Friday!

[Sandrila 1]

I hate to sound like a dark cloud or to offend anyone sounding like a self-centered b!tch, but for those of you that are home alone all day...at least your husband is coming home at the end of the day....I'm sure its very easy to forget about the pain of separation for months on end when you finally have your husband there with you. I'm sorry..don't mean to step on anyone's toes today...just missing my husband really bad.

Amanda

I want to comment on this because I recall myself being so frustrated and upset and when I would hear others say about missing their men or whatever but their husbands ARE here! Sometimes it was hard to rejoice in others' good news when I was going for months without any news at all.

HANG IN THERE!!! YOUR INTERVIEW IS QUICKLY APPROACHING.. YOU ARE IN THE LAST OF IT.

It is so hard to stay optimistic and positive and you just have those days when you can't take anymore of it.

I would cry myself to sleep and worry so much during that time.

It could be worse...you could have gone through all this, waited and hoped and prayed.

Waited for the chance to start your life and be in love and have your hubby here and then find out it is not going to be the life that you expected .

Your time will come Amanda and I will pray for you that GOD give you the strength you need to make it the final round. Chin up sweetie

[Amoon 0]

I hate to sound like a dark cloud or to offend anyone sounding like a self-centered b!tch, but for those of you that are home alone all day...at least your husband is coming home at the end of the day....I'm sure its very easy to forget about the pain of separation for months on end when you finally have your husband there with you. I'm sorry..don't mean to step on anyone's toes today...just missing my husband really bad.

Amanda

I want to comment on this because I recall myself being so frustrated and upset and when I would hear others say about missing their men or whatever but their husbands ARE here! Sometimes it was hard to rejoice in others' good news when I was going for months without any news at all.

HANG IN THERE!!! YOUR INTERVIEW IS QUICKLY APPROACHING.. YOU ARE IN THE LAST OF IT.

It is so hard to stay optimistic and positive and you just have those days when you can't take anymore of it.

I would cry myself to sleep and worry so much during that time.

It could be worse...you could have gone through all this, waited and hoped and prayed.

Waited for the chance to start your life and be in love and have your hubby here and then find out it is not going to be the life that you expected .

Your time will come Amanda and I will pray for you that GOD give you the strength you need to make it the final round. Chin up sweetie

Sandrila...thank you sooooo much!!! I really apreciate that. And I'll take all the prayers I can get! I really is hard not to have my hubby here. We both are struggling. We both are having a hard time sleeping and its getting to both of us...we've been physically sick, tired and we are so antsy sometimes it leads us to fight over the stupidest stuff! I know we will make it though...just 9 more days to wait and then I pray just a few days after that for him to get his visa! I just wish I could fall asleep and wake up the day he arrives in the US!

[Staashi 371]

Amanda, you're not being a b!tch, but you aren't acknowledging the fact that everyone here went through the exact same situation as you are in now...we just suffered through it a while ago...myself it's been more than 5 years since I started this journey. We finished our journey last year when my hubby became a citizen on July 4. You'll get through it, but remember many of us are now out of the throws of the USCIS/

DOS issues and just into the monotony of daily life...trust me, you'll get there. And you too will b!tch about coming home to your husband, your kids, whatever awaits you as well - it happens.

His time infront of a CO is quite soon and I hope that he has a successful interview and that he isn't denied or put into AP. Keep your chin up and stay sane...there is a reason why this is called Visa Journey although sometimes I think it should be called Visa Adventure because that is what this really is...ADVENTURE. Say it with me now.

Peace be with you.

Edited June 5, 2009 by Staashi

[Amoon 0]

Amanda, you're not being a b!tch, but you aren't acknowledging the fact that everyone here went through the exact same situation as you are in now...we just suffered through it a while ago...myself it's been more than 5 years since I started this journey. We finished our journey last year when my hubby became a citizen on July 4. You'll get through it, but remember many of us are now out of the throws of the USCIS/

DOS issues and just into the monotony of daily life...trust me, you'll get there. And you too will b!tch about coming home to your husband, your kids, whatever awaits you as well - it happens.

His time infront of a CO is quite soon and I hope that he has a successful interview and that he isn't denied or put into AP. Keep your chin up and stay sane...there is a reason why this is called Visa Journey although sometimes I think it should be called Visa Adventure because that is what this really is...ADVENTURE. Say it with me now.

Peace be with you.

Thanks Staashi. I know absolutely you all have gone through this same thing and in know way am I trying to say that my case is superior. I just struggle a lot of the time. I really can't wait to get to, as you say, the monotony of daily life with my husband...at least then I will feel complete.

[LaL 418]

Spouse adjusting to life in the US hardly ever means "monotony"

[Staashi 371]

Spouse adjusting to life in the US hardly ever means "monotony"

Yes, but when the daily struggle is just that - DAILY - then it becomes monotonous.

[Ban Hammer 13,336]

Spouse adjusting to life in the US hardly ever means "monotony"

quite true......like that time nessa had the windows and doors open during the summer because it was hot inside......and the ac was running and running.......

[100% Al Ahly Fan 53]

I hate to sound like a dark cloud or to offend anyone sounding like a self-centered b!tch, but for those of you that are home alone all day...at least your husband is coming home at the end of the day....I'm sure its very easy to forget about the pain of separation for months on end when you finally have your husband there with you. I'm sorry..don't mean to step on anyone's toes today...just missing my husband really bad.

Amanda

I want to comment on this because I recall myself being so frustrated and upset and when I would hear others say about missing their men or whatever but their husbands ARE here! Sometimes it was hard to rejoice in others' good news when I was going for months without any news at all.

HANG IN THERE!!! YOUR INTERVIEW IS QUICKLY APPROACHING.. YOU ARE IN THE LAST OF IT.

It is so hard to stay optimistic and positive and you just have those days when you can't take anymore of it.

I would cry myself to sleep and worry so much during that time.

It could be worse...you could have gone through all this, waited and hoped and prayed.

Waited for the chance to start your life and be in love and have your hubby here and then find out it is not going to be the life that you expected .

Your time will come Amanda and I will pray for you that GOD give you the strength you need to make it the final round. Chin up sweetie

Sandrila...thank you sooooo much!!! I really apreciate that. And I'll take all the prayers I can get! I really is hard not to have my hubby here. We both are struggling. We both are having a hard time sleeping and its getting to both of us...we've been physically sick, tired and we are so antsy sometimes it leads us to fight over the stupidest stuff! I know we will make it though...just 9 more days to wait and then I pray just a few days after that for him to get his visa! I just wish I could fall asleep and wake up the day he arrives in the US!

You are not alone, Amanda. It was a whole year, before I saw Ahmed again this year and now again I have to wait because our journey just began. It's funny when I think about it, I have talked to him everyday for over 2 years and I have only seen him three times.

As for the other women here honestly, I love to hear about women here having there husbands with them and missing them when just away for a few hours. It reminds me that after all this pain and sorrow of being seperated that they still want, need, cherish and love their spouses.

I know this is hard. Ahmed and I have been dealing with not sleeping and feeling sick as well. It's hard when your other half is half way across the world, but we are strong. Remember there are people here that haven't seen or have gone years without seeing their spouses. So feel lucky that, inshaAllah you will be with your very soon. Good luck, hun!

[Nagishkaw 510]

I'm sure its very easy to forget about the pain of separation for months on end when you finally have your husband there with you.

Some things are never forgotten. We did not see each other for about 2 and a half years. No cam, no pics...no nothing. Now that my husband is here, I find myself still waiting.....

It's ok to vent. We all have had those times where we felt like we were being boiled alive.

[UmmSqueakster 54]

AbuS and I went once spent 18 months apart. Believe me, I remember.

Ditto to what Nagishkaw on still waiting. You're waiting for him to adjust. Waiting for him to get a job. Waiting for him to get a better job. Waiting for your relationship to hit it's stride. I'm still waiting, and he's been here more than 3 and a half years.

[Nagishkaw 510]

Ditto to what Nagishkaw on still waiting. You're waiting for him to adjust. Waiting for him to get a job. Waiting for him to get a better job. Waiting for your relationship to hit it's stride. I'm still waiting, and he's been here more than 3 and a half years.

You just nailed it completely.

[~Jess~ 0]

Ill be waiting a very long time.

Waiting for the homesickness to go away, waiting for us to get along like i hoped, waiting for our son to grow up.....waiting to see whats the next step.

[Staashi 371]

I think that intercultural relationships are very, very difficult. When you've been married 4 or 5 years it feels like 15 or 20...it's just long and hard and you just want peace, and yet that may never come.

[doodlebugg 10]

I hate to sound like a dark cloud or to offend anyone sounding like a self-centered b!tch, but for those of you that are home alone all day...at least your husband is coming home at the end of the day....I'm sure its very easy to forget about the pain of separation for months on end when you finally have your husband there with you. I'm sorry..don't mean to step on anyone's toes today...just missing my husband really bad.

aww (((hugs))). Amanda there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about the excruciating pain, the feeling like your gut is being ripped out against your will (though who would will that type of pain), that my husband and I experienced before he got here. Our story was not one for the books but it was pretty up there with over 8 months of AP after almost 2 months of his having a hard time getting the packet 3 in because of this that or the other thing. He had two home visits for goodness sakes! Towards the end I seriously thought we'd have to get divorced since there was no way I could move there with my kids.

Please don't think that when some of us vent about being alone while our husbands are working that we're negating your pain at all. This forum has given us many friendships and once you've spent a year or two venting about the visa process and how it's breaking your heart it's easy to continue using it as a venting tool for other things as well.

I have made many threads where people could come in and vent about how much they miss their husbands because they haven't gotten their visa yet. Reading the responses helped me to remember that I wasn't alone. Maybe it's time for another one of those? We are all here for each other and if you want to talk about how sad you are that is great because we'll be here to cry with you and give you suggestions to get you through this. Same way you might be here a year from now to do the same with someone who's in your position right now.

Hang in there.

[Amoon 0]

I hate to sound like a dark cloud or to offend anyone sounding like a self-centered b!tch, but for those of you that are home alone all day...at least your husband is coming home at the end of the day....I'm sure its very easy to forget about the pain of separation for months on end when you finally have your husband there with you. I'm sorry..don't mean to step on anyone's toes today...just missing my husband really bad.

aww (((hugs))). Amanda there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about the excruciating pain, the feeling like your gut is being ripped out against your will (though who would will that type of pain), that my husband and I experienced before he got here. Our story was not one for the books but it was pretty up there with over 8 months of AP after almost 2 months of his having a hard time getting the packet 3 in because of this that or the other thing. He had two home visits for goodness sakes! Towards the end I seriously thought we'd have to get divorced since there was no way I could move there with my kids.

Please don't think that when some of us vent about being alone while our husbands are working that we're negating your pain at all. This forum has given us many friendships and once you've spent a year or two venting about the visa process and how it's breaking your heart it's easy to continue using it as a venting tool for other things as well.

I have made many threads where people could come in and vent about how much they miss their husbands because they haven't gotten their visa yet. Reading the responses helped me to remember that I wasn't alone. Maybe it's time for another one of those? We are all here for each other and if you want to talk about how sad you are that is great because we'll be here to cry with you and give you suggestions to get you through this. Same way you might be here a year from now to do the same with someone who's in your position right now.

Hang in there.

Thank you for that. I agree we are all in different stages of our relationships and I know there are a lot of you here that had longer, worse struggles than me and I can definitely learn from all of you. I really appreciate all the support and help in these long months of waiting. My struggle is no more important than your struggles. We are all trying to make it in this world and if all of our lives were the same this world would be seriously boring. I don't expect it to be a cakewalk once my hubby gets here because I know there will be a lot of things he will have to adjust to, but I know our love is strong and we can work through it. I really do appreciate all the support and advice and prayers from all of you. It really is a great help and keeps me sane!