K1 Filipina abandoned in U.S. Any advice welcomed!

[DEDixon 39]

haha! William Savage, the OP: Joined: Today, 01:30 PM

Why is it always a newbie that post this kind of BS? Why not ever from someone with some credibility on VJ? Hmmmm, I think everyone is again running to join in the drama... people really like drama.

Funny you should mention credibility and drama. I guess one has to be a gold member like your self to have any credibility? I would say reading your last three post that has no value or credibility and is full of BS You must like drama. DRAMA QUEEN!

Name calling and threats... last resort of limited intelligence.

Have a nice day.

[sjr09 155]

haha! William Savage, the OP: Joined: Today, 01:30 PM

Why is it always a newbie that post this kind of BS? Why not ever from someone with some credibility on VJ? Hmmmm, I think everyone is again running to join in the drama... people really like drama.

Funny you should mention credibility and drama. I guess one has to be a gold member like your self to have any credibility? I would say reading your last three post that has no value or credibility and is full of BS You must like drama. DRAMA QUEEN!

Name calling and threats... last resort of limited intelligence.

Have a nice day.

Huh? threats? Whats wrong the Dr Phil show not on today Drama Queen

[sjr09 155]

haha! William Savage, the OP: Joined: Today, 01:30 PM

Why is it always a newbie that post this kind of BS? Why not ever from someone with some credibility on VJ? Hmmmm, I think everyone is again running to join in the drama... people really like drama.

Funny you should mention credibility and drama. I guess one has to be a gold member like your self to have any credibility? I would say reading your last three post that has no value or credibility and is full of BS You must like drama. DRAMA QUEEN!

Name calling and threats... last resort of limited intelligence.

Have a nice day.

Huh? threats? Whats wrong the Dr Phil show not on today Drama Queen

Drama Queen may not have been the most intelligence description, so I looked in the dictionary for a more intelligence one

drama mama

A person who is overly emotional. They disturb the peace in a group of friends by always being angry, crying, laughing hysterically at things that are only worth a chuckle and telling everyone his or her problems. This person is likely bi-polar. A single best synonym for drama mama would be "angsty one." The word angst means an intense feeling of emotional strife. A drama mama fits this profile.

[Dakine 26]

As more and more pinay in the Philippines go online. We see more and more failed relationships due to people not getting to know each other better plus American puti wanting a pretty young filipina and the pinay wanting a GC.

Best thing that happened to this pinay is she didn't marry in the RP and won't have to get an annulment in PI before she can go online and do the process all over with another guy.

[Der Bücherwurm 1]

I feel sorry for the kid. She should seek both an immigration lawyer and file for the highest possible amount of child support from the deadbeat dad.

He should also be neutered and have his passport confiscated to prevent such happenings in the future.

[DaleandPat 0]

My wife's cousin from the Philippines finally made it to the U.S. 4 weeks ago on her K1 visa with her son (biological son of the petitioner) and is in quite a dilemma. Long story short, the U.S. petitioner has run away. He left his cell phone and belongings and drove off in the night, no one knows where he is or how to contact him. He has been gone over 3 weeks now. The Filipina and child are living with his parents but what will happen next is anyone's guess. We have a strong feeling that he will not return before the 90 days is up and have been wondering what's the best advice we can give to her if that occurs. The in laws have said that they don't have the money to send her back home if he doesn't marry her. I assume at some point the government will come looking for her if she were to try and stay past the deadline.

My advice to her already has been to not go TNT and try to dodge the government, but instead contact the embassy here and let them know the situation (once it's close to the 90 day mark) so that she won't have any bad marks against her should she ever find another U.S. petitioner in the future.

I would like to hear some comments on:

1. What will happen if the petitioner doesn't come back and she tries to stay here. Also what consequences could the in-laws face by allowing her to live there.

2. What are her options for returning home. Will the US government pay her way back (and who would pay for the child who holds a US passport)? Can she get some kind of aid from the PI consulate here?

Thanks in advance for any advice. She faces a very sad situation and we are trying to support her emotionally as best we can.

I am sorry to hear this. It is possible that something has happened to him. He has walked off his job too. If he took off on his own there is not to much that can be done other than hire a private investigator. If he is the biological father he still has the responsibility of care for the child. I am sure that he will access his bank account or use a credit card if no fowl play has happened to him. The Filipina could stay here illegally and make use of a free medical clinic. I do not recommend her being here illegally, but there are many Filipinas here and they work for cash and get medical care from free clinics.

You are offering the best advice to contact the embassy. It may be good for her to contact the Philippines embassy here as well as the US embassy in Manila. I think if he does not want to marry her he has to make sure she goes back to the Philippines. The visa must have been a K3 visa to bring family members to the USA.

Ther are also Filipino-American associations around the country. Perhaps there is one near where she lives that can help in some way or give advice. Someone at work is married to a Filipino and he knows of a situations through his wife. I will ask him and get back to you.

[Krikit 1,165]

Please stop the personal attacks.

Moving this thread from the K-1 forum to the Major Changes forum.

[subguy812 1]

The child is the real victim here... I could understand how someone could "misread" a long distance relationship. I understand the USC told the parents to buy the ticket, but geesh you have to sense something was not good in the relationship before coming here. I think sometimes the hope wanting a good marriage and family may blind reality. The embassy will need to be contacted if the grandparents can't afford, or don't want to afford, the ticket home. I am so sorry to hear these situations. The water is under the bridge and clearly to figure the best recourse for all parties involved is #1 priority. Getting home...grandparents then charities then embassy.

Edited July 7, 2009 by subguy812

[Cuchita 1]

This is what also came to my mind, its very risky to get into a relationship not knowing the person. I agree with ITZALLGOOD on this:

No rational person just decides to run away while Pinay is in flight to US. THis USC is either on drugs, mentally unstable, or both. Very sad for the woman and child. What does it say for the future in marriage with the USC if he decides to wander back into town. Definitely not an auspicious sign.

[D&R 0]

.... we don't want to see her do anything illegal which would prevent her any future visas.

The chances of falling in love with another foreigner are pretty rare. Is she desperate to live in the US then? I mean.... already planning on her next Visa application? Sounds like she's just going to be out to find another American if this one doesn't work out

[DanielParul 50]

I hope she can get child support. The kid is not at fault here and will suffer the most. As for the Philipina fiancee, the best advice has already been given. Contact Catholic Charities and try to get home to get some normalcy back and don't start thinking of another visa already. The baby doesn't need to go through this.

[DEDixon 39]

haha! William Savage, the OP: Joined: Today, 01:30 PM

Why is it always a newbie that post this kind of BS? Why not ever from someone with some credibility on VJ? Hmmmm, I think everyone is again running to join in the drama... people really like drama.

Funny you should mention credibility and drama. I guess one has to be a gold member like your self to have any credibility? I would say reading your last three post that has no value or credibility and is full of BS You must like drama. DRAMA QUEEN!

Name calling and threats... last resort of limited intelligence.

Have a nice day.

Huh? threats? Whats wrong the Dr Phil show not on today Drama Queen

Drama Queen may not have been the most intelligence description, so I looked in the dictionary for a more intelligence one

drama mama

A person who is overly emotional. They disturb the peace in a group of friends by always being angry, crying, laughing hysterically at things that are only worth a chuckle and telling everyone his or her problems. This person is likely bi-polar. A single best synonym for drama mama would be "angsty one." The word angst means an intense feeling of emotional strife. A drama mama fits this profile.

Issue is that when you didn't like what someone else had to say, you resorted to name calling which is not only childish, but also speaks to limited intelligence.

I hope your wife doesn't endure the same from you.

[Krikit 1,165]

DEDixon.... you have already been warned once. Consider this your final warning. The next action will produce less pleasant results. Thank you for your cooperation.

[rebeccajo 14]

.... we don't want to see her do anything illegal which would prevent her any future visas.

The chances of falling in love with another foreigner are pretty rare. Is she desperate to live in the US then? I mean.... already planning on her next Visa application? Sounds like she's just going to be out to find another American if this one doesn't work out

Why do people think like this?

[Chica Yeyé 41]

.... we don't want to see her do anything illegal which would prevent her any future visas.

The chances of falling in love with another foreigner are pretty rare. Is she desperate to live in the US then? I mean.... already planning on her next Visa application? Sounds like she's just going to be out to find another American if this one doesn't work out

Why do people think like this?

Who says they actually think????