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we are definitely moving out. but MIL was once again telling me that if ever i hurt her son or ruin his son's life, i will pay her either with my life or my family's life. she told me that she knows where my family is. i can't take what she was telling me. all i was thinking was to just leave and go back home. she had other issues about me like: i should do everything in the house and not let his son do anything since he is the one working, i couldn't understand this since i now do everything in the house( cook, clean our room, the kitchen and the bathroom, do the dishes, laundry, take the trash out, fold his clothes and do what i can still do) and im not complaining i'm doing that. there was one incident that i was cleaning, and i needed help to move the couches in the living room so i asked my husband to help but instead he was mad at me for asking him do that, we argued about that and his mom came to the rescue. asking what has happened and so i told her. i thought that was all over, now she is using that against me, she asks me why do i let her son do these things. i couldn't believe it, i just needed help, is that wrong? that was what i told her. i dont know what has come to this woman's mind. she's like saying that i am making her son a slave, which is not entirely true. when he comes home from work, he does nothing and on his days off he does nothing. so am i making him a slave? she mentioned a lot of things, like she saw signs that i dont really care about his son, that we fight a lot(we argue because we don't agree on some things) and i think its normal because we are still two individual with different opinions. that i am not happy with what i am doing here because if i am i would not want to work outside and file AOS right away. i am affected even if i want to ignore it. i am just thinking of going home than be here and go through all this. but one thing that is keeping me here is my husband. we want to save our marriage. i just couldn't take all what MIL is saying. i am sorry for posting here everytime and i thank all of u for giving insights about all of this. all i can do is prove her wrong which will take time.

You should take all threats against your life, or the safety of your family seriously. Reach out to a crisis center or 9-1-1 if you EVER feel like you aren't safe. Please fill in your timeline and profile so we can get a better idea of your situation.

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You should take all threats against your life, or the safety of your family seriously. Reach out to a crisis center or 9-1-1 if you EVER feel like you aren't safe. Please fill in your timeline and profile so we can get a better idea of your situation.

If EVER i feel that i am really in danger i will do that. she does not have the right to make such threats.

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Wow crazy situation. (F)

Make sure your husband gets a back account (without his mother) on it ASAP!! In my opinion, that should be the FIRST thing you do, way before you find another place to live (money is first and THEN you can figure out where to live). As others have said, even if you are making a very small amount of money, there are ways to make it work.

Also, does your husband expect you to do literally EVERYTHING in the house and that he NEVER never ever has to do anything? I understand that he is working and you are not at the moment and so it is logical for you to do most of the cleaning and cooking, ect, but every once in a while it wouldn't be a crime for him to wash a dish!

When Del and I lived in London and Italy we both worked and both shared the household chores 50/50, equally. Then he lived here in Brazil with his aunt for 4 months and I was in the US. When I got to Brazil he was a changed man! It's not that he doesn't believe in sharing the work (we both have jobs and therefore should both share the housework, in my opinion), but he just got used to his aunt doing everything for him. Now he's starting to remember what year it is! ;) When I first got here we lived with his aunt as well. She was a sweetheart and we get along really well but it annoy me so much how we thought that Del is a totally helpless little boy! Like for example, we'd be watching TV and she'd be getting ready for bed and would ask me "Marina, you'll make Del's sandwich for dinner when it's time to eat right?" Like he doesn't know how to make his own damn sandwich!! "yes tia...I will make his sandwich, don't worry!" Seriously, he can make a sandwich!

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If EVER i feel that i am really in danger i will do that. she does not have the right to make such threats.

Good to hear, and you are right - she doesn't have the right to make threats. Sorry for your situation.

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It is the responsibility of the husband in our culture to help with the housework, or at least to do the heavy lifting whenever needed. If he got upset that you asked for that kind of help, then he has a serious problem that won't be resolved easily. Pay no attention to the MIL, but do pay attention to that attitude of his. She is a gasbag when it comes to being able to carry out such threats.

Good luck!

i agree . if your husband got upset when you asked for his help, then you have a lot of red flags going on.

I really hope that once you get away from MIL that things will get better for you-but from some of the things you're saying about hubby, I see some red flags too.

And, she has no right to threaten you like that, gasbag or not. Hubby tolerates this too?

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Wow crazy situation. (F)

there is more to the crazy situation if i'll tell all. besides the MIL, i know my husband has issues himself too that i deal with.

Also, does your husband expect you to do literally EVERYTHING in the house and that he NEVER never ever has to do anything? I understand that he is working and you are not at the moment and so it is logical for you to do most of the cleaning and cooking, ect, but every once in a while it wouldn't be a crime for him to wash a dish!

it is his mom who expects me to do EVERYTHING and that his son should not be doing any housework. my husband at times help me when i asked him to. it annoys me when i ask for help on those little things like lifting heavy things around the house and he gets mad.

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It is the responsibility of the husband in our culture to help with the housework, or at least to do the heavy lifting whenever needed. If he got upset that you asked for that kind of help, then he has a serious problem that won't be resolved easily. Pay no attention to the MIL, but do pay attention to that attitude of his. She is a gasbag when it comes to being able to carry out such threats.

Good luck!

i agree . if your husband got upset when you asked for his help, then you have a lot of red flags going on.

I really hope that once you get away from MIL that things will get better for you-but from some of the things you're saying about hubby, I see some red flags too.

And, she has no right to threaten you like that, gasbag or not. Hubby tolerates this too?

i know he has that attitude, he gets upset on little things. he has a bad temper. that's why we argue a lot at times.

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we are definitely moving out. but MIL was once again telling me that if ever i hurt her son or ruin his son's life, i will pay her either with my life or my family's life. she told me that she knows where my family is. i can't take what she was telling me. all i was thinking was to just leave and go back home. she had other issues about me like: i should do everything in the house and not let his son do anything since he is the one working, i couldn't understand this since i now do everything in the house( cook, clean our room, the kitchen and the bathroom, do the dishes, laundry, take the trash out, fold his clothes and do what i can still do) and im not complaining i'm doing that. there was one incident that i was cleaning, and i needed help to move the couches in the living room so i asked my husband to help but instead he was mad at me for asking him do that, we argued about that and his mom came to the rescue. asking what has happened and so i told her. i thought that was all over, now she is using that against me, she asks me why do i let her son do these things. i couldn't believe it, i just needed help, is that wrong? that was what i told her. i dont know what has come to this woman's mind. she's like saying that i am making her son a slave, which is not entirely true. when he comes home from work, he does nothing and on his days off he does nothing. so am i making him a slave? she mentioned a lot of things, like she saw signs that i dont really care about his son, that we fight a lot(we argue because we don't agree on some things) and i think its normal because we are still two individual with different opinions. that i am not happy with what i am doing here because if i am i would not want to work outside and file AOS right away. i am affected even if i want to ignore it. i am just thinking of going home than be here and go through all this. but one thing that is keeping me here is my husband. we want to save our marriage. i just couldn't take all what MIL is saying. i am sorry for posting here everytime and i thank all of u for giving insights about all of this. all i can do is prove her wrong which will take time.

Dontknow, how old are you and your husband? Your MIL is acting like you're 40 and her son is 12(that is,in terms of taking advantage of her son like the MIL believes, you seem like the witch who knows what she's doing); in terms of holding on to your finances, therefore limiting your freedom(prety much making you slaves), she's acting like you're both 15-16. You on one hand seem well put together and intelligent enough to discern between right and wrong, good and bad, so i'd give you about 25 years old, but your husband is eighter a mommas boy, arround the same age as you, or a 40 year old looser who can't get his priorities straight. If he's 25, keep loving him and move out, no matter what, you two will make it-he can take 2 jobs till you can work and live with roomates-it's doable. If he's 40 or arround that, if i were you i'd pack up and get the heck outta there, because you found yourself a "winner" who'll never escape from under his mother's slippers, even if you live or not all 3 of you in the same house.She will keep beeing and messing with your married life till you both are 10 feet under or split.

It is beyond my belief how your husband hands her his checks. What was he thinking? Plus, you're renting from her? That is ridiculous. the only reason one should stay with his parents is eighter because he's unemplyed and can't find work or if his mother is recovering from a surgery and needs help for a limited amount of time. That's it. But rent from his mother and give away his paycheck? That's the first time i hear of such crazy situation! If you're renting, what is the purpose of beeing there in the first place? If she needed financial help, which i doubt, she should be very nice to you, just so you won't leave and continuue to stay there and help. But like i sayd, it doesn't seem to be the case.

What culture is your husband's family from? She can't be born and raised here, otherwise she'd know that threats to one's life can lead her straight to jail. If she ever threatens you or your family again, call the police. Behavious like that are inadmissible. In US, a simple spit, an intentional easy push, an indecent small touch, an indecent word to the wrong person can make one see the marvelous view of the world from behind bars. An acusaton to hurt or take ones life is a very serious thing and should not be forgiven, even if you love her son or not. If her son loves you, he'd put his mother straight to never ever ever say the things she says to you.

There's always two sides of the story. i have related my response to what you wrote here, though i think there's more to this than meets the eye. I don't understand, love and all, how you can be so inlove and dedicated in a situation where your husband behaves the way he does. I just don't buy that all the things you've put up with so far, have left your dedication and love for your husband intact. I'm saying this because you seem prety decent, intelligent and you don't come accross(to me, at least) as the type who lacks self esteem(and good for you, by the way). I'm just sayng this because you have not realy put your foot down, for real, as you should, in front of your husband and your MIL, yet in spite of your husband's screwed up behaviour, you seem to love him just the same. And yet, you come here for help. Something doesn't make sense, but it's not for me to figure out. All i'm saying is, stay real and true to you, cuz life with a woos in America and a MIL who keeps you trapped is 10 times worse than any life in any country in any poverty. Your freedom as a person and as a soul is not worth to trade for any "jail" in US. Think of Alcatraz(a bit extreme the example but making sense). It has a nice view...the Golden gate, the hills and buildings of san Francisco, the water, the birds....but it's a jail. Ask a prisoner, any prisoner if a nice view behind bars gives him any pleasure. My point is, get the heck outta there, husband or no husband. Just my 2 cents.

What i'd do if i were you: I'd have a very straight forward talk to that MIL and tell her somehing like this: Listen, mother. I love you and your son dearly, just how i love my oun family. Your son and I are married now and we have the right to live like any other loving couple who get married. We are entitled to privacy, to agreements and dissagrements between us, to our own financial independence and to our own dreams. I have come to this country to be together with your son, to be his wife, to raise a family with him. He is no longer a boy, he has his own mind and his own path in life, along with me. Wether you like this or not, wether you like me or not, it doesn't matter, because i am not doing this for you, i am doing this because i love your son and i want to be with him. So, let him go and let him grow. Let him be a man and let him be a husband. You can never foresee your son's happiness or missery even if you had a cristal ball and tarot cards, he can not eighter, nor can i. But by guns we're gonna do our best to make eachother happy and live a normal family life if it's the last thing we do-that is what i want, that is what he wants and i'm sure that's what you want for him. Criticising me, bulling me, threatening me, imprisoning me won't help us achieve that. I can be the most wonderful woman in the world to your son or a scammer you so quickly and thoughtlessly make of me, but if you continuue this ill behaviour upon me and our marriage, you will never know the truth. Because, you know what? I am a human too and i can take your bulling to a certain point. And if this continuues, you know what then? Then I WILL make your dream come true! I will leave your son if he allows this medling of yours to continuue and i will leave you pickig up his pieces and lifting up his shreaded hurting soul. You will have your "i told you so" and he will have nothing but a broken heart as result of this. And even if he doesn't realise it now, he will later on recognise the fact that you helped distroy his marriage with me and he will resent you and dezert you, on his own. So, what do you choose? Do you choose to participate in your son's unhappyness or do you choose to give me a chanse to prove to him, to you and the entire world that i want this marriage to work and i want your son to be happy just as much as you do?

If that doesn't set her straight(she'd have to be coo-coo), then, get your husband and your boney and get the hell out of there, capisci? Life is hard, integrating in a new culure is also very hard and keeping a marriage till old age is even harder...don't doom it by staying under your MIL's roof any longer.

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Dontknow, how old are you and your husband?

i am 27 and he is 25.

Your MIL is acting like you're 40 and her son is 12(that is,in terms of taking advantage of her son like the MIL believes,

you seem like the witch who knows what she's doing);

maybe she just cant accept that i can be a witch who knows what i'm doing and she is afraid of what i can do. she is making me look like i planned things to screw up his son.

in terms of holding on to your finances, therefore limiting your freedom(prety much making you slaves), she's acting like you're both 15-16. You on one hand seem well put together and intelligent enough to discern between right and wrong, good and bad, so i'd give you about 25 years old, but your husband is eighter a mommas boy, arround the same age as you, or a 40 year old looser who can't get his priorities straight. If he's 25, keep loving him and move out, no matter what, you two will make it-he can take 2 jobs till you can work and live with roomates-it's doable. If he's 40 or arround that, if i were you i'd pack up and get the heck outta there, because you found yourself a "winner" who'll never escape from under his mother's slippers, even if you live or not all 3 of you in the same house.She will keep beeing and messing with your married life till you both are 10 feet under or split.

It is beyond my belief how your husband hands her his checks. What was he thinking? Plus, you're renting from her? That is ridiculous. the only reason one should stay with his parents is eighter because he's unemplyed and can't find work or if his mother is recovering from a surgery and needs help for a limited amount of time. That's it. But rent from his mother and give away his paycheck? That's the first time i hear of such crazy situation!

it is really crazy. and i am thankful i am keeping my sanity intact.

If you're renting, what is the purpose of beeing there in the first place? If she needed financial help, which i doubt, she should be very nice to you, just so you won't leave and continuue to stay there and help. But like i sayd, it doesn't seem to be the case.What culture is your husband's family from? She can't be born and raised here, otherwise she'd know that threats to one's life can lead her straight to jail. If she ever threatens you or your family again, call the police. Behavious like that are inadmissible. In US, a simple spit, an intentional easy push, an indecent small touch, an indecent word to the wrong person can make one see the marvelous view of the world from behind bars. An acusaton to hurt or take ones life is a very serious thing and should not be forgiven, even if you love her son or not. If her son loves you, he'd put his mother straight to never ever ever say the things she says to you.

There's always two sides of the story. i have related my response to what you wrote here, though i think there's more to this than meets the eye. I don't understand, love and all, how you can be so inlove and dedicated in a situation where your husband behaves the way he does. I just don't buy that all the things you've put up with so far, have left your dedication and love for your husband intact.

we all have different thresholds of tolerating things and we also have different ways of dealing with every situation. i admit there are moments when i ask myself questions and doubts, but the important thing for me now is that he stands up for me and made a decision for the good of our marriage. and despite his behaviors, i know one day there's still a possibility of a positive change. he is making a change little by little, i know that.

and one more thing i was born and raised in a culture where marriage is a sacred thing, and that it is not something u could just throw away when things go wrong. i will do in my utmost ability to save my marriage if both of us has the desire to save it and if there is still love between us. but if neither one of us wants it, then its time to let it go.

I'm saying this because you seem prety decent, intelligent and you don't come accross(to me, at least) as the type who lacks self esteem(and good for you, by the way). I'm just sayng this because you have not realy put your foot down, for real, as you should, in front of your husband and your MIL, yet in spite of your husband's screwed up behaviour, you seem to love him just the same. And yet, you come here for help.

i am here to hear out other people's opinions about my situation. what others have to say about all of this. because at one point i have thought if what im doing was all wrong. that i have not done anything good for her son when all i wanted was the good for me and her son. in the end it will still be my decision.

Something doesn't make sense, but it's not for me to figure out. All i'm saying is, stay real and true to you, cuz life with a woos in America and a MIL who keeps you trapped is 10 times worse than any life in any country in any poverty. Your freedom as a person and as a soul is not worth to trade for any "jail" in US. Think of Alcatraz(a bit extreme the example but making sense). It has a nice view...the Golden gate, the hills and buildings of san Francisco, the water, the birds....but it's a jail. Ask a prisoner, any prisoner if a nice view behind bars gives him any pleasure. My point is, get the heck outta there, husband or no husband. Just my 2 cents.

we are getting the heck outta here, we both decided to do that. me and my husband we are moving out.

What i'd do if i were you: I'd have a very straight forward talk to that MIL and tell her somehing like this: Listen, mother. I love you and your son dearly, just how i love my oun family. Your son and I are married now and we have the right to live like any other loving couple who get married. We are entitled to privacy, to agreements and dissagrements between us, to our own financial independence and to our own dreams. I have come to this country to be together with your son, to be his wife, to raise a family with him. He is no longer a boy, he has his own mind and his own path in life, along with me. Wether you like this or not, wether you like me or not, it doesn't matter, because i am not doing this for you, i am doing this because i love your son and i want to be with him. So, let him go and let him grow. Let him be a man and let him be a husband. You can never foresee your son's happiness or missery even if you had a cristal ball and tarot cards, he can not eighter, nor can i. But by guns we're gonna do our best to make eachother happy and live a normal family life if it's the last thing we do-that is what i want, that is what he wants and i'm sure that's what you want for him. Criticising me, bulling me, threatening me, imprisoning me won't help us achieve that. I can be the most wonderful woman in the world to your son or a scammer you so quickly and thoughtlessly make of me, but if you continuue this ill behaviour upon me and our marriage, you will never know the truth. Because, you know what? I am a human too and i can take your bulling to a certain point. And if this continuues, you know what then? Then I WILL make your dream come true! I will leave your son if he allows this medling of yours to continuue and i will leave you pickig up his pieces and lifting up his shreaded hurting soul. You will have your "i told you so" and he will have nothing but a broken heart as result of this. And even if he doesn't realise it now, he will later on recognise the fact that you helped distroy his marriage with me and he will resent you and dezert you, on his own. So, what do you choose? Do you choose to participate in your son's unhappyness or do you choose to give me a chanse to prove to him, to you and the entire world that i want this marriage to work and i want your son to be happy just as much as you do?

If that doesn't set her straight(she'd have to be coo-coo), then, get your husband and your boney and get the hell out of there, capisci? Life is hard, integrating in a new culure is also very hard and keeping a marriage till old age is even harder...don't doom it by staying under your MIL's roof any longer.

Best of luck!

by the way thanks for this, and thank u for taking time to read and reply, that was very long. and i think i know how to tame the MIL, a grandchild.

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Taming a MIL is a lot of responsibility to put on a baby!! Are you sure the baby will be up to it ? After all, the babies daddy can't seem to do it.

Seriously, over time relationships tend to get harder, not easier. In the honeymoon phase, people are on their best behavior and they usually do not ever behave better, they just get worse. I am sorry you are going thorugh this, but I think you are not facing reality if you continue to cling to the hope that one day he is going to wake up and magically be somebody else. He is a momma's boy that gives all his money to her, does what she tells him to do and allows her to control every aspect of his life, including his marriage. This is who he is and it is unlikely to change. People do change, but not without a lot of determination and hard work, and it sounds like he has no motivation to change. It's like the saying " A leopard can't change it's spots".

If he is unwilling to make the changes needed, then bringing a baby into this is not going to change it either. I'm not saying you shouldn't have children if you want them, I'm saying having a baby to "tame" the MIL is a very bad idea and it won't work. Nothing is going to change that women. Your husband needs to grow up, get his unmentionables back from his mom's purse, and start being a husband.

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Tame the MIL thats easy. Shot gun, monster truck, and a pit bull

the baby is to have family, fun, bonding and oh yeah to Pizz her off!!

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by the way thanks for this, and thank u for taking time to read and reply, that was very long. and i think i know how to tame the MIL, a grandchild.

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Please, please tell me you did NOT just say this. The two of you already seem to have serious issues. You've never even lived together on your own. You've said you're not even sure this is right for you. So at this point, where you're already having so many problems, you're actually considering bringing a child into the situation? This is only going to serve to magnify all of your problems a million fold. Get your marriage straight first. THEN think about adding to it.

Now THAT's crazy talk. Sorry, my opinion.

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by the way thanks for this, and thank u for taking time to read and reply, that was very long. and i think i know how to tame the MIL, a grandchild.

:blink:

Please, please tell me you did NOT just say this. The two of you already seem to have serious issues. You've never even lived together on your own. You've said you're not even sure this is right for you. So at this point, where you're already having so many problems, you're actually considering bringing a child into the situation? This is only going to serve to magnify all of your problems a million fold. Get your marriage straight first. THEN think about adding to it.

Now THAT's crazy talk. Sorry, my opinion.

im not considering it seriously, i said i think i know but it doesn't mean im really into it. stupid me if i'd bring a baby into this world only to suffer. :bonk:

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by the way thanks for this, and thank u for taking time to read and reply, that was very long. and i think i know how to tame the MIL, a grandchild.

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Please, please tell me you did NOT just say this. The two of you already seem to have serious issues. You've never even lived together on your own. You've said you're not even sure this is right for you. So at this point, where you're already having so many problems, you're actually considering bringing a child into the situation? This is only going to serve to magnify all of your problems a million fold. Get your marriage straight first. THEN think about adding to it.

Now THAT's crazy talk. Sorry, my opinion.

im not considering it seriously, i said i think i know but it doesn't mean im really into it. stupid me if i'd bring a baby into this world only to suffer. :bonk:

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