Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part15)

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Yardie; a ow much obeah ooman it tek fi call u?

Mi nah really knoa...mussi whole heap. Mi juss need fi tek wan likkle break fram everyting an mi did sick fi wan good while dat kept mi away fram deh computa. Now mi good so si mi ere. Yuh alright wid dat?

mi no know yet...mi miss u still.

I forgot to tell you ladies, but the guy that hit my cousin and killed her when she was 8 months pregnant back in May was allowed to leave Jamaica and fly to the US...someone please explain this to me. They said there was no need to keep him in jail, since the accident was being investigated. It's June, how much investigation do you need to do.

#######!!!!! How does this happen??? Don't you have to get a police report to travel?

I thought so to, but the boy has never been in trouble before and he has a student visa, so mi no know.

[*JG* 2]

Hey all..so KPH has now sent my granny home AGAIN to have surgery to remove her breast..she has breast cancer..i'm livid right now...these ppl are playing with others lives...WhyTF would u schedule someone and then tell them you have no space or WHATEVA the Fing excuse is this time....

sigh sigh sigh

Ok..Jgay..is there any truth to this?

WTH could he be feeling that would make him say this? He sees you and ur family have a fantastic relationship and he knows MAYBE some of ur decisions u consult with them? I don't get it..have a serious talk...AND DONT U DARE MOVE AWAY FROM THEM UNLESS YOU HAVE TO!!

You see it, Kimmy? I've heard so many stories about isolation leading to horrible consequences.

[wakeywakeup 1]

Hey yardies!!!!

Hope all is well!

[finesse 3]

I have a question....How would you feel if your SO wants to have nothing to do with your part of the family...and your family did nothing to him to show that they have anything against him...but your SO said he "feels" it and doesn't have to see it...and then says that sometimes he wished they lived far away from your family so they don't have to see their baby.....

Any response will be highly appreciated...Thanxs

I'd say he's a controlling ####### trying to seperate you from your family. Be VERY weary of that.

But, then again, I am jaded.

He's not controlling cause he never stopped me from being around my family but if my family has any functions he wouldn't want to go or if they come over he would just stay in the bedroom or go outside....

I'm not really 100% family person but when they have functions i will go or go visit my parents like one day on the weekends or something and i have a twin brother so sometimes he will have dinners over his house and i would go but he would always say he doesn't feel comfortable being around my fam...

A little background: I kinda blame myself because my fam is kinda snottie....my mother thinks if you are not a doctor, lawyer, or haitian, you are nothing...so i just told my husband that my mom is like that but when she does finally get to know you she is a very cool, nice person....and my brother could act pretty snottie too...like he's sh*t don't stink...so i just pre-warning him just in case they do act a way...and pretty much too that our whole marriage thing was a secret until he came up here so i was like they might feel a way about that too....

So he has this in his heart and won't even give them a chance...I tell him that my fam is so over the whole marriage thing especially since now that i am pregnant that he just need to be more social when they are around...I'm not asking him to call or go over the house but when they are around just act a little more sociable....he will say hi but that is about it and will then leave the room...

I just want him to give them a chance...

Sorry took so long to post my boss keep coming in my cubicle....

can't really blame him for feeling that way then. but he should still be willing to give it a shot if he knows it is important to you...

[sus 70]

#######!!!!! How does this happen??? Don't you have to get a police report to travel?

I thought so to, but the boy has never been in trouble before and he has a student visa, so mi no know.

If he already had a visa, he wouldn't need another police report - Plus, we all know there are ways to get one if you need it...

[DaDa 1]

Yardie; a ow much obeah ooman it tek fi call u?

Mi nah really knoa...mussi whole heap. Mi juss need fi tek wan likkle break fram everyting an mi did sick fi wan good while dat kept mi away fram deh computa. Now mi good so si mi ere. Yuh alright wid dat?

mi no know yet...mi miss u still.

I forgot to tell you ladies, but the guy that hit my cousin and killed her when she was 8 months pregnant back in May was allowed to leave Jamaica and fly to the US...someone please explain this to me. They said there was no need to keep him in jail, since the accident was being investigated. It's June, how much investigation do you need to do.

Wow are you freaking serious!!! What happened to staying in the country until your proven innocent which you were not!!! What about all the witness and such all that means nothing?? With him being in the US we all know he’s not going to go back!! I know you and your family is on fire!!!!!

[newlynluv 0]

btw legz has she seen any specialists?

mek sure dem student doctors up at uwi nuh turn har inna one experiment

my freind had kidney problems and dem same dr up a uwi wanted to operate on her

when she went to see a specialist he prescribed medicine and the problem eventually cleared up

so be careful and make sure they don't carry out unnecessary procedures on her just so they can charge you extra

my prayers are with her

thnx guys..i'm praying

she just saw the doc from KPH..

even at KPH she had 50million student docs doing all sorts a tings..mi really sorry mi no dere

oh i remember when i was in the hospital for a week those student docs annoy the ish outta me waking you the hell up for nothing and can never give any damn answers!!!

I have a question....How would you feel if your SO wants to have nothing to do with your part of the family...and your family did nothing to him to show that they have anything against him...but your SO said he "feels" it and doesn't have to see it...and then says that sometimes he wished they lived far away from your family so they don't have to see their baby.....

Any response will be highly appreciated...Thanxs

I'd say he's a controlling ####### trying to seperate you from your family. Be VERY weary of that.

But, then again, I am jaded.

He's not controlling cause he never stopped me from being around my family but if my family has any functions he wouldn't want to go or if they come over he would just stay in the bedroom or go outside....

I'm not really 100% family person but when they have functions i will go or go visit my parents like one day on the weekends or something and i have a twin brother so sometimes he will have dinners over his house and i would go but he would always say he doesn't feel comfortable being around my fam...

A little background: I kinda blame myself because my fam is kinda snottie....my mother thinks if you are not a doctor, lawyer, or haitian, you are nothing...so i just told my husband that my mom is like that but when she does finally get to know you she is a very cool, nice person....and my brother could act pretty snottie too...like he's sh*t don't stink...so i just pre-warning him just in case they do act a way...and pretty much too that our whole marriage thing was a secret until he came up here so i was like they might feel a way about that too....

So he has this in his heart and won't even give them a chance...I tell him that my fam is so over the whole marriage thing especially since now that i am pregnant that he just need to be more social when they are around...I'm not asking him to call or go over the house but when they are around just act a little more sociable....he will say hi but that is about it and will then leave the room...

I just want him to give them a chance...

Sorry took so long to post my boss keep coming in my cubicle....

Wow it's not right for your family to act that way but everybody act's differently it’s just life sum ppl way of thinking is warped! that’s like my grandma she is a old school down south grandma and she have her thoughts about fat ppl, dark ppl, light ppl, foreigners, young, old, rich, poor ect... I love her to death but she is a lil crazy! for the longest i had to deal with ohhhh lawwddd Tia what you doing eating the whole damn fridge this don’t make no sense humm here take these water, grapefruit, and vinegar pills I ordered for you! oh and my poor lil brother is dark skinned and til this day she would be like it's no way kendell can be that dark that aint nothing but dirt lmao (okay it’s not funny) but these are the things we have got accustomed to because she is our family I just brush her off and be like okay so what ur cooking? but anyways you should of never told him that about ur family you should of let him meet them and draw his own conclusions... this might be a bad example but that's like you telling ur hubby all your girlfriend business and then get mad when he don’t want you to hang out with her....

[*JG* 2]

I have a question....How would you feel if your SO wants to have nothing to do with your part of the family...and your family did nothing to him to show that they have anything against him...but your SO said he "feels" it and doesn't have to see it...and then says that sometimes he wished they lived far away from your family so they don't have to see their baby.....

Any response will be highly appreciated...Thanxs

I'd say he's a controlling ####### trying to seperate you from your family. Be VERY weary of that.

But, then again, I am jaded.

He's not controlling cause he never stopped me from being around my family but if my family has any functions he wouldn't want to go or if they come over he would just stay in the bedroom or go outside....

I'm not really 100% family person but when they have functions i will go or go visit my parents like one day on the weekends or something and i have a twin brother so sometimes he will have dinners over his house and i would go but he would always say he doesn't feel comfortable being around my fam...

A little background: I kinda blame myself because my fam is kinda snottie....my mother thinks if you are not a doctor, lawyer, or haitian, you are nothing...so i just told my husband that my mom is like that but when she does finally get to know you she is a very cool, nice person....and my brother could act pretty snottie too...like he's sh*t don't stink...so i just pre-warning him just in case they do act a way...and pretty much too that our whole marriage thing was a secret until he came up here so i was like they might feel a way about that too....

So he has this in his heart and won't even give them a chance...I tell him that my fam is so over the whole marriage thing especially since now that i am pregnant that he just need to be more social when they are around...I'm not asking him to call or go over the house but when they are around just act a little more sociable....he will say hi but that is about it and will then leave the room...

I just want him to give them a chance...

Sorry took so long to post my boss keep coming in my cubicle....

I get it. Really I do. And, your pre-warning probably didn't help his feelings. But, to alienate the entire family is not the way to go if you want to still see them.

My concern is what if he decides one day he doesn't like your friends?

It's fine if that's how he wants to be and you can accept it and find a happy median for you. Just be careful what you do with this.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

#######!!!!! How does this happen??? Don't you have to get a police report to travel?

I thought so to, but the boy has never been in trouble before and he has a student visa, so mi no know.

If he already had a visa, he wouldn't need another police report - Plus, we all know there are ways to get one if you need it...

so TRUE

[J2A♥oasis 2]

#######!!!!! How does this happen??? Don't you have to get a police report to travel?

I thought so to, but the boy has never been in trouble before and he has a student visa, so mi no know.

If he already had a visa, he wouldn't need another police report - Plus, we all know there are ways to get one if you need it...

Yeah but they didn't check for that when he became a person of interest. (Of course I am trying not to apply our system of justice to theirs, though this happens here to.) Still I have to believe justice will prevail although it's slow sometimes coming.

[DaDa 1]

LOL DaDA I'm trying to catch up with yuh Sis on the platinum status!

Sis you know I empathize with you, its rough on us Mom's and the family when you want to introduce any type of change. I know the boys love us but dang why you have to put us through all of this drama behind their out of control emotions! I mean basically we know they emotional throw down is because they Love us but we have to make so many sacrifices to take care of them and we have to sacrifice our happiness too?

At least he got it off his chest right away though so you know the deal and what to expect!

To answer your question I am definitely learning that nothing is ever easy

I know but is the love for a mother different with a daughter than it is with a son? I mean growing up granted I lived in a two parent household but I never had plans of staying with my mom. I knew as soon as I could I was Outtie 5000. Now of course looking back my fass rass should have stayed home a lot longer than, maybe I wouldn’t be in this financial mess I’m in now but still I was out. My son talks as if he never plans on us separating and you know what’s crazy I’m not one of those over protective moms that is always there for her son and baby him. We never bathed together he never slept in my bed I don’t do everything with him so its really boggles me. I mean I’m there for him you’ll see me at every football game and I take him to all his activities and I’m involved with his schooling and I root him on but man you would think we were attached at the hip.

I agree I sacrifice so much for him its crazy and as mothers that is expected but there is only so much I’m willing to sacrifice. Shoot momma needs love too and not the kind my son can provide. I told him one day he’ll meet some fass hussie and he’ll be leaving me with the quickness and what am I’m supposed to do sit in the house and be lonely I don’t think so. That is when he told me it will be me, him and his fass hussie. After I told him to watch his mouth I was like no sir rie it won’t.

[sus 70]

Yeah but they didn't check for that when he became a person of interest. (Of course I am trying not to apply our system of justice to theirs, though this happens here to.) Still I have to believe justice will prevail although it's slow sometimes coming.

Oh, J2 - You can't even begin to apply our system to theirs - I have seen some truly appalling things happen - And probably, the police should have taken his passport when he was arrested - But a little moola the right direction.... oops, they forgot to take it - It's disgusting how the system down there works (or doesn't) -

Footnote - Not bashing all cops / judges / etc.... - I know there are some good ones. Unfortunately, there are far too many bad ones that are getting away with stuff, and giving all a bad name.

[DaDa 1]

awww i just read something soo sooo sweet

this may cheer some of us up ---> http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...p;#entry3032554

so heart felt

That story was so beautiful, truly warmed my heart!

This story was really sweet and did anyone click on the pics of the two of them? If so did you notice that his wife is... aww heck never mind!

[StoneLove4Ever 0]

Thanks everyone....Everyone who inputted made some really valued points...Dada your sister wife is exactly how my brother's wife is...she is also Jamaican and she first came across as stand offish (i think thats the word you used)...she still does but she has been married to my brother for 8 yrs and we have known her for 10yrs so we just know that is her personality...but she talks with my mom and stuff and they have a good relationship...but husband is like what Yaads describe with her hubby in the beginning...he is not use to our stories and our joking around and stuff...so he did say he feel out of place...

I asked him why he made that comment about moving far away from my mom and he said because he felt a way becasue my son told us that he went back to my mom and told her that we argue and stuff...so he felt embarrassed... ...

So i guess i will just leave it alone and let him come around...but he will never tell me to "disown" my family...he just doesn't feel like being around them himself...

[Shemmy 4]

Wow it's not right for your family to act that way but everybody act's differently it’s just life sum ppl way of thinking is warped! that’s like my grandma she is a old school down south grandma and she have her thoughts about fat ppl, dark ppl, light ppl, foreigners, young, old, rich, poor ect... I love her to death but she is a lil crazy! for the longest i had to deal with ohhhh lawwddd Tia what you doing eating the whole damn fridge this don’t make no sense humm here take these water, grapefruit, and vinegar pills I ordered for you! oh and my poor lil brother is dark skinned and til this day she would be like it's no way kendell can be that dark that aint nothing but dirt lmao (okay it’s not funny) but these are the things we have got accustomed to because she is our family I just brush her off and be like okay so what ur cooking? but anyways you should of never told him that about ur family you should of let him meet them and draw his own conclusions... this might be a bad example but that's like you telling ur hubby all your girlfriend business and then get mad when he don’t want you to hang out with her....

Newly - Damien doesn't not care for my grandmother that much because she's so outspoken. He is always nice to her and will never disrespect her but it's still an akward situation. At first, I really wanted him to like her then I got over it. I love them the same....everyone is not meant to get along.

Now my mother - that's another story . They get along for now but I wonder if all hell is going to break lose one day.