Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part16)

[*JG* 2]

lovesponge.. best wishes on ur marriage honey, after all the waiting.. loverboy must have laid down some real romance to make u do it 2MORO!!! im excited for u, glad it seems to be turning out good!

jg.. i kind of sensed something from some of ur FB comments, but i am not THAT nosy so i left it alone.. i am glad u are happier now.. its funny how ppl can tell when uve made a major life change just from ur demeaner or things that u do.. i was told that all the time after 02/2009 LOL.. we should have thrown a divorce party mygyal!!!

Sooooo.....the MINUTE we got back to the hotel last night, I rushed down and edited most of the pics of us. This morning, the baby managed to somehow get the memory card out of the camera and lose it!!

I would have DIED if I hadn't got most of the photos!!

Still lost some random pics and videos, but ah well.....

My husband NEVER looks at the camera if he can help it, before he met me,his last pic was probably 8-9 years ago. He let me take one or two for immigration purposes, but quickly stopped lol.....

Philly, anytime you're ready, I'm just in MD lol!!

maybe it will show up jae (crosses fingers)

I had one hell of a divorce party. Better then my birthday party will probably be!

[phillyfashionista 8]

Morning Ladies Happy Friday!

Hi Philly; how are you doing, hubby and the boys?

Mawning Lawny,

I am having PC issues this morning so I was getting kicked off the network ughhhh!!! Hubby is fine he started working today (I'm going to miss my House Husband LOL) As far as the boys it's still the same........

I was cracking up this morning when I woke up because I dreamed of you Jawi and Wakey and we were in the Home Depot . I couldn't stop laughing and Hubby was looking at me like

Ok going to try and catch up now

[*JG* 2]

Thank you for sharing JG.

Now, you know we don't always see eye to eye (probably NEVER will lol), but one thing I have ALWAYS admired about you is that you don't put up with bulls*it.....You are a strong woman, a caring woman and I know you will find a man worthy of you one day.

I agree. Couldn't imagine being in that situation. JG handled it well

Not really. I yelled and screamed and cussed and broke down more then once. But, in the end, what really is the point to doing any of that?

alright ells..i hear ya..maybe a bigger bed will help u in the mornings LOL

shemmy!!! missing u for some reason..how goes it?? damien better stop working for a second and go enjoy life!!! lol.. girl if i was down there, i would go w/ u.. u know i would be there in a heartbeat..used to rolling solo

Awww thanks. He's not working but focused on spending money for JA plus he wants to go shopping. My friends are losers...that's all.

Sometimes it's better that way. I get so tired of entertaining others. It's just easier and more fun by yourself sometimes.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

we were in Home Depot yesterday getting another machete, because my husband is so hard on them. He says the machete that they have in the states too flimsy and weak. I have one that I got in Jamica in 1992, but someone made that for me and he's not about to use that to chop down nothing. I came home yesterday and almost drove past my house, he did an excellent job.

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

we were in Home Depot yesterday getting another machete, because my husband is so hard on them. He says the machete that they have in the states too flimsy and weak. I have one that I got in Jamica in 1992, but someone made that for me and he's not about to use that to chop down nothing. I came home yesterday and almost drove past my house, he did an excellent job.

:blink:

[sus 70]

Here's the link to this Sunday www.jamaicadayreggaefestival.com.

I've never seen Yellow Man in concert but for the same price I'll rather see Beres plus it's closer to us..

Damien is crazy...pay him no mind. We sat right next to Yellow Man at a restuarant in Kingston the night before our interview. I had to keep kicking Damien under the table cuz he couldn't stop staring at the man.

Well, he's not easy to look at and he's factey (according) to some friends of mine --

sus; talking about songs remember this one

Zungguzungguguzungguzeng

Zungguzungguguzungguzeng

Seh if yuh have a paper, yuh must have a pen

and if yuh have a start, yuh must have a end

seh five plus five, it equal to ten

and if yuh have goat, yuh put dem in a pen

and if yuh have a rooster, yuh must have a hen, now.

Zungguzungguguzungguzeng

Zungguzungguguzungguzeng

Yup - or this one:

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

has anyone here put eggs in their hair

i did and that $hit had my hair feeling like coconut trash

used olive oil and castor oil with it

horrible outcome

Edited July 10, 2009 by Bunzarelli

[*JG* 2]

I think today is the day I spill my guts cause it fits this conversation. Those that already know this, thanks for listening to my vents and having such strong shoulders. Those who don't.....well, maybe this can help you one day.

Andre smoked weed in JA. Pretty regularly. He was in no way a deadbeat....he had a full-time job, took care of his family, and went out with friends. After much warning from me, and the fact that his sister had to pay the doctor to get her failed text fixed, he quit about 2 months before the medical and passed.

Fast forward to the US....it's expensive here. I'm the only one working and there are still residual LDR costs, additional ones, and the whole AOS/Green card thing going on. He bugged me enough that I gave him $40 a check to spend on it. Eventually, that wasn't enough "allowence". I started feeling like ####### by the things he was saying, so I caved. Got to $100 a check. In the drug world, that's not much. But, in the one paycheck world, it's tough. After failing a drug test for his first job interview, he eventually found a job. He started putting his own money towards his soon to be ever increasing habit. You know the drug laws here.....they can confiscate things if they so desire. I had lost so much in this LDR, I could not afford to lose anything else. I caught him lying.....smoking before work, in my car, DURING work, after work, around the clock. Wierd things started happening like major car problems only when he was driving, things missing, money missing, evidence of parties while I was at work but no one there when I got home. It turned into him working, smoking, and then falling asleep. I was alone and loney. I fought with him.....for him.....for a little over a year. We even had an incident where my cousin was mugged by someone who knew Andre's name and described me. Scary stuff.

He knew of my unhappiness with it all. He knew the consequences of getting caught. Hell, he was working up the management ladder at work. I kept warning there would be random drug tests eventually. The last straw was the day I came home to find him in the same room as my kids....him smoking and them watching a movie. I blew my top. Told him I was done. In the end, I chose not to engage in illegal activities and not to risk the lives of everyone I love and everything we have because of him. I gave him everything and he turned out not to be worthy of it. Not to even seem to care.

We began seperating the end of last year. At first it was cordial. It didn't end that way. I have not spoken to him in months. We can't even be near each other without the police involved anymore. 2 months ago, our divorce was final.

Don't mourn for me. I am fine. In fact, my friends and family will tell you I am happier today then I have been in a long time. I have moved on and life is good. I don't live every day in fear cause of his stupidity anymore. And, I'm not lonely anymore.

He lives in our old apartment and has a roughly 4 months pregnant girlfriend. I wish him the very best. I just don't want anything at all to do with him anymore. In fact, he was in the hospital for 2 weeks recently with sickle cell complications. I did not go visit him. My 17 year old (today!) son went to visit him. I told him if he was dying, call me and I would go up there. If not, sorry.

The moral of my story is if you have reservations about the drug issues now, please talk about them and work it out however it suits you. But, know your limits and think about the consequences. Drug usage in the US is a completely different thing then in JA. I don't know of a single JA man who truly understands that NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY.

JG...I know how much you've been through...I honestly wasn't trying to bring this conversation up to have you spill the beans. This is the reason I do not tolerate drug use in Jamaica either. I told A that very early in our relationship...but I tried to casually trip him up a couple of times to see if he really wasn't smoking. His eyes are just as clear as mine...so I guess I could have gone based on some other things.

I watched someone close to me be beaten over and over again for rent money...grocery money...Christmas money...so this junkie they loved could get his fix. He started casually with weed when they met too still working for UPS and MARTA and "holding it down". Then, he progressed steadily to snorting coke...freebasing coke...now he is a full blown crack head I barely recognize. The only thing I think he hasn't tried is needles...and that may be because he is a punk scaredy cat junkie. So...I don't believe any anything casual and being a grown up that can handle grown up things. I have friends that smoke weed...I've never been a follower so I don't grudge them their vices...I just go to another room or try to stay out of the vicinity of it. I just don't want my man involved in drug activity in any way shape or fashion. I've never dated a drug dealer either. I personally will end a relationship over this quicker than I would over infidelity.

Kinda of off topic...why is it a druggie can get the best jobs...they just can't manage to keep them? LOL

DWLPUMS...so what happened to the legs...knees...ankles and feet? I don't think I want to see a person with toes connected to their A$$.

Happy Nuptials tomorrow Lovesponge! I wish you pure bliss on your day.

I know, Jawi. It was just time. And, thank you for being one of those shoulders for me!!!!

I actually struggled with telling the story a few weeks ago cause I was afraid pics of me with someone else would surface on here from Dillon's wedding. In the end, Dillon assured me I was safe till I was ready.

[sus 70]

Or this

[Shemmy 4]

Thank you for sharing JG.

Now, you know we don't always see eye to eye (probably NEVER will lol), but one thing I have ALWAYS admired about you is that you don't put up with bulls*it.....You are a strong woman, a caring woman and I know you will find a man worthy of you one day.

I agree. Couldn't imagine being in that situation. JG handled it well

Not really. I yelled and screamed and cussed and broke down more then once. But, in the end, what really is the point to doing any of that?

alright ells..i hear ya..maybe a bigger bed will help u in the mornings LOL

shemmy!!! missing u for some reason..how goes it?? damien better stop working for a second and go enjoy life!!! lol.. girl if i was down there, i would go w/ u.. u know i would be there in a heartbeat..used to rolling solo

Awww thanks. He's not working but focused on spending money for JA plus he wants to go shopping. My friends are losers...that's all.

Sometimes it's better that way. I get so tired of entertaining others. It's just easier and more fun by yourself sometimes.

JG - I know it wasn't easy but you are doing well now. I would have ended up with some charges

Yeah...I gave up doing certain things with my friends...too much work.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

sus, I like some of his songs, but they make me laugh...the second video is my favorite song I laugh my a$$ off when I hear it

Bunz...a wah...no baddi nevah give you a machete as a gift?

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

lmao @ gifting a machette

what i am more interested in is how you get dat from ja to the us

but then again it was 92 so whole heapa tings ppl coulda get away with

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Shemmy, I remember when Marcel worked is first full week here he was like damn...u caan even tief a sleep. I was like hell no. Says things are a lot different here, you have someone keeping track of you...I tell him a so it go.

Tell D; tap wurk so hard. I mean how much $$$$ he trying to bring home. He knows the longer he spends in Jamaica the more money he's going to spend, especially if ya'll are partying which I can only do for so long, then all I want to do is sit on a beach or veranda with a cold drink at my side.

[*JG* 2]

On the subject of weed smoking, I have never smoked, but have no problem with a guy that does. My mother and father both smoked heavily and openly in front of us.If anything was a positive thing in that it took away any mystique smoking had.

My husband doesn't smoke, but as long as it didn't impact on us, I would have no problem with him smoking...Maybe it's how I was raised, but I really don't see the big deal....

It's not the smoking of the weed. It's the all-consuming smoking of the weed. If it takes over your life, it is then an addiction and it IS a big deal.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

lmao @ gifting a machette

what i am more interested in is how you get dat from ja to the us

but then again it was 92 so whole heapa tings ppl coulda get away with

Of course I carried it in my suitcase and it's in a wood case. It looks more like a carving and it's nice a heavy and feel nice in my hand ...the guy that made if for me told me...if a man pass im place, chap im innah two...keep chap imm til im tap move