My 3rd RFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Eshansmommy 2]

I've never heard of someone who received 3 RFE's...... This is getting on my nerves. It's like they are trying to find something. The lady at the interview said that everything looked good and even gave me the explanation of what I have to do in 2 years. Yet, I keep getting RFE's in the mail...

This time it's about my husband's name change as a baby. After his mom and dad divorced, his mom changed his last name back to hers (which is her first husband's name). So now his birth certificate has a different last name than his driver driver license, SSC, etc. And they want proof that they are the same person..... I know his mom has some documents on this, but we got in a stupid argument yesterday and she took the docs away. So me and my husband went down to the city county building but the only thing we found on this (it happened more than 20 yrs ago) was a divorce decree where it states that his mom changed her name back to what it was before (her first husbands name/my husband's current last name). It mentions my husband in it, but under his dad's last name. I guess the document was made right before they changed his name too. But do you think that will be sufficient? Anyone with common sense can place the link, but do you think they will try to understand, or is there something else that I can show?

[JERIII 8]

I've never heard of someone who received 3 RFE's...... This is getting on my nerves. It's like they are trying to find something. The lady at the interview said that everything looked good and even gave me the explanation of what I have to do in 2 years. Yet, I keep getting RFE's in the mail...

This time it's about my husband's name change as a baby. After his mom and dad divorced, his mom changed his last name back to hers (which is her first husband's name). So now his birth certificate has a different last name than his driver driver license, SSC, etc. And they want proof that they are the same person..... I know his mom has some documents on this, but we got in a stupid argument yesterday and she took the docs away. So me and my husband went down to the city county building but the only thing we found on this (it happened more than 20 yrs ago) was a divorce decree where it states that his mom changed her name back to what it was before (her first husbands name/my husband's current last name). It mentions my husband in it, but under his dad's last name. I guess the document was made right before they changed his name too. But do you think that will be sufficient? Anyone with common sense can place the link, but do you think they will try to understand, or is there something else that I can show?

Unfortunately, USCIS is required to verify identity, and they've found a problem they want resolved. I don't think what you describe will suffice, because changing a wife's name back after divorce does not change the names of the children. Changing someones name requires a legal process. There should be some record of it. Probably best to make up with his mom. (I assume he has a passport. What did he use to get it?)

[Eshansmommy 2]

No, he doesn't have a passport.

When I called the city county building, they sent me from here to there, because the document is so old. Then the only thing she was able to pull up was the divorce decree. But I'm thinking of going on back and trying some other last names, because my MIL has had about 5 last names in her life, so that makes it all real complicated.

Maybe I should try to make it up to her. I just feel so pissed, because she doesn't respect my wishes as a parent and think she can spank or whoop my son (her grandson) whenever she wants to and I disagree with that. He is my son and I will do the spanking if it's necessary. She said, for her to give the document back, I need to tell her she's right and that I'm wrong about this. Maybe I should lie and put up an act, but I just can't do it, it's about my children. I care too much about them them to fake it like that.

Edited May 5, 2009 by Eshansmommy

[JERIII 8]

No, he doesn't have a passport.

When I called the city county building, they sent me from here to there, because the document is so old. Then the only thing she was able to pull up was the divorce decree. But I'm thinking of going on back and trying some other last names, because my MIL has had about 5 last names in her life, so that makes it all real complicated.

Maybe I should try to make it up to her. I just feel so pissed, because she doesn't respect my wishes as a parent and think she can spank or whoop my son (her grandson) whenever she wants to and I disagree with that. He is my son and I will do the spanking if it's necessary. She said, for her to give the document back, I need to tell her she's right and that I'm wrong about this. Maybe I should lie and put up an act, but I just can't do it, it's about my children. I care too much about them them to fake it like that.

Perhaps your husband needs to talk to his mother about this? She's being completely manipulative and ridiculous, which is a mother-in-law thing more than a mother thing. I see your point about faking it, but it won't do your kids much good if your AOS application is denied, either.

At any rate - good luck!

[maliciant 7]

My own situation is similar, my birth certificate has my fathers last name but I have a court document that states the name change that I keep with it (and of course make a copy of any time someone needs a copy of my birth cert) stating that my name was changed. You may have to get the document from the county clerk where it was issued, so it's probably easier to patch things up with mom so you can get that (and this time keep it, that's not mom's paperwork anymore).