Living with ex

[Wyld Blu 35]

I just read something in another thread which sparked this question. My ex husband and I are good friends. We live in the same house and even still have joint bank accounts. We have separate bedrooms of course and only kept the bank accounts joint for convenience. My fiance, who is immigrating here from Holland is completely aware of everything and has even met my ex last time when he was there.

However, I am wondering how the USCIS or consulate will view this. My ex and I were divorced last October and like I said are good friends...but ONLY friends. We live on a small ranch with a large house and I just cannot afford to move out yet. My ex is going to try to buy me out...but he can't afford that now either. Neither of us wants to sell, especially in this economy.

In fact, when my fiance finally gets here, we will probably live in the house together until we get our own place.

Any thoughts?

-Blu-(didn't even consider this!)

[reeses16 8]

Unusual situation. But its great that you remain friends. If you fiancee is okay with it. Then there are no problems. Might want to get rid of the joint checking with your ex though. lol.

I don't think USCIS would know unless you told them. A notarized but brief letter explaining the living arrangements and reasons for it signed by you and your ex should be fine. Maybe a notarized letter from your fiancee showing that he is aware of the living situation, met the ex, and that it is econmoically advantageous for everyone. But again, only if USCIS or the CO ask.

Edited May 21, 2009 by reeses16

[Hell0W0rld 10]

sounds like a huge red flag, either or should probably move out. even though you two are just "friends" now the Visa Officer might think different. Get it resolved before it's too late... and maybe that Joint Bank Account also.....

[Wyld Blu 35]

sounds like a huge red flag, either or should probably move out. even though you two are just "friends" now the Visa Officer might think different. Get it resolved before it's too late... and maybe that Joint Bank Account also.....

The joint bank account is easy to resolve, however the moving out is trickier. Neither of us can afford it. My ex is suppose to be inheriting some money by July and will see about buying me out, but until then I am a bit stuck. I have looked at many different living arrangements, and it isn't too feasible for either of us to move right now. I am getting very concerned now!

-Blu-( )

[jsnearline 2]

Another poster got denied and one of the reasons seemed to be because the petioner had the same address as his ex, even though they had different apartments in the same building.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=198151

[sheree 2]

Another poster got denied and one of the reasons seemed to be because the petioner had the same address as his ex, even though they had different apartments in the same building.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=198151

I know someone in K1 process too with similar situation as yours....she was denied and was even asked to sign a certain paperwork which specifically stated she will not ask for re-evaluation of her case since USCIS thinks her case is fraud....petitioner and ex-wife still live together in a separate bedroom, they have a son together and belive it would be best for him.

close your joint account as soon as you can before they will investigate you. And try to rent a small apartment just to prove you have your own place and all intents are pure and real.

[TayRivers 4]

Move out and close the account NOW! go back to your family or move in with friends. As far as USCIS goes they will look at your life and see a co-mingled life with joint home and joint banking, 2 major pieces of evidence used in proving a marriage is real.

You want the K1 you need to sort this out now.

[Wyld Blu 35]

Another poster got denied and one of the reasons seemed to be because the petioner had the same address as his ex, even though they had different apartments in the same building.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=198151

I know someone in K1 process too with similar situation as yours....she was denied and was even asked to sign a certain paperwork which specifically stated she will not ask for re-evaluation of her case since USCIS thinks her case is fraud....petitioner and ex-wife still live together in a separate bedroom, they have a son together and belive it would be best for him.

close your joint account as soon as you can before they will investigate you. And try to rent a small apartment just to prove you have your own place and all intents are pure and real.

Shoot. Well, I will close my joint account today when I go to the bank. I will have to get my ex to close his as well. I don't know what I will do about renting a place because they all want at least a yrs lease, but I will work on it. Let's say I can do that, then how would I go about changing the address of where I live?

[Hell0W0rld 10]

Another poster got denied and one of the reasons seemed to be because the petioner had the same address as his ex, even though they had different apartments in the same building.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=198151

I know someone in K1 process too with similar situation as yours....she was denied and was even asked to sign a certain paperwork which specifically stated she will not ask for re-evaluation of her case since USCIS thinks her case is fraud....petitioner and ex-wife still live together in a separate bedroom, they have a son together and belive it would be best for him.

close your joint account as soon as you can before they will investigate you. And try to rent a small apartment just to prove you have your own place and all intents are pure and real.

Shoot. Well, I will close my joint account today when I go to the bank. I will have to get my ex to close his as well. I don't know what I will do about renting a place because they all want at least a yrs lease, but I will work on it. Let's say I can do that, then how would I go about changing the address of where I live?

after you are approved, the consulate should be sending your fiance some forms, have him write down your "new" address, and if the VO ask about your ex, make sure your fiance is in the loop to know what is going on.

[Wyld Blu 35]

Another poster got denied and one of the reasons seemed to be because the petioner had the same address as his ex, even though they had different apartments in the same building.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=198151

I know someone in K1 process too with similar situation as yours....she was denied and was even asked to sign a certain paperwork which specifically stated she will not ask for re-evaluation of her case since USCIS thinks her case is fraud....petitioner and ex-wife still live together in a separate bedroom, they have a son together and belive it would be best for him.

close your joint account as soon as you can before they will investigate you. And try to rent a small apartment just to prove you have your own place and all intents are pure and real.

Shoot. Well, I will close my joint account today when I go to the bank. I will have to get my ex to close his as well. I don't know what I will do about renting a place because they all want at least a yrs lease, but I will work on it. Let's say I can do that, then how would I go about changing the address of where I live?

after you are approved, the consulate should be sending your fiance some forms, have him write down your "new" address, and if the VO ask about your ex, make sure your fiance is in the loop to know what is going on.

Another question regarding this. If I am unable to move in the very near future, will we get a RFE from the I129f we filed, or we just won't get the NOA2...or???

I am slightly freaking out now.

-Blu-(on the edge of her seat)

[Kathlyn and Tim 0]

I just read something in another thread which sparked this question. My ex husband and I are good friends. We live in the same house and even still have joint bank accounts. We have separate bedrooms of course and only kept the bank accounts joint for convenience. My fiance, who is immigrating here from Holland is completely aware of everything and has even met my ex last time when he was there.

However, I am wondering how the USCIS or consulate will view this. My ex and I were divorced last October and like I said are good friends...but ONLY friends. We live on a small ranch with a large house and I just cannot afford to move out yet. My ex is going to try to buy me out...but he can't afford that now either. Neither of us wants to sell, especially in this economy.

In fact, when my fiance finally gets here, we will probably live in the house together until we get our own place.

Any thoughts?

-Blu-(didn't even consider this!)

I think the USCIS are mainly concerned if you have an actual on going relationship with your fiance. As long as your divorce papers are in order then there shouldn't be a problem I would think. Good Luck...

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Another poster got denied and one of the reasons seemed to be because the petioner had the same address as his ex, even though they had different apartments in the same building.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=198151

Obviously it was a huge problem for another poster just today. Though I am at a loss to explain it as I do not recall listing the living arrangements of my ex-wife anywhere in the forms. The other poster was vague about a lot of details and she did mention the ex-wife of her fiancee was not a US citizen, which may have something to do with it, but it is not clear.

I would suggest some more investigation as to what this will mean to your case.

[Wyld Blu 35]

Another poster got denied and one of the reasons seemed to be because the petioner had the same address as his ex, even though they had different apartments in the same building.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=198151

Obviously it was a huge problem for another poster just today. Though I am at a loss to explain it as I do not recall listing the living arrangements of my ex-wife anywhere in the forms. The other poster was vague about a lot of details and she did mention the ex-wife of her fiancee was not a US citizen, which may have something to do with it, but it is not clear.

I would suggest some more investigation as to what this will mean to your case.

It was that thread that sparked my question actually.

I am hoping that the USCIS, being a government business should be well versed in this country's economic meltdown and hopefully understand the living situation. Our divorce papers are in order and I sent them a copy as well. I will however, separate our bank accounts. This is very scary to me and what it might mean for my fiance's immigration. I will do more research, but honestly I am not too interested in hiring an attny, calling USCIS's call center is next to useless and besides asking this forum I am not sure where to go.

-Blu-(looking for some tissues)

[reeses16 8]

You can't change your economic situation. Perhaps it would be best to move out. But if you can't afford it. I think you should just be up front about it and provide as much evidence to support this as you can. For example, I would imagine that if you had life insurance for your ex once you divorced you canceled the policy or change the beneficiary. Maybe medical bills in married and divorced name before and after the divorce.

Also, if you're worried about $ and 1 year lease. Could a friend/family rent you a room in their house? You could make a lease agreement for month to month.

[reeses16 8]

Also I was reading that K1 denial post that sparked that question. It seems like the CO asked questions about the previous marriage, that the beneficiary could not answer. And the CO could verify questions about the previous marriage because the her fiancees ex was not a USC and therefore had filed a petition with USCIS. Seems like you are in a better position since your fiancee knows about the situation. Make sure he can explain how you met your ex why you divorced (I doubt USCIS could verify this if you ex is a USC).

Edited May 22, 2009 by reeses16