can my husband take his sponsorship back??

[Zee Bee 61]

The visa is valid for 6 months. Maybe you can take the time to work on your relationship and come to a more amicable agreement.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do

[hniHnitsuJ 8]

The visa is valid for 6 months. Maybe you can take the time to work on your relationship and come to a more amicable agreement.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do

Totally agreed, you have 6 months to work on your relationship. At least you are trying to do your best. If thing doesn't work out. I don't think there is a point to come over US if someone treats you with no respect, or you two don't have a relationship.

just my 2 cents.

[trinket 30]

The visa is valid for 6 months. Maybe you can take the time to work on your relationship and come to a more amicable agreement.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do

I wouldn't suggest to work on the marriage anymore. I usually don't give out marriage consultation or anything like that. But in this case it is pretty clear that the grooms family is demanding dowry and if you know Indian society their attitude towards dowry and what all they can do get dowry, you won't suggest getting things sorted out in this marriage either.

Look girl, you might think now that you will be outcasted by your society but really what is better? Living in India or living in US with a hell of a family who won't hesitate to get abusive and to put your life in danger? Think about it very clearly, you may live in distress for a few years in India with all the tuantings from other people but you can make your life better getting yourself in a professional field, imerse yourself in work and make your own money and live independently.

I am sure you might think its easy for me to say to give up upon marriage but really dont put yourself into a family where money is the basis of the marriage. You know it well and I know it well, we all hear in the news about girls getting burnt alive every day because of dowry, you don't want that in your life. You shouldn't have that in your life, save yourself first. You don't want to live a life of prisoner in US or anywhere.

On a purely immigration related answer to your question, no your husband can't pull his sponsorship away. If you do decide to come to US, do make the plans of where you are going to live for a while and how are you going to support yourself, since you will be coming on IR-1 visa, you will receive 10 year GC, so you are good for next 10 years but do let the POE officer of your new address, so that the green card can come to that address. If by chance green card does go to your husband's address you can get a renewed one but you will have to spend around $400 or so to get a new GC in the new address.

Best of luck, do choose wisely

[NQT1976 1]

i ve been married to this person for 3 years, he is US citizen.

i interviewed in may and got visa approval for IR1.

now i ve got problems with him and his family

(they are asking for big dowry and money that i shud bring with me to states)

otherwise he ll take his sponsorship back.

---can he take his sponsorship back at this time.

i cannt divorce him as i donnt want to be cosidered as social outcast in my country.

---shud i got to states on this visa, or he can create problems later on as well.

im new to this forum, a friend suggested this to me.

thank u in advance for all the suggestions>>

total fraud , you promised to pay him bring you to US then you eat your word ?

you want get in the US for free and want him to continue sponsor you ?

too bad for USC being used by foreign women.

[Rehan 0]

i ve been married to this person for 3 years, he is US citizen.

i interviewed in may and got visa approval for IR1.

now i ve got problems with him and his family

(they are asking for big dowry and money that i shud bring with me to states)

otherwise he ll take his sponsorship back.

---can he take his sponsorship back at this time.

i cannt divorce him as i donnt want to be cosidered as social outcast in my country.

---shud i got to states on this visa, or he can create problems later on as well.

im new to this forum, a friend suggested this to me.

thank u in advance for all the suggestions>>

total fraud , you promised to pay him bring you to US then you eat your word ?

you want get in the US for free and want him to continue sponsor you ?

too bad for USC being used by foreign women.

Please, if you do not know and understand Indian culture and society, please do not judge her and make harsh comments.. Never ever she said that she wants to come to the US. She is already in distress and you might make her more frustrated with these type of comments. She already said that she is going to give up on this immigration thing. Not everyone gets marry just to go to the US.

Shanti sister!! Best of luck to you whatever you decide!! Rehan

[trinket 30]

i ve been married to this person for 3 years, he is US citizen.

i interviewed in may and got visa approval for IR1.

now i ve got problems with him and his family

(they are asking for big dowry and money that i shud bring with me to states)

otherwise he ll take his sponsorship back.

---can he take his sponsorship back at this time.

i cannt divorce him as i donnt want to be cosidered as social outcast in my country.

---shud i got to states on this visa, or he can create problems later on as well.

im new to this forum, a friend suggested this to me.

thank u in advance for all the suggestions>>

total fraud , you promised to pay him bring you to US then you eat your word ?

you want get in the US for free and want him to continue sponsor you ?

too bad for USC being used by foreign women.

And she is the fraudulent one?? How about the husband and his family asking for money? Why there is any involvement of money. And who is being used by whom really??

As Rehan said, you don't know a thing about Indian culture, so STFU.

Edited June 5, 2009 by trinket

[NQT1976 1]

i ve been married to this person for 3 years, he is US citizen.

i interviewed in may and got visa approval for IR1.

now i ve got problems with him and his family

(they are asking for big dowry and money that i shud bring with me to states)

otherwise he ll take his sponsorship back.

---can he take his sponsorship back at this time.

i cannt divorce him as i donnt want to be cosidered as social outcast in my country.

---shud i got to states on this visa, or he can create problems later on as well.

im new to this forum, a friend suggested this to me.

thank u in advance for all the suggestions>>

total fraud , you promised to pay him bring you to US then you eat your word ?

you want get in the US for free and want him to continue sponsor you ?

too bad for USC being used by foreign women.

And she is the fraudulent one?? How about the husband and his family asking for money? Why there is any involvement of money. And who is being used by whom really??

As Rehan said, you don't know a thing about Indian culture, so STFU.

what you know about India culture ?

the DOWRY is a must in India, even China and Vietnam or other Asia country.

before the marriage happened two family have to agree at something .

she have to promised some amount of Dowry, so the man can marry her. if she not promised something extracted the man why he marry her but not marry other women ?

if you promised a DOWRY and you not bring it with you , is it consider cheating ?

use your brain to think not use your ear to think.

[trinket 30]

i ve been married to this person for 3 years, he is US citizen.

i interviewed in may and got visa approval for IR1.

now i ve got problems with him and his family

(they are asking for big dowry and money that i shud bring with me to states)

otherwise he ll take his sponsorship back.

---can he take his sponsorship back at this time.

i cannt divorce him as i donnt want to be cosidered as social outcast in my country.

---shud i got to states on this visa, or he can create problems later on as well.

im new to this forum, a friend suggested this to me.

thank u in advance for all the suggestions>>

total fraud , you promised to pay him bring you to US then you eat your word ?

you want get in the US for free and want him to continue sponsor you ?

too bad for USC being used by foreign women.

And she is the fraudulent one?? How about the husband and his family asking for money? Why there is any involvement of money. And who is being used by whom really??

As Rehan said, you don't know a thing about Indian culture, so STFU.

what you know about India culture ?

the DOWRY is a must in India, even China and Vietnam or other Asia country.

before the marriage happened two family have to agree at something .

she have to promised some amount of Dowry, so the man can marry her. if she not promised something extracted the man why he marry her but not marry other women ?

if you promised a DOWRY and you not bring it with you , is it consider cheating ?

use your brain to think not use your ear to think.

OMG!! Really, are you supporting dowry? Which century you live in? For your kind information dowry is ILLEGAL in India, but then who cares about law right.

Shame on you to be supporting dowry. And I know Indian culture well enough, I guess that's why I married a man who respects me and my family for who we are and not how much money he would get as "dowry". Yes that's right, he didn't get any.

Rather than fighting against this social evil, you fvcking advocate it.

I pity you.

[Rehan 0]

i ve been married to this person for 3 years, he is US citizen.

i interviewed in may and got visa approval for IR1.

now i ve got problems with him and his family

(they are asking for big dowry and money that i shud bring with me to states)

otherwise he ll take his sponsorship back.

---can he take his sponsorship back at this time.

i cannt divorce him as i donnt want to be cosidered as social outcast in my country.

---shud i got to states on this visa, or he can create problems later on as well.

im new to this forum, a friend suggested this to me.

thank u in advance for all the suggestions>>

total fraud , you promised to pay him bring you to US then you eat your word ?

you want get in the US for free and want him to continue sponsor you ?

too bad for USC being used by foreign women.

And she is the fraudulent one?? How about the husband and his family asking for money? Why there is any involvement of money. And who is being used by whom really??

As Rehan said, you don't know a thing about Indian culture, so STFU.

what you know about India culture ?

the DOWRY is a must in India, even China and Vietnam or other Asia country.

before the marriage happened two family have to agree at something .

she have to promised some amount of Dowry, so the man can marry her. if she not promised something extracted the man why he marry her but not marry other women ?

if you promised a DOWRY and you not bring it with you , is it consider cheating ?

use your brain to think not use your ear to think.

Shanti is saying that they are asking more. Thsi is another bad thing. So at the time of marriage, the Groom's family had agreed on the dowary of let's us say, 5 Lakhs rupees, but NOW since she got the visa, they changed their mind and want a dowry of 10 lakhs or may be more!! Greedy people!! But she is stuck now!! I hope you got it now!!!!!!!

[Bobby+Umit 161]

im in india.. my visa is approved.

so i ve to travel to states to get permenet status...

he can cancel my visa at this time while im in india?

Not really - it's your visa.

[shanti2007 0]

as i already said i need advice...not judgements.

and too add few things about myself....im a doctor, and i ve passed step 1 and step 2ck with good scores.

ive already decided to give up on immigration visa (as my husband can create problems later on).

i never married for green card.

but wat are my chances of getting nonimmigrant visa...if sometime in future i want to take rest of my exams in states and do job there as a doctor.

its quite a respectable profession in india and ammerica.

[Rehan 0]

as i already said i need advice...not judgements.

and too add few things about myself....im a doctor, and i ve passed step 1 and step 2ck with good scores.

ive already decided to give up on immigration visa (as my husband can create problems later on).

i never married for green card.

but wat are my chances of getting nonimmigrant visa...if sometime in future i want to take rest of my exams in states and do job there as a doctor.

its quite a respectable profession in india and ammerica.

That really depends on what you do with the visa you have. Basically, if you do not want to immigrate, you should go to the embassy and honestly tell a CO that you do not want this visa. You can give the visa back to them, but obviously, they will let your husband know that you did that.

[trinket 30]

as i already said i need advice...not judgements.

and too add few things about myself....im a doctor, and i ve passed step 1 and step 2ck with good scores.

ive already decided to give up on immigration visa (as my husband can create problems later on).

i never married for green card.

but wat are my chances of getting nonimmigrant visa...if sometime in future i want to take rest of my exams in states and do job there as a doctor.

its quite a respectable profession in india and ammerica.

If you don't use this Immigration visa, it will expire as usual after 6 months. You can like anyone apply for Non immigration or student visa in the future. Sure there will be a bit more scrutiny or questioning from the CO during your non immigration visa interview, plus like anyone else you will have to show how you can support yourself in US, job or something which will bring you back to India.

Best wishes for your future

[trinket 30]

as i already said i need advice...not judgements.

and too add few things about myself....im a doctor, and i ve passed step 1 and step 2ck with good scores.

ive already decided to give up on immigration visa (as my husband can create problems later on).

i never married for green card.

but wat are my chances of getting nonimmigrant visa...if sometime in future i want to take rest of my exams in states and do job there as a doctor.

its quite a respectable profession in india and ammerica.

That really depends on what you do with the visa you have. Basically, if you do not want to immigrate, you should go to the embassy and honestly tell a CO that you do not want this visa. You can give the visa back to them, but obviously, they will let your husband know that you did that.

Technically there isn't anything as such as giving the VISA back, once granted its upon her to use it or not. What she can do though is contact the consulate and ask if she has to support any notarized affidavit or any thing as such.

One thing I forgot to add is that, make sure you do get the divorce before you apply for any non-immigration visa, as your current marriage may hamper your chances of non-immigration visa if it is still valid at the time you apply again.

[Ban Hammer 13,110]

what you know about India culture ?

she's from india..........hello!

use your brain to think not use your ear to think.

physician, heal thyself.