going to miss my honey

[merimusa 1]

hi everybody

i am US LPR from two and half years.and going back my country to marry with my sweetheart.but i heard it is not pssible to bring my wife with me when i am back.so what is the best solution or what is the quick method to bring her with me as soon as possible.i cant live without her.i m in dillema now.why green card holder cant do fast?........plz give me idea

[Anh map 2,098]

Here is the guide from the USCIS website.-> http://www.uscis.gov/files/article/B1eng.pdf

Once you become a USC you can bring her here much more quickly. Now, you can petition for her, but she gets a place in line for immigrant visas. I am not sure of the current priority date. Do some reading in this forum to get some more guidance.

[fanlin 0]

sweet love taboo

　It’s not easy to have a great relationship with your boy/girlfriend, partner, or spouse. But it’s not impossible, either — it takes some work, of course, but it’s work, work that’s a joy when everything comes together.

　　A lot of times, though, the work isn’t enough. We get in our own way with ideas and attitudes about relationships that are not only wrong, but often work to undermine our relationships no matter how hard we work at it.

　　I’ve watched a lot of breakups (some of them my own). I’ve seen dramatic flare-ups and drawn-out slow fades, and I’ve tried to pay attention to what seems to be going on. Here are a few of the things I’ve seen that cause people to destroy their own relationships.

　　1. You’re playing to win

　　One of the deadliest killers of relationships is the competitive urge. I don’t mean competition in the sense that you can’t stand to lose at tennis, I mean the attitude that the relationship itself is a kind of game that you’re tying to win. People in competitive relationships are always looking for an advantage, the upper hand, some edge they can hold over their partner’s head. If you feel that there are things you can’t tell your partner because she or he will use it against you, you’re in a competitive relationship — but not for long.wow gold,

　　2. You don’t trust

　　There are two aspects of trust that are important in relationships. One is trusting your partner enough to know that s/he won’t cheat on you or otherwise hurt you — and to know that he or she trusts you that way, too. The other is trusting them enough to know they won’t leave you or stop loving you no matter what you do or say. The second that level of trust is gone, whether because one of you takes advantage of that trust and does something horrible or because one of you thinks the other has, the relationship is over — even if it takes 10 more years for you to break up.

　　3. You don’t talk

　　Too many people hold their tongues about things that bother or upset them in their relationship, either because they don’t want to hurt their partner, or because they’re trying to win. (See #1 above; example: “If you don’t know why I’m mad, I’m certainly not going to tell you!”) While this might make things easier in the short term, in the long run it gradually erodes the foundation of the relationship away. Little issues grow into bigger and bigger problems — problems that don’t get fixed because your partner is blissfully unaware, or worse, is totally aware of them but thinks they don’t really bother you. Ultimately, keeping quiet reflects a lack of trust — and, as I said that’s the death of a relationship.

　　4. You don’t listen

　　Listening — really listening — is hard. It’s normal to want to defend ourselves when we hear something that seems like criticism, so instead of really hearing someone out, we interrupt to explain or excuse ourselves, or we turn inward to prepare our defense. But your partner deserves your active listening. S/he even deserves you to hear the between-the-lines content of daily chit-chat, to suss out his/her dreams and desires when even s/he doesn’t even know exactly what they are. If you can’t listen that way, at least to the person you love, there’s a problem.

　　5. You spend like a single person

　　This was a hard lesson for me to learn — until it broke up a 7-year relationship. When you’re single, you can buy whatever you want, whenever you want, with little regard for the future. It’s not necessarily wise, but you’re the only one who has to pay the consequences. When you are with someone in a long-term relationship, that is no longer a possibility. Your partner — and your children, if there are or will be any — will have to bear the brunt of your spending, so you’d better get in the habit of taking care of household necessities first and then, if there’s anything left over, of discussing with your partner the best way to use it.

　　This is an increasing problem these days, because more and more people are opting to keep their finances separate, even when they’re married. There’s nothing wrong with that kind of arrangement in and of itself, but it demands more communication and involvement between the partners, not less. If you’re spending money as if it was your money and nobody else has a right to tell you what to do with it, your relationship is doomed.wow gold,

　　6. You’re afraid of breaking up

　　Nobody in a truly happy partnership is afraid of breaking up. If you are, that’s a big warning sign that something’s wrong. But often, what’s wrong is the fear itself. Not only does it betray a lack of trust, but it shows a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem — you’re afraid that there’s no good reason for someone to want to be with you, and that sooner or later your partner will “wise up” and take off. So you pour more energy into keeping up the appearance of a happy relationships than you do into building yourself up as a person. Quite frankly, this isn’t going to be very satisfying for you, and it also isn’t going to be very satisfying for your partner.

[-mitch- 3]

been a LPR since 1999. didnt even gave so much attention last 2004 that i can apply for naturalization. went back to my country and stayed there for almost 2 yrs (of course w/ reentry permit ) to finish studies at the same time for my wedding. 2006 i tried filing for citizenship but they denied me for my years of stay outside the country and will not accumulate my years of stay before. so i filed for i-130 which will take more or less 5 yrs to process.

>>> have to be a domicile of US if you have petition going on.

>>> LPR petitioning spouse will take more or less 5 yrs depending on which country spouse is from

>>> as soon as you get naturalized, you can updated your petition and will be upgraded.

>>> SORRY but cannot take wife here with you.

its hard and tough but ... thats the only way out.... filed i-130 july of 2007, got my receipt aug of 2007 and thats it... till now, i havent receive anything from that petition... im guessing i still have 3 yrs of wait