hashana) which makes it an ideal weekend to have a wedding by the Falls. Thanti won't be able to cross into Canada of course till she has her AP, but we can always go back to the Falls in the future, and see it from both sides of the border.

We had our matching rings inscribed with 09.13.2008 last year for the Buddhist ceremony, and have been wearing them since last year. I think we'll just "re-give" the rings to each other on 09.13.2009. In years to come we can celebrate Sept 13 as the double anniversary of both events.

[TheATeam 0]

We had two and we'll celebrate 2 every year. We'll definitely use the date of our civil ceremony as our legal anniversary date, cause that's when it is. If I were getting things engraved, that's the date I would use.