It just ain't the same anymore...

[Sister Fracas 5]

I like sunshine, rainbows, lollipops, and cotton wool...

anyone have a kitten piccie... can't be arsed to get one for y'all...

AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

[Euro 3]

here ya go, kitties ..........I have NO idea how ya put a big pic up, so gotta settle for bloody thumbs

Edited July 3, 2006 by euro

[Sister Fracas 5]

here ya go, kitties ..........I have NO idea how ya put a big pic up, so gotta settle for bloody thumbs

Thanks Euro...the first one always does it for me!!

Kumbayah....

[CarolineM 0]

Just to be clear. The WHOLE reason I psted the thread I did was because she said "A long term member was leaving" ... and no one seemed to know to whom whe was referring. I had found that soccer thread where LenJay said he was leaving and thought that was the one. I had no idea about Michelle...haven't seen that one anywhere.

I am sorry if I made it look like anyone left because of soccer but SHEESH ya'll...settle down already. She leaving, it's done, she'll be back I'm sure...they always are.

This whole attention ####### thing is making me nuts! It's just the internet people...I never meant to imply she was leaving over soccer.

sorry for the confusion.

[babybunny 2]

Dunno what to say really...because many of you newbies just won't get it....but it ain't the same around here no more and the way you all choose to go at each other or others at the slightest provocation is the reason VJ is slipping.

So like another very longstanding VJ'er who has left here today...it's time for me to also say 'Adios'.

To my friends, who know who they are....I wish you the best of everything and if you want to stay in touch PM me. I am going to set up a site for a select few who know how to truly care, advise and support each other. On that site members will be invited, so I guess if you don't get an invite you know your past actions here were not always appreciated!

To the rest of you....shame on you for turning this site into something many of us no longer want to be a part of....great job guys!

You know, it's one thing to decide to leave and quite another to point fingers and lay blame. I've been on this site for awhile as well as many other message boards and the story is oddly enough the same.

Message boards are what you make of them and if your/our/my expectations are unrealistic, especially regarding the behavior of others, then chances are at some time this kind of post is made. No one can *make* someone else do something. It's ultimately your/our/my choice on how we deal. It's not "their" fault or the "newbies" fault that you are now uncomfortable. If it bothers you so much, then stay and work to make it better.

However, all that being said, you've made your decision, and I wish you well in your life and endeavors and if you ever end up back here, I'm sure many, myself included, will be happy about it.

Peace out.

[Fuzzness 2]

oh the drama i can't handle it no more

[Sister Fracas 5]

Just to be clear. The WHOLE reason I psted the thread I did was because she said "A long term member was leaving" ... and no one seemed to know to whom whe was referring. I had found that soccer thread where LenJay said he was leaving and thought that was the one. I had no idea about Michelle...haven't seen that one anywhere.

I am sorry if I made it look like anyone left because of soccer but SHEESH ya'll...settle down already. She leaving, it's done, she'll be back I'm sure...they always are.

This whole attention ####### thing is making me nuts! It's just the internet people...I never meant to imply she was leaving over soccer.

sorry for the confusion.

I'm not sure anyone REALLY believed anyone left over soccer...

[babybunny 2]

It's quite unfortunate that drama instigated your departure yet you are unable to leave without creating much of the same. If it is indeed true what you post and you are leaving, I'm sure we will soon see that your account and the "long standing member's" account are disabled. Sad to see that you've tried to take the easy way out by posting at almost 11p CST; drop a bomb and then exit stage left.

Announcing invites to your new website is like rubbing a puppy's nose in his wet spot. A woman of your years should be well above that and make a graceful exit. That being said, I'm sure your new environment will be more well suited to your liking because you can control the members.

It's unfortunate to see that a long standing member only feels validated in leaving when another enables them and posts a cryptic farewell thread as well. It's also sad that a farewell thread gets reported, as if the drama of just leaving wasn't enough. How can one discern it was reported? Captain Ewok never posts on threads unless they are brought to his attention.

I wish Sukie175 and her new club well on their venture. I'm sure their site will be filled with meaningless posts where no one gets real for fear of hurting someone's fragile ego with the truth. Cheers.

new club???

alot of members formed new and exclusive clubs beyond VJ.

[CarolineM 0]

Can we form a "staying on at VJ club?" I mean everyone needs to feel wanted

[Artegal 1]

I would never join a club that was exclusive. That's why I would never found a club either--as none would join and therefore I would be breaking my first rule about not joining an exclusive club.

[cheeky^Wolf 0]

Am I the only one who links leaving a forum/chat room with idle (and i mean idle) suicide threats..

I'M GONNA DO IT!!! I'M GONNA DO IT!!!!

If you're gonna do it, do it. If you're serious about doing it, you wouldn't still be posting AFTER saying you were leaving.

You obviously knew the ripples you would cause by posting your "final" post. Well done, you accomplished what you set out to do.

It's always sad when people leave a forum. This isn't real life, there's a lil X top right to prove it.

[Welshcookie 17]

I would never join a club that was exclusive. That's why I would never found a club either--as none would join and therefore I would be breaking my first rule about not joining an exclusive club.

yeh..I was well pissed when we were Prague and a club wouldn't let me in...it was exclusive to men apparently...lucky my man left with me

[babybunny 2]

Hope gimy doesn't mind.

me?? mind?? don't be silly!!!

as for the other pink elephant we can't talk about ... we CAN talk about this one!! it's not the soccer thread per se that has caused sarah to leave ... it was lisa's response to michelle in said thread that compounded her decision. once again, michelle perceived that she was being attacked. i think lisa's post was spot on and not confrontational at all given michelle's previous response when they tried to have a 'private' discussion. ah well ....

now personally, i think sarah is one cool chick and have enjoyed her lively posts ... but i would never be someone's enabler because they could not stand up for themselves. everyone is michelle's friend until they actually try and help her ... then you might as well #### off because you're not commiserating with her. i'm sorry, i can't do that.

i don't think a whole drama thread was warranted in this situation ... you could have easily answered the few pm's you would have gotten ... it's probably safe to say that those you are close to here would actually already know.

as for michelle's departure, it's a shame because i was really looking forward to seeing the pictures of her and craig from her meetup with amanda(AmeraMouttaki) which was scheduled for tonight ... seems more like a planned exit to me.

dayum .. michelle is leaving, sukie is leaving .. what the hell! - oops thats cussing.

dayum what is going on? how come everyone wanna leave me?

Edited July 3, 2006 by shonjaved

[CarolineM 0]

Cheeky_wolf...brilliant! That's why I was saying it's attention whorish...it's done so that people can sit here and talk about it for 9 pages...and to beg "Please don't..please don't"...

Exactly. If you're going...just go, and don't let the door hit you on the way out. Harsh? maybe...but it's an internet forum, people, let's not lose sight of the main thing here.

[cheeky^Wolf 0]

Cheeky_wolf...brilliant! That's why I was saying it's attention whorish...it's done so that people can sit here and talk about it for 9 pages...and to beg "Please don't..please don't"...

Exactly. If you're going...just go, and don't let the door hit you on the way out. Harsh? maybe...but it's an internet forum, people, let's not lose sight of the main thing here.

Cry me a river, build a bridge n get the fukk over it... that's my motto lol