Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part15)

[wakeywakeup 1]

Sol, speaking as someone who has been here for a while - I can tell you that many of the members have tried to say things, either on the board or in PMs - think back, it's not always well received - And you know that I personally will call something out if I see it - Even if I am not sure that I am correct - Cause I believe that a woman has a right to know - But not everyone can take hearing it, or wants to hear it, or sees that the person is just trying to have their best interests at heart.

Having been cheated on, and gone through it - I would NEVER EVER EVER want another woman to go through what I went through, and if I can speak up cause I see something, I am gonna do it - But not everyone is receptive to that -

Yes Sus I know you are not one to keep your suspicions quiet but I am just wondering how vocal others are if they see something wrong. I know I for one will always let someone know if I think they are getting played or being mistreated prime example this girl in my department keeps getting beat up by her man. Well after awhile I got tired of seeing it and hearing about it so I talked to her about it. Ok that didn't work so then I talked to her good friend who in turn talked to her mom after that I just pray. She still has not left him but at least I can sleep better knowing I did what I thought was right in my heart now what she does from there is on her. I offered my assistance she can take it or leave it. All I am really saying is are we here to build each other up or are we here to laugh and gossip about all them who fall? I personally take no satisfaction in hearing about anyone being hurt in ANY relationship because LDR or otherwise it ALL HURTS the same.

Exactly my point.. and the people I see recounting others bad stories never seem to post anything about their own relationship. Come on now, not all stories involve cheating or green card scams but I'll be dogon if anyone can sit up and say hey I'm pissed at my man for "xyz"

[sus 70]

i don't want anyone to feel like the firing squad is on them, but these conversations are helpful and needed.. if is not in ur particular situation or season, then just waif for the next topic to be discussed LOL.. i do it ALLL the time..]

HIGHWAY WHAT ????

troublemaker!

sus, sus, sus ---

do I need to book a flight for you?

U paying?

[newlynluv 0]

I will put myself out here, by saying this, who cares why or how someone's relationship failed. Relationships are failing every day.... Be it for a CGs, baby mama drama, baby daddy drama or friend’s drama...etc. I feel that we are all adults on this site and if anyone of us decides to sleep with a dog, we were probably quite aware that he was a dog before we got bitten.

I care.

Because maybe if he was subtle, or it was a problem me and my husband experience, someone else's experience might help me or someone else.

We are all adults, and as adults we need to develop a sense of being thick skinned enough to hear what others have to say, and either keep it as being useful or dismiss it as being irrelevant.

I don't rejoice in ANY relationship's demise. I am not here to hate on anyone either.

But as an adult and a human being if I think someone is being used, I most often have NO problem telling them or at least giving them food for thought.

Some people however, do not want to hear ANYTHING that casts a shadow of doubt on their fantasy/fairytale story. So I leave them in their own little world. I'll comment, I will tell them upfront what I think if they ask, or make it my business by bringing incidents to the board. But, I will not feel too much pity when the sky comes crashing down.

I offer advice to warn of potholes, not to steer people into them or to scare them from travelling.

And YES, I want to hear why a relationship failed, what things he did, because it is a pattern that one day may be a warning signal to me.

Unlike some posters, I don't feel ASSURED my relationship is perfect, i feel it's a lot of work and will appreciate insight.

Perhaps not on the matters of being used for a visa, but most other issues relate to me or could relate to me at one point or another.

[finesse 3]

watch dem gaane back fi look fi it

i remember....the man who was going to bring im family up after he got his gc?

[DaDa 1]

i agree. i do believe intelligence and self esteem have a lot to do with it though. if you are going to sit up and beleive that some dude is totally in love with you after talking to him for 20 minutes and then 3 days later he asking you for money while telling you that you are his soulmate and this other bs...then that person is an idiot.

NOoo this can't be true !!!!! So what are you ladies trying to tell me that guy I met on the beach who after talking to him for 20 minutes he told me I was his sole mate and that he could see himself marrying me. He asked me what type of wedding wanted and all so I told him and awww it was so magical.

I told him I was there with my family and he told me to go get them he wanted to meet dad and mom… I was so happy that I met the love of my life and I was about to get married again I asked him to wait right there while I went to get my dad…

UmmI wondering if he’s still waiting???

u a comedian?

No I just cracks myself up!!!! My life is such a mess right now that if I don't laugh I'll be crying and it wil be one of those ugly cries too....

[*JG* 2]

Dada you are silly as hell lmao lmao but to answer the question in regards to saying something ppl take ish the wrong way alot of ppl dont wanna hear the negative, i forgot that guy name??? i think shawn99 or something i mean he has a very very interesting way of saying certain things but is it not the truth??? maybe it's the way he say it and not what he was saying...

Where is that popcorn smilie?????

[sus 70]

No I just cracks myself up!!!! My life is such a mess right now that if I don't laugh I'll be crying and it wil be one of those ugly cries too....

Oh, DaDa - Sometimes you need one of those ugly cries -

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

i don't want anyone to feel like the firing squad is on them, but these conversations are helpful and needed.. if is not in ur particular situation or season, then just waif for the next topic to be discussed LOL.. i do it ALLL the time..]

HIGHWAY WHAT ????

troublemaker!

sus, sus, sus ---

do I need to book a flight for you?

U paying?

you know if I could...I would sis

[finesse 3]

Sol, speaking as someone who has been here for a while - I can tell you that many of the members have tried to say things, either on the board or in PMs - think back, it's not always well received - And you know that I personally will call something out if I see it - Even if I am not sure that I am correct - Cause I believe that a woman has a right to know - But not everyone can take hearing it, or wants to hear it, or sees that the person is just trying to have their best interests at heart.

Having been cheated on, and gone through it - I would NEVER EVER EVER want another woman to go through what I went through, and if I can speak up cause I see something, I am gonna do it - But not everyone is receptive to that -

Yes Sus I know you are not one to keep your suspicions quiet but I am just wondering how vocal others are if they see something wrong. I know I for one will always let someone know if I think they are getting played or being mistreated prime example this girl in my department keeps getting beat up by her man. Well after awhile I got tired of seeing it and hearing about it so I talked to her about it. Ok that didn't work so then I talked to her good friend who in turn talked to her mom after that I just pray. She still has not left him but at least I can sleep better knowing I did what I thought was right in my heart now what she does from there is on her. I offered my assistance she can take it or leave it. All I am really saying is are we here to build each other up or are we here to laugh and gossip about all them who fall? I personally take no satisfaction in hearing about anyone being hurt in ANY relationship because LDR or otherwise it ALL HURTS the same.

Exactly my point.. and the people I see recounting others bad stories never seem to post anything about their own relationship. Come on now, not all stories involve cheating or green card scams but I'll be dogon if anyone can sit up and say hey I'm pissed at my man for "xyz"

make it plain...call dem name

[*JG* 2]

Well I think everyone who has shared a story on here is somewhat brave because they are not afraid to share their pain just like they shared their joy. What I do find funny and somewhat hypocritical is the fact that some people are so "happy" for people when they get their visa etc and make plenty of posts about how excited for each other they are but these same people never said anything to the person when they filed for the visa 1 month after meeting the SO but then 6 months after the SO gets here and leaves or some other drama everyone want to talk about how they saw the signs! WELL MY QUESTION IS IF YOU SAW THE SIGNS WHY DIDN'T YOU SAY ANYTHING? MAYBE YOU DIDN'T SAY IT ON THE BOARD BUT DID YOU PM THE PERSON? This is a rhetorical question I have about things I have seen and heard on this board.

Well, I guess you are definitely right in that sense, I USED to talk my mind a lot more than I do, and was almost run out of town.

Now, when people post their bullshit, I'll question them on it and depending on their reaction, I'll move on from there.

And YES, even now there are people posting who I have my doubts, but I refrain from saying ish to them because I honestly don't think they want to hear.

If and when they break up, I would never say 'I knew it', because I didn;'t say it to them.

But in NowMrs case, I say it because I DID say it.

I will actually give you credit here. Cause I do remember you saying it out loud long ago.

[Shemmy 4]

I will put myself out here, by saying this, who cares why or how someone's relationship failed. Relationships are failing every day.... Be it for a CGs, baby mama drama, baby daddy drama or friend’s drama...etc. I feel that we are all adults on this site and if anyone of us decides to sleep with a dog, we were probably quite aware that he was a dog before we got bitten.

I care.

Because maybe if he was subtle, or it was a problem me and my husband experience, someone else's experience might help me or someone else.

We are all adults, and as adults we need to develop a sense of being thick skinned enough to hear what others have to say, and either keep it as being useful or dismiss it as being irrelevant.

I don't rejoice in ANY relationship's demise. I am not here to hate on anyone either.

But as an adult and a human being if I think someone is being used, I most often have NO problem telling them or at least giving them food for thought.

Some people however, do not want to hear ANYTHING that casts a shadow of doubt on their fantasy/fairytale story. So I leave them in their own little world. I'll comment, I will tell them upfront what I think if they ask, or make it my business by bringing incidents to the board. But, I will not feel too much pity when the sky comes crashing down.

I offer advice to warn of potholes, not to steer people into them or to scare them from travelling.

And YES, I want to hear why a relationship failed, what things he did, because it is a pattern that one day may be a warning signal to me.

Unlike some posters, I don't feel ASSURED my relationship is perfect, i feel it's a lot of work and will appreciate insight.

Perhaps not on the matters of being used for a visa, but most other issues relate to me or could relate to me at one point or another.

Well said..some people on here knows my ups and downs of my marriage. I have no issues sharing my story/experience.

[finesse 3]

i agree. i do believe intelligence and self esteem have a lot to do with it though. if you are going to sit up and beleive that some dude is totally in love with you after talking to him for 20 minutes and then 3 days later he asking you for money while telling you that you are his soulmate and this other bs...then that person is an idiot.

NOoo this can't be true !!!!! So what are you ladies trying to tell me that guy I met on the beach who after talking to him for 20 minutes he told me I was his sole mate and that he could see himself marrying me. He asked me what type of wedding wanted and all so I told him and awww it was so magical.

I told him I was there with my family and he told me to go get them he wanted to meet dad and mom… I was so happy that I met the love of my life and I was about to get married again I asked him to wait right there while I went to get my dad…

UmmI wondering if he’s still waiting???

u a comedian?

No I just cracks myself up!!!! My life is such a mess right now that if I don't laugh I'll be crying and it wil be one of those ugly cries too....

oh no! hang in there. laughter is the best medicine..

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Exactly my point.. and the people I see recounting others bad stories never seem to post anything about their own relationship. Come on now, not all stories involve cheating or green card scams but I'll be dogon if anyone can sit up and say hey I'm pissed at my man for "xyz"

I'm one of those who probably never posts anythuing about my relationship, mainly for two reasons, one that my husband and I don't really argue about anything very interesting and the other that he would not be AT ALL happy to know I was posting about him on a message board.

[*JG* 2]

i don't want anyone to feel like the firing squad is on them, but these conversations are helpful and needed.. if is not in ur particular situation or season, then just waif for the next topic to be discussed LOL.. i do it ALLL the time..]

HIGHWAY WHAT ????

troublemaker!

sus, sus, sus ---

do I need to book a flight for you?

U paying?

you know if I could...I would sis

Ooh ooh ooh.....(JG jumps up and down with her hand in the air).....don't forget me too!

[IrieCat 2]

Hope you all have a great weekend... I am off to meet Tierra's bus and pick Louis up from work.

The sun is out! Yay... lets hope it stays!

DaDa... come to St Lucia, it'll make you smile. :-)