Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part15)

[Shemmy 4]

Good morning!

Morning

[My4rmylife 0]

Good morning ladies ... hope every ones weekend went well.. I am not feeling well i have a migraine that is out of this world...

i love reading all your stories of adjustment and situations that you guys are going through. Cause it good to know that someone else is feeling what your feeling or going through what you have been through...

[sus 70]

Morning all!

Nat - I am really not that good about going to the gym, lol- I used to be and am trying to get back there - but I skip more than I go right now..

I went to see the Hangover last night - I can't remember the last time I laughed so hard at a movie!

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Hungry????

[yankeesgirl79 0]

Hungry????

YUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM i am hungry now.......

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

[^KK^ 3]

Yes..I'm hungry...

[finesse 3]

I got a PM the other day about my process, so I figured I'd update my siggy and let yall know I filed for a non contest divorce that was finalized in April. We haven't spoken in a year and a half so I just didn't see the point in staying legally married just so I may be able to help him try again next year. He sent back the divorce papers with a love letter that I'd sent him a week after we got married....such a loser. Since I left, he's never had anything nice to say to me. I guess he's still bitter.

I'm just glad this chapter is officially closed.

Congrats on all the successful visas and marriages and good luck to all of you still in this process....you'll get through it!

i remember your situation. you used to be on here a lot when i was in 2007.

thank you for sharing. best wishes on a fresh start!

[finesse 3]

I would love to hear from people like KK & Irie. Couples who have come a long way from the 90 days...

Did you get married right away?

Did you fight a lot at first? (I understand the adjustment can cause added pressure)

JAPrincess - We got married after 60 days. We weren't really waiting on the adjustment period...just a time that I could get off from work..I was in the middle of my busy season at work (12-14 hour days). We had been together 5 years before we filed.....not that time means anything..

I'm realizing that we are not fighters. Fortunely, I didn't grow up seeing my parents fight..so my expectation is that we should never get physical. We have disagreements...but one of us usually gives in to the other one. We cool off then come back and discuss with no arguing. Indecent language is not allowed. ....7 years in March and not one curse word (out loud...hahahaha). We are very open to each other and I always knows if something I do or doing is bothering him...same for me I tell him about any issues I may have.

Like I said in the adjustment thread, I think I was the one that had to get use to the adjustment. I went from living alone and only having to think of myself to having a husband living together. It was different when he was in Jamaica and I was here...Still...living alone per se. I just had to get use to not thinking of myself. Then again..he lived alone in Jamaica too.

I really wish everyone on the VJ site the best. I realize that no two relationships will ever be the same. Although, my marriage doesn't have any huge problems...I enjoy reading books about Marriage to get tips to work through issues. Love Dare is awesome and I will be giving that book as a gift at every wedding I attend.

Evening, All

I just got back from a pool party, luau-themed. It was fun. Later I'm going to PlayDate Houston. Has anyone heard of it/been before in their cities? It's $10 to go & play all kinds of games: chess, twister, uno, taboo, monopoly, and many more.

This will be my first time, but if it's as fun as it sounds, I may go back every month.

I think Quana...or someone else post this a while back...could've been you.

I'm waiting on it to come to Baltimore or DC. Sounds like fun!!!

I totally feel you on this one KK.

[^KK^ 3]

Question: "What is 'KK'? Is This is an Online Swear Word?"

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The kk expression, like many other Internet expressions, is part of online conversation culture.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Hey KK, did you go to Carnival?? It was ok, hung out by my friend's sound system for the afternoon...

[finesse 3]

Morning, All. Congratulations, Dillon!

on the plus side of that i get to work the jazz festival this evening so im sure work wont be so hard to deal with....

Sounds fun, my2! Have a great day.

good news ladies!

NEW INTERVIEW DATE SCHEDULED: July 17 8 am!

this is the one

Great news! I bet he'll be EXTRA sure to make that interview day go as smoothly as possible.

Me and my boo are doing OK, whoever said this was going to be easy, was lying. It has even gotten to the point of almost cancelling the wedding, but for now its still on. I am praying on it.

That's good that your current boss sounds like he'll/she'll cooperate with you looking for a job. Not all are like that.

When I mentioned to one of my good friends last weekend that I'll want to go to JoP as soon as Steven gets here, so we can file for EAD/AOS as soon as possible, she suggested using at least part of the 90 days to get to know each other more and see how we get along when together for more than a week at a time. From reading your post, Lovesponge, I can see the benefits of not rushing to get married the first day possible. Hmm. I'll put some thought into that.

Nat I thought the same thing, my original date was in june. Then I thought about getting to know each other on a living together level first and I think thats what the govt had in mind as well when they came up with K1 and the 90 days "trial period". I am gonna be completely honest with you because I believe we are all here to help each other out in any way throughout this whole process. We argue ALOT and i mean over stupid stuff. Some of it is me i must admit I am 30 years old and have never lived with a man before so I am very private and cant stand anyone telleng me what to do or being in my personal space. Some of it is him, he has a very short temper and is kind of selfish. We are happy at the end of the day but trust me it is a loooooong day. I have prayed on it and will continue to use God as my only mentour because if it was up to family and friends we would have broken up a long time ago and I would be devastated.

My advise is use that time to get to know each others living habits, likes, dislikes, what pushes each others buttons and what doesnt break your relationship will only make it stronger. One day at a time.

I think it is JG who is always saying on here (especially to those of you who are struggling with waiting for your SO to get there) that the real test of the strength of your relationship is when your SO is HERE with you...the waiting is nothing compared to that. And I couldn't agree more. Some have an easier time than others but I think you would be hard pressed to find someone that said their adjustment was a breeze.

Thanks for sharing Lovesponge. I had a hard time "sharing" at first too..

Edited June 28, 2009 by finesse

[^KK^ 3]

Hey KK, did you go to Carnival?? It was ok, hung out by my friend's sound system for the afternoon...

Does slowly driving through count? I got there around 4:30 and just sat and rode around looking for parking...couldn't find anything close...so I head back to baltimore.

[My4rmylife 0]

Today has been a rest day. I am thankful i was given this day .. i have been resting up from all my busy week and weekend back to work tomorrow