Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part15)

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

sus, see I was doing very well, then you come with the crazy EMOTIONS, now, I'm cracking up again...cho man

[IrieCat 2]

Philly; how are the boys today

Ok got busy again at work and trying to catch up again!

thanks for asking Lawny

Well it seemed to get worse! When I got in last night the boys were at my Moms, she got wind of the foolnish and she had them washing all her animals. When they got home my Hubby was painting so they decided to help and basically mad a mess so I was upset and Hubby took time to clean it up and calmed me down cause he knows I am seriously stressed. We were supposed to have a family meeting last night but I didn't feel well so I went to sleep and I know its the stress.

This morning my Youngest told me he didn't have school? wha deh raas? Of course he had school and I basically had to drag him out the house but he was going no matter what. My Oldest didn't give me any trouble at all he was up dressed and out the door to get his bus but didn't utter a word to me at all. I lectured my youngest all the way to North Philly about his behavior and he just gave me the look all the way there......

My Mother tried to talk to them and she said they are really trying to test my Hubby, but they need to see what a Good man is and take notice and this is something they have never seen since their Dad is a DEADBEAT!!! So we talked about sending them to Haiti for the summer, it has calmed down there with the unrest and I feel comfortable sending them now. This will be any opener and they will really see what a hard life is since they are so miserable in my house B) ! I was their age when my Mom 1st sent me to the bush and trust me it was an eye opener. When I went to Jamaica to meet my Dad's family the same year in the country I thought it was Disney Land LOL so Haiti it is!

The only issue is I was able to get my Oldest son accepted into a program for summer that will pay him a stipend of $1200.00 for 6 weeks and I would hate for him to miss that opportunity. I can always send him right before school starts though. Something has got to give, I understand their emotions are all over the place with the new change but I will not tolerate the disrespect.

But you know I put the crock pot of beans on today right I ain't playing!

I also want to thank all the VJ Yardie Mommas out there that offered me suggestions ( Even though DADA trying to get me to catch a case LMAO ) and shared their issues as well and didn't pass judgment on me for the way I was handling my children. Everyone's situation is different and no ones family is perfect and I appreciate all of you for listening

This is been a tough one with us too. I have 1 daughter.. she is 7. She and Louis got along GREAT in SLU, she cried when he wasnt here... but now it is stressful sometimes cause they argue. She does not listen to him and he is always getting on her about everything. I tell her she needs to listen, I tell him to cut her some slack.. she is a spolied American girl....

My daughter is going to spend July with her dad and stepmom, I am grateful for the break but I am going to have to "reprogram" her when she gets back. Last time her father told her "Louis isnt your dad, you dont have to listen".. QUestioned her about everything! I think that led to the problems here. I tell her to respect her stepmom and listen and they have no issues on that end... Hopefully when she gets home this time she will behave.. I already had "discussions" with stepmom (she totally backs me up)...anyway fingers crossed...

Philly - good luck with your boys! I can relate, its tough!

[sus 70]

Shem, here's a place that looks nice -

http://www.fortvalleystable.com/

Not sure how far it is from you -

[1luv 1]

Shemmy, you can do horeback riding down my way. You know we have the Black Cowboys/horse riding stable down here.

u are gonna get me FIRED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cant stop laffing

Edited June 5, 2009 by 1luv

[sus 70]

sus, see I was doing very well, then you come with the crazy EMOTIONS, now, I'm cracking up again...cho man

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

This is been a tough one with us too. I have 1 daughter.. she is 7. She and Louis got along GREAT in SLU, she cried when he wasnt here... but now it is stressful sometimes cause they argue. She does not listen to him and he is always getting on her about everything. I tell her she needs to listen, I tell him to cut her some slack.. she is a spolied American girl....

My daughter is going to spend July with her dad and stepmom, I am grateful for the break but I am going to have to "reprogram" her when she gets back. Last time her father told her "Louis isnt your dad, you dont have to listen".. QUestioned her about everything! I think that led to the problems here. I tell her to respect her stepmom and listen and they have no issues on that end... Hopefully when she gets home this time she will behave.. I already had "discussions" with stepmom (she totally backs me up)...anyway fingers crossed...

Philly - good luck with your boys! I can relate, its tough!

Irie; I went through the same thing and this is what I said to my son ; WHO TAKES CARE OF YOU -- and that was it. He loves my husband, but his dad tried to put up a wall, which I quickly tore down. My husband is not is father, but he does take care of him when his father is not around. That was last August, we haven't had any problems since. My son don't even want me dealing with him anymore, because hubby is more fun to play with. I guess I can't play video games or cook like my husband.

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Your troubles are small when you compare others

i ve been married to this person for 3 years, he is US citizen.

i interviewed in may and got visa approval for IR1.

now i ve got problems with him and his family

(they are asking for big dowry and money that i shud bring with me to states)

otherwise he ll take his sponsorship back.

---can he take his sponsorship back at this time.

i cannt divorce him as i donnt want to be cosidered as social outcast in my country.

---shud i got to states on this visa, or he can create problems later on as well.

im new to this forum, a friend suggested this to me.

thank u in advance for all the suggestions>>

[^KK^ 3]

VJ ladies I am typing with tears in my eyes. Hubby and I had a huge fight abt my finances. I am in a lot of debt and I tried to hide it from him. he found out. I dont feel that I should tell him abt them cuz they are NOT his debt. He says he cannot trust me cuz I hide these stuff from him. He cannot help me cuz I make way more than him.

What a coincidence that this happened cuz I see that u ladies are talking abt money and finances!

ETA: if there are any grammatical errors I am sorry. There are tears in my eyes

awh 1luv...sorry so late..but I hope you feel better.

My husband drilled me...and I had to admit how my student loans are high. I could have a brand new car for the price of my loans. I was embarrassed at how high they are. But He did comfort me with reassuring that if I had not gone to college I wouldn't be making how much I make now...and I wouldn't have met him . I was on my spring break.

Hi IrieCat!!!

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

sus, see I was doing very well, then you come with the crazy EMOTIONS, now, I'm cracking up again...cho man

u is a wicked, wicked oomman....

[IrieCat 2]

This is been a tough one with us too. I have 1 daughter.. she is 7. She and Louis got along GREAT in SLU, she cried when he wasnt here... but now it is stressful sometimes cause they argue. She does not listen to him and he is always getting on her about everything. I tell her she needs to listen, I tell him to cut her some slack.. she is a spolied American girl....

My daughter is going to spend July with her dad and stepmom, I am grateful for the break but I am going to have to "reprogram" her when she gets back. Last time her father told her "Louis isnt your dad, you dont have to listen".. QUestioned her about everything! I think that led to the problems here. I tell her to respect her stepmom and listen and they have no issues on that end... Hopefully when she gets home this time she will behave.. I already had "discussions" with stepmom (she totally backs me up)...anyway fingers crossed...

Philly - good luck with your boys! I can relate, its tough!

Irie; I went through the same thing and this is what I said to my son ; WHO TAKES CARE OF YOU -- and that was it. He loves my husband, but his dad tried to put up a wall, which I quickly tore down. My husband is not is father, but he does take care of him when his father is not around. That was last August, we haven't had any problems since. My son don't even want me dealing with him anymore, because hubby is more fun to play with. I guess I can't play video games or cook like my husband.

I need to get Louis a book on parenting... without him getting offended! I try to tell him when T comes to him and says "look what I made!"... even if it is a mess... get a little excited. Make her feel special. He isnt so good at that. He also gets upset when I tell him he needs to "pick his battles". Things get a little better all the time... Both Louis and Tierra are STUBBORN!!! I think they are both 7 sometimes!!

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Your troubles are small when you compare others

i ve been married to this person for 3 years, he is US citizen.

i interviewed in may and got visa approval for IR1.

now i ve got problems with him and his family

(they are asking for big dowry and money that i shud bring with me to states)

otherwise he ll take his sponsorship back.

---can he take his sponsorship back at this time.

i cannt divorce him as i donnt want to be cosidered as social outcast in my country.

---shud i got to states on this visa, or he can create problems later on as well.

im new to this forum, a friend suggested this to me.

thank u in advance for all the suggestions>>

Roxie a wah dis?

[sus 70]

u is a wicked, wicked oomman....

Those weren't wicked -I could be really bad and use something like this....

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

How would you react if this was now your situation? Men and children are the same, one is just a little taller than the other.

[^KK^ 3]

Shemmy, you can do horeback riding down my way. You know we have the Black Cowboys/horse riding stable down here.

u are gonna get me FIRED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cant stop laffing

ya'll crazy...

[JAPrincess 27]

SUS