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[Mononoke28 135]

Stacey,

There is absolutely nothing he can do to get his green card. It's clear to me that he used you to get a visa to the US but didn't think things through well enough to know that he needed to at lest adjust his status. Arriving legally does not give him the right to stay or work. So you're good, and don't believe anything his friends or anyone tells you about him trying to legalize his status, he simply cannot do it without you no matter what he tries to pull (spousal abuse, etc.).

What you need to do is follow most people's advice and that is get a divorce from him ASAP. You need to move on with your life and start fresh, focus on your well being, get support from your family and friends because if they truly care about you they won't say "I told you so" but help you get through this. And don't worry about him, he made his bed and he needs to lie in it.

Good luck!!!

Diana

Edited May 1, 2009 by Mononoke28

[forchika 4]

I have nothing to add as far as advice....Akinstacey I am very sorry that the marriage did not work out for what ever reasons. I am happy you came to share your story. I wish you complete peace as you resolve issues reagrding the marriage. Keeping you in prayer thru tough times!!!!!!

Robin

[Nik+Heather 121]

You've gotten some good advice on the legal actions you need to take.

On a personal note, stop worrying about this guy. He's a liar, and a fraud. Anything he may or may not say about you is a lie too. Don't let this eat at you! Cleanse yourself of this chapter in your life, and move FORWARD with YOUR life. Don't let him take up any more space in your thoughts.

I'm sorry things didn't work out the way you had hoped.

[Enlighten one :) 5]

I am so sorry to hear this, but glad you came back to testify.

Boaz had the best advice. Do what is best for you and let USCIs worry about him.

You could have never known until he got here. It is too bad the embassy did not catch him during the interview to prevent him from getting here to hurt you. They have a difficult job that gets criticized so quickly when they do it.

[bjejelola.isscamr 0]

I went back and searched for that post from 'boye'. I was shocked to see it was in fact him. From the date on his post, it looks like he wrote it about two weeks after he left me. It made me so sick to read the lies he wrote of me on there. He knew I used VisaJourney to guide me thru the process to get him here (ironic huh?). He now came to it to find his way out. It looks like he tested out all his lies on this forum and got the responses he was looking for, which was a solution to him staying without being with me. Everyone was so sympothetic to him...even ones who have posted here to me. lol. They all gave him advice to file without me using that spousal abuse form. However, I noticed in his post that I don't think he mentioned to anyone that we had not filed AOS yet. I then noticed someone, someone called him out on some of his comments. And after that, nobody heard from him again. By then, I think he got the answer he was looking for anyways. I just want everyone to know that he completely lied about all he wrote. For God's sake, why would I spend $22,000 plus to go to Nigeria to meet him....phone bills...sending him money to make him comfortable....paying for his Visa and all the fees associated with it......filing the petition for him to come....and buying his ticket to come here just to throw him out???? na wa for me if that was tru ooooo. lol. I don't blame anyone here for giving him the advice that they did. Afterall, he fooled me too. Thanks everyone for ur support...I'm trying everyday to move on. If I do file for a divorce....how do I do that if I don't even know where he is to serve him papers??

[milimelo 4,481]

For serving papers when you don't know his address - I have seen those legal notices in the local papers. I think it has to be out in the public for a month (not sure of the time frame) and if he does not respond the judge approves it. Double check though.

[rooster 1]

For serving papers when you don't know his address - I have seen those legal notices in the local papers. I think it has to be out in the public for a month (not sure of the time frame) and if he does not respond the judge approves it. Double check though.

I agree with milimelo. There are provisions put in place for when one of the parties can not be contacted. I believe you have to make a "reasonable" effort to locate the other party. Your divorce attorney can advise you of the steps required in your state.

[MAO36 30]

Hello,

All the other posters pretty much advised you of what you can and need to do. I just wanted to say that my HEART goes out to you and soon enough it will all be behind you. You deserve the BEST and never forget that.

Prayers are with you!

[bjejelola.isscamr 0]

Thank you so much