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FIANCE CAME IN, WE WERE MARRIED, THEN SHE LEFT

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rebeccajo
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Allen - It's not a chat. It's a message board. It'll all be here tomorrow....................... Of course it shouldn't happen. Do all Germans eat sauerkraut? Of course they don't.

sj5
sj5

Your country relationship with US has nothing to do with third world women.

DGAB2008
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No one owns another human being just because they are brought across the ocean for love (or whatever the case may be). The issues you state are what all married couples go through the first year of m

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Catholic Charities dropped us when we came back from California and got detained at the border patrol checkpoint in El Paso becasue we didn't file a Conditional Resident application. But they NEVER told us we needed to. So I had to hire a lawyer to get her out of the deportation proceedings. But the lawyer is asking me how I want to proceed, and I don't know what to do. THAT IS MY WIFE!!! But I don't want to be played. IT HURTS!!!!

Jean, I am paying the lawyer.

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Catholic Charities dropped us when we came back from California and got detained at the border patrol checkpoint in El Paso becasue we didn't file a Conditional Resident application. But they NEVER told us we needed to. So I had to hire a lawyer to get her out of the deportation proceedings. But the lawyer is asking me how I want to proceed, and I don't know what to do. THAT IS MY WIFE!!! But I don't want to be played. IT HURTS!!!!

Jean, I am paying the lawyer.

not jean. it's john, yeah I am familiar with the Pain. I was played after a twenty five year marriage, I know PAIN.............

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I am surprised she isn't having more contact with you considering her entire future lies in your hands, you can easily cancel the AOS and she will HAVE to leave, the fact that she isn't even talking to you about this seems weird. Giving up after a year of marriage seems ridiculous to me. Unless there is something else that happened. I also cant believe that arguments drove her away.

Call her again and again until she answers. Find out if she is willing to get counseling if she says no, she doesn't love you, want to be with you whatever. Cancel the AOS Petition.

29/06/2004 Met online

24/10/2004- Officially started dating!

-Various Trips Between the USA and Scotland-

25/12/2007- Steven Proposed, and gave me a lovely Ring!

29/02/2008- Sent I-129F to VSC

22/09/2008-1pm - Recieved Visa!

04/11/2008 -Steven comes back to Scotland for the Celebrations!

09/11/2008- We return home together!

23/01/2009- Wedding!!!

Your I-129f was approved in 108 days from your NOA1 date.

Preparing AOS Forms.

09/4/2009- Sent AOS

11/4/2009- Received and signed for

20/4/2009- Received NOA for AOS/EAD/AP (Dated April 17th)

20/4/2009- USCIS cashed check for $1010

09/5/2009- Biometrics

11/5/2009- Case transferred to CSC

05/6/2009- Received AP

09/6/2009- Received EAD

22/7/2009- Approved!

27/7/2009- Greencard in Hand

Removal of Conditions.

15/5/2011- Received @ VSC

23/5/2011-NOA1

12/07/2011- Biometrics

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When we would have the arguments, I would try and go to her and talk to her, and I would get slapped reatedly and my face scratched. Just because I was trying to find out WHY she was mad at me for. I had NEVER touched her in that way. I did grab her arms to stop her from hitting me. And I guess since she knew I wouldn't touch her like that, she would hit her elbow or her knee against the dresser and when she did that I would tell her, "That is going to leave a bruise." And she would say "So". But I never went and reported it to the authorities.

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If things didn't go her way she would throw a fit. And if I tried to talk to her and explain why things couldn't be done, I would get slapped. She would always say that we lived near my family but hers were so far away. But I have full custody of my 10 year old daughter, and not go to far away from her mother due to visitation rights. And she knew all about that from day 1 in 2004.

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I am not sure what to tell you, clearly you love her, and I commend you for not giving up on your marriage right away but she is also abusive towards you and may also need some anger management. No one should have to live with that kind of thing, male or female.

Do you think she would be willing to undergo marriage councilling and anger management? Make your decision wisely though you will no doubt be paying for this and there could be a lovely woman, American, Phillipino, Australian, British, European (whatever), just waiting for you who would treat you right and love you.

You have a daughter, who you are responsible for again commend you for being a father to your daughter , she comes first and you shouldnt have to choose between your wife and your daughter.

Starting to sound like she is a bit of a mental abuser.

29/06/2004 Met online

24/10/2004- Officially started dating!

-Various Trips Between the USA and Scotland-

25/12/2007- Steven Proposed, and gave me a lovely Ring!

29/02/2008- Sent I-129F to VSC

22/09/2008-1pm - Recieved Visa!

04/11/2008 -Steven comes back to Scotland for the Celebrations!

09/11/2008- We return home together!

23/01/2009- Wedding!!!

Your I-129f was approved in 108 days from your NOA1 date.

Preparing AOS Forms.

09/4/2009- Sent AOS

11/4/2009- Received and signed for

20/4/2009- Received NOA for AOS/EAD/AP (Dated April 17th)

20/4/2009- USCIS cashed check for $1010

09/5/2009- Biometrics

11/5/2009- Case transferred to CSC

05/6/2009- Received AP

09/6/2009- Received EAD

22/7/2009- Approved!

27/7/2009- Greencard in Hand

Removal of Conditions.

15/5/2011- Received @ VSC

23/5/2011-NOA1

12/07/2011- Biometrics

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Sorry to hear about the state of your marriage. It does appear that you are at a crossroads in your marriage, as well as the immigration process.

If you go through with the AOS you will be liable for the affidavit of support whether you remain married or not. If you withdraw the AOS application then she may indeed adjust status, but you will not be the sponsor.

Sounds like she's willing to continue the "marriage" through AOS. Get some good advice from people that you trust.

Best of luck to you.

I-864 Affidavit of Support FAQ -->> https://travel.state.gov/content/visas/en/immigrate/immigrant-process/documents/support/i-864-frequently-asked-questions.html

FOREIGN INCOME REPORTING & TAX FILING -->> https://www.irs.gov/publications/p54/ch01.html#en_US_2015_publink100047318

CALL THIS NUMBER TO ORDER IRS TAX TRANSCRIPTS >> 800-908-9946

PLEASE READ THE GUIDES -->> Link to Visa Journey Guides

MULTI ENTRY SPOUSE VISA TO VN -->>Link to Visa Exemption for Vietnamese Residents Overseas & Their Spouses

 
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