WANT TO DIVORCE MY HUSBAND

[chineseyedpinay 0]

hi guys,i already a member here in different name but i make another one coz i dont want my husband to read if i ask question using my old log in.

i am not lifting my conditions yet,that will be on Nov this year but right now,i am in the situations that i really want to divorce him..can i still lift my condition if were divorce?

please help me...

[L179 1]

yes i believe it would not hurt if you can prove you were in a bonafide marriage while married

[SuperDuper! 230]

Why do you want a divorce? Why stay in US? Return to Phils to your homeland where it is familiar to you, Hard to prove to USCIS to keep you here unless you have BIG reason to divorce the man, like Domestic Violence. Gud Luck to you alwayz :star:

[Mary Lou 681]

Why do you want a divorce? Why stay in US? Return to Phils to your homeland where it is familiar to you, Hard to prove to USCIS to keep you here unless you have BIG reason to divorce the man, like Domestic Violence. Gud Luck to you alwayz

It's not up to us to ask why she wants a divorce.

If she has proof of a bonafied marriage she can remove conditions on her own.

[Azzudiin 26]

Why do you want a divorce? Why stay in US? Return to Phils to your homeland where it is familiar to you, Hard to prove to USCIS to keep you here unless you have BIG reason to divorce the man, like Domestic Violence. Gud Luck to you alwayz

It's not up to us to ask why she wants a divorce.

If she has proof of a bonafied marriage she can remove conditions on her own.

Asking why she wants a divorce is a very legit question. The reason the entire process for Marriage VISA's is long and ardous is because tons of these are nothing more then scams. The foriegn spouse uses the USC to get into the US, then stays with them long enough to get a job, meet friends, and eventually once they have gotten what they need from the USC they toss them aside.

There at 1000's of examples of successful, loving couples on these boards who went through the process and have long happy lives together, but for every success there are people who where used.

If someone comes here asking in a public forum if they can get a divorce then they should be prepared to explain why they want the divorce or they should receive no advice from anyone on this forum.

[TayRivers 4]

Why do you want a divorce? Why stay in US? Return to Phils to your homeland where it is familiar to you, Hard to prove to USCIS to keep you here unless you have BIG reason to divorce the man, like Domestic Violence. Gud Luck to you alwayz

It's not up to us to ask why she wants a divorce.

If she has proof of a bonafied marriage she can remove conditions on her own.

Asking why she wants a divorce is a very legit question. The reason the entire process for Marriage VISA's is long and ardous is because tons of these are nothing more then scams. The foriegn spouse uses the USC to get into the US, then stays with them long enough to get a job, meet friends, and eventually once they have gotten what they need from the USC they toss them aside.

There at 1000's of examples of successful, loving couples on these boards who went through the process and have long happy lives together, but for every success there are people who where used.

If someone comes here asking in a public forum if they can get a divorce then they should be prepared to explain why they want the divorce or they should receive no advice from anyone on this forum.

The reason behind the divorce is none of our business, and you DO NOT have any legit reason to ask the OP to explain.

The OP has asked a valid question "If I am divorced can I remove conditions on my own" The reason the couple are divorcing does not change the answer.

The answer is

Yes you can file to remove conditions after you divorce, you need to keep evidence to show that you entered into the marriage in good faith. You also need to keep evidence of joint finances and co-mingled life while you were married.

If the OP is selected for a interview for the removal of conditions she may well be asked for the reasons her marriage failed. USCIS does have a legit reason to ask this question.... WE DO NOT.

[mooninlove 1]

It's not because she's asking about this matter, we would judge her like she came here for the GC. I myself get into divorce but that does not mean i used him for that or to that effect. Everyone has a REASON why we ended up with the big D. If she has valid reason why and she can prove it then everything is up to her and the USCIS. If she wants to stay here or go anywhere else is none of our business.All she wants to know is if she can file removal. Yes you can file for removal even if you're divorced BUT in order to be approved, you have to prove you entered into a legit marriage and you have evidences to show you entered in good faith or have been subject to abuse.Best of luck.

Edited June 6, 2009 by mooninlove

[AbbynSheryl 0]

hey chineseyedpinay,

what would have u done if u were living in philippines instead of usa?

i am not judging u any way. abby n sheryl

[leapoffaith 0]

Everybody says that one has to prove it was a bonafide marriage which is a bit obscure to prove.

Anyways, there are two ways to prove that - having a baby from your husband or/and paying a house mortgage in both the names.

[trillium13 84]

The answer is

Yes you can file to remove conditions after you divorce, you need to keep evidence to show that you entered into the marriage in good faith. You also need to keep evidence of joint finances and co-mingled life while you were married.

If the OP is selected for a interview for the removal of conditions she may well be asked for the reasons her marriage failed. USCIS does have a legit reason to ask this question.... WE DO NOT.

Not flaming here, just wondering and asking. Is it really this simple? I've seen this situation here many times, with always the same answer, being that if the marriage was entered into in "good faith" you're allowed to remove conditions and stay. Does USCIS ask why the couple is divorcing? Does the answer make a difference?

[trillium13 84]

Everybody says that one has to prove it was a bonafide marriage which is a bit obscure to prove.

Anyways, there are two ways to prove that - having a baby from your husband or/and paying a house mortgage in both the names.

Neither of those things means that the marriage is necessarily bona fide. Plenty of women get pregnant in order to control or manipulate a man. Plenty of women attempt to marry a rich man in order to take them for all they have. I'm in no way saying that's what's going on here, just saying that's not really "proof" in my opinion.

[justashooter 430]

Everybody says that one has to prove it was a bonafide marriage which is a bit obscure to prove.

Anyways, there are two ways to prove that - having a baby from your husband or/and paying a house mortgage in both the names.

this is in no way true.

bonafide is unique to each case. the OP would know what it means in her case, or should get legal advise on the matter.

sure, some people come to US on a scam. some USC also scam their imported spouse. could be either case in this circumstance. let's face it, people lie to each other all the time. immigrant fiancees lie to their sponsors about how much they "love" them, and sponsors lie to their fiancees about how great life is gonna be. the only way the truth comes out is if the people get married and live together.

the only way to prevent this kind of lying is to live together a year or so before marriage and see if it's a lie or not. luckily, some of us were in foreign country and had a chance to live with spouse for a few years before marriage. even then, things change when they move to USA, and new pressures arise. just have to live through it and not loose your head.

[Completely 3]

I am not the person to judge you, whatever situation you have right now, the only question I will ask, is why stay in the US?

I can understand that not all relationship is perfect, especially meeting people internet and just dated 3x then got married, without knowing the person in real life could possibly increase divorce rate in the end. Some relationship survived, some are not..

If you are planning to divorce him, think twice, if marriage is not really working out, the expenses you need to have...Divorce is not that easy.

You should be asking how you will save your marriage rather than asking of how you will divorce him, and lift up your condition at the same time.

Edited June 7, 2009 by Completely

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

I am not the person to judge you, whatever situation you have right now, the only question I will ask, is why stay in the US?

I can understand that not all relationship is perfect, especially meeting people internet and just dated 3x then got married, without knowing the person in real life could possibly increase divorce rate in the end. Some relationship survived, some are not..

If you are planning to divorce him, think twice, if marriage is not really working out, the expenses you need to have...Divorce is not that easy.

You should be asking how you will save your marriage rather than asking of how you will divorce him, and lift up your condition at the same time.

I AGREE!!!

I suppose family and marriage are not that important to her otherwise she would seek for some advice on how she will resolve the problem (if there is any) and work it out instead of asking if she can lift up her condition after divorcing her poor guy.

Edited June 7, 2009 by ~hAppyndinlOve~

[TayRivers 4]

I am amazed at how many of you are being total BITCHES to the OP, you do not know what the situation is with the OP or her reasons for wanting to remain in the USA.

TO ASSUME SHE IS JUST SCAMMING HER HUSBAND FOR A GREENCARD AND SHOULD RETURN TO HER HOME COUNTRY is WRONG....

Lets prey to god that you never find yourself in her shoes. This forum is a place where people can come for support and help with their immigration journey. sadly some marriages fail that does not mean that the immigrant spouse scammed the USC and it does not mean that they should return to their home country.

Now GET OFF THE ###### WAGON and either give support to the OP to look at the options available to her OR STFU and go post somewhere else.