Who wants to join my angry rant thread?

[Nagishkaw 510]

I think you are right. I read somewhere today that they still have not resolved the problem. You are in my prayers also, Sara.

[Danu 19]

I'm tired of the questions, tired of not knowing anything, not being able to plan anything as well. Angry is not the emotion I get but I have found myself crying myself to sleep pretty often. I hate being away from him and not knowing when we will get to see each other. Now that our journey has officially started we more than likely won't get to see each other till I move, unless we get stuck in super long processing due to work issues on both of our ends. Its only been about 60 days on my end and I'm already going crazy, so I can definately understand at 110 that it would be even worse. I hate the government, but at least when this is all over I will have him in my arms every day for the rest of my life.

[NatPatBen 3]

Thanks guys.

I don't get upset with anyone asking questions, I just get so angry at the situation,a nd I hate being angry, it is the emotion I dislike the most. So when something makes me angry I get even angrier at the fact it is making me angry!! This thing consumes me, my thoughts, and if there is a moment I am not thinking about it, someone will ask me something and bring it up. The dissapointment is horrible, every time I check my e-mail, every time I check the website, and now, every time I go to the mailbox. I dream about this, I think about it so much, I don't know what I will do with my time when this is over...

I actually had a dream Thursday night that someone from VSC called me in response to inquiries about my case. She had no info on my case, but went on and on and on and on about how hard she works and how many files there are, etc. I didn't really find this dream comforting in the least, though.

[LOLAs 1]

i can't help but laugh myself to tears reading all these blogs. It is a bitter laugh though cuz I understand and currently going through all this sh**. But if this will console any1 of u, I went thru this whole process once and got approved in 4 months, not counting the years I had waited before deciding to file for him. Anyway, after approval and NVC payments I discovered an old divorce wasn't final appropriately, I had to cancel due to fear of all the immigration laws, now I am sitting down here and waiting on a final divorce from a stupid precocious marriage before I can even file. Long story short, at least you should be glad that you are on the line, how about those that are not yet in-line. Plus what about the Permanent residents they have to wait three years before they can even get approval of their I130 i don't think the law ever realize that they are humans just like those of us that are USC. Anyway, rant on people at least I can get something to make me smile after all the depressive mood swings.Life goes on people, keep ranting

[LOLAs 1]

Thanks guys.

I don't get upset with anyone asking questions, I just get so angry at the situation,a nd I hate being angry, it is the emotion I dislike the most. So when something makes me angry I get even angrier at the fact it is making me angry!! This thing consumes me, my thoughts, and if there is a moment I am not thinking about it, someone will ask me something and bring it up. The dissapointment is horrible, every time I check my e-mail, every time I check the website, and now, every time I go to the mailbox. I dream about this, I think about it so much, I don't know what I will do with my time when this is over...

I actually had a dream Thursday night that someone from VSC called me in response to inquiries about my case. She had no info on my case, but went on and on and on and on about how hard she works and how many files there are, etc. I didn't really find this dream comforting in the least, though.

this is the funniest post i am reading tonite, keep dreaming.

[Ed+Cindy 1]

I'm tired of the questions, tired of not knowing anything, not being able to plan anything as well. Angry is not the emotion I get but I have found myself crying myself to sleep pretty often. I hate being away from him and not knowing when we will get to see each other. Now that our journey has officially started we more than likely won't get to see each other till I move, unless we get stuck in super long processing due to work issues on both of our ends. Its only been about 60 days on my end and I'm already going crazy, so I can definately understand at 110 that it would be even worse. I hate the government, but at least when this is all over I will have him in my arms every day for the rest of my life.

Take solace in the fact that both of you two live in neighboring countries where seeing each other means little more than a domes6c plane ticket. Many other couples here would kill for easy travel to their partner.

[iLoveAPolishGirl 0]

Yea, my heart goes out to you (everyone, not just the OP!)! This process sucks and there doesn't seem to be anyway to make it suck less. Just wait and hope and hope and wait that *WE* don't become one of those stuck in AP or some alternate version of US VISA purgatory or HELL!! Oh, well, not much we can really do, is there?

Best of luck to everyone and best hopes that your process will be smooth and fast!!!!

dvc

Edited May 3, 2009 by iLoveAPolishGirl

[Bruce-the-moose 0]

While I feel for you, some of us have been waiting longer, our approval was march 3 2008, our interview was July 2 2008, they kept her passport and said it would be about 10 days, after a month I sought congressional help, every week for 6 month ,I , my fiancee and 2 congressional aids contacted the embassey. We were all told "not ready yet" . in Febuary, we found our file was returned to Vermont due to "lack of interest "! WHAT ????????

Now we are told it will be a minimum of 6 months until it gets reviewed, then they may want us to re apply or file a dispute.

110 days is nothing !

sorry but this IS a paitence game

[PB&JAM 1]

Rant away! Its a long frustrating process and yes, the Qs everyday from family, friends, coworkers gets tiring!!!

[Victor&Cory 1]

I know how all of you feel. We started this tortuous journey just barely 2 weeks ago and we are starting to feel anxious. It's feel like hell having to wait so much away from each other after just spending 3 beautiful weeks together. Speaking on the phone, skype, yahoo doesn't feel the same anymore.

The whole process I think we can take it. What kills me is that after all this it takes one person to decide if you and your loved one can be together or not. Feels quite ironic that a mere human being can have that control over your happiness.

But hey..... for our love we are willing to go through hell itself if it is needed. And like my loved one said to me..... "Waiting some months is nothing compared to a lifetime together."

PEACE friends................

Edited May 3, 2009 by Victor&Cory

[PB&JAM 1]

While I feel for you, some of us have been waiting longer, our approval was march 3 2008, our interview was July 2 2008, they kept her passport and said it would be about 10 days, after a month I sought congressional help, every week for 6 month ,I , my fiancee and 2 congressional aids contacted the embassey. We were all told "not ready yet" . in Febuary, we found our file was returned to Vermont due to "lack of interest "! WHAT ????????

Now we are told it will be a minimum of 6 months until it gets reviewed, then they may want us to re apply or file a dispute.

110 days is nothing !

sorry but this IS a paitence game

wow!! thats insane! so sorry!!

[Nagishkaw 510]

Unfortunately, I read stories here just about everyday where someone gets jacked around, screwed royal, and find themselves at the mercy of bureaucratic and lame f-up's who ultimately give petitioners no other choice but to put their lives on hold. Not to mention the depletion of finances. So many channels, so many forms, so many words with so many capital letters, so much time, so much effort, so much sacrifice.... It makes my heart so sad.

[Gemmie 142]

I understand exactly how you feel, Sherri.

We decided to start this process 3 years ago but I had just started university. We were naive to the immigration process and thought it would only take a few weeks (!) so I would be able to move over and get married in the summer, and then come back and finish my studies. Of course it's nothing like that, so we waited 2 years..,

We finally got to the point where we could file, but my fiance's boss went through some financial problems and couldn't pay him for about 6 months. This meant we didn't have the money to apply, even though it was only $455... everything he had went on loan repayments and bills. We applied last August (another few months after we intended) because family loaned us the money.

It was a very long and difficult process. It took almost 5 months to be approved, and then because of other circumstances, we couldn't get a medical booked for a while; we did the medical, but THEN my fiance's boss went through "personal problems" and never filed his tax returns until after the tax return date, which means we couldn't be ready for interview.

More waiting... we got the taxes filed, sent off for interview and then waited a month for London to give us an interview.

2 years of waiting to apply.. 8.5 months for the process.. it's been hard. I thought that when I got here, I would be escatic, but truth is, I feel exhausted. My fiance has agreed to get the ball rolling on the AOS process because I was the one to do all of the research and paperwork for the K1. I feel I need a break from USCIS for a while, and never want to look at forms again, but it's what we have to do. All of us... luckily, when one of us falls, the other can carry the immigration process for a while.

As well as the process, you have people constantly asking you when you'll be able to get married, why you have to apply for a visa when "you're not foreign, you're British..." (yes, people are that ignorant), why it's taking so long, and yes even making comments about how the relationship isn't going to work out after the long wait.

Your time will come very soon.

[MissusM09 1]

I understand exactly how you feel, Sherri.

We decided to start this process 3 years ago but I had just started university. We were naive to the immigration process and thought it would only take a few weeks (!) so I would be able to move over and get married in the summer, and then come back and finish my studies. Of course it's nothing like that, so we waited 2 years..,

We finally got to the point where we could file, but my fiance's boss went through some financial problems and couldn't pay him for about 6 months. This meant we didn't have the money to apply, even though it was only $455... everything he had went on loan repayments and bills. We applied last August (another few months after we intended) because family loaned us the money.

It was a very long and difficult process. It took almost 5 months to be approved, and then because of other circumstances, we couldn't get a medical booked for a while; we did the medical, but THEN my fiance's boss went through "personal problems" and never filed his tax returns until after the tax return date, which means we couldn't be ready for interview.

More waiting... we got the taxes filed, sent off for interview and then waited a month for London to give us an interview.

2 years of waiting to apply.. 8.5 months for the process.. it's been hard. I thought that when I got here, I would be escatic, but truth is, I feel exhausted. My fiance has agreed to get the ball rolling on the AOS process because I was the one to do all of the research and paperwork for the K1. I feel I need a break from USCIS for a while, and never want to look at forms again, but it's what we have to do. All of us... luckily, when one of us falls, the other can carry the immigration process for a while.

As well as the process, you have people constantly asking you when you'll be able to get married, why you have to apply for a visa when "you're not foreign, you're British..." (yes, people are that ignorant), why it's taking so long, and yes even making comments about how the relationship isn't going to work out after the long wait.

Your time will come very soon.

i read this with so much sympathy, empathy..... i know what it is like to feel like you are a deadwoman walking, permanently on pause, in a freakish limbo. I have been in class teaching and all of a sudden I get a flashback....lol some repressed memory... of a place i have been to with him, a smell, a shopping mall. Its not easy missing someone ALL THE Time... but you will get through it. In this you will find strength You didnt know you have .

only yesterday i finally booked my ticket to detroit, for the second week of july, we get married the day after. I finally could send a text to all my friends and family letting them know that i will be leaving england for good and we will be getting hitched in October( two weddings.....aint that something) straight after i did that i got phonecalls some congratulating me. and some asking silly things like why do you need a visa, your'e not criminal or from one of "those" countries, your british. I dont know if i would call it ignorance, just that people dont know the rigmarole you have to go through when immigrating.

Also you have to put some of how you feel down to leaving your home and going to another country. I find that hard for me, as much as the visa process, particularly as i'm a college lecturer here but i know that my subject isnt taught there and i will have to pretty much start all over again. I find it hard but not impossible, I love this man with my whole heart and it counts for a lot that he would go through this with me, so i believe that two is better than one, tough it out..... and find some way to relax that doesnt involve you going over every detail, all the time.

i wish you all the best.....

[Sherri and Matt 1]

I forgot to mention the ones about how these internet things never work out and always end badly. Then there was the conversation with a co-worker the other day. She met someone who married a Canadian and all they had to do, according to this person, is show the marriage certificate. So why do I have to do all these other things she asked. Because this is not Canada I replied, we have our own rules. It's close enough in her opinion, and why is it so different. 2 words: Homeland Security. What does that have to do with it? World Trade Center, The Pentagon, 9-11? He's from England after all, not some foreign place, was her response to that, he's not from one of the places involved in 9/11. It boggles my mind that because someone is from an English speaking country we are friends with, they are not seen as foreign, except by the people who matter, the Government. I pointed out he is not American and she said well we used to be from England so what is the big deal?

One of the bad things about life, is that no matter how awful you think things are for you, there are always others who have it worse. It saddens me to hear of people waiting years, and all the beurocratic nonsense that goes on sometimes. It also terrifies me because although sometimes you can identify the reason someone gets held up, no matter how ridiculous the reason like the fact they have Muslim name, often there is no reason at all. It could happen to any one of us. Most of the time it seems the Government is all about rules and codes and procedures, but this VISA stuff seems so random and based on chance. It's the luck of the draw who's desk your file ends up on and what they do with it.

There has to be a better way.