Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part15)

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Philly; how are the boys today

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Morning, Ladies

My2, congrats to your daughter!

1luv

Now I am a firm believer of keeping finances separate ...

Why, if you don't mind sharing?

Nat, it’s a lot of individualization involved but I guess it has a lot to do with the fact that I am quite the pessimist and am always preparing for the worst. Going through law school taking courses in Wills and Trusts didn’t help. When I finally began to understand the divisional aspects of divorce (even with the existence of a pre/post numpt) it scared the begeezus out of me, so much that I am so afraid of marriage at this point in my life and it is one of the reasons I have been putting it off. I have witnessed divorces where one spouse made more than the other (surprisingly, it was not always the man). I make a good enough salary and so my chances of marrying someone making less than I do I see as almost a given. Also I am a saver and an investor and probably will have more assets so in a divorce it is more likely that I would be paying palimony unless I can establish that the ex is not so financially dependant on me. I have children and my primary goal is always first to secure their future, it’s what I have worked so hard and persevered through odds for. I am dreaded of the possibility of having to take away from them because I would have to take care of someone else that is otherwise healthy and therefore can care for themselves. (Shoot, I have worked 3 jobs and walked 4 miles to and from work to live and get the bills paid.) Then there is also the child support issue. I would flip if someone came after me when I never even sought child support from my own BD and that is a shared responsibility. I have learned that when it comes to personal finances because the arrangements are so much considered in the courts like a business partnership, for my circumstances it is best to keep them separated. Now for daily household items, cable, furniture, items acquired during the marriage, etc. that’s shared. But we will have his car in his name, my car in my name, credit card in his name, mine in my name, taxes filed separately, etc. So I guess it boils down to, for me in case of a divorce,

I am finding it’s the only way I can protect my children future inheritance in the absence of a pre-numpt.

I agree whole heartly.... My husband agreed to sign a pre-nup, and had no problem with it.

[shrewdgal 0]

Shrewdgal, stuff comes on at a certain time on tvJ. You can look at the schedule for days in advance, though. So I know tonight to watch the results from Rising Stars at 8:30pm.

Thanks so much!!!!

... Another thing my friends and I use to do back in the day was go to dry cleaners and asked if they had any plus size clothing that people didn't pick up and if they're willing to sell it to us...the designer suits we were sporting were until. I paid anywhere from $10 - $20 per suit. They were just glad to get rid of them.

Never heard of this before, but that's a great idea!

Just got off the phone with VSC. The lady said my case has been assigned to an officer. I asked how long officers usually take to work their cases. She said she can't give me a timeline. I asked if "officer" meant the same thing as "adjudicator" and she said that all she can say is that it is with a USCIS officer. If I don't hear anything in 30 days, call back. What about 30 minutes? LOL

gosh, I remember those days

Hang in there! It will come..eventually.....even if it does take a year

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Morning, Ladies

My2, congrats to your daughter!

1luv

Now I am a firm believer of keeping finances separate ...

Why, if you don't mind sharing?

Nat, it's a lot of individualization involved but I guess it has a lot to do with the fact that I am quite the pessimist and am always preparing for the worst. Going through law school taking courses in Wills and Trusts didn't help. When I finally began to understand the divisional aspects of divorce (even with the existence of a pre/post numpt) it scared the begeezus out of me, so much that I am so afraid of marriage at this point in my life and it is one of the reasons I have been putting it off. I have witnessed divorces where one spouse made more than the other (surprisingly, it was not always the man). I make a good enough salary and so my chances of marrying someone making less than I do I see as almost a given. Also I am a saver and an investor and probably will have more assets so in a divorce it is more likely that I would be paying palimony unless I can establish that the ex is not so financially dependant on me. I have children and my primary goal is always first to secure their future, it's what I have worked so hard and persevered through odds for. I am dreaded of the possibility of having to take away from them because I would have to take care of someone else that is otherwise healthy and therefore can care for themselves. (Shoot, I have worked 3 jobs and walked 4 miles to and from work to live and get the bills paid.) Then there is also the child support issue. I would flip if someone came after me when I never even sought child support from my own BD and that is a shared responsibility. I have learned that when it comes to personal finances because the arrangements are so much considered in the courts like a business partnership, for my circumstances it is best to keep them separated. Now for daily household items, cable, furniture, items acquired during the marriage, etc. that's shared. But we will have his car in his name, my car in my name, credit card in his name, mine in my name, taxes filed separately, etc. So I guess it boils down to, for me in case of a divorce,

I am finding it's the only way I can protect my children future inheritance in the absence of a pre-numpt.

I agree whole heartly.... My husband agreed to sign a pre-nup, and had no problem with it.

What if he changes his mind?

[NatPatBen 3]

J2A, thanks for sharing your reasons behind that decision. Gives me a few things to think about...

[My4rmylife 0]

Well ladies its been a pleasure talking to you all this morning .. I am off to work ..I know by the time i return i will hve 50 pages to read lol .. hope everyone has a good day .

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Morning, Ladies

My2, congrats to your daughter!

1luv

Now I am a firm believer of keeping finances separate ...

Why, if you don't mind sharing?

Nat, it's a lot of individualization involved but I guess it has a lot to do with the fact that I am quite the pessimist and am always preparing for the worst. Going through law school taking courses in Wills and Trusts didn't help. When I finally began to understand the divisional aspects of divorce (even with the existence of a pre/post numpt) it scared the begeezus out of me, so much that I am so afraid of marriage at this point in my life and it is one of the reasons I have been putting it off. I have witnessed divorces where one spouse made more than the other (surprisingly, it was not always the man). I make a good enough salary and so my chances of marrying someone making less than I do I see as almost a given. Also I am a saver and an investor and probably will have more assets so in a divorce it is more likely that I would be paying palimony unless I can establish that the ex is not so financially dependant on me. I have children and my primary goal is always first to secure their future, it's what I have worked so hard and persevered through odds for. I am dreaded of the possibility of having to take away from them because I would have to take care of someone else that is otherwise healthy and therefore can care for themselves. (Shoot, I have worked 3 jobs and walked 4 miles to and from work to live and get the bills paid.) Then there is also the child support issue. I would flip if someone came after me when I never even sought child support from my own BD and that is a shared responsibility. I have learned that when it comes to personal finances because the arrangements are so much considered in the courts like a business partnership, for my circumstances it is best to keep them separated. Now for daily household items, cable, furniture, items acquired during the marriage, etc. that's shared. But we will have his car in his name, my car in my name, credit card in his name, mine in my name, taxes filed separately, etc. So I guess it boils down to, for me in case of a divorce,

I am finding it's the only way I can protect my children future inheritance in the absence of a pre-numpt.

I agree whole heartly.... My husband agreed to sign a pre-nup, and had no problem with it.

What if he changes his mind?

Changes his mind about what?

[sus 70]

sus; u feel any better

Why you keep asking me, lol - I have felt fine since Tues....

[*JG* 2]

I think it is extremely important to protect yourself for any and all reasons if you see fit. You are smart, girl.

[NatPatBen 3]

sus; u feel any better

Why you keep asking me, lol - I have felt fine since Tues....

:rofl:

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

sus; u feel any better

Why you keep asking me, lol - I have felt fine since Tues....

Sorry, for some reason, I thought you were not feeling well. I'm just slow.

ROXIE; signing the prenup

[newlynluv 0]

newly that kind of story definitely makes you want to choke a badman. Argh!

I went to work today, but was feeling drowsy from sneezing so much, so I called my team lead (in Ecuador) to tell him I needed to go home, take medicine, & sleep it off. Bout to head to ZZzzzzzz-land now.

Im sooooo Jealous feel betta

... mind you Jay called me on his phone which he had international credits last time he told me he was nervous about coming to america because he have no friends or family up here!!! this whole thing is really pissing me off and making me feel a certain type of way towards everyone including Jay!!! That whole thing really turned me off!!!!

I think that what Jay said is very valid. I think anyone would be nervous moving anywhere far away from their family & friends. For some people it's harder than others. When I went to school in Oklahoma, I didn't know anyone up there. Then when I moved to Houston, I only had one aunt here. But I don't need much physical social interaction to feel comfortable - that's what the phone & internet are for. Others I know would go crazy not being able to see their family/friends regularly.

no it wasnt Jay that said that to me it was his friend the last time i was there, my point was you are sooo lonely and want me to hook you up with someone i know but you got international credits on your phone so obviously you are involed with someone in America already!

Hello Good Morning Ladies,

well let me tell yall about a convo that pissed me off yesterday well im speaking to Jay and then i start speaking to his friend that i met before in feb when i met him he was talking to me telling me how he is so in love with his fiance and his fiance is filing for him all this hoopla i thought he was soooo sweet, then when i went to visit in apr me and Jay is at a football game and who i see hugged up with sum random tourist... i knew it was not his fiance that he spoke of because of the way he was acting when i seen him, i went to speak to him and i was going to say oh this is your fiance but from the vibe i caught i did not. so okay im speaking to him yesterday and he is like im lonely i need a friend can you hook me up with somebody you know they don't have to be pretty or young so im like this MOFO i feel bad for whoever is his fiance! I was pissed off and told him to give the phone back to Jay mind you Jay called me on his phone which he had international credits last time he told me he was nervous about coming to america because he have no friends or family up here!!! this whole thing is really pissing me off and making me feel a certain type of way towards everyone including Jay!!! That whole thing really turned me off!!!!

newly; you need to check Jay real quick...let him know you not cool with this....and why the hell is he giving his friend the phone to talk to you...cho, I'd be pissed too....tell di friend fi go situng one side ar fi go dead a bush...better yet, tell im fi GO DEAD A BUSH

ohhhh you already know! i cant wait for him to call me today! i tried to get over it but i woke up still pissed so i know it's a problem, this loser friend of his asking me do i remember him??? im like jacka$$ do you remember me because if you did you would remember telling me you had a fiance!!!! i hate when guys do that ish here talk to my friend ECT and then you have the bloodclott nerve to tell me oh they dont have to be pretty or young i bet your a$$ probably prefer it that way!!!! i did not get a good vibe speaking to them yesterday i felt like a trophy or a accomplishment i dont know why i felt that way but i did and i dont like it one freaking bit....

ladies i know its friday and i did not want to come with the downing story but i had to share how sum ppl can be JERKS!!!

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

sus; u feel any better

Why you keep asking me, lol - I have felt fine since Tues....

Nat; mi slow, sus tek weh mi kahfee

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Tre, Joel has sign the pre-nup, alot of it states that All assest that we each had aquired before our marriage would not be considered if there was a divorce. He has agreed that the beneficary of my life insurance policies will stay as they are, my child. If we want we can aquire additional ones and make each other beneficaries. My 401 and all of my partnership with the family business will not be included in any divorce proceedings.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

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It's time to Celebrate June - National Caribbean-American Heritage Month "Caribbean Americans have made lasting contributions to our Nation's culture and history, and the month of June has been set aside to honor their cultural, linguistic, ethnic, and social diversity.

Generations of immigrants have preserved the traditions of their homelands, and these traditions have defined our Nation's identity. Caribbean Americans bring a unique and vibrant culture. This multilingual and multiethnic tradition has strengthened our social fabric and enriched the diversity of our by President Barack H. Obama

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National Caribbean-Heritage Month is a time to celebrate, recognize, pay tribute and commemorate Caribbean-American Heritage. Indeed it is a time to:

• Celebrate the great contributions of Caribbean-Americans to the economic, social and cultural landscape of the United States.

• Recognize the many contributions of Caribbean immigrants and their decedents to the well-being of America.

• Celebrate the historic relationships between the people of the Caribbean and the people of the United States.

• Pay tribute to the common culture and bonds of friendship that unite the United States and the Caribbean countries. (The vibrancy and hopefulness due to the talent, faith and values of Caribbean-Americans)

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• Recognize how Caribbean-Americans enriches society by being leaders in government, arts, entertainment, sports, fashion, poetry, theatre, in businesses and much more.

During this special month we certainly must appropriately take the time to celebrate us, our culture, contributions and commemorate our heritage and history. To learn more about Caribbean-American Heritage Month and its history log on their site by CLICKING HERE! Additionally to read The entire Proclamation issued by President Barack H. Obama PLEASE CLICK HERE!

As far as events, we have received notices of several taking place during this exciting month in our area. As we receive them we intend to add them to our "Events" Page. So check out our "Events" Page for all the details on what's going on. Additionally, you can check the Caribbean-American Heritage Month's site for the national calendar by clicking the below banner to enter the official website www.caribbeanheritage.org Events -National Calendar page.

June 6, 2009 - Maryland

In Recognition of Caribbean Heritage Month

You are cordially invited to a short program highlighting Caribbean literature and culture

2:00 p.m. at the Silver Spring Public Library on Colesville Road.

Caribbean storytellers and authors will share their work as they showcase and explain Caribbean culture. Participants include Dr. Carmen Bovell (Guyana), Jillian Moore-Quashie (Tobago), Gabriel Christian, Esq. (Dominica), Dr. Brenda DoHarris (Guyana), Dr. Carmen Subryan (Guyana), former Ambassador, Dr. J. Edsel Edmunds (St. Lucia). Please come out and support our Caribbean authors. We know about the Egyptians, Greeks and Romans because they documented their history and wrote about their culture. It's time for us to write and embrace our own history and showcase our cultures. The program is hosted by the Caribbean American Advisory Group in collaboration with the Office of Community Partnerships attached to the Office of the Montgomery County Executive.

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June 8, 2009 - Washington DC

PSA

June 8th, of National Caribbean-American Heritage Month in the United States is an annual observance of National Caribbean American HIV/AIDS Awareness. NCAHAAD is a national mobilization effort designed to encourage Caribbean-American and Caribbean-born individuals, across the United States and its territories, to get educated, get tested, get treated and get involved. It is also a time to reflect, memorialize and show compassion for those infected or affected by HIV/AIDS. It is a day of hope for the future of a Caribbean and Caribbean American community with available preventive health care as a daily part of life and a Caribbean Diaspora free of AIDS