People who refer to a father figure as "daddy"

[thetreble 19]

My guess is she calls him daddy to the kids b/c that's what they call him. When I was little, it was mommy and daddy. Now, it's just mom and dad. That's just my guess.

They do call him that. The "kids" are 28 and 32.

[carslo 0]

When referring to my parents now both deceased it was my mother and father. When I spoke with then it was Mumma and Daddy ocassionally Mum and Dad. I was in my 40s when they passed away.

Janet

[venusfire503 54]

I understand what you guys are saying re: posting personal info here. I would never ask online people, "should I get a divorce" or "is my husband cheating on me?" Of course, I would talk to family and friends. Which leads me to believe, maybe people that spill their entire personal guts out don't have anyone else to talk to? In which case, I kinda feel bad for them! If they have to ask virtual strangers for help instead of real friends and family. That's why I'd never make fun of them, because maybe they have no one else

Well, it could be that, and it could also be that some people don't want to get family or friends involved in something they don't understand - a relationship with a non-USC. Thank you for not making fun of them (me). I remember the reactions from everyone when I first said I was going to Morocco to meet my SO in person... you may or may not believe some of the things I heard from what I thought were mature people! It's not usually a good idea to get certain people involved anyway - that whole thing about how you can forgive your SO, but (insert mom, dad, sibling, whatever) never will. Add on their total lack of understanding about this kind of relationship - and in some cases (yes, mine) the prejudice that comes out in all its ugliness.... that's why I post here - despite some 'attacks', it seems much safer in a way. If someone here is a jerk to me, I can forget about it. If it's someone close to me, it's a little harder. I almost lost a good friend because of her reaction to my husband. Not 100% sure all the reasons I did it, but I showed up unannounced at her door one day (she always had some excuse why she couldn't meet him). I thought she was going to have a heart attack! Anyway, she was too polite not to invite us in (we live several hours away - we were in that area for an unrelated reason), and once she actually had a conversation with the two of us, she visibly relaxed. Now things are just fine, and I don't mention her initial reactions to him.

OH, the mouth kissing..... YUK! My ex and I got into a big argument about that. I HATED that his dad INSISTED on kissing my kids (and his other grandchildren, all squirming to get away) on the mouth. YUCK YUCK YUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My take on it is this - it's totally unnecessary (and it was so gross how he would say things like "oh yummy - give Grandpa some sugar" - EEEEEEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW). Ok, here's how I won that fight. I pointed out to him (the ex) that NO ONE should be forced to hug or kiss ANYONE. If my kids don't want a hug from me sometimes, then I respect that. How in the world can you expect a child to know the difference between who "has the right" (using that term very loosely, and not meaning it at all) to force affection on them, and who doesn't? It's all about teaching your children to protect themselves. You can't expect a young child to stick up for themselves if someone is trying to do something sexual to them if they're taught that their feelings regarding "less inappropriate" affection don't count. I've taught each of my children YOUR BODY is YOUR BODY, and that NO ONE has to right to do ANYTHING to any of them that makes them uncomfortable. It was difficult enough to explain to them that there are a few unavoidable exceptions to that rule (doctors - for medical reasons, and only when a parent is in the room) without having to justify to them that so-and-so can just kiss them on the mouth or force a hug on them. Sorry if I offended anyone on this, but people's opinions are not as important to me as my children's safety and mental well being.

Anyway, to the original subject - when I was still married to my other husband (don't like to refer to him as 'first' - seems like I think he's better than my 'second' one), I often used "daddy" because of the kids ("daddy's coming home"; "go tell daddy dinner is ready"). Not when I talked to him without them around - I was just referring to him in a way that would make sense to the wee ones. It is weird in a way, and my sister and I made jokes about it to each other. We also joke about how we don't have names anymore - it's usually "mom" or whatever term of endearment from the husband.

Three things in one post. Guess this one hit a nerve.

venusfire