Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part16)

[dancehallquana 5]

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LMAO - I had this happen several times with Firefox - Had to shut down, then do a control alt delete and end the process - everything I typed was backwards

I was texting last night and fell asleep. Kept getting woke up by another text coming through. This morning I looked at what I sent.....a lot of it looked like that, Sus. I giggled so hard. The last text to me was......"what the hell language are you speaking. Go to sleep."

jawi..its funny.. LOL.. i didn't miss my hubby AT ALL when i left.. i thought this was soo strange since he is the only man i had ever been w/ for all my life..is that proof that it was not meant to be?? i don't know maybe im missing a emotion gene or something

BUT i do feel embarrassed for myself and my children and like i let ppl down by not trying harder to make it work.. i am not good w/ confrontation and most of the ppl are nosy ppl from my old church that KIND OF know we are not together, they ask how im doing and steve (ex) never comes up..

i haven't told anybody at work.. finesse i am really not that chatty to coworkers and strangers. unless u were close to me and able to see my ring finger u really wouldn't have known i was married..ive told a couple of ppl that have asked.. but i just don't know how to bring up that subject to just TELL ppl..

It's nobody's business. Just say hello. If they ask how he is or where he is say we are no longer together and leave it at that. Then, introduce your SO by his first name.

People really don't need to know more then that.

right.. my thoughts exactly.. and when im w/ MY friends i do just that.. i don't say this is my friend. or anything.. just "this is roger".. BUT w/ mutual friends, something just rises in me that wants to get FAR FAR AWAY... uggh.. i am gonna work on that jg..

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

and i guess i am still HIDING my happy life in a way from my ex..tyring to be a shadow until i know he can cope w/ all this or until he moves on.. but that may be never.. GOSH u would think the divorce would have been a relief from all this guilt and fear.. NO SUCH THING..

somebody talk so i can quit spilling my guts..

Sweetie, I think your primary focus should be you...your kids and now Roger. Don't do him a disservice by hiding your happiness. He wants to know you are proud of him and your love. Forget about the comfort level of your ex. He is a grown a* man...fully capable of finding his own happiness and comfort. If he is not over you...oh well. But, you are still giving him too much power over your life.

You have nothing to feel guilty for...he ruined the marriage...you deserve to live and enjoy your new life without him in it.

yep

and i need to take some of that advice myself

[dancehallquana 5]

and i guess i am still HIDING my happy life in a way from my ex..tyring to be a shadow until i know he can cope w/ all this or until he moves on.. but that may be never.. GOSH u would think the divorce would have been a relief from all this guilt and fear.. NO SUCH THING..

somebody talk so i can quit spilling my guts..

Sweetie, I think your primary focus should be you...your kids and now Roger. Don't do him a disservice by hiding your happiness. He wants to know you are proud of him and your love. Forget about the comfort level of your ex. He is a grown a* man...fully capable of finding his own happiness and comfort. If he is not over you...oh well. But, you are still giving him too much power over your life.

You have nothing to feel guilty for...he ruined the marriage...you deserve to live and enjoy your new life without him in it.

my thought exactly

u guys are right.. i feel bad.. i wouldn't want him to make me feel that way.. i think it was SOOOO Easy becuz he would actually keep walking ahead if i saw somebody at the store.. we had never discussed my uneasiness..he just knew and maybe he is a lil uneasy too..

okay so anybody doing anything for the weekend..

dillon have u and hubby settled into the marriage routine or are u still tour director??

[jawi876 2]

and i guess i am still HIDING my happy life in a way from my ex..tyring to be a shadow until i know he can cope w/ all this or until he moves on.. but that may be never.. GOSH u would think the divorce would have been a relief from all this guilt and fear.. NO SUCH THING..

somebody talk so i can quit spilling my guts..

Sweetie, I think your primary focus should be you...your kids and now Roger. Don't do him a disservice by hiding your happiness. He wants to know you are proud of him and your love. Forget about the comfort level of your ex. He is a grown a* man...fully capable of finding his own happiness and comfort. If he is not over you...oh well. But, you are still giving him too much power over your life.

You have nothing to feel guilty for...he ruined the marriage...you deserve to live and enjoy your new life without him in it.

yep

and i need to take some of that advice myself

((((((Bunz))))))))))) yep you too. I don't know your situation...but glad I could give some useful advice. LOL

[dancehallquana 5]

yes bunz.. im glad somebody else could be helped too, cuz believe me these ladies have had to beat me over the head w/ this same stuff for mnths LOL see there is a reason i keep talking bout the same dyam issues !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[sus 70]

okay so anybody doing anything for the weekend..

dillon have u and hubby settled into the marriage routine or are u still tour director??

Yup! Going to see BERES and Culture and tryin to behave myself (or maybe not, lol)

[dancehallquana 5]

YAYYY sus.. sounds fun.. and then another concert on monday?? i like that kind of weekend.. u don't have to behave, long as u don't get into TOOOO much trouble..

[dillon 6]

and i guess i am still HIDING my happy life in a way from my ex..tyring to be a shadow until i know he can cope w/ all this or until he moves on.. but that may be never.. GOSH u would think the divorce would have been a relief from all this guilt and fear.. NO SUCH THING..

somebody talk so i can quit spilling my guts..

Sweetie, I think your primary focus should be you...your kids and now Roger. Don't do him a disservice by hiding your happiness. He wants to know you are proud of him and your love. Forget about the comfort level of your ex. He is a grown a* man...fully capable of finding his own happiness and comfort. If he is not over you...oh well. But, you are still giving him too much power over your life.

You have nothing to feel guilty for...he ruined the marriage...you deserve to live and enjoy your new life without him in it.

my thought exactly

u guys are right.. i feel bad.. i wouldn't want him to make me feel that way.. i think it was SOOOO Easy becuz he would actually keep walking ahead if i saw somebody at the store.. we had never discussed my uneasiness..he just knew and maybe he is a lil uneasy too..

okay so anybody doing anything for the weekend..

dillon have u and hubby settled into the marriage routine or are u still tour director??

We are pretty much settled in. Next is going to be the kid adjustment again. My daughter has been out in Vegas with my parents since the wedding and she should be back next week. His son is flying into NYC tomorrow and will stay with his grandmother until we go and pick him up at the end of the month. So after that the happy family bonding time will begin. It is going to be hard on my daughter for sure because she is used to being the only one. I can only pray that it will go as smoothly as possible.

[sus 70]

YAYYY sus.. sounds fun.. and then another concert on monday?? i like that kind of weekend.. u don't have to behave, long as u don't get into TOOOO much trouble..

Not another Monday, just this - But it's an all day event in Rhode Island, so it will be a late night -

[NatPatBen 3]

LMAO - I had this happen several times with Firefox - Had to shut down, then do a control alt delete and end the process - everything I typed was backwards

I use firefox and that never happened to me. I feel left out.

Bunz did you ever get on FB?

no

Why not, mystery woman?

[finesse 3]

jawi..its funny.. LOL.. i didn't miss my hubby AT ALL when i left.. i thought this was soo strange since he is the only man i had ever been w/ for all my life..is that proof that it was not meant to be?? i don't know maybe im missing a emotion gene or something

BUT i do feel embarrassed for myself and my children and like i let ppl down by not trying harder to make it work.. i am not good w/ confrontation and most of the ppl are nosy ppl from my old church that KIND OF know we are not together, they ask how im doing and steve (ex) never comes up..

i haven't told anybody at work.. finesse i am really not that chatty to coworkers and strangers. unless u were close to me and able to see my ring finger u really wouldn't have known i was married..ive told a couple of ppl that have asked.. but i just don't know how to bring up that subject to just TELL ppl..

i am not judging you. you have to tell people when u feel ready to. i just can see how roger would feel bad by you not introducing him as your man....

[sus 70]

Why not, mystery woman?

Bunz jumped outta the closet too, lol - Guess people just wanted a private secure place to do so - Nice to finally put a face to the gorgeous woman!

[dancehallquana 5]

oh i see sus.. great to not have to wake up early on Monday!!

dillon.. girl i feel for u.. i know how those lil princesses can be.. mine has an older sister, but u would nver know it the way she acts sometimes LOL..

so was ur step son w/ his mother in JA?? how old is he..

are u guys making any plans for adjusting them into schools here.. I mean u and island if she comes on soon.. just wondering what that transition may be like.. i know u are taking it one step at a time.. family adjustment first.. roger always laugh at me cuz i am talking bout step b before i get to step a.. just how i am LOL

[J2A♥oasis 2]

Just wanted to stop in and say hi. I haven’t been on in a while because of work but since my company is closing anyway I figured why not check in on VJ. Hope everything is well with everyone!

Nat - I know I missed it while I was on holiday, but congrats on the NOA2. Sorry you weren’t able to get the letter in time for the Medical. Hopefully still, you’ll be able to get an interview while you’re there. I think they have held up your file long enough so they should just express service it through.

I know I’ve missed a lot and I would like to acknowledge everyone’s special events, weddings, upcoming interviews and other significant dates, but there is no way I am going to be able to catch up on all the past post, so best wishes to all!

[dancehallquana 5]

jawi..its funny.. LOL.. i didn't miss my hubby AT ALL when i left.. i thought this was soo strange since he is the only man i had ever been w/ for all my life..is that proof that it was not meant to be?? i don't know maybe im missing a emotion gene or something

BUT i do feel embarrassed for myself and my children and like i let ppl down by not trying harder to make it work.. i am not good w/ confrontation and most of the ppl are nosy ppl from my old church that KIND OF know we are not together, they ask how im doing and steve (ex) never comes up..

i haven't told anybody at work.. finesse i am really not that chatty to coworkers and strangers. unless u were close to me and able to see my ring finger u really wouldn't have known i was married..ive told a couple of ppl that have asked.. but i just don't know how to bring up that subject to just TELL ppl..

i am not judging you. you have to tell people when u feel ready to. i just can see how roger would feel bad by you not introducing him as your man....

yeah, i know that has to hurt a lil, no matter what he tells me

hey j2.. what do u mean ur job is closing.. will u be moved to another location?