DOES ANYBODY THINK THIS WILL BE A PROBLEM??

[married1989 0]

Hi well after me and my husband got married, then i came back to the states, my husband carved I MISS YOU in his arm with a little razor, basically to show how much he misses me and loves me, now it just looks like as if you wrote it with a red pen. He wasnt depressed or anything, he just wanted to show me how much he loves me like i said. Do you think this will be a problem during his medical examination and initial interview?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? What does everyone think, i mean it just says i miss you . He wrote it knda big.

[Sherri and Matt 1]

Don't know if this will be a problem at his medical, but depressed or not...it's bound to raise eyebrows when someone carves words into their flesh. There are many ways to show someone how you feel without mutilating yourself, and I wonder if it will make the medical officers worry that he is currently or has a history of mental illness. Is this any kind of red flag to you?

[Bobby+Umit 161]

Has he done similar things like this?

Is he into the punk/goth culture?

[raymaga 25]

If this is a totally isolated incident, then I wouldn't worry about it too much, but if he cuts himself regularly (or even not that regularly, but often enough), this can be a form of a mental illness. People that "cut" themselves usually have self-esteem and depression issues.

You should probably talk to him about this and make sure you fully understand what his mental state is.

Good luck.

[married1989 0]

NO HE DOESNT HAVE A HISTORY OF ILLNESS OR DEPRESION OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT, HES NEVER DID ANYTHING LIKE THIS BEFORE, NEVER BEEN ON ANY DRUGS, HE DOESNT CUT HIMSELF AND HES NOT GOTH, PUNK, WHATEVER. IT JUST SAYS I MISS YOU. HES A COMPLETELY REGULAR GUY, DRESSES NICE, WORKS ALL DAY. IS THIS SOMETHING I SHOULD BE WORRIED ABOUT? IF THEY ASK HIM WHAT IS IT AND WHY HE DID IT, HES GONA TELL HIM I DID IT FOR MY WIFE AFTER SHE LEFT, THATS AT THE MEDICAL, BUT AT THE INTERVIEW HELL BE WEARING A SUIT LIKE SHIRT, LONG SLEEVE LIKE HE ALWAYS WEARS. DO THEY DRAW BLOOD FROM HIS ARM? IS THIS SOMETHING TO BE WORRIED ABOUT????????

[married1989 0]

NO HE DOESNT HAVE ANY KND OF HISTORY LIKE MENTAL OR DRUG ABUSE, HES COMPLETELY CLEAN, GOOD GUY, WORKS ALL DAY TO PROVIDE FOR HIS FAMILY. I MEAN IT JUST SAYS I MISS YOU IN BIG LETTERS. HE DID IT JUST TO SHOW ME HOW MUCH HE LOVES ME BUT NOW IM THINKING ABOUT THE MEDICAL EXAMINATION, WOULD THEY SEE THAT AS A PROBLEM, HES NOT DEPRESSED AND COMPLETELY HAPPY, AND AT THE INTERVIEW HELL BE WEARING A LONG SLEEVED SUIT SHIRT LIKE HE ALWAYS WEARS, HE HAS PERFECT HEALTH. SO DO YALL THIK IT WOULD EVEN BE A PROBLEM???????????????????? WHAT SHOULD WE DO??? THAT IS MY ONLY WORRY RIGHT NOW. ITS NOT LIKE HE WAS SLICING HIS WRISTS. IT JUST SAYS I MISS YOU.

SORRY I DID IT TWICE,I THOUGHT THE FIRST POST DIDNT TURN UP.

[vsmtghdy 2]

This may raise issues during his medical exam, as they (Panel Physicians) will check on him physically and lab works. If they see scars that may look like "suicidal intent" or in his case "cutting himself to write those words" may cause an issue. This may fall in the category of "PHYSICAL AND MENTAL DISORDERS WITH ASSOCIATED HARMFUL BEHAVIORS". I am not saying he have mental or psychological problems but "cutting oneself" is not a thing that people would usually do to express or show their love. He "may" be subjected to a psychological evaluation to determine if he "may or will be a threat to himself of someone else" (such as you). The question will be: "Is it possible for this person to cause harm on you or someone else? If he is capable of cutting himself, is he also capable of cutting you or inflict pain on you?"... or any other questions to this effect.

Here's an excerpt from their Manual: Under the old law, aliens who were mentally retarded, insane, had one or more attacks of insanity, were afflicted with psychopathic personality, sexual deviation, or mental defect, or who were narcotic drug addicts or chronic alcoholics were ineligible for admission or for adjustment of status to a permanent resident. As amended, the Immigration and Nationality Act no longer lists specific physical or mental conditions that automatically exclude an alien but instead requires a determination of whether an alien has a physical or mental disorder and associated behavior that has posed or is likely to pose a threat to the property, safety, or welfare of the alien or others

PHYSICAL AND MENTAL DISORDERS WITH ASSOCIATED HARMFUL BEHAVIOR

1. Overview - The civil surgeon, using the applicant's medical, social, and psychiatric history and an appropriate physical and mental status examination, will determine whether the applicant has

a. a physical or mental disorder with associated harmful behavior or

b. a history of a physical or mental disorder with associated harmful behavior such that the same or a different harmful behavior is likely to occur in the future.

2. Definitions

a. physical disorder - a currently accepted physical diagnosis, as evidenced by inclusion in the current Manual of the International Classification of Diseases, Injuries, and Causes of Death (ICD-9 or subsequent revision), published by the World Health Organization

b. mental disorder - a currently accepted psychiatric disorder, as evidenced by inclusion in the current Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-III-R or subsequent revision), published by the American Psychiatric Association

c. harmful behavior - for purposes of this examination, a dangerous action or series of actions by the alien that has resulted in injury (psychological or physical) to the alien or another person, or that has threatened the health or safety of the alien or another person, or that has resulted in property damage

3. Required Evaluation - To evaluate an alien for evidence of harmful behavior or for physical and mental conditions that may result in harmful

behavior, the examining physician must

a. review the medical history, especially for evidence of hospitalization or institutionalization for psychiatric illness. Determine whether there is a history of harmful behavior, a diagnosis of a physical or mental disorder III-9 with which harmful behavior may be associated or in which harmful behavior is an element of the diagnostic criteria , evidence of nonmedical use of psychoactive substances, or evidence of alcohol abuse or dependence..

Hope this info helps.

[married1989 0]

so does this mean his visa could be refused because he has I MISS YOU on his arm??????? what can happen?? everything else is in perfect order, we have everything we need, he just has this on his arm...

[chinese_mutt 11]

so does this mean his visa could be refused because he has I MISS YOU on his arm??????? what can happen?? everything else is in perfect order, we have everything we need, he just has this on his arm...

clear it up with a scar treatment ointment

or go for a Diamond Peel (go to dermatologist for this) or go for scar treatment.

if the interview and medical is still far off, you may still have a chance to cure the arm.

if not, still go to a dermatologist.

BUT I would say if it is really deep.. since this is subjective...

the health professional may want to subject him to mental disorder test.

as already said by lots of people, cutting is not an ordinary behavior...

even if it is a first time. we're not labelling your husband or anything, we're just saying

from the point of view of an outsider, even if this is the first time.. it may signal some sort of

depression or self-esteem problem.

After all that is said and done, there are quite a few 'immigrants' who did go 'mental' while staying in the US

shooting out number of people. And I'm sure the panel of doctors would note certain irregularities in the behavior of a person.

Talk to your husband, ask him what is up with him... this is not normal, really.. even if done only for the first time.

Good luck!

Edited May 14, 2009 by tngirl21809

[married1989 0]

HE DID IT MAYBE 6-7 MONTHS AGO AND HASNT DONE ANYTHING SINCE. WILL IT AFFECT HIS INTERVIEW??

[daboyz 36]

I carved "I love Bush" in my forehead back in 2000. Regretting that now.

[Terca 6]

lol

[EZ3145 0]

Hi well after me and my husband got married, then i came back to the states, my husband carved I MISS YOU in his arm with a little razor, basically to show how much he misses me and loves me, now it just looks like as if you wrote it with a red pen. He wasnt depressed or anything, he just wanted to show me how much he loves me like i said. Do you think this will be a problem during his medical examination and initial interview?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? What does everyone think, i mean it just says i miss you . He wrote it knda big.

Have a psychiatric doctor or mental health examiner ( whichever comes first ) on stand by. He might need one soon.

[Johnny G 0]

Hi well after me and my husband got married, then i came back to the states, my husband carved I MISS YOU in his arm with a little razor, basically to show how much he misses me and loves me, now it just looks like as if you wrote it with a red pen. He wasnt depressed or anything, he just wanted to show me how much he loves me like i said. Do you think this will be a problem during his medical examination and initial interview?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? What does everyone think, i mean it just says i miss you . He wrote it knda big.

It might be an issue. I knew a case where the foreign spouse had suicidal marks on her wrist. The doctor that conducted the physical exam recommended to postpone her interview to evaluate her mental status. It took almost 2 years for her to be given the Go Ahead from the Doctor. Her interview then was scheduled and had to wait 7 months for that interview. Dont know if she was granted a visa. Now, i guess it all depend on the Doctor.

You know, i deeply love my wife and at one point i wanted to get a tatoo on my forearm with her name. But i decided not to do it because I thought I did not have to go that far to let her know how important she is in my life. I would not want her to do something like that either. I would not want her to hurt herself just to let me know she loves me.I think is a childlish act, but that just me.

Good luck!

[Craneman 2]

My tatoos would be a real problem then???

This may raise issues during his medical exam, as they (Panel Physicians) will check on him physically and lab works. If they see scars that may look like "suicidal intent" or in his case "cutting himself to write those words" may cause an issue. This may fall in the category of "PHYSICAL AND MENTAL DISORDERS WITH ASSOCIATED HARMFUL BEHAVIORS". I am not saying he have mental or psychological problems but "cutting oneself" is not a thing that people would usually do to express or show their love. He "may" be subjected to a psychological evaluation to determine if he "may or will be a threat to himself of someone else" (such as you). The question will be: "Is it possible for this person to cause harm on you or someone else? If he is capable of cutting himself, is he also capable of cutting you or inflict pain on you?"... or any other questions to this effect.

Here's an excerpt from their Manual: Under the old law, aliens who were mentally retarded, insane, had one or more attacks of insanity, were afflicted with psychopathic personality, sexual deviation, or mental defect, or who were narcotic drug addicts or chronic alcoholics were ineligible for admission or for adjustment of status to a permanent resident. As amended, the Immigration and Nationality Act no longer lists specific physical or mental conditions that automatically exclude an alien but instead requires a determination of whether an alien has a physical or mental disorder and associated behavior that has posed or is likely to pose a threat to the property, safety, or welfare of the alien or others

PHYSICAL AND MENTAL DISORDERS WITH ASSOCIATED HARMFUL BEHAVIOR

1. Overview - The civil surgeon, using the applicant's medical, social, and psychiatric history and an appropriate physical and mental status examination, will determine whether the applicant has

a. a physical or mental disorder with associated harmful behavior or

b. a history of a physical or mental disorder with associated harmful behavior such that the same or a different harmful behavior is likely to occur in the future.

2. Definitions

a. physical disorder - a currently accepted physical diagnosis, as evidenced by inclusion in the current Manual of the International Classification of Diseases, Injuries, and Causes of Death (ICD-9 or subsequent revision), published by the World Health Organization

b. mental disorder - a currently accepted psychiatric disorder, as evidenced by inclusion in the current Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-III-R or subsequent revision), published by the American Psychiatric Association

c. harmful behavior - for purposes of this examination, a dangerous action or series of actions by the alien that has resulted in injury (psychological or physical) to the alien or another person, or that has threatened the health or safety of the alien or another person, or that has resulted in property damage

3. Required Evaluation - To evaluate an alien for evidence of harmful behavior or for physical and mental conditions that may result in harmful

behavior, the examining physician must

a. review the medical history, especially for evidence of hospitalization or institutionalization for psychiatric illness. Determine whether there is a history of harmful behavior, a diagnosis of a physical or mental disorder III-9 with which harmful behavior may be associated or in which harmful behavior is an element of the diagnostic criteria , evidence of nonmedical use of psychoactive substances, or evidence of alcohol abuse or dependence..

Hope this info helps.