Very Frustrated and annoyed at my friend who cheated

[Chica Yeyé 41]

you owe me Sir... yes u do.

[deidre 13]

hi folks..just found out that my friend cheated by not doing K-1, and instead married his fiancee/gf of 2 YEARS while she was here on a Tourist Visa, and now they are happily living together without ever having been caught!!!

He should have gone through K-1 and waited like the REST OF US......

My question is can I do anything to rat him out (I dont care about friendship anymore--we were never really that close anyway)....

It just boils my blood knowing his story and how he got away with it!!!

VG1 - you too could have done the same thing instead of waiting.... Dont hate the player, hate the game :-) cheer up. Plus, now that he is legally married, there is no way to "rat him out". Plus, what kind of friend are you to tell on him? Just be concerned about yourself darling. Thats all you need to worry about.

[NArocks 13]

Lol the " human being" wasn't really meant as an insult....its sort of a catch phrase i often use jokingly...get a life

I have a life thank you very much and I am verry happy in it

However you meant it and placed it here again is still uncalled for

[JimVaPhuong 4,864]

Okay Jim, I'm going to just agree to disagree. But for argument's sake, even if you are correct (which I don't concede at all) that it's actually illegal to use the 90 days (or presumably an portion thereof) to make sure this is really what a couple wants to do with the rest of their life...who cares? Is it really that much skin off your back? If this really were a crime, it would be a crime akin to jay-walking with no traffic in sight. It's harmless.

Nah, I'm not saying it's illegal. They'd have to read your mind in order to enforce it. I just don't want people to have the impression that the K1 is a "taster's slice" of marriage (to use the pie analogy ). When people say "sure, you can use the K1 like that" I have to respond "yes, you can but you're not supposed to".

And you are correct that I'm very early in the process, but I've spent a considerable amount of time studying the process and learning about it (and I've been schooled a few times on this forum myself), and that education started months before I felt confident enough to file my own petition. Much of what I've learned has been the result of researching questions of other people, but the knowledge has helped me as well.

Anyway, moving on...

[Usui Takumi 1,562]

Meh, think what you want. I realize tone doesn't come across in text. I tell my wife she sucks as a human being all the time. I tell my cat the same thing...somehow she doesn't really care. Maybe because she's a cat and naturally sucks as a human being no question about it.

[Usui Takumi 1,562]

okay seriously your censoring "you suck as a human being" ??

[Chica Yeyé 41]

[Usui Takumi 1,562]

I know I know i'm heading to my spaceship now

Edited June 25, 2009 by lancer1655

[NArocks 13]

No like a hoover ask the hubby

[Kathryn41 3,205]

Personal insults are personal insults even if you think they are 'funny'. They are still a violation of TOS and not allowed.

[Usui Takumi 1,562]

You obviously put too much value behind being a good human being, I personally would prefer to suck as one myself, so then of course you'd have to define to what level you must suck before it becomes an insult. I'd say my bar is very low hence alot of suckage must occur before i'm insulting someone. Just suck it up!

Edited June 25, 2009 by lancer1655

[Krikit 1,166]

The hidden post was directed at a specific person and crossed the line for the upper forums. It was absolutely a good decision on Kathryn's part to remove it.

Now back to topic.

[Bobby+Umit 161]

Well - one solution to this "fiancee" problem would be to implement some sort of "mail-order" system.

Try it out for 90 days, and if you don't like it, return it for a full refund...

[Usui Takumi 1,562]

The hidden post was directed at a specific person and crossed the line for the upper forums. It was absolutely a good decision on Kathryn's part to remove it.

Now back to topic.

I think I've outlined that it was joke. My point is this, if your going to openly censor someone's comments without bothering to actually check on the situation then things will get worse. I've basically hijacked this thread because I wasn't particularly happy with her decision. Is that right or wrong? I don't bloody care. Had she been a little less heavy handed the last page of comments wouldn't even be here.

I think "sucking as a human being" is vague and benign enough that its not insulting. Have I ever directly insulted anyone on this forum before? No.

[Nessa 23]

Well - one solution to this "fiancee" problem would be to implement some sort of "mail-order" system.

Try it out for 90 days, and if you don't like it, return it for a full refund...

I tried that. The problem was that they didn't poke holes in the box. It was...messy.