Any tips on how to manage anger against your husband?

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

I recommend three books:

1. Power of the Praying Wife

2. Love and Respect

3. The Love Dare

Try the Love Dare. =)

The Love Dare personally leads you through daily devotionals, records your thoughts and experiences, and ends each day daring you to perform a simple act of love for your spouse. This 40-Day journey equips you to melt hardened, separated hearts into an enduring love that can withstand the flames of fear, pride and temptation. The Love Dare book will help you reinforce and enrich your marriage, earn back a love you thought was lost, and hear more about the One who not only designed unconditional, sacrificial love—He illustrated it.

In a world that attacks, devalues, and redefines relationships every day, learn how to rescue and protect your marriage from the firestorm. Take The Love Dare and FIREPROOF your relationship.

FABULOUS!!!!!

Well we argue, but its mainly me, sporting a fight as my husband says. There has been times I have not called him just to keep me from picking a fight, this process is very over whelming, but I do manage to text him a I Love You everyday, rather Im Super Witch or myself which lately Im both, LOL . I thank God he understands me and my moods. I also tend to type out my anger on computer notebook, its better to do that and delete it then send in email to hubby, it does help with the frustration. A punching bag also does wonders.!!! Most important thing in this process, that is is not your fault or your loves fault, hang in there, you will get thru this soon. God Bless.

I don't argue. I just lock him in a closet until he begs for forgiveness. There.

Len, I like that, thanks for the tip!!!!!

[chinese_mutt 11]

Whenever my husband and I fight, when we're around physically anyway, I tend to kiss him on the cheek, then leave the room. Then he comes in about 10 minutes later, with the saddest look on his face, and then he tells me, that he's sorry LOL

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Nice moves... hahhaaha you're sneaky that way huh!!!!!

[Giskat09 2]

It depends... but I'm stubborn at times and mostly my husband is the one who says sorry.. If he can't control me, thats the time that he will start praying out loud and asking GOD to touch my heart and forgive me.... (i feel like an evil! lol)

There was a time I was really moody that almost everyday I make small things so big deal for me.. what my husband did, he was just calm and trying to talk to me in a nice way but if i push his button - that's the time he will yell at me and i will start to cry... while crying, he will say sorry and explain again the whole situation.. then we're ok na.. I will ask forgiveness and we're going to pray after that stupid argument

[NickD 203]

What really makes me angry is when a person that gets angry starts throwing things causing major damage to the home I worked my can off to buy. My ex wife was that way, and a good reason why she is my ex wife. New wife for six years now from a USCIS controlled foreign country is an angel, we can peacefully sit down and discuss our differences. Even kiss and kiss and kiss and make up.

Does your spouse argue with everyone? Or just you?

[chinese_mutt 11]

It depends... but I'm stubborn at times and mostly my husband is the one who says sorry.. If he can't control me, thats the time that he will start praying out loud and asking GOD to touch my heart and forgive me.... (i feel like an evil! lol)

seriously, that made me laugh out loud!! thank you.. you made my day.

[anitacastillo 0]

Something we started doing is to have weekly "check-in". We spend a little or a lot of time talking about things that may have come up during the week. My husband is not a big talker - but this designated time is good for us to communicate.

I have also made an effort to let the small stuff go. "be like a duck and let me roll off"

[Chris Me lil D 17]

And learn to communicate...

In a world that attacks, devalues, and redefines relationships every day, learn how to rescue and protect your marriage from the firestorm. Take The Love Dare and FIREPROOF your relationship.

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Or just, talk it out. Or lock him in a closet. Whenever my husband and I fight, when we're around physically anyway, I tend to kiss him on the cheek, then leave the room. Then he comes in about 10 minutes later, with the saddest look on his face, and then he tells me, that he's sorry LOL

I recommend three books:

1. Power of the Praying Wife

2. Love and Respect

3. The Love Dare

Come on, girls!!!

Do you really think that a certain book can save your marriage? It's so true that men are sooooo much different from women. We have a Bulgarian saying that states that wherever there are two people, there will always be two different opinions and that one man’s meat is another’s poison. People only have to learn to talk and share with each other, and be also friends, not just lovers. It's natural that spouses will disagree on taking decisions about something but they have to learn to take turns. And most important, not trying to change the other person. When you married them, you took them for what they are and you accepted them with their goods and bads, right? Learn the other person's traditions, way of thinking in their country, culture, etc. Two people can not make their personalities to work out much less two different cultures! So learn to live with the person you chose! There are no perfect people at all! Good luck to everyone here in their marriage (L)

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

And learn to communicate...

In a world that attacks, devalues, and redefines relationships every day, learn how to rescue and protect your marriage from the firestorm. Take The Love Dare and FIREPROOF your relationship.

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Or just, talk it out. Or lock him in a closet. Whenever my husband and I fight, when we're around physically anyway, I tend to kiss him on the cheek, then leave the room. Then he comes in about 10 minutes later, with the saddest look on his face, and then he tells me, that he's sorry LOL

I recommend three books:

1. Power of the Praying Wife

2. Love and Respect

3. The Love Dare

Come on, girls!!!

Do you really think that a certain book can save your marriage? It's so true that men are sooooo much different from women. We have a Bulgarian saying that states that wherever there are two people, there will always be two different opinions and that one man’s meat is another’s poison. People only have to learn to talk and share with each other, and be also friends, not just lovers. It's natural that spouses will disagree on taking decisions about something but they have to learn to take turns. And most important, not trying to change the other person. When you married them, you took them for what they are and you accepted them with their goods and bads, right? Learn the other person's traditions, way of thinking in their country, culture, etc. Two people can not make their personalities to work out much less two different cultures! So learn to live with the person you chose! There are no perfect people at all! Good luck to everyone here in their marriage (L)

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. And if the book dont work, throw it at him.

Edited June 23, 2009 by Paris Heart

[AbbynSheryl 0]

hey very easy to stop argue

JUST DONT USE THE WORD 'YOU"

START THE CONVERSATION WITH 'I'

here is the example

if u tell him u lie u to me he will defend himself and argue no i did not....

if u tell him i heard something it may not be true but i want ur opinion and he will answer u nicely

and please do something everyday to make him feel special bcz he is ur husband

Me and my wife dont have time to think about argue, we are so busy to make each other special

we talk atleast 6-8 hours a day and i spend 2 months with her in philippines with her in last 8 months and love each second of it.

good luck

abby

[WhidbeyGirl 1]

And learn to communicate...

In a world that attacks, devalues, and redefines relationships every day, learn how to rescue and protect your marriage from the firestorm. Take The Love Dare and FIREPROOF your relationship.

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Or just, talk it out. Or lock him in a closet. Whenever my husband and I fight, when we're around physically anyway, I tend to kiss him on the cheek, then leave the room. Then he comes in about 10 minutes later, with the saddest look on his face, and then he tells me, that he's sorry LOL

I recommend three books:

1. Power of the Praying Wife

2. Love and Respect

3. The Love Dare

Come on, girls!!!

Do you really think that a certain book can save your marriage? It's so true that men are sooooo much different from women. We have a Bulgarian saying that states that wherever there are two people, there will always be two different opinions and that one man’s meat is another’s poison. People only have to learn to talk and share with each other, and be also friends, not just lovers. It's natural that spouses will disagree on taking decisions about something but they have to learn to take turns. And most important, not trying to change the other person. When you married them, you took them for what they are and you accepted them with their goods and bads, right? Learn the other person's traditions, way of thinking in their country, culture, etc. Two people can not make their personalities to work out much less two different cultures! So learn to live with the person you chose! There are no perfect people at all! Good luck to everyone here in their marriage (L)

ABSOLUTELY Ani!!!!!!!!!!!

The Power of the Praying Wife restored my 2nd marriage. Had he not committed a horrendous crime several years later we still would be together.

I have gone through The Love Dare twice already and my SO and I just got married in November. It's more for a preventative tool for this time around.

I've done a seminar on Love & Respect and when SO gets here plan to go to yearly conferences with him that use this book as starting point.

Since I'm married to an African man I have also been reading up on African/American relationships:

1. How to Love the African Male

2. Peculiar Conflicts

3. Home Improvement - this one is good for ALL couples too but does have specific Nigerian references.

[Nik+Heather 121]

The best thing I read about "little" but usually frequent arguments that come up in marriage, especially new marriages is that there are three ways to do EVERYTHING, including how to slice cucumbers (the most notable "little" argument in my experience).

There is her way. (completely peeled - skin is too bitter!, thick sliced)

There is his way. (skin left on - you should eat the vitamins!, thin slices)

There is OUR way. (half peeled - removed some bitter taste, but still some vitamins, two thicknesses)

Especially for foreign couples, it is important to realize that all three ways can be acceptable, understand why each of you does as you do, maybe you'll learn something new, and determine how you will meet the next discrepancy. Remember, you don't have to do things just because you have always done them that way in your parents' house. Do things your (plural) way in your (plural) new house with your new spouse.

For me, I sometimes get annoyed at one thing, and then I'm completely hopeless for several minutes - every little thing just increases my annoyance. When I feel this happening, I just tell him that I need a minute to step back until I have that feeling under control so I can think more clearly. He didn't like this at first, but I think it's finally coming across that just because I walk out of the room doesn't mean I'm walking out of his life.

[MikenKyhen 0]

How do you guys cope up with arguments esp when its almost everyday?

we don't argue....my husband always has the last word in our relationship. I say "Jump" and he says "How high?"

-P

So he gets the last word but you where the pants in the family?

[faryan 4]

He didn't like this at first, but I think it's finally coming across that just because I walk out of the room doesn't mean I'm walking out of his life.

[John&Juvy 36]

Learn the "Give and Take" advice the we always heard LOL. Take a deep breath before to react with the situation or of what he telling you. Then try also to be more mature than your age. Dont make excuse for your self that his/her older than you so they the one who should always give . Hhmmm what else... Oh "acceptance", Try to accept things that he like to do sometimes as long it cant affect in your relationship and didnt forget what his most priority in life and that would be .................. lol. I've just learned that week ago .

[champi 13]

It depends... but I'm stubborn at times and mostly my husband is the one who says sorry.. If he can't control me, thats the time that he will start praying out loud and asking GOD to touch my heart and forgive me.... (i feel like an evil! lol)

There was a time I was really moody that almost everyday I make small things so big deal for me.. what my husband did, he was just calm and trying to talk to me in a nice way but if i push his button - that's the time he will yell at me and i will start to cry... while crying, he will say sorry and explain again the whole situation.. then we're ok na.. I will ask forgiveness and we're going to pray after that stupid argument

Wow Jiskat, I pretty much share the exact flow... I am usually the one who gets mad easily (probably because he was sloppy/careless with what I asked him to do or did not do at all)... I yell, he stays quiet, listens, and then tells me to repeat "I am cool" 5 times in funny ways... That really works if I know I am about to get angry... but if I am already mad, God bless him! I am usually less mad at him, mostly just venting my frustration about other things/people and get overexcited (he thinks I am mad)...