why do people not listen when you try to give them good advice? VENT

[thetreble 19]

Not doing anything IS making a decision--to NOT do anything. If she gave a rat's behind, she WOULD do something. I'm betting she is the kind that somebody bails her behind out of every mess she makes. Just my two cents. I love this quote I read somewhere:

THERE ARE NO COINCIDENCES...THINK ABOUT IT, IT IS SOOO TRUE. Everything that happens, there is something behind it...think about it the next time something happens to you.

I KNOW WHO YOU ARE!

so confused

It was just a wee joke based on their name. I don't really know them.

I still demand to know!

[DeadPoolX 9]

I think she should have a consultation with an immigration lawyer. Whether or not she uses him is irrelevant. After talking to a lawyer, she may realize that you're right and take the entire process more seriously. I know most people on here are against the use of immigration lawyers, but even so, they often seem more "official" than the average poster on VJ.

[trailmix 77]

I think she should have a consultation with an immigration lawyer. Whether or not she uses him is irrelevant. After talking to a lawyer, she may realize that you're right and take the entire process more seriously. I know most people on here are against the use of immigration lawyers, but even so, they often seem more "official" than the average poster on VJ.

Well, regardless of what anyone thinks, she is doing her own thing and - well, I figure if you give advice it's up to the person to take it - or not, really it doesn't matter, people do whatever they want to do and that's a good thing.

I do see your point, for some reason people do tend to see lawyers as more 'official' - when really all the information you need about family immigration is right in front of your nose

[domegirl1978 1]

I'm not even going to bother recommending an immigration lawyer. They basically all say the same thing. My fiance and I asked 13, yes you are reading right THIRTEEN immigration lawyers that we knew what route to go and 12 of the 13 said for me to just cross the border and adjust my status from the U.S.

And just to say, half these lawyers were American and half were Canadian and they basically all told us to go the illegal route. So its not even worth wasting my breath over.

[DeadPoolX 9]

I'm not even going to bother recommending an immigration lawyer. They basically all say the same thing. My fiance and I asked 13, yes you are reading right THIRTEEN immigration lawyers that we knew what route to go and 12 of the 13 said for me to just cross the border and adjust my status from the U.S.

And just to say, half these lawyers were American and half were Canadian and they basically all told us to go the illegal route. So its not even worth wasting my breath over.

I find that a little difficult to believe. Why would a lawyer suggest you do that when he or she could make money off you doing it the legal way?

[Chica Yeyé 41]

I'm not even going to bother recommending an immigration lawyer. They basically all say the same thing. My fiance and I asked 13, yes you are reading right THIRTEEN immigration lawyers that we knew what route to go and 12 of the 13 said for me to just cross the border and adjust my status from the U.S.

And just to say, half these lawyers were American and half were Canadian and they basically all told us to go the illegal route. So its not even worth wasting my breath over.

I find that a little difficult to believe. Why would a lawyer suggest you do that when he or she could make money off you doing it the legal way?

I was wondering exactly the same thing DP....

[thetreble 19]

I'm not even going to bother recommending an immigration lawyer. They basically all say the same thing. My fiance and I asked 13, yes you are reading right THIRTEEN immigration lawyers that we knew what route to go and 12 of the 13 said for me to just cross the border and adjust my status from the U.S.

And just to say, half these lawyers were American and half were Canadian and they basically all told us to go the illegal route. So its not even worth wasting my breath over.

I find that a little difficult to believe. Why would a lawyer suggest you do that when he or she could make money off you doing it the legal way?

Because they are that dumb. I called up lawyers too who told us the same thing. ie. just go and live there and all will be well.

[DeadPoolX 9]

I'm not even going to bother recommending an immigration lawyer. They basically all say the same thing. My fiance and I asked 13, yes you are reading right THIRTEEN immigration lawyers that we knew what route to go and 12 of the 13 said for me to just cross the border and adjust my status from the U.S.

And just to say, half these lawyers were American and half were Canadian and they basically all told us to go the illegal route. So its not even worth wasting my breath over.

I find that a little difficult to believe. Why would a lawyer suggest you do that when he or she could make money off you doing it the legal way?

Because they are that dumb. I called up lawyers too who told us the same thing. ie. just go and live there and all will be well.

That still doesn't make any sense. If they're immigration lawyers, they'd want you to see them. Whether or not they could actually help is another discussion entirely. But seeing as they'd make money off your case, it would be to their benefit to do it legally.

[thetreble 19]

You know, you're right.

I'm lying to you....

Did you ever think that not ALL people are out there to get into your pocket?

[DeadPoolX 9]

You know, you're right.

I'm lying to you....

Did you ever think that not ALL people are out there to get into your pocket?

We're talking about lawyers here.

[domegirl1978 1]

Well I don't know what to tell you Deadpool except to say that we asked immigration lawyers who are friends of ours, who our parents know and lawyers that our friends know. And when we just asked them whether we should do the K-1 ourselves or what our options were they told us to do it the illegal way and adjust from within the U.S.

They were not about to make any money off of us knowing we were going to do the paperwork ourselves whichever route we took and we told them that whether we did K-1 or K-3 or another option, WE would definitely do it.

So if you still find this difficult to believe I don't know what to tell you. Its what we were told. And I'd say at least 3 of my friends were also told this by lawyers and guess what they did? Got married and adjusted within the U.S.

My fiance works with no less than 5 people who also between Feb. 2008 and this month also married in the States and adjusted illegally on advice from counsel. So I don't know what to tell you. But I'm the only one who decided to take the legal route for the most part. And very happy I did.

[DeadPoolX 9]

Well I don't know what to tell you Deadpool except to say that we asked immigration lawyers who are friends of ours, who our parents know and lawyers that our friends know. And when we just asked them whether we should do the K-1 ourselves or what our options were they told us to do it the illegal way and adjust from within the U.S.

They were not about to make any money off of us knowing we were going to do the paperwork ourselves whichever route we took and we told them that whether we did K-1 or K-3 or another option, WE would definitely do it.

So if you still find this difficult to believe I don't know what to tell you. Its what we were told. And I'd say at least 3 of my friends were also told this by lawyers and guess what they did? Got married and adjusted within the U.S.

My fiance works with no less than 5 people who also between Feb. 2008 and this month also married in the States and adjusted illegally on advice from counsel. So I don't know what to tell you. But I'm the only one who decided to take the legal route for the most part. And very happy I did.

I believe you. I just think it doesn't make sense, but then again, sometimes life doesn't.

[domegirl1978 1]

And thanks Treble for also saying you have been told this. I am not a liar and would have no reason to tell a lie on here. It would not benefit anyone.

[^KK^ 3]

You're being a good friend with even offering advice.

[JillA 2]

And thanks Treble for also saying you have been told this. I am not a liar and would have no reason to tell a lie on here. It would not benefit anyone.

You're not the only one who's been told this, no worries. I've seen it on here many times, in other forums too that lawyers tell someone just go to the US (fib to the border guards) and get married, adjust status here. Lawyers seem to think that's OK for some reason, to go the non legal route