help me very sad

[Tahoma 2,292]

Tell you husband to cancel his first petition.

He should work hard to make his income above poverty line.

Your husband should visit you again here in the Philippines

He should petition you again and your husband should be with you during your next interview.

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[Brian and Dona 0]

Tell you husband to cancel his first petition.

He should work hard to make his income above poverty line.

Your husband should visit you again here in the Philippines

He should petition you again and your husband should be with you during your next interview.

I also agree.

[edp333 9]

I would suggest:

1: Cancel the first K1 petition.

2. Have your husband contact his Senators and Congressman.

3. Find a good lawyer experienced with the USEM; as you are trying to do.

4: If your I-130 is still at the NVC then start a CR2 I-130 for your child. Another VJer should be able to guide you in waiting for the CR2 to catch up with your CR1 petition.

[rheanick 42]

I would suggest:

1: Cancel the first K1 petition.

2. Have your husband contact his Senators and Congressman.

3. Find a good lawyer experienced with the USEM; as you are trying to do.

4: If your I-130 is still at the NVC then start a CR2 I-130 for your child. Another VJer should be able to guide you in waiting for the CR2 to catch up with your CR1 petition.

The OP signed a document for the withdrawal of their case.

[angel7407 33]

Hello fellow members u know I had my interview last 2 and 3 of June for k3 and k4 visa but very sad the first interview so kind to me Filipino guy but he told me madam I don’t know only the consular decision your application because your husband has active fiancée petition from other woman and until now he didn’t cancel he asked me that So I answered ohh my God we thought me and my husband it was cancelled automatically..God its mistakes and then about my husband affidavit of support cannot reach the poverty level and they don’t allow my co-sponsor my mother in-law .maybe because she’s retired and old and also they question our relationship if genuine too short time we got married immediately is that really love first meeting after one week got married ..But god knows in my self knows that I really love my husband but they don’t believe that u know so many questions they really interrogated me at inside the fraud unit my background they check everything about my passed of ex boyfriend b4 daddy of my daughter my ex boyfriend on chat room they asked that ..You know I’m so sad now they really compared our petition and petition of ex girlfriend of my husband the petition of ex gf was very good statements than mine my husband told me because he was using lawyer before that’s why like that ..ok back to investigation they really wanted me to tell them that I don’t love my husband my intention is immigrant only ..i cried there that I said no I love my husband but where’s the love that’s very short visit then got married that‘s stupidity he said and he told me that better I say no because I have chance I never waste my money to come back and come like other people there the same situation to me fraud unit..Take years because the consul cant convince it ..u know I had tourist visa application before it was denied right after denied I met my husband on net so they really think I want only immigrant visa..so they conclude that .i cried there u know I said I love my husband that’s why I married to him immidiately..but they said i love only for immigrant reason and also they said I just wanted to marry American because of my daughter future ..i said no sir that’s wrong conclusion..my daughter has good life my daughter is secured already because her daddy supporting her and he didn’t abandon her , to be honest I don’t look after money I have bit good life in my place to be honest and also the consul said why I choose poor man that I’m pretty woman and educated I said I love my husband that’s why I really want go to America and i said I want to stay with my husband for the rest of my life but again they don’t believe that coz husband just once went here honestly my husband when we got married he don’t have job and he stayed her 27 days only and after married and never come back because his working hard now and save money but the consul don’t convince that..so now in my statement I married my husband no love and I just married to him just to come over in usa..but so sad because i know myself I love him so much .anyway I explained already to my husband but he understand that they interrogated me because of her petition..ok in June 3,2009 I signed my statements and if I didn’t sign they will bond me for the whole life and all my relatives cant go to USA if I don’t withdraw that petition ..because and they file case against me if they find out more about me, about my business I had business before but I wont scared because i paid taxes and no debts at all only customers has debts to me..so now the consul said to me maam please dont ruin your life and your future..i prayed that time that everything went well anyway that’s what im doing at that time ..so at that time I said to the consul maam I will withdraw the petition now she said maam thank you I would be greatful that ur being honest to us..i just really trying to help you maam..so after signing the papers..She asked me any questioned the only question I thought at that moment are..maam can I apply again for visa? she said yes maam anytime as u like but immigrant visa is suitable for u and can my husband file for me a petition? she said yes..But maam tell your husband to come with you and solve the problem..She meant about other petition that still active until now..im very sad…anyway that’s my situation during interviewed and now I need your advices is anyone the same situation with me here?..i had my immigrant pending at NVC the I-130 that’s approved we choose the k3 and k4 so that I can take my daughter with me but it goes wrong. Guy’s please advice us what we‘re going to do and how to start again because at the moment I’m so upset and I can’t understand my self very sad and my husband too. Anyway maybe God has plan to our lives. Your comments and advices is appreciated .Please enlighten us what to do now.thank you advance

Hi to you! I'm sad of your experience. That was my biggest fear also before my interview. I think the problem lies on the active petition of your husband to another woman which he did not cancel. Kasi I had the same situation to yours (except sa petition for another woman ha), my husband and I chatted for 4 months,and he went to the Philippines and married me after 10 days of our first meeting (kasi 10 days ang pag post sa Civil registrar sa marriage application, di ba?). He stayed for a total of 21 days that first meeting, wedding included and he flew back sa US. After 6 months he flew back to Philippines for another 21 days and that was our last meeting before we filed for the I-130/K-3 application. I can really say that it was "too short time" from chatting to meeting to wedding. It took a year for our application to be finally approved and last November 3, 2008 I had my interview. The sad thing was the income of my husband was not really enough because of the current economy (na affected ang work nya). And at that time 3 days before my interview pa sya na hire to another job (and I had his employment certificate with me na scanned and printed). I have 3 kids (from 2 different fathers). And during the interview, the first question of the CO was about my denied tourist visa application year 2002 (which the consul referred as K-1 kasi I was sponsored by a foreigner "friend" na di ko pa na meet at that time and until now...hehehe). She asked me to explain the whole thing and then asked me about the fathers of my children right after that. I explained to her that it was never meant to be and I was honest about the situation of their dads. The dads don't even support my kids even a dime. Then she let me explain how I met my husband and the rest of our lovestory. I did not even told her that I really, really, really love him. All I said was, I want to have a husband and father of my children because all my life I have been hoping someone would come along and love me truly. And he was the only true person to me who loves me as what and who I am. I further told her that my husband and me agreed to met in person as a trial and error thing to see if we really have feelings. But when he saw me, he asked for marriage few hours after. As simple as that, and I was crying in front of her and she was teary-eyed too, said our love story was sweet.

Then she looked on the I-134 with my husband's letter of explanation too about his very low income. After that she asked some questions about my kids, said few nice comments on my wedding dress and BOOM... she said I am approved! I was crying and told her I did not expect she will approve me because of my husband's low income on the tax returns the other year (nakipagtalo pa sa approval ha? hahahaha!). All she said was, you are educated/professional, it will not be hard for you to work in the US, so you will not be a public charge. I was crying all the way outside the room...crazy! Now, mag 3 months na ako dito sa US 9di ko pa dinala mga kids ko) and is missing Philippines so much. You are right, God has a plan for everything. Baka it's not your time pa. I did not expect talaga na ma approve ako because of the financial situation of my husband at that time. I asked God for a sign about the approval and He showed me the sign dahil na approved ako. Meaning, it was meant to be. He has a purpose for all things that happen to us. Sya lang talaga ang nakakaalam ano ang para sa mga buhay natin. So, keep believing that the right time has yet to come. "Good things comes to those who patiently wait." God bless and sana ma overcome mo ito in the next few days.

[SuperDuper! 230]

Tell you husband to cancel his first petition.

He should work hard to make his income above poverty line.

Your husband should visit you again here in the Philippines

He should petition you again and your husband should be with you during your next interview.

Yes, all it takes is a simple letter to cancel your petition. Send one copy of letter to USCIS/ NVC / USEM, and they will send letter back acknowledging your request.

That is all it takes. So hubby didnt take 10 minutes to send out the letters? Minor error, major mistake, the old saying goes...Cheers.

Edited June 7, 2009 by itzallgood

[j_e_w_e_l_l_y_n 0]

I am very upset with your situation. I'm so sad for what had happened to you.

I just don't understand why you signed a statement to cancel k3 and k4 application. It would mean to them that you agreed with everything they told you, that you just married for paperworks. I think if you really love your husband and wanted to be with him for the rest of your life, you should have not given up. You should have fought for your love and by telling them that you have the every right to be with you husband and they have no right to ban you for telling them the truth! I think they were just playing some psychological games here.

I honestly have no idea what you could do now since petitions were already cancelled. Maybe contact Michael Gurfinkel. He might be able to help you in this situation.

I am not wanting you to give up. I'm sure there are ways to solve this issue. YOU DESERVE TO BE WITH YOUR HUSBAND!!!

[DEDixon 39]

Hi to you! I'm sad of your experience. That was my biggest fear also before my interview. I think the problem lies on the active petition of your husband to another woman which he did not cancel. Kasi I had the same situation to yours (except sa petition for another woman ha), my husband and I chatted for 4 months,and he went to the Philippines and married me after 10 days of our first meeting (kasi 10 days ang pag post sa Civil registrar sa marriage application, di ba?). He stayed for a total of 21 days that first meeting, wedding included and he flew back sa US. After 6 months he flew back to Philippines for another 21 days and that was our last meeting before we filed for the I-130/K-3 application. I can really say that it was "too short time" from chatting to meeting to wedding. It took a year for our application to be finally approved and last November 3, 2008 I had my interview. The sad thing was the income of my husband was not really enough because of the current economy (na affected ang work nya). And at that time 3 days before my interview pa sya na hire to another job (and I had his employment certificate with me na scanned and printed). I have 3 kids (from 2 different fathers). And during the interview, the first question of the CO was about my denied tourist visa application year 2002 (which the consul referred as K-1 kasi I was sponsored by a foreigner "friend" na di ko pa na meet at that time and until now...hehehe). She asked me to explain the whole thing and then asked me about the fathers of my children right after that. I explained to her that it was never meant to be and I was honest about the situation of their dads. The dads don't even support my kids even a dime. Then she let me explain how I met my husband and the rest of our lovestory. I did not even told her that I really, really, really love him. All I said was, I want to have a husband and father of my children because all my life I have been hoping someone would come along and love me truly. And he was the only true person to me who loves me as what and who I am. I further told her that my husband and me agreed to met in person as a trial and error thing to see if we really have feelings. But when he saw me, he asked for marriage few hours after. As simple as that, and I was crying in front of her and she was teary-eyed too, said our love story was sweet.

Then she looked on the I-134 with my husband's letter of explanation too about his very low income. After that she asked some questions about my kids, said few nice comments on my wedding dress and BOOM... she said I am approved! I was crying and told her I did not expect she will approve me because of my husband's low income on the tax returns the other year (nakipagtalo pa sa approval ha? hahahaha!). All she said was, you are educated/professional, it will not be hard for you to work in the US, so you will not be a public charge. I was crying all the way outside the room...crazy! Now, mag 3 months na ako dito sa US 9di ko pa dinala mga kids ko) and is missing Philippines so much. You are right, God has a plan for everything. Baka it's not your time pa. I did not expect talaga na ma approve ako because of the financial situation of my husband at that time. I asked God for a sign about the approval and He showed me the sign dahil na approved ako. Meaning, it was meant to be. He has a purpose for all things that happen to us. Sya lang talaga ang nakakaalam ano ang para sa mga buhay natin. So, keep believing that the right time has yet to come. "Good things comes to those who patiently wait." God bless and sana ma overcome mo ito in the next few days.

Great story.... good luck to your family, God bless!

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

Forever Love,

It's back to the drawing board for you and your husband. You're gonna have to start all over again if you really want to be reunited in the United States. It's pretty tough, but you got the ace in the hole -- you're married. Be optimistic. If there's a will, there's a way. Don't lose hope.