Need Some Advice...

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

I agree with Douglas, bcz i send my wife over $1500.00 or more a month to philippines. i never ask her any question what she does with money but i know she helps her family with each penny she has. I make enough so i dont mind sending her money, bcz we are family now. abby n sheryl

And your family is bigger everyday.

[maritoni 3]

....for that kind of money...I am moving to RP now ....... LOL

Just joking.....

and i can we can party everynight Bro

I agree with Douglas, bcz i send my wife over $1500.00 or more a month to philippines. i never ask her any question what she does with money but i know she helps her family with each penny she has. I make enough so i dont mind sending her money, bcz we are family now. abby n sheryl

And your family is bigger everyday.

Lakas nang hangin Marie kapit ka sa ilong ni manong Bill

[Mrs.Cage 0]

I agree with Douglas, bcz i send my wife over $1500.00 or more a month to philippines. i never ask her any question what she does with money but i know she helps her family with each penny she has. I make enough so i dont mind sending her money, bcz we are family now. abby n sheryl

you have such a big heart! and a bigger wallet

It's such a blessing that my family doesn't need any financial help, hubby won't have a problem with our side of the family, however, from his side lies the problem (he's a filipino USC), his relatives in the province seem to think he vacuums money off the carpet

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

....for that kind of money...I am moving to RP now ....... LOL

Just joking.....

and i can we can party everynight Bro

I agree with Douglas, bcz i send my wife over $1500.00 or more a month to philippines. i never ask her any question what she does with money but i know she helps her family with each penny she has. I make enough so i dont mind sending her money, bcz we are family now. abby n sheryl

And your family is bigger everyday.

Lakas nang hangin Marie kapit ka sa ilong ni manong Bill

Yeah. Nakakapit na nga ako sa waist band ng pantalon niya. Sobra lakas hangin dito eh!

[lovers0720 1]

Before I got here in the US, I knew that I'm gonna be facing this kind of issue coz both of my parents doesn't have a job but they own a small food business. Me and then-fiance talked about it and we set the rules. He first showed me how much is he spending for the bills and everything so that I'll have an idea since in the Philippines, most of us have this mentality that once you're earning dollars, we'll start to get rich So after setting rules with hubby, I talked to my parents about it and let them understand the situation. I told them that we will help them and we'll try to send money as much as we can but they also need to realize that yes we are earning dollars but we're also spending dollars so that they would know life is not as easy as what they think it is in the US.

It wasn't easy coz at first my parents misunderstood me. They thought I'm being selfish until I got here and told them about (almost) our everyday living such as the prices of the food here, the utility bills payment we had and everything like that. It helped them realized it when it took me awhile to apply for my AOS coz we still need to save $1610 (me and my son) to do so. Now they know the situation, so they don't ask me for money anymore. They just wait if we have extra money to send to them. But of course, we send money in case of emergencies.

Now, for your situation. First you need to talk to your wife and like what everyone said here, set rules with her. Give her enough responsibilities in handling the money like having her pay the bills (of course from y'alls money), do the grocery shopping or just simply setting the budget. You should both know how much you can spend for everything every month or every paycheck (ie $1000 bills, $300 grocery, $200 personal pleasure, $100 savings account). Then whatever extra you have, you can split it in half and spend it however you want. Also, ask your wife that she talked to her family and let them understand the situation coz maybe your wife is spoiling them too much. It may be hard for her but her family needs to know the reality.

In short, don't let her get out of the way coz it's your married life is at stake.

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nakakalula

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TRANSLATION...PLEASE

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

TRANSLATION...PLEASE

Nakakalula means sinking feeling, butterflies in your stomach like the floor has dropped out from underneath you, no escape, situation futile.

http://www.tagalog-dictionary.com/index.htm

Edited June 30, 2009 by Rocky_nBullwinkle

[macutelit 0]

TRANSLATION...PLEASE

Nakakalula means sinking feeling, butterflies in your stomach like the floor has dropped out from underneath you, no escape, situation futile.

[eros_EX_Plumber 0]

TRANSLATION...PLEASE

Nakakalula means sinking feeling, butterflies in your stomach like the floor has dropped out from underneath you, no escape, situation futile.

Thanks.....I had that kind of feeling when was trying to translate by myself

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[maritoni 3]

Yeah. Nakakapit na nga ako sa waist band ng pantalon niya. Sobra lakas hangin dito eh!

malaglag yan ah!!hahahahahaha

Nakakaloka talaga!!!

[sweetFM 0]

The more your wife send $$$, the more her family ask for more and there will be no stopping for it. And there are many suckers in the PI especially the neighbors and relatives who did nothing but make rumors.

Before I got here in the US, I told my mom that whatever amount I send will be it. No more, no less coz I also have to think and take care of my family here first. Good thing my mom understand it.

[maritoni 3]

TRANSLATION...PLEASE

[eros_EX_Plumber 0]

TRANSLATION...PLEASE

You are so HELPFUL

[maritoni 3]

TRANSLATION...PLEASE

You are so HELPFUL

Thought you didn't noticed