Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part15)

[sus 70]

people drive me nuts! We are going to Ocean City in July for a long weekend - 3 of us are going down Thurs - Sun (was supposed to be 4), and 3 more weren't sure if they could come - this weekend they said they were coming down on Friday, so I emailed them the link to where I booked - now they have an attitude cause they thought I booked a room for all of us - Hello, we are ADULTS, not college partiers - 6 women in 1 room with 1 bathroom is way too many people - For one night, maybe - for an entire weekend?

can you even have 6 people in 1 room?

I think so - the room has 2 queen beds and a pull out couch - But you are talking friends where one will get outta control drunk and be up chatting all night, or her cell phone will be blowing up, and 2 of them snore - Sorry, but I am over those days -

[phillyfashionista 8]

hey philly.. nice weekend???

Hey girl, that VISA was meant for him! It is meant for you to be together Everything happens in the Creator's time frame!

The weekend was fun and exhausting LOL of course we spent all Saturday Morning in the Home Depot! then went to my Mom's to work on her house. Then back to my house to work on the bathroom and had to go back to the Home Depot when I just told him "Babe mi cyaa manage no more Home Depot today" :blink:

He Laughed and agrees then we had a family meeting where my oldest son finally let it out indirectly that he is jealous of my husband. Ok peep this after about an hour of me talking because he is not talking I said meeting over, Hubby was like no we will sit here all night until he gets whatever he has to say off his chest. So I guess they knew he wasn't playing so my oldest asks Mom how well do you know Damian? and didn't give me a chance to answer and asks how well do you know me? then asks about my youngest who says he isn't in this so don't ask questions for him LOL Then my oldest proceeds to say " You don't know me" but you know him? Aaaaaaaaaaah so there it is? I ask him what does this have to do with the disrepect you have been dishing out and the 360 degree turn around. So my Husband asks him what exactly does he mean by that, then we hear crickets!!!!

Basically I told him, I understand this is a major change but you need to understand that the love I feel for you and my Husband are totally different, you are my son and I love you unconditionally and just because he is now a part of our family doesn't mean that my love for you has changed. If anything you should realize the sacrifices I have made so that we can have a family and see that he is a real man and that he talks to you, spends time with you, cooks for you, helps you with anything you need and he is not trying to take anything away from you only add to the quality of your life. Well the meeting still ended on a sour note because he didn't want to apologize for his behavior and said that he couldn't guarantee that he could cooperate with the family! So you know I went off and told him that he couldn't do what he was supposed to then he was not welcome in our home and would have to make alternate arrangements on where to live, I don't where that will be since your Father could care less and won't even speak to you on the street. So I told him good luck!

Well wouldn't you know that evening we saw a slight change, he was talking to my Hubby and cleaning up around the house so we will see what happens.......Taking it one day at a time

Don't rent the International! that is the most boring Movie I have ever seen!

LOL Philly

Yes, we are going to be missing us some Quana

LOL Yuh see it!

Ells is gonna walk in the door any minute now

ELLS mi miss yuh her 2 weeks started Friday LOL

Edited June 15, 2009 by phillyfashionista

[finesse 3]

people drive me nuts! We are going to Ocean City in July for a long weekend - 3 of us are going down Thurs - Sun (was supposed to be 4), and 3 more weren't sure if they could come - this weekend they said they were coming down on Friday, so I emailed them the link to where I booked - now they have an attitude cause they thought I booked a room for all of us - Hello, we are ADULTS, not college partiers - 6 women in 1 room with 1 bathroom is way too many people - For one night, maybe - for an entire weekend?

can you even have 6 people in 1 room?

I think so - the room has 2 queen beds and a pull out couch - But you are talking friends where one will get outta control drunk and be up chatting all night, or her cell phone will be blowing up, and 2 of them snore - Sorry, but I am over those days -

hee hee...they muss be on tight budget then...

[phillyfashionista 8]

That one came from here:

http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php

I have a ton of pages bookmarked...

I am a smiley addict

Now you are going to make me a smiley addict , gracias chica!

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

He Laughed and agrees then we had a family meeting where my oldest son finally let it out indirectly that he is jealous of my husband. Ok peep this after about an hour of me talking because he is not talking I said meeting over, Hubby was like no we will sit here all night until he gets whatever he has to say off his chest. So I guess they knew he wasn't playing so my oldest asks Mom how well do you know Damian? and didn't give me a chance to answer and asks how well do you know me? then asks about my youngest who says he isn't in this so don't ask questions for him LOL Then my oldest proceeds to say " You don't know me" but you know him? Aaaaaaaaaaah so there it is? I ask him what does this have to do with the disrepect you have been dishing out and the 360 degree turn around. So my Husband asks him what exactly does he mean by that, then we hear crickets!!!! Basically I told him, I understand this is a major change but you need to understand that the love I feel for you and my Husband are totally different, you are my son and I love you unconditionally and just because he is now a part of our family doesn't mean that my love for you has changed. If anything you should realize the sacrifices I have made so that we can have a family and see that he is a real man and that he talks to you, spends time with you, cooks for you, helps you with anything you need and he is not trying to take anything away from you only add to the quality of your life. Well the meeting still ended on a sour note because he didn't want to apologize for his behavior and said that he couldn't guarantee that he could cooperate with the family! So you know I went off and told him that he couldn't do what he was supposed to then he was not welcome in our home and would have to make alternate arrangements on where to live, I don't where that will be since your Father could care less and won't even speak to you on the street. So I told him good luck!

Well wouldn't you know that evening we saw a slight change, he was talking to my Hubby and cleaning up around the house......so we will see what happens.......

Philly; a dat mi did a tell you. I know a few people that went through this. It's not easy, but pray on it hopefully he'll turn around. My cousin's kids never did though, they were teens 5 boys and I felt for her, but felt it more for her husband who stuck it out.

[dillon 6]

No dear, it's for future use...

Just checkin!

Is there something I missed?

[SupportOAFJF 0]

pHILLY..boy ur stories are long...

only b/c there is so much i can read on a pc screen..(yes mi know den no read it, well a dat mi do..hehehe)

Edited June 15, 2009 by Hotlegz

[JAPrincess 27]

Wow Philly that's some heavy ish

I hope that your son is able to adjust... my son is just 5 and I see him displaying jealousy even with me on the phone with my SO...

I really need to focus attention on him and save alone time with him so he knows he is still my first baby

My SO is really good about it, and is always asking if I am giving the boy enough attention.

Sounds like your Hubby cares a lot about the boys so hopefully they will start to appreciate that!

[finesse 3]

He Laughed and agrees then we had a family meeting where my oldest son finally let it out indirectly that he is jealous of my husband. Ok peep this after about an hour of me talking because he is not talking I said meeting over, Hubby was like no we will sit here all night until he gets whatever he has to say off his chest. So I guess they knew he wasn't playing so my oldest asks Mom how well do you know Damian? and didn't give me a chance to answer and asks how well do you know me? then asks about my youngest who says he isn't in this so don't ask questions for him LOL Then my oldest proceeds to say " You don't know me" but you know him? Aaaaaaaaaaah so there it is? I ask him what does this have to do with the disrepect you have been dishing out and the 360 degree turn around. So my Husband asks him what exactly does he mean by that, then we hear crickets!!!! Basically I told him, I understand this is a major change but you need to understand that the love I feel for you and my Husband are totally different, you are my son and I love you unconditionally and just because he is now a part of our family doesn't mean that my love for you has changed. If anything you should realize the sacrifices I have made so that we can have a family and see that he is a real man and that he talks to you, spends time with you, cooks for you, helps you with anything you need and he is not trying to take anything away from you only add to the quality of your life. Well the meeting still ended on a sour note because he didn't want to apologize for his behavior and said that he couldn't guarantee that he could cooperate with the family! So you know I went off and told him that he couldn't do what he was supposed to then he was not welcome in our home and would have to make alternate arrangements on where to live, I don't where that will be since your Father could care less and won't even speak to you on the street. So I told him good luck!

Well wouldn't you know that evening we saw a slight change, he was talking to my Hubby and cleaning up around the house......so we will see what happens.......

Philly; a dat mi did a tell you. I know a few people that went through this. It's not easy, but pray on it hopefully he'll turn around. My cousin's kids never did though, they were teens 5 boys and I felt for her, but felt it more for her husband who stuck it out.

wow philly, thanks for sharing. nice to know i'm not the only one going through this. my son has been very difficult.... one time he told my husband ' you not my dad so don't tell me what to do!' and 'what the hell you looking at?' another time. most of this happened within 6 months of my husband living with us. and those were the only 2 times that my husband ever raised his voice at my son. he has put up with a lot....so tre is right, most men woudda been gone. one day at a time. you are doing the right thing.

[phillyfashionista 8]

Philly; a dat mi did a tell you. I know a few people that went through this. It's not easy, but pray on it hopefully he'll turn around. My cousin's kids never did though, they were teens 5 boys and I felt for her, but felt it more for her husband who stuck it out.

Afternoon Lawny,

Yes you were 100% correct! I am so fortunate that my Husband is helping to deal with it, and really talking it out with the boys. I am definitely praying on it, cause this is pure stress! I look at my situation and see that others have it way worse than me! My girlfriend just contacted me to tell me her son opened an Ebay account and stole her credit card and charged over 1000$ worth of merchandise!

He has been out of control for a minute, I told her to carry his raas straight to the police station! Cause the whoopins are not working!

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Philly; a dat mi did a tell you. I know a few people that went through this. It's not easy, but pray on it hopefully he'll turn around. My cousin's kids never did though, they were teens 5 boys and I felt for her, but felt it more for her husband who stuck it out.

Afternoon Lawny,

Yes you were 100% correct! I am so fortunate that my Husband is helping to deal with it, and really talking it out with the boys. I am definitely praying on it, cause this is pure stress! I look at my situation and see that others have it way worse than me! My girlfriend just contacted me to tell me her son opened an Ebay account and stole her credit card and charged over 1000$ worth of merchandise!

He has been out of control for a minute, I told her to carry his raas straight to the police station! Cause the whoopins are not working!

Girl, mi no wah frigthen you wid stories, but sometimes they work out. My son is 5 and I pray for guidance everyday.

[DaDa 1]

Let me tell my outdoor shower story.. I was dating this other Jamaican before D.. and we went to stay at the Rockhouse (gorgeous). Well, the showers were outdoors. My ex went left for a while and I went out to take a shower. They give you a key..What happened to the key you ask???...I left it inside the room on the bed along with the towel I'd planned to dry off with. That's right showering and singing away for like an hour and when finished the knob to the door wouldn't turn. I tried to pick the lock with my comb and nothing. I sat there for a couple of hours embarrassed as he$$, crying, yelling for help, and being eaten by huge mosqitoes. No one came because it was so secluded. Then I heard the upstairs guess come in their room and started yelling for help. They shimmed me a towel and called the front desk (they came and unlocked it with only light laughter). I was mortified the rest of my trip.

I know I'm late but I have went back to catch up and this story had me rollin!!!!!!! Whoo Wakey I can't even imagine.... By the way how is your sister?

[dancehallquana 5]

he WILL cook finesse and he says the same thing.. not to worry that we can do it together..WOW.. u make it sound so fun, maybe i will be ok..

i am too much of a perfectionist i guess.. i hate when i don't know how to do something well.. i try to sneak my way out of doing it all.. but i am learning.. u are right.. i should JUST DO IT..thanks!!!

well, practice makes perfect. i surprise myself all the time, and my friends, my family...even my husbands jamaican friends are like dyam, you cooked this?

TAP SHOW OFF! just kidding, u go girl!!!.. i hope i get into it! u mentioned the hubby had jamaican friends.. u have a pretty big Jamaican community where u live?

[phillyfashionista 8]

pHILLY..boy ur stories are long...

only b/c there is so much i can read on a pc screen..(yes mi know den no read it, well a dat mi do..hehehe)

Kimmy LOL dash weh! Cho!

Wow Philly that's some heavy ish

I hope that your son is able to adjust... my son is just 5 and I see him displaying jealousy even with me on the phone with my SO...

I really need to focus attention on him and save alone time with him so he knows he is still my first baby

My SO is really good about it, and is always asking if I am giving the boy enough attention.

Sounds like your Hubby cares a lot about the boys so hopefully they will start to appreciate that!

Ja

I am so lucky my Husband is facing this head on working it out with me, between me and my drama, the trick house ( I call it that cause you fix one thing something else breaks) the cats and the boys its a wonder he is hasn't run back to JA LOL

wow philly, thanks for sharing. nice to know i'm not the only one going through this. my son has been very difficult.... one time he told my husband ' you not my dad so don't tell me what to do!' and 'what the hell you looking at?' another time. most of this happened within 6 months of my husband living with us. and those were the only 2 times that my husband ever raised his voice at my son. he has put up with a lot....so tre is right, most men woudda been gone. one day at a time. you are doing the right thing.

Hey Finnesse,

Sistah you are definitely not alone! This is truly an adjustment and a shock, I never had issues with my oldest( except he eats me out of house and home and is lazy LOL) he was always my rock so you can imagine how much it hurts me to be going through this with him! Like Sus and Lawny said they hurt the ones they love the most which are the Mothers. It's not easy but we will get through it though!

[JAPrincess 27]

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