temporary restraining order

[hyabusa 0]

Hello,

My ex-girlfriend dissapeared back in 1999, I came home, and she was gone, stole all my stuff.

I had no idea where she had gone.

She had fraudulently taken out a restraining order against me, did not want me to contact her.

After a few days, she voluntarily lifted it, contacted me and we met, terminated our relationship and parted ways.

So, there was never any kind of hearing, never went to a judge, no court, nothing.

The order was only in effect for a few days, and she decided to lift it by herself, so that we could meet, and end things.

So, the order was dismissed.

I have a perfect record, no convictions of any kind, no crimes, no dv, no nothing.

Should I worry about this at all ?

Thanks

[Bobby+Umit 161]

No. Don't worry.

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

No conviction = no crime. You're fine.

By the way, a restraining order has become almost a standard course of action in divorce in many states. Many lawyers tell women that this is the first thing they should do before they even file the divorce petition. It's not because of a fear that the husband will retaliate against them violently, but because the lawyer doesn't want the husband to appeal to the wife on an emotional level, and possibly get her to go against her lawyer's advice. In the lawyer's mind, keeping the husband away from the wife is the best way to ensure that they'll get everything they're asking for in the divorce.

Anyway, unless the restraining order is connected to a crime of violence, then it's nothing more than a legal tool.

[hyabusa 0]

No conviction = no crime. You're fine.

By the way, a restraining order has become almost a standard course of action in divorce in many states. Many lawyers tell women that this is the first thing they should do before they even file the divorce petition. It's not because of a fear that the husband will retaliate against them violently, but because the lawyer doesn't want the husband to appeal to the wife on an emotional level, and possibly get her to go against her lawyer's advice. In the lawyer's mind, keeping the husband away from the wife is the best way to ensure that they'll get everything they're asking for in the divorce.

Anyway, unless the restraining order is connected to a crime of violence, then it's nothing more than a legal tool.

[bhajishah 4]

did she reappear??

[hyabusa 0]

No conviction = no crime. You're fine.

By the way, a restraining order has become almost a standard course of action in divorce in many states. Many lawyers tell women that this is the first thing they should do before they even file the divorce petition. It's not because of a fear that the husband will retaliate against them violently, but because the lawyer doesn't want the husband to appeal to the wife on an emotional level, and possibly get her to go against her lawyer's advice. In the lawyer's mind, keeping the husband away from the wife is the best way to ensure that they'll get everything they're asking for in the divorce.

Anyway, unless the restraining order is connected to a crime of violence, then it's nothing more than a legal tool.

Thanks for the response.

Before my american ex-girlfriend disappeared, we did not have any arguments, no quarrels, no conflict, I was completely blind-sided by her vanishing act.

Turns out that she had met a guy, and for 6 months prior, she was emptying my house, things were dissapearing, but I thought that she was reorganizing things.

She was driving one of my cars, and she had even changed the locks on the car, so I could not take the car back.

She also cleaned out my bank-account, I had complete trust in her, and had added her on the account.

When I came home from work that evening, the whole frigging house was cleaned out, she only left the the paint on the walls. When I left that morning for work, she had a moving van scheduled, and emptied the house, over 50K in stuff.

She was not working, I had bought everything.

Here you have a " woman " , was not paying rent, not helping with expenses, just sitting on her #@$ on the couch all day, watching Oprah and demanding more and more.

I never pressed any criminal charges against her for all the thefts.

When she dissappeared, I had no idea where she was. I called the cops to file a missing persons report, they told me I had to wait.

A few days later, she contacted me, told me that she had filed a restraining order, but that she would lift it so that we could meet and talk.

When I asked her why she did that, she said that she wants to live in a multi-million dollar mansion, drive a Mercedes, travel the world, and I could not give her those things.

After that, I met with her and my attorney, she voluntarily signed what is called a " General Release "

she can never again contact me, file any false reports, or reports of any kind, can never harass me, can never take me to court for anything, she needs to stay out of my life. This General Release is valid for life.

On that basis we ended our relationship.

The " General Release " was recorded in court, so it is my proof that she was mallisciously harrasing me.

I have a perfectly clean background.

Thanks

[bhajishah 4]

oh ok, im sure they understand situation and game playing witch. plus it was ten yrs ago brother

[Old Dominion 26]

so what are you applying for??

[hyabusa 0]

so what are you applying for??

I am applying for K1

Back in 2001 I applied for the first time, the visa was approved right after 9/11 and with business collapsing, my fiance and I decided to refile. To get married takes money and there were just too many problems, lost many clients during that time, cant he romantic on an empty stomach.

SHE NEVER TRAVELLED, AND HER VISA EXPIRED.

In 2002 I filed again, FOR THE SAME LADY, the petition was placed on hold because they needed more paperwork.

Shortly thereafter my fiance told me that she had met another man, and I walked away from the second petition.

Since I met my fiance I was supporting her financially ( yes, I know about all the scammers ), but this was different, I met her several times, met her family etc, it was ok. I helped her with apartment, food, clothes, everything, like we were already married.

She used my support money to meet other men.

Turns out that she got a visa from this guy that she met, she travelled with him to the US, and he used her and shipped her back.

She had to go back to Russia, and is still there, miserable, poor, no job, depressed.

Of course, no way that I will ever take her back.

After she returned, I talked to her a few times, she knows that she screwed up bad.

She keeps asking for money, I told her to write the guy that she travelled with and ask him.

I had always told her that when I bring her over, I will marry her at the beginning of the 90 days not at the end, I dont need a trial.

I have very high standards, before I bring any foreign woman in my house, I will already have made the decision to marry her.

I had also offered this girl to get married in Russia, so that she would be sure about me, but she did not want that.

So, the bottom line is that I have NEVER brought a foreign woman over, never married a foreign woman, never divorced a foreign woman.

Here are my filing results:

1. Her first visa was approved, but she did not travel.

2. Her second petition did not go through.

I was so heartbroken about the whole thing, that I stopped all this romance stuff for years.

I recently met a nice young lady, and I will probably file again, so this will be my third petition.

I have a perfect background, and that whole episode with the fraudulent temporary restraining order ( which was dismissed ) just irritates me.

I guess I will have to describe my two earlier petitions in the waiver.

Thanks

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Snipped in the interest of brevity...

I have a perfect background, and that whole episode with the fraudulent temporary restraining order ( which was dismissed ) just irritates me.

I guess I will have to describe my two earlier petitions in the waiver.

Thanks

My understanding of the reasons for the multiple filing limitations in the IMBRA are to prevent one person from acting as an immigration portal, or for trying on foreign brides the way some women try on shoes. Neither of your petitions resulted in anyone getting status in the US, and both were for the same beneficiary. I would think your waiver would be a slam dunk - approved!

Good luck!

[hyabusa 0]

Snipped in the interest of brevity...

I have a perfect background, and that whole episode with the fraudulent temporary restraining order ( which was dismissed ) just irritates me.

I guess I will have to describe my two earlier petitions in the waiver.

Thanks

My understanding of the reasons for the multiple filing limitations in the IMBRA are to prevent one person from acting as an immigration portal, or for trying on foreign brides the way some women try on shoes. Neither of your petitions resulted in anyone getting status in the US, and both were for the same beneficiary. I would think your waiver would be a slam dunk - approved!

Good luck!

Thanks, I needed to hear that, makes me feel better.

I always try to be so careful with everything.

When I met the first Russian girl, I took a risk, when I heard from the agency-lady that the girl had a very harsh life, I took her in my care, started to support her financially, this was before we had even met.

I just trusted my instincts, and I was right, she was not a scammer.

I kept supporting her, until she took of with a guy, that was the end.

With my new girl, I already told her that when we meet, I dont want any physical intimacy, maybe a kiss on the cheeks, that's about it, that way she knows that I respect her. We can wait until after we are married for intimacy, it really is not important to me. That way, when she comes over here, she will know that my intentions with here are honorable.

Thanks

[hyabusa 0]

Snipped in the interest of brevity...

I have a perfect background, and that whole episode with the fraudulent temporary restraining order ( which was dismissed ) just irritates me.

I guess I will have to describe my two earlier petitions in the waiver.

Thanks

My understanding of the reasons for the multiple filing limitations in the IMBRA are to prevent one person from acting as an immigration portal, or for trying on foreign brides the way some women try on shoes. Neither of your petitions resulted in anyone getting status in the US, and both were for the same beneficiary. I would think your waiver would be a slam dunk - approved!

Good luck!

Thanks, I needed to hear that, makes me feel better.

I always try to be so careful with everything.

When I met the first Russian girl, I took a risk, when I heard from the agency-lady that the girl had a very harsh life, I took her in my care, started to support her financially, this was before we had even met.

I just trusted my instincts, and I was right, she was not a scammer.

I kept supporting her, until she took of with a guy, that was the end.

With my new girl, I already told her that when we meet, I dont want any physical intimacy, maybe a kiss on the cheeks, that's about it, that way she knows that I respect her. We can wait until after we are married for intimacy, it really is not important to me. That way, when she comes over here, she will know that my intentions with here are honorable.

Thanks

I forgot to mention:

In my waiver, I will mention the fact that I waited 7 years since my second petition to file another one, I think that should count for something.

Got depressed about the whole thing, focused on my career instead, which is doing extremely well.

So, now is a good time to start planning my personal life again.

Actually, I still call my first Russian girl on her birthdays, and New Year, to wish her well.

[jpetrocxme 0]

Snipped in the interest of brevity...

I have a perfect background, and that whole episode with the fraudulent temporary restraining order ( which was dismissed ) just irritates me.

I guess I will have to describe my two earlier petitions in the waiver.

Thanks

My understanding of the reasons for the multiple filing limitations in the IMBRA are to prevent one person from acting as an immigration portal, or for trying on foreign brides the way some women try on shoes. Neither of your petitions resulted in anyone getting status in the US, and both were for the same beneficiary. I would think your waiver would be a slam dunk - approved!

Good luck!

I feel for you and congratulations on gowing forward in life.

I was in a somewhat similar position. I was with someone for a few years that ended about 1 1/2 years ago. I helped her build a house in her name (was supposed to be our future). IN the end she got the sweat equity (my sweat doing all of the general contracting and some of the actual labor (floors, interior trim & doors & etc). She was going to Cleveland to see someone she met on the internet - said she was going to seminars. We were never married. But when I left and tried to phone the other man just to find out how at-risk I might be, and she knowing that I would file in court for Unjust Enrichment, she tried to get a restraining order on me. It resulted in only a mutual agreement that we have no contact with each other. That is very fine with me.

Point is........Based on what I am reading here this should be no problem for me. Would you say the same??

Thanks

Thanks, I needed to hear that, makes me feel better.

I always try to be so careful with everything.

When I met the first Russian girl, I took a risk, when I heard from the agency-lady that the girl had a very harsh life, I took her in my care, started to support her financially, this was before we had even met.

I just trusted my instincts, and I was right, she was not a scammer.

I kept supporting her, until she took of with a guy, that was the end.

With my new girl, I already told her that when we meet, I dont want any physical intimacy, maybe a kiss on the cheeks, that's about it, that way she knows that I respect her. We can wait until after we are married for intimacy, it really is not important to me. That way, when she comes over here, she will know that my intentions with here are honorable.

Thanks

I forgot to mention:

In my waiver, I will mention the fact that I waited 7 years since my second petition to file another one, I think that should count for something.

Got depressed about the whole thing, focused on my career instead, which is doing extremely well.

So, now is a good time to start planning my personal life again.

Actually, I still call my first Russian girl on her birthdays, and New Year, to wish her well.

[jpetrocxme 0]

Snipped in the interest of brevity...

I have a perfect background, and that whole episode with the fraudulent temporary restraining order ( which was dismissed ) just irritates me.

I guess I will have to describe my two earlier petitions in the waiver.

Thanks

My understanding of the reasons for the multiple filing limitations in the IMBRA are to prevent one person from acting as an immigration portal, or for trying on foreign brides the way some women try on shoes. Neither of your petitions resulted in anyone getting status in the US, and both were for the same beneficiary. I would think your waiver would be a slam dunk - approved!

Good luck!

I feel for you and congratulations on gowing forward in life.

I was in a somewhat similar position. I was with someone for a few years that ended about 1 1/2 years ago. I helped her build a house in her name (was supposed to be our future). IN the end she got the sweat equity (my sweat doing all of the general contracting and some of the actual labor (floors, interior trim & doors & etc). She was going to Cleveland to see someone she met on the internet - said she was going to seminars. We were never married. But when I left and tried to phone the other man just to find out how at-risk I might be, and she knowing that I would file in court for Unjust Enrichment, she tried to get a restraining order on me. It resulted in only a mutual agreement that we have no contact with each other. That is very fine with me.

Point is........Based on what I am reading here this should be no problem for me. Would you say the same??

Thanks

Thanks, I needed to hear that, makes me feel better.

I always try to be so careful with everything.

When I met the first Russian girl, I took a risk, when I heard from the agency-lady that the girl had a very harsh life, I took her in my care, started to support her financially, this was before we had even met.

I just trusted my instincts, and I was right, she was not a scammer.

I kept supporting her, until she took of with a guy, that was the end.

With my new girl, I already told her that when we meet, I dont want any physical intimacy, maybe a kiss on the cheeks, that's about it, that way she knows that I respect her. We can wait until after we are married for intimacy, it really is not important to me. That way, when she comes over here, she will know that my intentions with here are honorable.

Thanks

I forgot to mention:

In my waiver, I will mention the fact that I waited 7 years since my second petition to file another one, I think that should count for something.

Got depressed about the whole thing, focused on my career instead, which is doing extremely well.

So, now is a good time to start planning my personal life again.

Actually, I still call my first Russian girl on her birthdays, and New Year, to wish her well.

Misplaced my reply in the middle - so again....................

I feel for you and congratulations on gowing forward in life.

I was in a somewhat similar position. I was with someone for a few years that ended about 1 1/2 years ago. I helped her build a house in her name (was supposed to be our future). IN the end she got the sweat equity (my sweat doing all of the general contracting and some of the actual labor (floors, interior trim & doors & etc). She was going to Cleveland to see someone she met on the internet - said she was going to seminars. We were never married. But when I left and tried to phone the other man just to find out how at-risk I might be, and she knowing that I would file in court for Unjust Enrichment, she tried to get a restraining order on me. It resulted in only a mutual agreement that we have no contact with each other. That is very fine with me.

Point is........Based on what I am reading here this should be no problem for me. Would you say the same??

Thanks

[nureya 0]

Hello,

This is not the right place to ask this question...but i thought you guys are experienced and can help me....

I was arrested for taking the post mail from the girl i dated for 3 months. When the police arrested me, they found some of her emails(i took it) and maps to her address. The following day, i was issued an Order protection and then within 15 days, i was given a Permanent order protection for 2 years by one judge in one court room. No phsyical abuse or anything. I was charged with stealing her mails.

Regarding the criminal case for taking the mails, i plead guilty to Tresspassing to land and i was given supervision for 364 days by another judge in a different court room on May 15, 2009.

Will this Restraining order and criminal conviction of tresspassing create any issues while i go for my next H1B stamping?

The restraining order is not because of the criminal case.........these are 2 different cases.

Thanks,

Nureya

Edited February 9, 2010 by nureya