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Movin on New Life   3

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anyone out there tonite???

I am so very desperate to talk to someone...

my world is falling apart and I cant talk to my friends or family and just can't take the pain, I want it to stop hurting so much but too scared to call the suicide prevention line.

I know I sound stupid but the pain is so unbearable and I just cant take it anymore! by the grace of god I thought perhaps here tonite because these are the ONLY people who really know and could understand what I am going thru.

please anyone!!!

09/2005 submitted I130, 08/09/2006 completed medical,case left NVC to Montreal Embassy July 7, 2006
06/07/2006 NVC CASE COMPLETE! (278 days from I130 submitted to NVC case complete)
August 2006 Interview at Montreal Embassy, need to submit I601 & I212 waiver.July 2007 submitted waivers to Montreal Embassy who forwarded to Vermont Service Center
October 2007 rec'd receipt and notification or waiver processing from VSC, April 2008 rec'd RFE for I601 July 2008 submitted RFE, and rec'd receipt, advised written decision within 60 days
October 24, 2008 sent written request for case status to VSC, May 2009 after written request for status update recd letter "being processed"
July2009 requested Senator inquiry again.. response "with officer, required extra processing" if no response check back 6 months!
Dec 09 requested senator inquiry again, Jan 8 2010 requested more than "general inquiry" senator Jan 11, 2010 Senator requested supervisor
Jan 12, VSC told senator's office we wld recd notice in mail 7 - 10 days Jan 20, 2010 I601 DENIED.... letter dated Jan 14, 2010
April 2010, granted 290b approval to send to Appeal for review

October 2011 Appeal denied due to fraud, now dumped by husband, now with Canadian Arabic woman from Tunisa for Canada residence.. processing Immigration with her now

thru Canada

July2013 He ws deported back to Egypt almost a year ago due to out of status for almost 2 years

movin on to a new life
Felicia

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Please try to remember that there is NEVER anything worth ending your life over. Think of your spouse and what it would do to him/her.

It's tough to go through immigration and to have setbacks and to wait. Is there no one near you that you can speak with? It sounds like you really might want to consult a professional.

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100% Al Ahly Fan   53

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Please try to remember that there is NEVER anything worth ending your life over. Think of your spouse and what it would do to him/her.

It's tough to go through immigration and to have setbacks and to wait. Is there no one near you that you can speak with? It sounds like you really might want to consult a professional.

(F)

Jundp, is absolutely right. Ending your life will solve nothing. If you need to talk, please PM me. I will listen. Please talk to a family member or a friend. Please just talk and get this out. Good luck and take care.

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Please remember, even if its really hard for you right now, your life is a lot more important than anything else, think of your loved ones. I'm really sorry that you have to go thru the pain you feel right now, but please... throw that "SUICIDE" thing away out of your head.....

I hope you will find someone close to you to talk about it, to make you feel little better.

Oct 2005 - met my baby

Dec 2006 - he proposed

Feb 2007 - K-1 filed

Dec 2007 - K-1 Visa Interview (denied), the reason: i was overstayed my previous visit in 2000-2003 (my bad)

Feb 2008 - I-601 Waiver filed

Sept 2008 - Waiver approved (K-1 Visa issued)

Jan 2009 - the Wedding Blessing & Reception (Bali, Indonesia)

Feb 2009 - Arrived in the US followed by the Civil Wedding & Reception (again:)

March 2009 - AOS filed

April 2009 - Biometric

May 2009 - EAD card in hand

Aug 27th 2009 - AOS Interview (approved, yaay)

Sept 2009- Green Card arrived in the mail...yippeeeew...(i want to sing of Your Love forever)

June 2011 - ROC filed

July 2011 - Biometric

Dec 2011 - ROC approved (Best Christmas ever, i must've been a really good girl this year :)

The wait would be unbearable but it'll be worth it. It strengthens the love, it attaches you even more to each other, it shows how your man would do whatever it takes to be with you, that he will never give up on you because he LOVES you!! All the waits, stresses, tears, heartaches, all the miserable feelings you feel along the way will be paid off once you get what you've been hoping for...oh and WITHOUT PRAYERS? will be like trying to start a fire with water, JUST WON'T WORK!

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I'm not a very emotional person, but I still have problems and worries that take over my thoughts. I try to find something to completely pour myself into. This helps me get my mind off of things.

If I was in your situation, and I felt as desperate as you say that you feel, I think I would devote my full attention into finding a way to get to Egypt and be with your husband for a while. :blush:

12/15/2009 - K1 Visa Interview - APPROVED!

12/29/2009 - Married in Oakland, CA!

08/18/2010 - AOS Interview - APPROVED!

05/01/2013 - Removal of Conditions - APPROVED!

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anyone out there tonite???

I am so very desperate to talk to someone...

my world is falling apart and I cant talk to my friends or family and just can't take the pain, I want it to stop hurting so much but too scared to call the suicide prevention line.

I know I sound stupid but the pain is so unbearable and I just cant take it anymore! by the grace of god I thought perhaps here tonite because these are the ONLY people who really know and could understand what I am going thru.

please anyone!!!

in d book of psalms,u know wots written there?even our hairs were numbered by God.and also in d book of psalms,it says there how God made plans for us even before we were conceived..u see?that's how He is so interested in u...and when u find urself in a situation that u can no longer go anywhere?then look up to God.He is so interested in u and cares for u so deeply.hey i dnt wana sound so spiritual and scary but i just want to remind u that He cares,He's more than willing to listen.do me a favor that u open a ur bible or just google it ,,psalms91

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I'm sorry you are feeling so shitty. And this process is very lonely - you don't want to always complain to your spouse and your family/friends don't understand.

It looks like from your ticker today is an anniversary. Don't think about missing these days together -- think about all the days you can have together in the future.

Do you journal your thoughts & emotions? Getting it out on paper helps me.

One foot in front of the other.....

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we are going through the same thing.. a little ways behind you I think.. just found out we are getting the I-601 waiver too.. and you can tell from my story and signature how many problems we have been having.. :crying: :crying:

I-130 STAGE 1 : 533 days - 1 year 6 months (4/16/2007 to 9/22/2008)

Priority Date I-130 : 4/16/2007 ( 533 days , APPROVED 9/22/2008)
Transferred to local office based on "security checks" : 11/27/2007
wrote hundreds of letters - received letter from FBI Records Management Chief stating no security checks
local office interview : 2/21/2008 - brought my parents too (result : you will get approval within 2-3 weeks)
5/2/2008 - (lawsuit) Writ of Mandamus - OFFICIAL DATE (7/29/2008)
9/22/2008 - CALL AND EMAIL COPY OF APPROVAL NOTICE FROM LAWYER

NVC STAGE 2 : 99 days - 3 months (9/30/2008 to 1/7/2009)
NVC Received : 9/30/2008
Received Packet 3 (I-864/DS-230) : 11/10/2008
NVC says "RFE sent out 12/9/08 for missing documents" : 12/10/2008
CASE COMPLETE - 1/7/2009

CONSULATE STAGE 3 : 96 days - 3 months (1/8/2009 to 4/14/2009)
CLEARED CUSTOMS - 3/10/2009
**APPOINTMENT DATE : 4/14/2009, 7:15AM**
** BLUE SLIP **

AP STAGE 4 : 97 days - 3 months (4/14/2009 to 7/20/2009)
DOS call to receive I-601 (Waiver of Grounds for Inadmissibility - basically denial) from Guangzhou : 6/24/2009

REMOVAL OF I-601 due to my letters to the USCIS Director, Michael Aytes: 6/29/2009
CALL-IN LETTER NOTIFIED : 7/8/2009
CALL-IN LETTER (APPROVAL)!! : 7/16/2009
ALL DONE!! (got both GREEN CARD & SSN CARD) : 10/1/2009

"http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/194075-feel-like-a-cr-1-csc-castaway/page-60" (pages 53-63) for more updates and letter I wrote to Director Michael Aytes and his replies and back and forth..

HER PARENTS - 10 months so far

I-130 Sent In : 1/7/2013

I-130 Approval : 3/28/2013

Transfer to NVC : 6/12/2013

Case Complete : 8/25/2013

"Ready for Interview" (Ready to wait for 1-3 Months, this is official NVC letter transfer date) : 9/9/2013

DHL Tracking : arrived 9/24/2013

P4 Letter : 11/21/2013

Interview Date : 12/9/2013, originally 12/3, stupid lawyer filled out her dad's passport number wrong..

Interview Passed : 12/9/2013

Visa "Issued" on CEAC : 12/10/2013

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I'm so sorry you are hurting!! ugh...i can feel your pain in your words! i'm so sorry. you do NOT sound stupid, u sound like u are in a lot of pain! you just have to hold on. things always get better! I'm so sorry, please pm me any time u want to talk! (L)(F)

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jere. 29:11

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Hey take it easy I know its hard but giving up and letting go is really just going to let the ones making the decision justify their reasonings that much more. Who knows what they would say if they found out one of the spouses in the relationship went suicidal then they really will be like, 'wow saved us from a crazy?" Please don't give up, add me on here and we can talk.

Suicide is the wrong answer period.

James y Adriana

CR-1 Visa

Service Center: California Service Center

Consulate: Bogota, Colombia

Event Date

Marriage: 2009-04-30

I-130 Sent: 2009-05-14

I-130 Approved: 2009-08-25

NVC Received: 2009-09-09

Interview Date: 2009-11-19

Visa Received: 2009-11-25

US Entry Target Date: 2010-01-08

S. Korea La Vida Loca: 2010-04-07

Returned to USA: 2011-04-06

Removal of Conditions: 2012-01-08

I-751 Biometrics: 2012-03-02

I-751 Approved: 2012-09-07

N400 Sent: 2012-10-10

Biometrics: 2012-11-02

Interview: 2013-01-09

Oath: 2013-02-22

Citizenship: 2013-02-22

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JeremyandEvelyn   0

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many people who love someone and want to be with them don't understand how bad it hurts to be far from their loved one. Many of us here at VJ feel that pain much much worse. It is almost unbearable to believe that it could be so dificult to have a happy life with someone from another country. To have to wait months and months for a government to say it's okay for you to be together is quite a rough thing to endure. I'm many of us have felt like you do. But we all realize that suicide isn't a solution to anything. Humans can take a lot of hardship and still bounce back. It's very true that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. You WILL feel better. And someday you will be able to help someone get through tough times just by saying "I know how you feel". Love is worth waiting for. life is a journey and we need great failures in order to really enjoy the successes. take care. we're all hoping and waiting. we all need to talk and be heard. so thanks for helping us. :)

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at least you have your husband/wife to talk to.. even in the saddest times (like right now for us), I can still always talk to her.. anytime, anywhere, we will always be together.. :star: :star: haha, at least your 1st approval was WAY faster than ours.. congrats on that!! I know only the end result counts.. but 4 months for an approval is awesome!! I would trade anything for that.. Also, how come it took you 1 whole year to submit the waivers? I thought it would be really fast to fill out and submit..

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I-130 STAGE 1 : 533 days - 1 year 6 months (4/16/2007 to 9/22/2008)

Priority Date I-130 : 4/16/2007 ( 533 days , APPROVED 9/22/2008)
Transferred to local office based on "security checks" : 11/27/2007
wrote hundreds of letters - received letter from FBI Records Management Chief stating no security checks
local office interview : 2/21/2008 - brought my parents too (result : you will get approval within 2-3 weeks)
5/2/2008 - (lawsuit) Writ of Mandamus - OFFICIAL DATE (7/29/2008)
9/22/2008 - CALL AND EMAIL COPY OF APPROVAL NOTICE FROM LAWYER

NVC STAGE 2 : 99 days - 3 months (9/30/2008 to 1/7/2009)
NVC Received : 9/30/2008
Received Packet 3 (I-864/DS-230) : 11/10/2008
NVC says "RFE sent out 12/9/08 for missing documents" : 12/10/2008
CASE COMPLETE - 1/7/2009

CONSULATE STAGE 3 : 96 days - 3 months (1/8/2009 to 4/14/2009)
CLEARED CUSTOMS - 3/10/2009
**APPOINTMENT DATE : 4/14/2009, 7:15AM**
** BLUE SLIP **

AP STAGE 4 : 97 days - 3 months (4/14/2009 to 7/20/2009)
DOS call to receive I-601 (Waiver of Grounds for Inadmissibility - basically denial) from Guangzhou : 6/24/2009

REMOVAL OF I-601 due to my letters to the USCIS Director, Michael Aytes: 6/29/2009
CALL-IN LETTER NOTIFIED : 7/8/2009
CALL-IN LETTER (APPROVAL)!! : 7/16/2009
ALL DONE!! (got both GREEN CARD & SSN CARD) : 10/1/2009

"http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/194075-feel-like-a-cr-1-csc-castaway/page-60" (pages 53-63) for more updates and letter I wrote to Director Michael Aytes and his replies and back and forth..

HER PARENTS - 10 months so far

I-130 Sent In : 1/7/2013

I-130 Approval : 3/28/2013

Transfer to NVC : 6/12/2013

Case Complete : 8/25/2013

"Ready for Interview" (Ready to wait for 1-3 Months, this is official NVC letter transfer date) : 9/9/2013

DHL Tracking : arrived 9/24/2013

P4 Letter : 11/21/2013

Interview Date : 12/9/2013, originally 12/3, stupid lawyer filled out her dad's passport number wrong..

Interview Passed : 12/9/2013

Visa "Issued" on CEAC : 12/10/2013

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It seems my knowledge here didn't help me succeed, but I have helped many others on Visajourney.. I hope that you will do the same.. try to do more research on your current situation.. I am reading up on I-601s right now.. I have even done a lawsuit before (writ of mandamus) and local office interview too.. I have done some prep work on that too.. at least try and help others.. some good will come of it..

I-130 STAGE 1 : 533 days - 1 year 6 months (4/16/2007 to 9/22/2008)

Priority Date I-130 : 4/16/2007 ( 533 days , APPROVED 9/22/2008)
Transferred to local office based on "security checks" : 11/27/2007
wrote hundreds of letters - received letter from FBI Records Management Chief stating no security checks
local office interview : 2/21/2008 - brought my parents too (result : you will get approval within 2-3 weeks)
5/2/2008 - (lawsuit) Writ of Mandamus - OFFICIAL DATE (7/29/2008)
9/22/2008 - CALL AND EMAIL COPY OF APPROVAL NOTICE FROM LAWYER

NVC STAGE 2 : 99 days - 3 months (9/30/2008 to 1/7/2009)
NVC Received : 9/30/2008
Received Packet 3 (I-864/DS-230) : 11/10/2008
NVC says "RFE sent out 12/9/08 for missing documents" : 12/10/2008
CASE COMPLETE - 1/7/2009

CONSULATE STAGE 3 : 96 days - 3 months (1/8/2009 to 4/14/2009)
CLEARED CUSTOMS - 3/10/2009
**APPOINTMENT DATE : 4/14/2009, 7:15AM**
** BLUE SLIP **

AP STAGE 4 : 97 days - 3 months (4/14/2009 to 7/20/2009)
DOS call to receive I-601 (Waiver of Grounds for Inadmissibility - basically denial) from Guangzhou : 6/24/2009

REMOVAL OF I-601 due to my letters to the USCIS Director, Michael Aytes: 6/29/2009
CALL-IN LETTER NOTIFIED : 7/8/2009
CALL-IN LETTER (APPROVAL)!! : 7/16/2009
ALL DONE!! (got both GREEN CARD & SSN CARD) : 10/1/2009

"http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/194075-feel-like-a-cr-1-csc-castaway/page-60" (pages 53-63) for more updates and letter I wrote to Director Michael Aytes and his replies and back and forth..

HER PARENTS - 10 months so far

I-130 Sent In : 1/7/2013

I-130 Approval : 3/28/2013

Transfer to NVC : 6/12/2013

Case Complete : 8/25/2013

"Ready for Interview" (Ready to wait for 1-3 Months, this is official NVC letter transfer date) : 9/9/2013

DHL Tracking : arrived 9/24/2013

P4 Letter : 11/21/2013

Interview Date : 12/9/2013, originally 12/3, stupid lawyer filled out her dad's passport number wrong..

Interview Passed : 12/9/2013

Visa "Issued" on CEAC : 12/10/2013

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