Cancel I-129F

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

hey i am sorry to hear that but remember u can not file again for 2 years bcz the immigration only allows one visa in 2 years period.

Sorry, but this is not true. If you file again before the two year period, you only need to submit a letter requesting a waiver; read in the IMBRA forum on VJ for more info.

DJ;

As Brad said, Russian and former Soviet Union women expect a man to show strength. This is not to imply you beat women or drink heavily; it implies you can make a solid decision, plan a future for your family, support yourself and your family, protect your wife, etc. She has spent little real time with you and can only really judge you via skype, email, etc. Be strong, be confident, PM me if you wish. You have a strong family here in VJ, especially in the Russian Forum.

I urge you not to withdraw now; give it some time and really learn her feelings and your feelings.

Both you and Brad are spot on. FSU women definitely want a MAN, a "rock" who makes decisions and relieves them of things they would rather not deal with. A good man is strong in character and spirit. but quiet and gentle to his wife. Plus, you have to be a really good lover!

[james&adry 3]

I told myself i will give it a week. I told her that i would call on saturday. If she still has the same attitude on Saturday, then i will begin to withdraw the petition. I understand she can be emotional and it it difficult but to say many not nice things to a man whom you are suppose to love? then it can't be true love.. can it? to call someone weak and because he is not a drunken #### from the mother country who likes to beat their woman or have many girl friends, then i guess i am weak. I always did everything i could for her. Never said anything harsh and if telling someone you love them.. then again i am weak..

I won't do anything for one week

Dan

Are you sure there is nothing you can do to work things out? Sometimes woman can be quite emotional ,especially, away from loved ones. Its difficult enough for a Long Distance relationship... and on top of that more stress that comes along with this VISA issue.

I think there are many moments that my fiance and i were frustrated with our situation, especially with our busy work schedule. We tried so hard to see eachother at least every 2 months. Which we did for the first year. We are thankful that our k1 Visa process went along so smoothly, so he's able to join me in July. But trust me... when she's upset, she might say hurtful things.

I say, give it some time and see if its going to work out?

Ah man this is really a sad cornerstone that I am sure you can get through. I think the frustration of the LDR in itself is the biggest reason why sometimes stuff like this happens. I am not an expert of the matter but I do think what you said about women liking strong men is just barely scratching the surface. You have to keep the spark going that makes relationships so much fun.

A man who is strong makes a women feel comfortable but teases her sometimes just to challenge her, makes things interesting and rewarding, making decisions about the future and standing by them, having an active life, being apart of something constructive, and showing that you care and mean it are great ways for a man to be a man. The showing that you care has to be infrequent in a way that you can still surprise her and mean it. Anyway give it some time and maybe start doing somethings in life that will make you happy. And when your happy this will make you glow and when she sees this via your program for communication preference then she will be amazed.

James

[SuperDuper! 230]

hey i am sorry to hear that but remember u can not file again for 2 years bcz the immigration only allows one visa in 2 years period.

take a little time more to think what to do bcz sometime in a rush u make decision which maybe regretful,,

best wishes

abby n sheryl

Wow, so YOU are re-writing the US immigration laws?? You sure are powerful....

[johncali9 6]

Hey.

Sorry to hear that,By the way .You're canceling the petition and must to 'withdrawing' it.ASAP no need her any more ,no phone ,we have pround American men

Do not need women like that, sorry men ,go vietnam get nice and polite one Hope god's bless you are in and your family as well

I am very sory about that sadddddddddddddddddd

[Danu 19]

I wouldn't call it quits yet, talk to her first. This process is very hard and everyone reacts differently. Some women get angry, some get really sad. We are emotional being and if you end it now you are just proving you aren't strong enough for her. Its a hard process to deal with and she needs someone to lean on, now is the time to show her you can be that rock that she needs. Speaking as one of the ones who cries a lot, its really nice to have someone there for me, holding me up, telling we will make it. He is the only reason I can continue on this path, because he is there for me no matter if I'm angry and say something stupid, or if I'm sitting on Skype crying all night. We don't think rationally when we are upset and all of us can say things we really don't mean, or she may mean them but not in the way they came out.

I think what you need to determine is why she is calling you weak. If it is something easily changed, like listening to her and giving her the support she needs, then I dont see an issue. I sincerly doubt she expects you to become a drunken woman abuser to prove you are strong.

Edited June 9, 2009 by Danu

[SuperDuper! 230]

hey i am sorry to hear that but remember u can not file again for 2 years bcz the immigration only allows one visa in 2 years period.

Sorry, but this is not true. If you file again before the two year period, you only need to submit a letter requesting a waiver; read in the IMBRA forum on VJ for more info.

DJ;

As Brad said, Russian and former Soviet Union women expect a man to show strength. This is not to imply you beat women or drink heavily; it implies you can make a solid decision, plan a future for your family, support yourself and your family, protect your wife, etc. She has spent little real time with you and can only really judge you via skype, email, etc. Be strong, be confident, PM me if you wish. You have a strong family here in VJ, especially in the Russian Forum.

I urge you not to withdraw now; give it some time and really learn her feelings and your feelings.

Both you and Brad are spot on. FSU women definitely want a MAN, a "rock" who makes decisions and relieves them of things they would rather not deal with. A good man is strong in character and spirit. but quiet and gentle to his wife. Plus, you have to be a really good lover!

So you have these same requirements and pressures on your husband and agree with them?

[DaleandPat 0]

Greetings;

We'll after 8 months I think Alina and I have come to an end. I guess she feels that I am not "strong" enough for her. We communicated for months via Skype Video and everything was going ok, then yestarday she "went off" on my telling me that i am not strong, a whinny guy, i told her i loved her too much and so on. Lastly i was to see her in July and her comment was "if you do not listen to me do not come to me in july" So, am i wrong for canceling this? is her heart not in the right place..?? i do not think so.. With that said, what format? i understand it needs to be notarized and sent to same address as i sent the petition. Correct? Finally,, can i file again at a later date without a waiver... I write this with a heavy heart.... Dan from seattle..

Dan,

Being apart and waiting is very stressful. If you are feeling she is not the love of your life, and if that is what you want; the love of your life, well... . You might want to consider if she is showing you disrespect and trying to control you in some way. As a wife she is to be a help mate. I can understand a woman under stress can say things they do not mean. That is rough, but only you can decide what is right. There is nothing wrong with a waiting peroid. Good luck.

If this does not work out you may want to meet an Asian woman. They are taught to respect the husband and take care of the family, but also expect the husband to be kind and loving plus help to care for the family. Only you can decide what is right for you.

[leapoffaith 0]

Hmmm "if you don't listen to me don't come" means to you "I wanna break up with you"?. Don't do things you will regret.

Good luck,

You have been v forthcoming in what you wrote about your fiancee. Pull the strings now else when she comes she will want to

have all things her way. That is what it seems from the above statement. Its impossible to live with a beautiful but "demanding" person.

The withdrawal of petition is easy.

I am Asian but my wife is white and she was v demanding. I had a hard time but now she is trying to mend her ways.

So, I am telling you by my personal experience.

Edited June 9, 2009 by leapoffaith

[Aniomaman 0]

The OP doesn't honestly sound like he can handle an Eastern European woman, I work with a couple of them here in the UK and they can be nice BUT don't mess with them. My fiancee and myself are both from the same African country and we have our pretty rough times but that's what makes us stronger and we later joke about it, after settling the issues by dialogue. The decision is yours and like some people have suggested, check to see if you can really handle this and why she thinks you are weak? Saying 'I love you' all the time starts getting boring at a stage,

maybe you can stop saying it ever so frequently and just have a conversation...maybe at the end of your discussions when you are about to say goodbye, not just after every other sentence. Maybe she needs some space, do you call her too often and say yes to every request? Well take time out to go through the whole relationship and am sure you'll figure it out.

This goes beyond love or being brought up to respect your husband. If you honestly can't handle an Ukranian woman at this stage of your relationship, I doubt you can do it when you are married. Be careful and do not make any costly mistakes. All the best.

[D&R 0]

Greetings;

We'll after 8 months I think Alina and I have come to an end. I guess she feels that I am not "strong" enough for her. We communicated for months via Skype Video and everything was going ok, then yestarday she "went off" on my telling me that i am not strong, a whinny guy, i told her i loved her too much and so on. Lastly i was to see her in July and her comment was "if you do not listen to me do not come to me in july" So, am i wrong for canceling this? is her heart not in the right place..?? i do not think so.. With that said, what format? i understand it needs to be notarized and sent to same address as i sent the petition. Correct? Finally,, can i file again at a later date without a waiver... I write this with a heavy heart.... Dan from seattle..

I hate to sound harsh or judgmental, but you wanted peoples opinions so I'll give mine. I'd suggest that if you're asking random strangers online how you should conduct your relationship then perhaps marriage/moving countries isn't the best thing to be thinking about right now. As I said... I mean this to come across as harsh on uncaring, but if you're ready to withdraw your application in 1 week after a little argument with your girlfriend then perhaps you need to reconsider your situation. Good luck!!

[100% Al Ahly Fan 53]

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. Although, I think giving it a little time will help. Perhaps more then a week is needed. A week just doesn't seem long enough. I really hope everything works out for the best. Take care.

[Ellie-and-David 38]

Dan.

I have told my fiance that I hate him. That he is a bonehead. That I am not moving to America. That he wasn't welcome to come and visit me. That I didn't want to ever...EVER...EVER EVER!! talk to him again.

Then please add to the above list any other insult I could throw at him.

It's a two way street. He only gives slightly less than what he gets from me.

You know, it's hard. Giving up your family, seeing your loved one rarely, having to conduct a relationship over the internet. Then add to this the stresses and strains of daily life. What do you get?

A real relationship.

Give her some time, maybe the "sensitive" side that she was talking about is one that is quickly reacting to her blowing off some steam. I dont know what your relationship is like generally speaking. But what I do know is that if Dave and I had called off this petition every single time we argued.....well....I wouldn't be going to my interview on Friday.

Best of luck to you

Ellie

[baron555 934]

Greetings;

We'll after 8 months I think Alina and I have come to an end. I guess she feels that I am not "strong" enough for her. We communicated for months via Skype Video and everything was going ok, then yestarday she "went off" on my telling me that i am not strong, a whinny guy, i told her i loved her too much and so on. Lastly i was to see her in July and her comment was "if you do not listen to me do not come to me in july" So, am i wrong for canceling this? is her heart not in the right place..?? i do not think so.. With that said, what format? i understand it needs to be notarized and sent to same address as i sent the petition. Correct? Finally,, can i file again at a later date without a waiver... I write this with a heavy heart.... Dan from seattle..

So why are you not strong? Why are you whinny?

Why do you not listen to her? What was she telling you?

Why are you so quick to end the relationship?

Why are you even thinking about another petition? This one is not over yet?

Answer these questions to yourself. Maybe there is no problem with your relationship. Maybe you are not strong and are whinny and do not listen to your woman. If so make sure you post these details in your next profile so you don't have to go through this again. If you love her too much then you will do everything you can to save the relationship. Change your ways and go there in July and show her the man you really are.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

hey i am sorry to hear that but remember u can not file again for 2 years bcz the immigration only allows one visa in 2 years period.

Sorry, but this is not true. If you file again before the two year period, you only need to submit a letter requesting a waiver; read in the IMBRA forum on VJ for more info.

DJ;

As Brad said, Russian and former Soviet Union women expect a man to show strength. This is not to imply you beat women or drink heavily; it implies you can make a solid decision, plan a future for your family, support yourself and your family, protect your wife, etc. She has spent little real time with you and can only really judge you via skype, email, etc. Be strong, be confident, PM me if you wish. You have a strong family here in VJ, especially in the Russian Forum.

I urge you not to withdraw now; give it some time and really learn her feelings and your feelings.

Both you and Brad are spot on. FSU women definitely want a MAN, a "rock" who makes decisions and relieves them of things they would rather not deal with. A good man is strong in character and spirit. but quiet and gentle to his wife. Plus, you have to be a really good lover!

So you have these same requirements and pressures on your husband and agree with them?

Ummmm, I AM the husband. Yes I agree with them. And I AM a really good lover. I think it is perfectly wonderful being married to a woman that expects to be and act a woman and for me to be and act a man.

[Brad and Vika 129]

hey i am sorry to hear that but remember u can not file again for 2 years bcz the immigration only allows one visa in 2 years period.

Sorry, but this is not true. If you file again before the two year period, you only need to submit a letter requesting a waiver; read in the IMBRA forum on VJ for more info.

DJ;

As Brad said, Russian and former Soviet Union women expect a man to show strength. This is not to imply you beat women or drink heavily; it implies you can make a solid decision, plan a future for your family, support yourself and your family, protect your wife, etc. She has spent little real time with you and can only really judge you via skype, email, etc. Be strong, be confident, PM me if you wish. You have a strong family here in VJ, especially in the Russian Forum.

I urge you not to withdraw now; give it some time and really learn her feelings and your feelings.

Both you and Brad are spot on. FSU women definitely want a MAN, a "rock" who makes decisions and relieves them of things they would rather not deal with. A good man is strong in character and spirit. but quiet and gentle to his wife. Plus, you have to be a really good lover!

So you have these same requirements and pressures on your husband and agree with them?

What?