Who wants to join my angry rant thread?

[Sherri and Matt 1]

When will Matt finally be home? Don't know.

When is the wedding? After all, many people have to get time off work, arrange flights etc. Don't know.

You haven't even made any arraingements yet? Nope. Can't.

How can you have a wedding with your family if you can't even plan it? Don't know.

Well do you think he will be here by summer? I DON'T KNOW !

How many more hours of tears do I have ahead of me? Does anyone know.

So tired of the questions, I know many of you must get the same ones. I know there isn't anything I can do about it. I think I need to be banned from this website, because every time I check Igor's list and see all the approvals on petitions that were filed after mine, or I see people get approved in just weeks, I want to scream, throw things, and cry. Yes, I know it has only been 110 days. Yes, I know other people often wait longer. We have a very straightforward petition as far as I know. I can't think of any reason for a denial, but every day with no website update, no touch, no RFE, just nothing...is an eternity. I don't know how so many of us do this and remain sane. All that BS about petitions being approved in the order they are recieved makes me want to throw up. It just makes no sense...

How do I not get angry with him for not filing sooner? He wanted to stay and work and save money....but he lost his job anyway, and if we had applied when we originally discussed, he would probably be here by now. I have to be one of the most impatient people in the world, I don' think I hate anything more than waiting. I know there are people that hate it as much as I do...how do you do it?

[GheTToJaTTi 0]

i agree waiting sucks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Looking at your timeline, things should start popping for you this month. This would be a good time to start getting things ready for his embassy interview coming up, once you get his NOA#2.

I hope that helps. The longest part of your wait is almost over. The hardest part of your wait is coming up.

[scandal 951]

When will Matt finally be home? Don't know.

When is the wedding? After all, many people have to get time off work, arrange flights etc. Don't know.

You haven't even made any arraingements yet? Nope. Can't.

How can you have a wedding with your family if you can't even plan it? Don't know.

Well do you think he will be here by summer? I DON'T KNOW !

How many more hours of tears do I have ahead of me? Does anyone know.

So tired of the questions, I know many of you must get the same ones. I know there isn't anything I can do about it. I think I need to be banned from this website, because every time I check Igor's list and see all the approvals on petitions that were filed after mine, or I see people get approved in just weeks, I want to scream, throw things, and cry. Yes, I know it has only been 110 days. Yes, I know other people often wait longer. We have a very straightforward petition as far as I know. I can't think of any reason for a denial, but every day with no website update, no touch, no RFE, just nothing...is an eternity. I don't know how so many of us do this and remain sane. All that BS about petitions being approved in the order they are recieved makes me want to throw up. It just makes no sense...

How do I not get angry with him for not filing sooner? He wanted to stay and work and save money....but he lost his job anyway, and if we had applied when we originally discussed, he would probably be here by now. I have to be one of the most impatient people in the world, I don' think I hate anything more than waiting. I know there are people that hate it as much as I do...how do you do it?

Yup, I agree. The waiting is hard and frustrating. I have many of the same conflicting emotions about it that you do.

And it is very hard to explain to family and friends why we're still waiting, why we can't make any concrete plans for a POE date.

We waited to get our NOA2, watching people sail past us (and we weren't terribly off course, took about 4.5 months NOA1-NOA2). We then promptly got stuck AP@NVC, wasted another 7 weeks there. And now we're stuck at the embassy in Bangkok which apparently has decided their case load is too full so they're temporarily stopping to hand out interview dates. Wait. Wait some more. Keep waiting. It's the dumbest way to run a process I can imagine. Welcome to the US federal government.

You might want to see this ditty I wrote a little while ago. It might cheer you up a bit. Though probably not for long.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...t&p=2871943

Good luck!

[Sherri and Matt 1]

You might want to see this ditty I wrote a little while ago. It might cheer you up a bit. Though probably not for long.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...t&p=2871943

Good luck!

Thanks.

[Chris Me lil D 17]

When will Matt finally be home? Don't know.

When is the wedding? After all, many people have to get time off work, arrange flights etc. Don't know.

You haven't even made any arraingements yet? Nope. Can't.

How can you have a wedding with your family if you can't even plan it? Don't know.

Well do you think he will be here by summer? I DON'T KNOW !

How many more hours of tears do I have ahead of me? Does anyone know.

So tired of the questions, I know many of you must get the same ones. I know there isn't anything I can do about it. I think I need to be banned from this website, because every time I check Igor's list and see all the approvals on petitions that were filed after mine, or I see people get approved in just weeks, I want to scream, throw things, and cry. Yes, I know it has only been 110 days. Yes, I know other people often wait longer. We have a very straightforward petition as far as I know. I can't think of any reason for a denial, but every day with no website update, no touch, no RFE, just nothing...is an eternity. I don't know how so many of us do this and remain sane. All that BS about petitions being approved in the order they are recieved makes me want to throw up. It just makes no sense...

How do I not get angry with him for not filing sooner? He wanted to stay and work and save money....but he lost his job anyway, and if we had applied when we originally discussed, he would probably be here by now. I have to be one of the most impatient people in the world, I don' think I hate anything more than waiting. I know there are people that hate it as much as I do...how do you do it?

Hi Sherri,

I understand how you feel. And I want to ask you if you could imagine even for one minute how Matt feels. It's not easy for neither one of you. We (people) often make mistakes, and before we do something, we won't know for sure if we do it, then was it the right choice. We know it after we made that choice and the thing is over. Don't be upset and angry with him for not filing earlier. This is your destiny. That's what was supposed to happen.

I used to live in US the past few years, going to school, met my husband there... We thought of a wedding but at the end of this year, after I'd graduate my college. And we came over to my country so we'd spend holidays for a first time with my family, so he'd meet them, and I ended up having my visa cancelled. How do you think we feel now, when I lost everything I built for years. I lost one more year at school, I lost my brand new car (couldn't pay for it anymore), lost other things, and last but not the least I lost the everyday hugs and kisses of my hunny. I lost having the one to make me smile around me. And I lost everything just because I thought I was OK to come back home with my student visa. When I could wait just one more year to get married and be there with him, in our home, every day, instead of being with him on skype now, every night.

I'm one of those people that hate it as much as you do...

... and how do I do it? Don't stop dreaming and believing we'll be home soon again, thinking of the family we'll have, the kids we'll have to bless with love, I think about still graduating my college, some career, all that. Don't forget that you are stuck in US and he's stuck in ENG. It's something that sooner or later will be changed to good - you'll be stucked in one home to death...

Keep believing, best wishes (F)

Ani

[NatPatBen 3]

You might want to see this ditty I wrote a little while ago. It might cheer you up a bit. Though probably not for long.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...t&p=2871943

Good luck!

Thanks.

LOL That was cute. I try not to be angry about the inconsistencies and delays in this process. I remind myself a zillion times a day that everything happens for a reason. But even with my attempts, I still get frustrated sometimes (every time I check my email and see no NOA2).

[sara..... 371]

you guys will get ur noa2 pretty soon, i know it seems hard and i know that it seems like it will never end but for most people it takes no more than six months for the noa2.

one thing i have found from my wait is that csc is an equal opportunity employer, why else would there be so much inconsistency in the answers u receive from them

if they took the extra money they are now charging for the petitions and invested it

into hiring more people to process the petitions and fired the customer service operators, the cases would get done a lot faster, after all when u call customer service they cant tell u anything other than what we our self see when we log on to the government web site to view our status. it is more cost effective to leave that part of the operation as a computerized voice system instead of wasting our dollars on live people.

sara

[Chris Me lil D 17]

one thing i have found from my wait is that csc is an equal opportunity employer, why else would there be so much inconsistency in the answers u receive from them

if they took the extra money they are now charging for the petitions and invested it

into hiring more people to process the petitions and fired the customer service operators, the cases would get done a lot faster, after all when u call customer service they cant tell u anything other than what we our self see when we log on to the government web site to view our status. it is more cost effective to leave that part of the operation as a computerized voice system instead of wasting our dollars on live people.

sara

I agree

My hubby called twice yesterday to USCIS. The first time he wanted to check why the receipt number is still not working online after more than 70 days. The CSO told him he's wrong and the number just works fine. Well, after we both tried, and of course it wasn't working, I asked him to call again. When he did, another CSO told him the number would work only in their system because they are working on the case, but it wouldn't work for us online. Then my husband said what he's been told on the previous call and the CSO told my husband that the USCIS employee should have never said that in first hand when it's obvious the number would not work. Hubby asked him how we'd see for touches, and the CSO said our petition was waiting for an approaval from an USCIS officer. That was all.

I get pissed off so much because one time they said petitions were approved in the order they were received, and on a later call another CSO told us that wasn't true. What could take 10 days for some, might take 10 months for others. It all depends on the case itself. Every case was individual.

Well, at least we wanna be able to check the status of our case online, if we're spending all that money on waiting. We'd like to know how our waiting is going... :blink:

[RegAl 0]

When will Matt finally be home? Don't know.

When is the wedding? After all, many people have to get time off work, arrange flights etc. Don't know.

You haven't even made any arraingements yet? Nope. Can't.

How can you have a wedding with your family if you can't even plan it? Don't know.

Well do you think he will be here by summer? I DON'T KNOW !

How many more hours of tears do I have ahead of me? Does anyone know.

So tired of the questions, I know many of you must get the same ones. I know there isn't anything I can do about it. I think I need to be banned from this website, because every time I check Igor's list and see all the approvals on petitions that were filed after mine, or I see people get approved in just weeks, I want to scream, throw things, and cry. Yes, I know it has only been 110 days. Yes, I know other people often wait longer. We have a very straightforward petition as far as I know. I can't think of any reason for a denial, but every day with no website update, no touch, no RFE, just nothing...is an eternity. I don't know how so many of us do this and remain sane. All that BS about petitions being approved in the order they are recieved makes me want to throw up. It just makes no sense...

How do I not get angry with him for not filing sooner? He wanted to stay and work and save money....but he lost his job anyway, and if we had applied when we originally discussed, he would probably be here by now. I have to be one of the most impatient people in the world, I don' think I hate anything more than waiting. I know there are people that hate it as much as I do...how do you do it?

Sherri,

Our loved ones think they're showing interest in our ordeal but the many questions from many different people just increases our anxiety...but they don't know that. I'm at the beginning of my journey and I'm already feeling anxiety. Try not to get upset with anyone..it's coming ..use this time to prepare.

[movingsoon1 0]

You will get your approval any day now. When you get no rfes nor touches, you'll probably find an noa2 letter in the mail.

One more thing, good for you for not giving into other people's pressure and waiting for your paper work to be finalized before choosing a wedding date. These people will not have to be losing their deposits if there are delays. Also, just tell them we are waiting for the visa. That's what I told everyone and they understood.

Edited May 3, 2009 by movingsoon1

[minnew 4]

When will Matt finally be home? Don't know.

When is the wedding? After all, many people have to get time off work, arrange flights etc. Don't know.

You haven't even made any arraingements yet? Nope. Can't.

How can you have a wedding with your family if you can't even plan it? Don't know.

Well do you think he will be here by summer? I DON'T KNOW !

How many more hours of tears do I have ahead of me? Does anyone know.

So tired of the questions, I know many of you must get the same ones. I know there isn't anything I can do about it. I think I need to be banned from this website, because every time I check Igor's list and see all the approvals on petitions that were filed after mine, or I see people get approved in just weeks, I want to scream, throw things, and cry. Yes, I know it has only been 110 days. Yes, I know other people often wait longer. We have a very straightforward petition as far as I know. I can't think of any reason for a denial, but every day with no website update, no touch, no RFE, just nothing...is an eternity. I don't know how so many of us do this and remain sane. All that BS about petitions being approved in the order they are recieved makes me want to throw up. It just makes no sense...

How do I not get angry with him for not filing sooner? He wanted to stay and work and save money....but he lost his job anyway, and if we had applied when we originally discussed, he would probably be here by now. I have to be one of the most impatient people in the world, I don' think I hate anything more than waiting. I know there are people that hate it as much as I do...how do you do it?

I understand how you feel! I definitely got the same questions from friends and family members! I try to keep my answers short and to the point now! So sick of explaining myself! VJ has been a great support for me throughout this process, it definitely has kept me busy. Just remember that it will be so worth it in the end...that's what keeps me going!

[Sherri and Matt 1]

Thanks guys.

I don't get upset with anyone asking questions, I just get so angry at the situation,a nd I hate being angry, it is the emotion I dislike the most. So when something makes me angry I get even angrier at the fact it is making me angry!! This thing consumes me, my thoughts, and if there is a moment I am not thinking about it, someone will ask me something and bring it up. The dissapointment is horrible, every time I check my e-mail, every time I check the website, and now, every time I go to the mailbox. I dream about this, I think about it so much, I don't know what I will do with my time when this is over.

The thing with not filing sooner is that it makes me think it's just my luck. Matt is a good man, and he always does his best to do what he thinks is right for us. It's just bad luck that he lost his job anyway, thus making his decision to stay in England longer moot. There is no way we could have predicted that happening. It's a regret though for me, I regret not insisting on filing sooner.

I am glad for this site, no person can imagine what this is like if they have not been through it. To have your life on hold, and to be just waiting. What it is like to be an adult, free to marry, used to making decisions for yourself, and have your life in a complete strangers hands. And to have absolutely no control over it. I have never felt so powerless as this journey makes me.

Thanks for listening everyone.

[Nagishkaw 510]

I want to join this rant!! At one time we were a K-1 if that helps.

Back in 2006, we filed and waited through the IMBRA fiasco a total of 9 months....ended up re-filing Feb 2007 while my then fiance had his heart operation.... May 2007 case status online broke down and we didn't know we were approved at USCIS level until I called NVC only to discover we were randomly selected for checks....waited 40+ days there.....case went on to the Embassy, husband had his first interview September 2007....put on AP for 6 months....Jan. 2008 he has a home visit.... In March 2008 he had a second interview....he finally gets here August 2008 ....Sent in AOS in September.....EAD and AP finally arrive in December 2008.....Waited till April 2009 for interview....back in checks without a decision....still waiting..... no telling how long that will last.

Im very bitter about this whole process! Actually bitter is an understatement. Will our journey ever end?

0h, and one more thing....our case status on line has never worked despite numerous complaints. We never had a touch so I don't know what that would even feel like.

Sorry to offend those who have had it far worse. Tonite I just needed to vent .

[sara..... 371]

I want to join this rant!! At one time we were a K-1 if that helps.

Back in 2006, we filed and waited through the IMBRA fiasco a total of 9 months....ended up re-filing Feb 2007 while my then fiance had his heart operation.... May 2007 case status online broke down and we didn't know we were approved at USCIS level until I called NVC only to discover we were randomly selected for checks....waited 40+ days there.....case went on to the Embassy, husband had his first interview September 2007....put on AP for 6 months....Jan. 2008 he has a home visit.... In March 2008 he had a second interview....he finally gets here August 2008 ....Sent in AOS in September.....EAD and AP finally arrive in December 2008.....Waited till April 2009 for interview....back in checks without a decision....still waiting..... no telling how long that will last.

Im very bitter about this whole process! Actually bitter is an understatement. Will our journey ever end?

0h, and one more thing....our case status on line has never worked despite numerous complaints. We never had a touch so I don't know what that would even feel like.

Sorry to offend those who have had it far worse. Tonite I just needed to vent .

i dont think ur offending ANYONE the system is broken and it dont look like they give a darn about it, or ever intend to fix it or hire people that have half of a brain, ur in my prayers

sara