Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part15)

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

I have a friend going through seperation, maybe divorce as well. She is 37, but acting like 22 again. Drinking too much, hanging out with people that have a bad influence on her and just being irresponsible. She is one of my best friends though... I have straight out told her when I think she is being immature and irresponsible. She listened but did nothing about it. Until some of those so called friends came back to bite her in the a$$. They used her to pay for drinks, rides etc....

I would agree with not hanging out with her until she figures it out herself. You were right to leave!! Hopefully she wont end up more self destructing. Maybe you and your other friends should "boycott" her and tell her exactly why you are doing it. Hearing it from everyone may help. She may get mad at you, but you trying to help her out of the situation would be the best thing. You wouldnt want to end up saying "I should have done more"....

i disagree with this. she needs you now more than ever...

yea but at the same time

she needs to keep a safe distance

because she WILL carry her down with her if she gets too caught up

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

LOL. dont worry ladies , am gonna hook u all up ......GIFT CARDS to all

PUSH everyone out di way...mi fus

[IrieCat 2]

Okay, Finesse - I have some dirt or a what would you do situation for you -

One of my friends, who I love to death, has gone through a lot in the past few years (break up of her marriage, etc...) - Her drinking has gotten increasingly out of control - I have spoken to her about it in the past, and she got mad at me - It's not fun to go out with her, cause she can't keep it in control, which means we play babysitter -

Now, Sunday afternoon, we were all out watching the band - I knew she was getting drunk, so I left right when the band started - Another friend of ours emailed me - She ended up driving her home because she found her puking in the alley by the restaurant - Not only that, she was hitting on someone's boyfriend, went off on the band, telling the drummer that he's an f****ng whiteboy who knows nothing about soca, was rude to the waitress and bartender,........... and much worse -

What would you do?

I have a friend going through seperation, maybe divorce as well. She is 37, but acting like 22 again. Drinking too much, hanging out with people that have a bad influence on her and just being irresponsible. She is one of my best friends though... I have straight out told her when I think she is being immature and irresponsible. She listened but did nothing about it. Until some of those so called friends came back to bite her in the a$$. They used her to pay for drinks, rides etc....

I would agree with not hanging out with her until she figures it out herself. You were right to leave!! Hopefully she wont end up more self destructing. Maybe you and your other friends should "boycott" her and tell her exactly why you are doing it. Hearing it from everyone may help. She may get mad at you, but you trying to help her out of the situation would be the best thing. You wouldnt want to end up saying "I should have done more"....

i disagree with this. she needs you now more than ever...

Your right Finesse ....Maybe I should have said, boycotting going out with her. Of course let her know you are there for her, but you dont want to be in the situation where she is drinking and acting a fool

[dillon 6]

Sus is this the same one that is going on the trip with you? The one that made you change all rooming plans?

[dancehallquana 5]

yes jawi.. i had actually been sent some pics of tevin campbell some years ago and he looked worse, he must have cleaned up a bit for his performance..he is my age i think..DANG!!! hard living i guess..

[phillyfashionista 8]

Alright...I feel better....she left her wallet at home and need it to get out of the garage to go back home to pick it up. But she lives far

riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight

[*JG* 2]

Some little Jamaican guy. He was hanging around the guy with the loud brown pinstripe suit on.

I am cracking up over here! He had dreads right? He is not Jamaican AT ALL! LOL he is actually the pastors son and the guy with the loud brown pinstripe suit is his uncle. Thank you for the laugh today! The blurry picture explains everything!

Yep. That was him.

[phillyfashionista 8]

Okay, Finesse - I have some dirt or a what would you do situation for you -

One of my friends, who I love to death, has gone through a lot in the past few years (break up of her marriage, etc...) - Her drinking has gotten increasingly out of control - I have spoken to her about it in the past, and she got mad at me - It's not fun to go out with her, cause she can't keep it in control, which means we play babysitter -

Now, Sunday afternoon, we were all out watching the band - I knew she was getting drunk, so I left right when the band started - Another friend of ours emailed me - She ended up driving her home because she found her puking in the alley by the restaurant - Not only that, she was hitting on someone's boyfriend, went off on the band, telling the drummer that he's an f****ng whiteboy who knows nothing about soca, was rude to the waitress and bartender,........... and much worse -

What would you do?

Stop hanging out with her.

( she is desperately seeking attention and acting out)

[finesse 3]

So it seems like everytime I talk to u ladies something good happens .

I was talking to u guys when I found out I was approved

I was talking to u guys this morning when I went to throw out trash and check my mailbox:

I received my GREEN CARD TODAY

Guess I just need to keep talking to u ladies and go buy the powerball

[dancehallquana 5]

finesse that is TERRIBLE bout u friend.. so sad.. i know u must feel like u should have done something, but truss mi when we are have these times in our life that create self destructive behavior NO ONE can coax u out.. it has to be a personal decison to overcome that depression or that hurt..

so sorry my gyal that she had to go thru that WOW

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Okay, Finesse - I have some dirt or a what would you do situation for you -

One of my friends, who I love to death, has gone through a lot in the past few years (break up of her marriage, etc...) - Her drinking has gotten increasingly out of control - I have spoken to her about it in the past, and she got mad at me - It's not fun to go out with her, cause she can't keep it in control, which means we play babysitter -

Now, Sunday afternoon, we were all out watching the band - I knew she was getting drunk, so I left right when the band started - Another friend of ours emailed me - She ended up driving her home because she found her puking in the alley by the restaurant - Not only that, she was hitting on someone's boyfriend, went off on the band, telling the drummer that he's an f****ng whiteboy who knows nothing about soca, was rude to the waitress and bartender,........... and much worse -

What would you do?

I have a friend going through seperation, maybe divorce as well. She is 37, but acting like 22 again. Drinking too much, hanging out with people that have a bad influence on her and just being irresponsible. She is one of my best friends though... I have straight out told her when I think she is being immature and irresponsible. She listened but did nothing about it. Until some of those so called friends came back to bite her in the a$$. They used her to pay for drinks, rides etc....

I would agree with not hanging out with her until she figures it out herself. You were right to leave!! Hopefully she wont end up more self destructing. Maybe you and your other friends should "boycott" her and tell her exactly why you are doing it. Hearing it from everyone may help. She may get mad at you, but you trying to help her out of the situation would be the best thing. You wouldnt want to end up saying "I should have done more"....

i disagree with this. she needs you now more than ever...

finesse, that doesn't work for everyone. I learned a very long time ago, that you have to give people time and space. You can beat yourself up all you want when trying to help a person, but if they don't want it or they don't want to accept the fact that they have a problem it's not going to work.

Imagine, being 20 years old and your friend who is 10 years older than you, a professional, educated, married with 3 kids, strung out on crack...never been in trouble a day in her life, but one hit off a crack pipe and she was hooked. Was it wrong to walk away from her, after many years of trying to help her?

[finesse 3]

So it seems like everytime I talk to u ladies something good happens .

I was talking to u guys when I found out I was approved

I was talking to u guys this morning when I went to throw out trash and check my mailbox:

I received my GREEN CARD TODAY

Guess I just need to keep talking to u ladies and go buy the powerball

congrats mrs jeffs!!!

see finesse we mussi keep di good vibes.. good tings appen!

all my stars are aligned right now too, but never fear drama is always near..

mi always ready fi it!

LOL. dont worry ladies , am gonna hook u all up ......GIFT CARDS to all :lol:

[Shemmy 4]

No, Shemmy, don't know him. Just found out about Nyo or howeveh im name spell...tink a Neyo...mi no really care fi di new singers, I'm an old head, have always been from a child my parents would laugh and still do when they come over and hear me playing;

Desmond Dekker, Alton Ellis, John Holt, Pulto Nash, Jimmy Cliff, Toots, Delroy Wilson...mi no know, but R&B no suit mi

Ok..I knows because my daughter and Damien watch videos all the time. I'll rather listen to R&B than rap...most days.

Does anyone know a group called Ting Tings??

yep..."shut up and let me go"

Thanks Shrewdie. Their song "That's Not My Name" or something like that has been stuck in my since the No Doubt with Gwen Stefani concert

[finesse 3]

finesse that is TERRIBLE bout u friend.. so sad.. i know u must feel like u should have done something, but truss mi when we are have these times in our life that create self destructive behavior NO ONE can coax u out.. it has to be a personal decison to overcome that depression or that hurt..

so sorry my gyal that she had to go thru that WOW

i know, but I cannot help but feel guilty....

[sus 70]

Okay, Finesse - I have some dirt or a what would you do situation for you -

One of my friends, who I love to death, has gone through a lot in the past few years (break up of her marriage, etc...) - Her drinking has gotten increasingly out of control - I have spoken to her about it in the past, and she got mad at me - It's not fun to go out with her, cause she can't keep it in control, which means we play babysitter -

Now, Sunday afternoon, we were all out watching the band - I knew she was getting drunk, so I left right when the band started - Another friend of ours emailed me - She ended up driving her home because she found her puking in the alley by the restaurant - Not only that, she was hitting on someone's boyfriend, went off on the band, telling the drummer that he's an f****ng whiteboy who knows nothing about soca, was rude to the waitress and bartender,........... and much worse -

What would you do?

I have a friend going through seperation, maybe divorce as well. She is 37, but acting like 22 again. Drinking too much, hanging out with people that have a bad influence on her and just being irresponsible. She is one of my best friends though... I have straight out told her when I think she is being immature and irresponsible. She listened but did nothing about it. Until some of those so called friends came back to bite her in the a$$. They used her to pay for drinks, rides etc....

I would agree with not hanging out with her until she figures it out herself. You were right to leave!! Hopefully she wont end up more self destructing. Maybe you and your other friends should "boycott" her and tell her exactly why you are doing it. Hearing it from everyone may help. She may get mad at you, but you trying to help her out of the situation would be the best thing. You wouldnt want to end up saying "I should have done more"....

Sus is this the same one that is going on the trip with you? The one that made you change all rooming plans?

Yep, same friend going on the trip - She desperately wants to come to Jamaica with me - Which I have flat out said NO WAY NO HOW too -

I don't hang out with her as much as I used to - But the problem is that there is a group of us who are friends, and it puts my cousin in the middle of it all - I forwarded the email to my cousin so that she could see how outta control it got after we left, and said we need to do an intervention - so we'll talk about it later.

It's a hard thing to watch your friends go through - and I know how hard the end of a relationship is - But she is just as much at fault as he is, neither of them have filed for divorce - She's so outta control in more ways then just drinking - men too - I am afraid that she is going to be the reverse of your friend, Finesse, and be the one that gets hurt -

I am honestly stuck - I think that my other friends are finally reaching the point that I reached a while back where they have had enough - but it remains to be seen what my cousin thinks about it -

I thought about going to her parents, but they are enablers and it would just make the situation worse -

Hopefully it will be talked about before we go to Ocean City - But I am making it 100% clear that I am not babysitting her at all, and will leave her if she is acting like that -