Abuse and Removal of conditions

[Kinito_2k3 5]

If you can bear with that while being safe, remove conditions on June 10th and take off. You have a bright future in front of you, don't let ####### ruin it. It's 12 days away and then you will be a free independent women

I'll be thinking of you! Good luck!!

[sj5 4]

Sue his azz.

Edited May 29, 2009 by sj5

[Old Dominion 26]

No matter what your religious faith or none at all, the Catholic Charities in your region or city will help on the immigration matters. They have trained lawyers and also case workers. Every city has a Legal Aid Society that will provide a lawyer to deal with the domestic abuse and also the divorce. Try both. I am surprised the shelter didn't put you in touch with them. Good luck! Don't even THINK about returning to your native country if you feel that you have a good future here.

[JayJay 4]

You don't need a lawyer....I was in the same shoes you are just a couple of years ago. You have a green card - you simply need to remove the conditions: no problem - you can do that by yourself. I never did have the money to get a lawyer...I still don't have $3000 lying about!

My ex used to bite me on the legs so hard he left enormous upper and lower jaw marks. He also used to spit on me, choke me and otherwise asphyxiate me, once sat on my chest to try to basically end my life, almost threw me over the top of the stairwell and that's not the half of it. He would break things of mine as a threat, verbaly abuse me or simply pretend I didn't exist, treat me unbelievably in public, wouldn't share the bed or do anything in it, ran up a many hundred dollar bill every month on internet "cam sites" instead. He'd beat up our dog, smoke weed from the moment he got up until he went to sleep, and often drink almost a full large bottle of Jaegermeister and then restrain me for fun. He refused to let me use any of the utilities that were in his name, even though I paid them, and toward the end I was sleeping in closets and on the basement floor. I know how you feel, believe me.

That's the very short, condensed version of what I put up with the whole time we were together. It got worse and worse, of course, and finally I got him on tape threatening to smash up my car and then sue me for some damage to his.

I did go to the police twice about him. The first time, I got shouted at by his mother outside the courthouse saying i had to drop all charges (long story - you can check it out in my history if you like ). Being in the abuse cycle (perpetuated to a major degree by the mother as well, I'm afraid) I did just that. The next time I went to the police was the day I left him for good.

Anyway to cut a long story short, I am here; managed to remove the conditions and get a divorce, without a lawyer. I sent in the evidence I had, including the tape recordings, to USCIS and waited a while - about ten months or so, before calling them and asking what was up. They sent a request to have my case "dug up", and lo and behold, two weeks later or so, I had a green card in hand without an interview even.

If you need any help, I have all the immigration paperwork I sent still (somewhere!) and I will help you out here. There's no reason anyone should have to live the way you're living. It's scary, you're alone and you needn't be. He's a great big fascist bully - and you need NOT worry about ay of his bull$h*t "I will have you deported" baloney. That's just something abusers pull out of their bumholes when they want to sound bigger.

*HUGE hugs* little mama - you'll be alright. Let's get you away from this fool and get him out of your life.

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