Good information here

[Ban Hammer 13,336]

Maybe they kissed and made up!

No that didn't happen. I'll update later if anyone wants to know, just too tired right now.

Bottom line, I'm home and she's back in her home city.

now comes miller time.

[bhajishah 4]

My chief administrator today asked me if it was beer thirty yet??? what does that mean. ??Its a time of day??

[daboyz 36]

My chief administrator today asked me if it was beer thirty yet??? what does that mean. ??Its a time of day??

Laugh. End of the day, time for a beer.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Maybe they kissed and made up!

No that didn't happen. I'll update later if anyone wants to know, just too tired right now.

Bottom line, I'm home and she's back in her home city.

Im sorry and happy for you at the same time.

Good Luck

[Anonymous 57 0]

*is lurking and waiting for an update*

It's really awesome that you were on top of things and realized what was happening and countered things as they happened. I hate stories when guys were like, "And then my wife beat me with a frying pan and took my wallet and I found some naked guy in my bedroom closet so I firmly told her for the sixth that I do not appreciate her acting like this but she slapped me and then called the police and I was arrested because she said that I hit her and she took my car and all of my money while I was in jail making 'friends' with Jim Bob and I'm so sad."

Nice to know that some people still have a set of balls.

[trillium13 84]

*is lurking and waiting for an update*

It's really awesome that you were on top of things and realized what was happening and countered things as they happened. I hate stories when guys were like, "And then my wife beat me with a frying pan and took my wallet and I found some naked guy in my bedroom closet so I firmly told her for the sixth that I do not appreciate her acting like this but she slapped me and then called the police and I was arrested because she said that I hit her and she took my car and all of my money while I was in jail making 'friends' with Jim Bob and I'm so sad."

Nice to know that some people still have a set of balls.

[sasha414 0]

Maybe they kissed and made up!

No that didn't happen. I'll update later if anyone wants to know, just too tired right now.

Bottom line, I'm home and she's back in her home city.

yes please do tell

[M.O 6]

*is lurking and waiting for an update*

It's really awesome that you were on top of things and realized what was happening and countered things as they happened. I hate stories when guys were like, "And then my wife beat me with a frying pan and took my wallet and I found some naked guy in my bedroom closet so I firmly told her for the sixth that I do not appreciate her acting like this but she slapped me and then called the police and I was arrested because she said that I hit her and she took my car and all of my money while I was in jail making 'friends' with Jim Bob and I'm so sad."

Nice to know that some people still have a set of balls.

[TBoneTX 45,288]

(bump) OP, painful though it might be, can you please tell us how things turned out? Many here admire you, because you handled things with such aplomb under the trying circumstances.

[Allie and Nigel 2]

I feel so bad for him.....but admire his being so smart about handling everything that goes along with it...

[Giskat09 2]

I'm new here, and some of the information offered and discussed is extemely helpful.

Thank you to everyone.

My story is very similar. I'm the USC and my wife of 6 months came over on a K1.

The LD courtship was about 24 months with numerous trips and redevous.

I supported her for 10 months prior to her arrival.

We married within the 90 days and things were fine until about 2 months ago.

We applied for AOS and are still waiting for an interview date.

Slowly over the last few months the lifestyle we have has not been adaquate for her.

Since day 1 ALL household and personal expenses are paid and provide her an additional $500 per month as 'discretionary" to do with as she pleases.

There's very little purchases she brings home, and tells me she uses it for meals, etc. We eat dinner at home 90% of the time, and the other 10% we go out to dinner together.

We decided 2 months ago it would be easier to start a "discretionary" account at the bank so she would not have to always ask for spending money.

Every time I check this account at the bank, the entire amount is withdrawn within a day of being deposited and the account sits basically empty for the remainer of the month.

Suddenly a $2000 debt,( she had previously told me about), had to be re-paid back home immediately to her personal friend and was agreed to by her.

It HAD to happen within 24 hours! She assured me prior to our marraige she would repay this to her friend when she began working.

No problem.

( the funds had to be wired in dollars and not distributed in local currency. I thought that was strange.....)

Well, now the $500 is not enough and needs to be increased so she can shop with some friends.

I asked "How can you spend this much on basically lunches over a 1 month period while you attend day time classes?"

When I explain the household budget REPEATEDLY to her and show expenses, etc. the arguement is the same.

I'm not taking care of her.

"So are we to act irresponsibly and not pay the bills in order to support a lifestyle??" I ask.

I'm not taking care of her is the reply. Arguement, arguement.

We have sat down a number of times and examined all the expenses and monthly income, and reached amiable agreements at the time, but a week or 2 later, it's not enough.

She's learning to drive and now wants her own car next month, hoping she'll have her license by then.

Of course any red flags from the past, which we always talked about at the time, are waving again.

Anyway it's pretty apparent to me that she's sending money home or stashing.

Again, no purchases show up at the house.

Now of course I've got decisions to make.

Thanks to all for the info posted here.

Good luck to you all.

dont spoil her.. it will be hard if she will keep doing this.. i try my best not to over spend money since its not my money too so i have to be wise using it..

[TBoneTX 45,288]

dont spoil her.. it will be hard if she will keep doing this..

Did you even READ the rest of this thread? In the future, show courtesy to other VJ members and please read entire threads before responding.

[trillium13 84]

dont spoil her.. it will be hard if she will keep doing this..

Did you even READ the rest of this thread? In the future, show courtesy to other VJ members and please read entire threads before responding.

[SuperDuper! 230]

(bump) OP, painful though it might be, can you please tell us how things turned out? Many here admire you, because you handled things with such aplomb under the trying circumstances.

Yes, he was handling it so smart and in a rational way. A lesson for us all. Easy to go from the pan into the fire in situations like this.

[Tarumba 9]

What will happen, paperwork-wise, though?

What if he serves her divorce papers and she refuses to sign? What is he to do now?