Mission/ Work (Trip) Romance Questions

[Chris Me lil D 17]

Hi All,

My pastor asked me to share my romance experience with her and since my relationship ended up being a dangerous one, I didn't want to tell her the scary stuff and forego the good parts.

So wanted to know how many have met their SO while on a work or church related trip. If so, what would be some of the advice you'd give to another person who met their SO while on a trip similar to yours?

Example: If you went through an orientation process before going, would you have been interested in knowing about the Immigration process beforehand? Would you have thought twice about entering into a serious long distance relationship had you known how hard the process would be?

Well, me and my husband met at work. I work at a steamship and he works on the ferry. So every time when his ferry ties up at the harbor, we work together for about half an hour. One day I was going with the ferry off-island (as I used to live on the island where the ferry was coming to) and I met him on the boat again. We had a little talk, he invited me on his birthday party the same day, I said couldn't make it... Then every time when he was working and I was working, he'd shoot me with rubber bands and flirt with me, and all my co-workers and agents (managers) obviously noticed we're playing around. No one never said anything bad about our relationship... Contrariwise, everyone has so much fun at work seeing us flirting around

[Chris Me lil D 17]

Hi All,

My pastor asked me to share my romance experience with her and since my relationship ended up being a dangerous one, I didn't want to tell her the scary stuff and forego the good parts.

So wanted to know how many have met their SO while on a work or church related trip. If so, what would be some of the advice you'd give to another person who met their SO while on a trip similar to yours?

Example: If you went through an orientation process before going, would you have been interested in knowing about the Immigration process beforehand? Would you have thought twice about entering into a serious long distance relationship had you known how hard the process would be?

Well, me and my husband met at work. I work at a steamship and he works on the ferry. So every time when his ferry ties up at the harbor, we work together for about half an hour. One day I was going with the ferry off-island (as I used to live on the island where the ferry was coming to) and I met him on the boat again. We had a little talk, he invited me on his birthday party the same day, I said couldn't make it... Then every time when he was working and I was working, he'd shoot me with rubber bands and flirt with me, and all my co-workers and agents (managers) obviously noticed we're playing around. No one never said anything bad about our relationship... Contrariwise, everyone has so much fun at work seeing us flirting around

just to add, that contrariwise, everyone has so much fun at work seeing us flirting around in the past one and a half years, and as we both work for the same company, sometimes our relationship helps at work for solving an issue

If we knew about how hard the process is, we'd get married in US before coming back to my country to visit family.

If we had to think twice, we wouldn't, we'd do it again, because we complete each other. I have the most wonderful husband in the world

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Thanks for posting everyone.

[Mo_Mati 2]

My husband and I did meet due to my working in Chile in a missionary/service capacity. My husband was also a very active memeber of the community and it was well known by everyone when we finally did get together. In fact, they all suspected that there was something there before we actually figured it out. We were both very open, honest, and authentic throughout our relationship and with balancing our other responsibilities (including those that I carried due to my work). I should also say that we had known each other over a year before we began dating. I did go through a month long orientation process before moving abroad. We did not discuss romantic relationships in the orientation, but we did discuss "intimate" relationships (emotional/physical intimacy, how the vulnerability of moving abroad can induce a desire for intimacy and how that can be manifested in both healthy and unhealthy ways). I think that it was appropriate to disucss the topic in such a light because it pertains to understanding our emotions and reactions in a new setting. But it would not be appropriate to talk about immigration process, etc, as it only pertains in very specific situations (and could be very unhealthy in terms of how peope would enter their experince abroad and could really mess up thier ability to hold and maintain healthy relationships without the extra burden of having "the immigration talk" in the back of their mind). And most importantly, I have never met someone who entered a service/mission position with the goal of meeting someone and getting married. Therefore, as it is really not a goal for the majority of people it should be held as secondary in the orientation. Meeting my husband was not the goal of moving to Chile and clearly a unimaginable surprise...and a happy one at that!