Lacking evidence

[huckleberry 1]

hello everyone, new member here. I hope anyone can share some insights with regards to my concern about my documents for removing conditions. I am actually in the '90 day' period now before GC expires. My husband isn't concerned at all which makes me worried. He drew up a prenup and we dont have any papers showing joint properties or co-mingled assets, except the joint income tax return. We don't have joint account, I have no right to survivorship, no cards or bills with both our names on them. What are my chances? what other helpful documents may I submit? I don't know what to do with my husband. When I asked him if I am in his life insurance, which I know may help in this process, he said he doesn't know if I am in or not. He said I am only after of money. He's not cooperating.. See it is sensitive issue for him, money. If he had known these co-mingling is required for removal, I doubt if he would have taken care of the papers even just for this process. I don't have much time left. Please help..

[Carlawarla 1]

hello everyone, new member here. I hope anyone can share some insights with regards to my concern about my documents for removing conditions. I am actually in the '90 day' period now before GC expires. My husband isn't concerned at all which makes me worried. He drew up a prenup and we dont have any papers showing joint properties or co-mingled assets, except the joint income tax return. We don't have joint account, I have no right to survivorship, no cards or bills with both our names on them. What are my chances? what other helpful documents may I submit? I don't know what to do with my husband. When I asked him if I am in his life insurance, which I know may help in this process, he said he doesn't know if I am in or not. He said I am only after of money. He's not cooperating.. See it is sensitive issue for him, money. If he had known these co-mingling is required for removal, I doubt if he would have taken care of the papers even just for this process. I don't have much time left. Please help..

If you're within 90 days of your GC expiring, you need to get busy in getting your paperwork together. Start the application now, and ask for his assistance in getting your "evidence" together. Are you on his health insurance? Having a pre-nup doesn't preclude the fact you need health insurance while you're here. Having your name on utility bills either.

Seems he IS rather touchy about money, and you say he's not cooperating. If he has even said to you that you're after his money, then I would suggest you two need to talk about this, either by yourselves, or a marriage counsellor.

Not having co-mingling of anything is very distrubing. The whole point of this part of the process is to prove that you're a "couple", and have co-mingled something! What about affadavits that you're supposed to get? Download the forms, the instructions, and after supper tonight talk to him about your having to have proof now to send in with this form.

I think things are coming to a head, and either you're going to get them straightened out, one way or another.

I'm sorry to hear you're in this predicament.

[huckleberry 1]

Thanks Carla. While he was at work I gathered the documents ahead, like the mails showing same address and few holiday cards addressed to us. I sent him then link to this site's removal guide when I had plenty of time but he was ignoring it I had to send it several times. Yes I am in the health insurance, forgot to mention it, but the card does not have my name on it so I asked him if he could get a statement from his company that I am beneficiary. He said he will try after 'forcing' him to get it. It is really unfortunate for me. All bills are in his name only. We live in the place where we almost dont have neighbors and we dont have 'friends/witness of the relationship' except his family. He said he'll have his mom and dad do the affidavit, I know it is aukward, but I think it is better than nothing, isnt it? He is making it difficult for me. He even told me today to just submit the forms, dont have to send evidence.

[Darcy 0]

Hi, I'm sorry to hear that. You can put his name in your bank account and call your utilities companies to put your name in the bills.

Hope these ideas are all right, good luck

[scooby06 0]

Hello,

Sounds to me your husband is very controlling and self absorbed. Do you have friends and co workers that know you both since you are married. They can write Affidavit stating you are living together and are a couple. How about your car Insurance is it in both of your name. Make copies of your Driver licenc and his showing same address. If you have any Car titles in both of your name that will help as well. I send in also letters in either of our name that we received from SSC, doctors, medical and work that show we both live at the same address. Find pictures with both of you on them. You definitely need to get the form going and sent with some evidence. If they want more proof they will send you a REF. Just gather what you have now and sent it. When you get your NOA you will have a 1 year extension on your GC. After that, gather more evidence in case of a REF. Hope this will help.

[mozplay 29]

What Scooby said is important. You need to send some evidence in with your app. before your 90-day window is up. Then, IF they send you a RFE, you will have had time, between now and then to compile more evidence.

Don't just leave this in his hands. Start to create evidence of your own that you can use later down the road.

As for all the other emotional stuff - well, I'm not going to lecture or counsel you, but you have some thinking to do.

Mo

[huckleberry 1]

That's what I am thinking Scooby and mo. I will just submit everything I can get and if/until they send RFE, maybe I would have enough to cover by then. I just have learner's permit until now but I copied mine and his already. He sold 'my' car while I was in vacation and he doesnt want me to work either, he said I'll just run away, so maybe that's why he is not helping me to get driver's license, no neighbor to drive with here. Thank you for the ideas. Actually he is the beneficiary of my small bank account, I could ask the bank for statement. I am not his beneficiary in his bank account, he said he'll not change it. I am pretty expecting an RFE so I can take Darcy's advice on utilities bills, I think he will agree.

[NArocks 13]

Pardon the OT but is this guy keeping you as a prisoner? Can't work? No DL? #######. Get what you can and send it in, please also take a look at this situation you are in. You live in the land of freedom and should have this. I wish you the best

That's what I am thinking Scooby and mo. I will just submit everything I can get and if/until they send RFE, maybe I would have enough to cover by then. I just have learner's permit until now but I copied mine and his already. He sold 'my' car while I was in vacation and he doesnt want me to work either, he said I'll just run away, so maybe that's why he is not helping me to get driver's license, no neighbor to drive with here. Thank you for the ideas. Actually he is the beneficiary of my small bank account, I could ask the bank for statement. I am not his beneficiary in his bank account, he said he'll not change it. I am pretty expecting an RFE so I can take Darcy's advice on utilities bills, I think he will agree.

[AngelSaint 0]

Base on the informations I have read above, it seems that your husband don't fully understand about marriage. If he wants to keep your marriage then he should cooperate with you. It appears that he doesn't care if you will be deported to the Philippines. He is a complete jerk, I should say! Im sorry to hear about your situation but I hope you guyz could talk about this and/or talk with your counselor. It's very unfair in your part. You might want to talk to his family about your problem. They might can help you. Hope you'll be alright.

[reeses16 8]

You can show that you are on his health insurance plan if you have a copy of your explanation of benefits (EOB). It will show your hubby as the "subscriber" and you will be listed as "patient".

Your situation is a bit difficult, but you have cards addressed to the both of you health insurance, you probably have photos. I think in your case you would need to get an affadavit from people who know about your marriage. Its listed as a type of evidence in the Removal of Condition Guides, some people choose to send others don't (because they have lots of other types of evidence). I think it could help you in this instance.

Edited June 17, 2009 by reeses16

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

hello everyone, new member here. I hope anyone can share some insights with regards to my concern about my documents for removing conditions. I am actually in the '90 day' period now before GC expires. My husband isn't concerned at all which makes me worried. He drew up a prenup and we dont have any papers showing joint properties or co-mingled assets, except the joint income tax return. We don't have joint account, I have no right to survivorship, no cards or bills with both our names on them. What are my chances? what other helpful documents may I submit? I don't know what to do with my husband. When I asked him if I am in his life insurance, which I know may help in this process, he said he doesn't know if I am in or not. He said I am only after of money. He's not cooperating.. See it is sensitive issue for him, money. If he had known these co-mingling is required for removal, I doubt if he would have taken care of the papers even just for this process. I don't have much time left. Please help..

The only real requirement is that you live together and have a legitimate marriage. You can document that in many ways. I am not at that point yet but even now I gather evidence. School enrollment records for our children listing both of us as parents. Correspondence from the school addressed to us as parents. My wife has her own cell phone account but the billing address is the same as mine. She IS on my life and health insurance and we do have a joint account and joint tax returns. Her drivers license has the same address as mine. Car insurance and car titles/registration are joint.

Your husband needs to make this a priority.

Your husband is an @ss. Sorry you are in this situation. Most of us consider our wives a top priority.

hello everyone, new member here. I hope anyone can share some insights with regards to my concern about my documents for removing conditions. I am actually in the '90 day' period now before GC expires. My husband isn't concerned at all which makes me worried. He drew up a prenup and we dont have any papers showing joint properties or co-mingled assets, except the joint income tax return. We don't have joint account, I have no right to survivorship, no cards or bills with both our names on them. What are my chances? what other helpful documents may I submit? I don't know what to do with my husband. When I asked him if I am in his life insurance, which I know may help in this process, he said he doesn't know if I am in or not. He said I am only after of money. He's not cooperating.. See it is sensitive issue for him, money. If he had known these co-mingling is required for removal, I doubt if he would have taken care of the papers even just for this process. I don't have much time left. Please help..

The only real requirement is that you live together and have a legitimate marriage. You can document that in many ways. I am not at that point yet but even now I gather evidence. School enrollment records for our children listing both of us as parents. Correspondence from the school addressed to us as parents. My wife has her own cell phone account but the billing address is the same as mine. She IS on my life and health insurance and we do have a joint account and joint tax returns. Her drivers license has the same address as mine. Car insurance and car titles/registration are joint.

Your husband needs to make this a priority.

Your husband is an @ss. Sorry you are in this situation. Most of us consider our wives a top priority.

[Bobby+Umit 161]

I was going to post exactly what Gary just posted.

Good info there

[Ladylethal 12]

Ditto, Gary is right thinking there.

[Immigrant2009 0]

Hi huckleberry,

Sorry to hear about your situation. Just hang in there and try the best you can to collect the documents for I-751 to proof a co-mingled marriage. Sad but true, USCIS only cares what you show them on papers and don't care much what goes on in your life. A lot of folks have given you very good advice to collect different kinds of evidence.

Hope things turn out to fine for you.

Good Luck.

[huckleberry 1]

Thank you all so much for the amazing support and advices, I am somehow relieved now.

Since I have limited evidence, I thought I'd rather copy each page of the 3 year ITR. Is it practical or I dont really need to do it?

After a lot of cursing over the high filing fee, 'rich' husband said he's not going to write a check. I have to pay it myself from my savings He said I just mail it through USPS, do you recommend it, or which courrier should I use? If I could also mail myself so I can hold those documents without getting lost or astray etc. I still have more than two months left but each day is crucial. I am just waiting now for the health insurance thing and his parents' affidavit