Divorcing with Aproval Notice Sent

[babe&babe 1]

Hello,

I am in a terrible situation and without money to meet a lawyer for my question. I married a American guy last year, I came into USA with K-1 Visa. It was perfect until I start to know who he really is. We had pratically no sexual life, he has alcohol problems, makes me feel guilty about our problems I had bad times this year. He controls the money and change his mind each day. I visited a psychologist and she agreed that I must leave him and said would help me. In fact I don't wanna have him as my enemy, because it is not a peace of paper that will protect me. He never did hit me, but he once tryed to kill his mother, I don't trust him, I am afraid. I am wanting to move as soon as possible.

I received my Aproval Notice for my Temporary GC last month (April), but the address was wrong and the paper they sent did back to USCIS. I have changed the address and they e-mailed again on May 8, but today is 28 and I still did not receive. I am afraid he got it and hided it. He now says that maybe I will not be able to stay in USA... And if I want leave him, he wants the divorce for next week. I am afraid that because I don't have my GC in my hands, even if I have been approved, it would be bad to me. I left everything in my country to be with him and I just did ask for simple things that were impossible to have. Now I am working in my own company, starting school and I wanna stay. I deserve it!

I just wanna some help, if someone can tell me something... God Bless YOU!

[DeaDea 0]

Hello,

I am in a terrible situation and without money to meet a lawyer for my question. I married a American guy last year, I came into USA with K-1 Visa. It was perfect until I start to know who he really is. We had pratically no sexual life, he has alcohol problems, makes me feel guilty about our problems I had bad times this year. He controls the money and change his mind each day. I visited a psychologist and she agreed that I must leave him and said would help me. In fact I don't wanna have him as my enemy, because it is not a peace of paper that will protect me. He never did hit me, but he once tryed to kill his mother, I don't trust him, I am afraid. I am wanting to move as soon as possible.

I received my Aproval Notice for my Temporary GC last month (April), but the address was wrong and the paper they sent did back to USCIS. I have changed the address and they e-mailed again on May 8, but today is 28 and I still did not receive. I am afraid he got it and hided it. He now says that maybe I will not be able to stay in USA... And if I want leave him, he wants the divorce for next week. I am afraid that because I don't have my GC in my hands, even if I have been approved, it would be bad to me. I left everything in my country to be with him and I just did ask for simple things that were impossible to have. Now I am working in my own company, starting school and I wanna stay. I deserve it!

I just wanna some help, if someone can tell me something... God Bless YOU!

Some people here on the forum were saying that USCIS is in delay sending the GCs because they are moving there ofices, so this must be the reason you did not get it yet, as for your situation....you could file for divorce and remove the conditions by yourself, if you can prove that you entered this marriage in good faith. Get ALL the evidence you have with him, when everything was great in your marriage and also "evidence" for his problems and unproper behaviour.

Good luck!

Hello,

I am in a terrible situation and without money to meet a lawyer for my question. I married a American guy last year, I came into USA with K-1 Visa. It was perfect until I start to know who he really is. We had pratically no sexual life, he has alcohol problems, makes me feel guilty about our problems I had bad times this year. He controls the money and change his mind each day. I visited a psychologist and she agreed that I must leave him and said would help me. In fact I don't wanna have him as my enemy, because it is not a peace of paper that will protect me. He never did hit me, but he once tryed to kill his mother, I don't trust him, I am afraid. I am wanting to move as soon as possible.

I received my Aproval Notice for my Temporary GC last month (April), but the address was wrong and the paper they sent did back to USCIS. I have changed the address and they e-mailed again on May 8, but today is 28 and I still did not receive. I am afraid he got it and hided it. He now says that maybe I will not be able to stay in USA... And if I want leave him, he wants the divorce for next week. I am afraid that because I don't have my GC in my hands, even if I have been approved, it would be bad to me. I left everything in my country to be with him and I just did ask for simple things that were impossible to have. Now I am working in my own company, starting school and I wanna stay. I deserve it!

I just wanna some help, if someone can tell me something... God Bless YOU!

Some people here on the forum were saying that USCIS is in delay sending the GCs because they are moving there ofices, so this must be the reason you did not get it yet, as for your situation....you could file for divorce and remove the conditions by yourself, if you can prove that you entered this marriage in good faith. Get ALL the evidence you have with him, when everything was great in your marriage and also "evidence" for his problems and unproper behaviour.

Good luck!

moving/changing their offices..sorry for the mistake

[map1map 3]

Yes, it seems there are delays in the card production.

I am sorry for the hardship you are into. Do as DeaDea said, I would further suggest, if 30 days have passed since you got your approval (since the date listed on the approval letter) and you did not receive your card, schedule an infopass, go to the immigration office with the approval letter, check to see if they changed the address and ask for the stamp in the passport. If you would need to travel before the actual card gets to you, you will have to go and ask for the stamp, because the AP is no longer valid (as of the date of your approval for the card).

[babe&babe 1]

Ohh thank you guys for the response. I hope it is just a delay for this reason. But do you think since I am approved and my husband ask the divorce nex week I could loose my Permanent Residence condition?

I just have not much proofs. Because before I never did think I would need. Now I am afraid... if he sees, you know. It is not easy. I took some pictures of the empty beer cans. After we decid finish the relationship he is controlling himself more. But he broke his leg once when falled drunk and have been arrested for driving drunk. I have readed the USCIS in how could I self apply and they say I can after get the divorce decree. Could I send in 1 year after have my temporary GC? Because right now I am not able to pay for the petition.

Infopass e stamp, I will remember this. Now I live at least 300 miles from the closest city that has an Uscis office! I just wanna be sure that if he sign for divorce next week and I just have the approval notice that I printed from the USCIS site will be enough.

It is one of the hardest things ever for me. Because the situation of the end of my marriage is so painfull and I have to worry with many things bein alone in a different country and deal with immigration and his sickness trying to put me down.

Thank you

[map1map 3]

I don't know if the printing from the web is going to help you, you would need the actual approval letter, I think. Have you guys separated? there is no way back? at least some counseling? Do you have any papers from the application file? You would need those further in the future. Like copies of application documents, originals from the Notice of Actions received from the USCIS, stuff like that. In many states divorcing the spouse is not as simple as "signing" the papers, even if you don't have shared property of assets or children.

[babe&babe 1]

You are right, I think the divorce thing would not be so fast like he thinks. I did try counselor, but in the first meeting she already told me that she tries to help couples to be together, but our situation shows that he never wanted help, because he doesnt believe he has problems! He even doesnt see this. It is scary! He was driving me crazy, I did think about kill myslef... I already did hurt myself... it is ashamed to say but It is really driving me crazy. Then to be close to him jsut kills me and I dont support it anymore. I am sorry, but I cannot hear anymore people saying that I should forgive or try something. Before i would be quiet and not tell many bad things where happen because I was married that guy, it is hard to assume a big mistake like that. and I would not talk bad about my own husband. Now sounds so suddenly I want to leave him. He says to me that I am leaving him without reason! that we have the perfect marriage. If I cried because a stripper did call him during the dinner, he says I am destroing our relationship! I am sorry... it is just so hard for me....

Well, the printed thing is from the site and the approval is official. If i make the infopass they will see it.

Thank you guys for answers. I have plenty of proof of our wedding. We had bank accounts together, leasing, insurance, pictures and bla bla bla. I will wait until next week when it will be 30 days since they mailed it if not received... I go to Memphis. I am moving next week for my own apartment and it is something that I worry too. we will be separated and he will be glad to be clear about it and use this against me.

God Bless you