need your opinion please

[bunnyEars 0]

Good day!

i just need your input please and i want to say thank you in advance.

i am going to have my interview very soon.

i would like to ask if it will be much better if my fiance will attend on my interview.

we dont have a lot of money to spend that means money for wedding and some money that we will use for filing aos maybe suffered if he will come here in the Phils. to attend on my interview.

Heres our case...

first i worried about our age gap.. our age gap is 33 years and 9 months.

i am 24.

i am worried about the co would take that as a red flag..

then we only met once here in the Philippines. we stayed together for two weeks.

we dont have any pictures with my family.coz my family was against on our relationship before...

he got divorce twice..

the rest of the requirements are ok now.like employment letter, I-134F and all the requirements that they require

we need your opinion please.

if these things that we are worried about is not really that important.

thank you.

[MikenKyhen 0]

Hi there, Well I'm sure you are going to get a lot of differing opinions on this. It is of my opinion that under the circumstances you have layed out here, it would be a very good idea to have your fiance with you at the interview if that's an option. There are several variables you listed that could be heavily scrutinized depending on the CO and you don't want to leave them with an ounce of doubt about weather your relationship is genuine or not, not to mention the fact that you have no pictures and the relatively short time you two actually spent together. Having your Fiance there will really help legitimize your relationship in the eyes of the CO. Just my opinion. I'm sure others may disagree but why take a chance. Best of luck to you. Mike

[DEDixon 39]

What I've noticed is that when the young marries the old man, if the old man hasn't visited the Philippines much while the K-1 was in process, USEM finds a way to delay the process.

You have so many red flags, you know, logically, a lot of people think it is impossible to love a man who is 33 years older than you unless he is your grandfather so seems you have to go to the interview with your breath held.

[Old Dominion 26]

Unless he is there for the interview, given the facts you describe, there is a very good chance that the visa will not be granted, but the Consulate will return the file to the USCIS with the recommendation that the permission be revoked. Age difference, your family's attitude (you will be asked that) and his prior marriages -- mixed with how little you have been together -- are all warnings to the CO that suggest it's all about getting a green card. I speak from exerience, by the way, with friends of mine.

[bunnyEars 0]

just to give more info.

we met through my job ( call center company) last october 2007

he visited here in the Philippines last sept.2008

we have pictures together..but we dont have pictures with my family.coz dont they agree with that before..

[DEDixon 39]

What is so special about a guy you've barely spent any time with and is 33 years older than you? Honestly, it seems you just want to get out of the RP and might sound the same to the CO.

Why hasn't he come to see you more (CO might ask)?

[gennyangel 3]

hello

Do you have all the documents prepared like the proof of genuine relationship? You have to show and prove that to the CO,also considering all the questions posted above by other poster for you to contemplate about to get ready for any possible questions pertaining to your worries....

To give you a lil confident,i am a K1, My fiance visited me once that was last year for only 6 days. But the CO didnt asked for why once and only a short time visit.Both the prescreener and the CO asked how many days we spent together and when is the visit,how long we have known each other. Its a case to case. Although we dont have a big age difference.

Ive seen some K1 with big age difference that passed the interview. Just make all your documents ready and yourself as well. You dont need your fiance to push and come here in the Phil,you can do it yourself with flying colors. Bring home the pink slip.

Goodluck!

[MikeMc 38]

Good day!

i just need your input please and i want to say thank you in advance.

i am going to have my interview very soon.

i would like to ask if it will be much better if my fiance will attend on my interview.

we dont have a lot of money to spend that means money for wedding and some money that we will use for filing aos maybe suffered if he will come here in the Phils. to attend on my interview.

Heres our case...

first i worried about our age gap.. our age gap is 33 years and 9 months.

i am 24.

i am worried about the co would take that as a red flag..

then we only met once here in the Philippines. we stayed together for two weeks.

we dont have any pictures with my family.coz my family was against on our relationship before...

he got divorce twice..

the rest of the requirements are ok now.like employment letter, I-134F and all the requirements that they require

we need your opinion please.

if these things that we are worried about is not really that important.

thank you.

Have your documents all good to go, be able to answer this question:

Why would you choose to marry so much older/younger than you?

Also if your family is ok with it now, then I would bring along a signed and notarized letter with their consent (it is not really needed, but will help you answer the questions about how your family feels about your SO with out putting you in a position to have to explain the lack of pictures).

I don't think he would need to come if you are organized and ready to answer any question they can throw at you.

[bunnyEars 0]

What is so special about a guy you've barely spent any time with and is 33 years older than you? Honestly, it seems you just want to get out of the RP and might sound the same to the CO.

Why hasn't he come to see you more (CO might ask)?

He is one of those few people that is so special. we talk to each other more than 4 hours everyday.just like how other people love to spend

time with their partners all the time

and i know its going to be hard for other people to understand whats so special about him,especially those people who dont know him personally...

and yes i am ready if the Co will asked me why i love him. and thank you for reminding me to prepare to this kind of question.

"Honestly, it seems you just want to get out of the RP and might sound the same to the CO. "

I'm hoping that Co will not think that. and that my educational attainment and the nature of my job will also help us to prove to them that our relationship is real

i never asked any money from him because i can support myself...

thank you also for reminding me to prepare to this possible impression from CO.

[bunnyEars 0]

hello

Do you have all the documents prepared like the proof of genuine relationship? You have to show and prove that to the CO,also considering all the questions posted above by other poster for you to contemplate about to get ready for any possible questions pertaining to your worries....

To give you a lil confident,i am a K1, My fiance visited me once that was last year for only 6 days. But the CO didnt asked for why once and only a short time visit.Both the prescreener and the CO asked how many days we spent together and when is the visit,how long we have known each other. Its a case to case. Although we dont have a big age difference.

Ive seen some K1 with big age difference that passed the interview. Just make all your documents ready and yourself as well. You dont need your fiance to push and come here in the Phil,you can do it yourself with flying colors. Bring home the pink slip.

Goodluck!

thank you for letting us know that there are some partner with big age diffirence who passed the interview.

were glad to know that were not the first partner who has this kind of case.

[DEDixon 39]

What is so special about a guy you've barely spent any time with and is 33 years older than you? Honestly, it seems you just want to get out of the RP and might sound the same to the CO.

Why hasn't he come to see you more (CO might ask)?

He is one of those few people that is so special. we talk to each other more than 4 hours everyday.just like how other people love to spend

time with their partners all the time

and i know its going to be hard for other people to understand whats so special about him,especially those people who dont know him personally...

and yes i am ready if the Co will asked me why i love him. and thank you for reminding me to prepare to this kind of question.

"Honestly, it seems you just want to get out of the RP and might sound the same to the CO. "

I'm hoping that Co will not think that. and that my educational attainment and the nature of my job will also help us to prove to them that our relationship is real

i never asked any money from him because i can support myself...

thank you also for reminding me to prepare to this possible impression from CO.

CO might ask if you ever loved a Filipino man 30 years older than you, if yes, better if he is poor rather than rich (rich would look bad). If you have any proof of a relationship with a poor man who is much much older than you and lives in the RP, you should probably bring pictures of that loving relationship so the CO can see that you like old men no matter if they live in the USA or the RP.

Also, if your old man in the USA hasn't visited you a lot in the RP, it might be wise to get him to get his doctor to verify his good health because CO might think he is importing a nurse. Not that you are a nurse, but rather you are someone that can help him around the house and so you'll be somewhat of a slave to him until you get your 10 year green card. We outlawed slavery a long time ago so they are a bit weary of it these days in the USA.

Good luck!!!!! I hope you know what you are getting into. The USA is a great place, lots of opportunity, but it isn't a picnic, life for the unprepared isn't easy. If you are educated and can support yourself, one only wonders why anyone (not only you) would hook up with an old man, leave family, friends and everything you know for a strange strange land. It just isn't something people do when they live in places such as England, Germany, France, USA and more.

Also, talking on the internet is no substitute for living together so get ready for a potential shocker after arriving in this great land of opportunity, divorce, single-mothers, half brother and sisters, step sisters and brothers and step grandparents, and the shameless... welcome to the new world, it is a great place to be without family and friends.