Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part16)

[finesse 3]

well damn, did you have to highlight it? don't tell him i told you

i'm kidding.....sometimes my husband gets on this website and is like....oonuh really chat bout alla dis????

Damien told SunRay that he used to cry when he stayed home while I was at work I had no idea .

gotta love those sensitive types...

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

JG...thank you for doing this, because you did not have to. Your story definitely helps me in that it reminds me that as much as you plan for the best, and give, and love, and do all of the things that a "good woman" and "good wife" is supposed to do, it doesn't necessarily mean that your love and dedication will be reciprocated. Nothing in life is a given. That's the lesson that both of our stories tells...I'm glad that you're doing well now, and I'm glad that you did stay in a relationship that could have very well ruined your life. You have children to live for, and getting rid of man who provided such a negative example was the best thing that you could have done as a mother. Stay blessed girl! And live your life!

Very eloquent Mrs. P. I've always given you mad credit for sticking in there with the man you loved. A lot of people told me to give up on my relationship because they felt A should have been able to make a decision to put me first before his girls...I wouldn't want a man to tell me to put my kids second and I don't want to date a man that would even consider putting me before his children. So it took 5 years of LDR...as long as he was treating me right and loving me right...I would have been able to go at least another month. LOL

I'm so afraid of the depression behind not working. He keeps telling me that he can't wait until he is working. I keep telling him that he needs to understand it will not be an overnight thing. I want him to gain a trade so he doesn't have to settle on anything. However, if he is happy working at a car detailing shop or collecting garbage or whatever...I will support his efforts. I just don't look forward to those days of longing for work and him moping around the house because he can't be the man and provide. I will just have to pray through that obstacle too.

Jawi, I think that once we sat down and weighed our options, it was really a no-brainer for us. I knew his intentions in the admission--he wanted to be honest because he did not want anything to come back to catch up with him (how ironic is that)...he's big on being honest, and putting things out there---sad that sometimes the way to get what u want is to lie! Knowing his heart and the kind of person is was/is, I knew that I was going to stick with him. At the time I wasn't sure if we were going to marry right away, but I knew that we would continue to remain a couple. We weren't sure of the logistics--how it was going to work out with the distance, what we would do...we just knew that we wanted to continue to be a couple. He was more sure than I. It was the logistics that were the most difficult, but I can only say that this time has actually been an invaluable experience for the both of us. We have seen each other at our best, and we have seen each other at our worst...our very worst, and we have continued to grow in God's love. We've learned to adapt and adjust, and while it is still not perfect, we have done it. Because we love one another and believe in our love and our marriage. Despite what has happened, I thank God every day for bringing this man into my life, and I pray that he gives me a thousand more years with him!

Edited July 10, 2009 by Mrs. Palmer

[SupportOAFJF 0]

finesse..how cute is ur husband..kashi used his 1st real check and bout me a digital camera...warpped it and placed it on my pillow..so cute...

when our men get past the adjustment stage it can be so sweet..

[Shemmy 4]

Jawi, I think that once we sat down and weighed our options, it was really a no-brainer for us. I knew his intentions in the admission--he wanted to be honest because he did not want anything to come back to catch up with him (how ironic is that)...he's big on being honest, and putting things out there---sad that sometimes the way to get what u want is to lie! Knowing his heart and the kind of person is was/is, I knew that I was going to stick with him. At the time I wasn't sure if we were going to marry right away, but I knew that we would continue to remain a couple. We weren't sure of the logistics--how it was going to work out with the distance, what we would do...we just knew that we wanted to continue to be a couple. He was more sure than I. It was the logistics that were the most difficult, but I can only say that this time has actually been an invaluable experience for the both of us. We have seen each other at our best, and we have seen each other at our worst...our very worst, and we have continued to grow in God's love. We've learned to adapt and adjust, and while it is still not perfect, we have done it. Because we love one another and believe in our love and our marriage. Despite what has happened, I thank God every day for bringing this man into my life, and I pray that he gives me a thousand more years with him!

That is so sweet

Why am I still at work I am so sleepy

[PortlandAngel 0]

JG...thank you for doing this, because you did not have to. Your story definitely helps me in that it reminds me that as much as you plan for the best, and give, and love, and do all of the things that a "good woman" and "good wife" is supposed to do, it doesn't necessarily mean that your love and dedication will be reciprocated. Nothing in life is a given. That's the lesson that both of our stories tells...I'm glad that you're doing well now, and I'm glad that you did stay in a relationship that could have very well ruined your life. You have children to live for, and getting rid of man who provided such a negative example was the best thing that you could have done as a mother. Stay blessed girl! And live your life!

Very eloquent Mrs. P. I've always given you mad credit for sticking in there with the man you loved. A lot of people told me to give up on my relationship because they felt A should have been able to make a decision to put me first before his girls...I wouldn't want a man to tell me to put my kids second and I don't want to date a man that would even consider putting me before his children. So it took 5 years of LDR...as long as he was treating me right and loving me right...I would have been able to go at least another month. LOL

I'm so afraid of the depression behind not working. He keeps telling me that he can't wait until he is working. I keep telling him that he needs to understand it will not be an overnight thing. I want him to gain a trade so he doesn't have to settle on anything. However, if he is happy working at a car detailing shop or collecting garbage or whatever...I will support his efforts. I just don't look forward to those days of longing for work and him moping around the house because he can't be the man and provide. I will just have to pray through that obstacle too.

Jawi, I think that once we sat down and weighed our options, it was really a no-brainer for us. I knew his intentions in the admission--he wanted to be honest because he did not want anything to come back to catch up with him (how ironic is that)...he's big on being honest, and putting things out there---sad that sometimes the way to get what u want is to lie! Knowing his heart and the kind of person is was/is, I knew that I was going to stick with him. At the time I wasn't sure if we were going to marry right away, but I knew that we would continue to remain a couple. We weren't sure of the logistics--how it was going to work out with the distance, what we would do...we just knew that we wanted to continue to be a couple. He was more sure than I. It was the logistics that were the most difficult, but I can only say that this time has actually been an invaluable experience for the both of us. We have seen each other at our best, and we have seen each other at our worst...our very worst, and we have continued to grow in God's love. We've learned to adapt and adjust, and while it is still not perfect, we have done it. Because we love one another and believe in our love and our marriage. Despite what has happened, I thank God every day for bringing this man into my life, and I pray that he gives me a thousand more years with him!

Thats so sweeeet!!! u gonna make me cry!

[^KK^ 3]

Wow...took me all night to catch up.

Quana..ur my VJ soulmate...hahahaha...demanding American food night...hahahahaha

Lovesponge - I'm wishing you the best. Love is in the Air. Jagged Edge's song..Let's get married comes to mind.

Jomo = Strength....ur a powerful and strong WOMAN!!!

Ells - (((hugs)))

Shemmy - We might go to concert in Baltimore, July 30th.

[NatPatBen 3]

Speaking of Jagged Edge, PLEASE tell me that someone else noticed that they have two identical [sounding] songs:

Let's Get Married

Walked Outta Heaven

Sing the chorus of each one. They're the SAME just with different words.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

On the subject of weed smoking, I have never smoked, but have no problem with a guy that does. My mother and father both smoked heavily and openly in front of us.If anything was a positive thing in that it took away any mystique smoking had.

My husband doesn't smoke, but as long as it didn't impact on us, I would have no problem with him smoking...Maybe it's how I was raised, but I really don't see the big deal....

[NatPatBen 3]

JaEng, I agree that it's probably what one is used to seeing. I've never seen a single person in my family smoke (anything other than cigarettes) nor do any of my close friends smoke anything. However, I have seen my family/friends drink alcohol, so that seems very ordinary to me. I have a friend who grew up in a strict household who never saw her family members drink. Until a few years ago, she was a tad judgmental of people drinking.

I don't have an issue with people smoking; I just don't want to smell it. So I tend to remove myself from the situation if that is going on. Now if someone close to me smoked to the detriment of our finances/relationship, that would be a problem.

[My4rmylife 0]

GOOD MORNING !!!

HOPE EVERYONE HAS BEAUTIFUL AND BLESSED DAY

[sus 70]

Morning all!

I was so excited last night - They opened this new International Market in the next town from where I live - I kept seeing it advertised - Last night I went to get my nails done after work, so I popped in there - I coulda broke the bank, lol- All types of fresh fish - including snapper, butterfish, etc... jamaican pumpkin, cho cho, yams, Every Grace Product you could name, Jamaica Choice products, spices...... I was in HEAVEN!!

499?????????????????????????? girl i was watching barbados and VI on and off for mnths, could never find less than 650-700.. but its always more expensive from DFW.. ja tickets are never under $400 it seems..

Quana, you have to google "Best of Barbados" - It should be starting soon, it usually runs Sept or so through the beginning of Dec -

On the subject of weed smoking, I have never smoked, but have no problem with a guy that does. My mother and father both smoked heavily and openly in front of us.If anything was a positive thing in that it took away any mystique smoking had.

My husband doesn't smoke, but as long as it didn't impact on us, I would have no problem with him smoking...Maybe it's how I was raised, but I really don't see the big deal....

I don't have a problem with casual weed smoking - I don't think it is any worse than social drinking. I grew up watching my cousins mess up their lives with coke, etc... - to the point that one of my cousins had a baby when she was 7 months pregnant, and didn't know she was even pregnant - Another cousin was so messed up for years, that when he finally got sober, we met his 13 year old son that no one knew existed - his college GF cut him off and told him that he would never be in his child's life till he got sober (they have been married 10 years now!). DJ and I talk about this all the time, and he knows my feelings on it - If he were to get arrested for it, fail the drug test, etc... he's on his own - because that means he put it before our relationship - Which is something I will NEVER accept. This process is about sacrifices, and we all have to make them to get where we want to be -

In a situation such as Mrs.P or Yankee - I don't know how I would react - I don't think I could walk away and place the blame on him for being honest when he wasn't actually doing it.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Shrew is that you...where you been sis?

mawnin mylife

Now, where did sus go

[sus 70]

I am here - trying to catch up on all my websites, lol

[NatPatBen 3]

I just woke up 30 min early so that I can go walk a mile. It would be SOOO much easier to go back to sleep.

Good morning.

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

morning yardies

TIRED very tired!

Edited July 10, 2009 by Bunzarelli